posted March 07, 2013 05:32 AM            

i think it generally takes a lot to upset us. i think probably if you act out of character. that would most upset us because it would mean we made a mistake somewhere, not so much that you tricked us but that we allowed ourselves to be tricked. it's a failure on our part.

but that rarely happens because we're pretty good at judging characters. we do it slowly so we don't make those mistakes to begin with. that's why it's unlikely you've upset one.

if we are upset, there's not much you can do, we just have to work through it ourselves. sure, i love a hug from someone i care about, it's nice and all, but it doesn't really fix anything that's going on inside.

i suppose the best you can do for a cappy moon is to let them know they have your unconditional support, no matter what.

and don't mistake melancholy for sad. i know that sounds kinda dumb, because they're sort of the same thing, but i'm quite melancholy but happy being that way. i'm a happy person who just happens to look like the weight of the world is on my shoulders!

i think the very fact you care enough to ask that question on here tells me that you're just the kind of person cappy moon would choose to have in their life. just let them know you're there for them and you're not going anywhere and they were right to place their trust in you.

hope that helps.

posted March 07, 2013 06:09 AM            

And subtle, but if they seem to avoid you without any reason, they could be upset about something you said... which can also be in a good way. Like if they're moved by something you said or did. Emotional reactions don't come naturally to them and as one myself, I normally react by being in shock/numb, needing time to let it all sink in. We're really good at hiding this, so it comes across as infamous robotic or cold. If they're unnaturally quiet (like, not talking at all or only giving these short, automatic responses), that's a clue as well. They're trying their best to keep themselves together and interaction with others has to go on the backburner for that.

If someone they don't like or who doesn't like them is around, forget about getting them to open up. It's like survival instinct for us not to let our guard down in front of people who'd enjoy kicking us when we're down. What works much better is to ask them if they're up for a walk or going somewhere quiet and then bring it up, when nobody who might make a jerk comment can see them. When they have a super overdramatic response to you, it's not personal. You just happened to trigger something that's been bothering them for a very long time and then it definitely would be good to check on them later.

posted March 07, 2013 06:09 AM            

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How do you know when you've upset one?

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They either nag you and tell you how you have let them down or disappointed them -or- they stop talking to you and block you out.

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Furthermore, how do you console them when they're upset but won't tell you why?

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Just let them know you are there for them and that your affection or love or friendship (however you want to put it) is long-lasting.. not wavering...
That you won't disappear on them just because they are upset today... because there's always tomorrow - and when they get over it tomorrow, you will be there.

posted March 07, 2013 08:32 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Just let them know you are there for them and that your affection or love or friendship (however you want to put it) is long-lasting.. not wavering...
That you won't disappear on them just because they are upset today... because there's always tomorrow - and when they get over it tomorrow, you will be there.

Has something else happened? Is he avoiding you?

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posted March 07, 2013 08:46 AM            

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Originally posted by so square:
yeah. i'd agree with everything meissieri just said, especially about when something is bothering them, innocent people can get caught in the firing line. we don't mean that. you just happen to be in the wrong place at our wrong time.

hey, maybe there's something to this astrology lark after all!!!

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Ugh, I feel so bad when I lose it in front of someone who doesn't have anything to do with it. I'm trying to get my feelings out at better moments. I hate those meltdowns, not just for myself, but especially for people who have to be around that. (Even if I secretly think they were asking for it, because they'd been giving me rough time for weeks.)

posted March 07, 2013 08:55 AM            

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Originally posted by meissieri:
Ugh, I feel so bad when I lose it in front of someone who doesn't have anything to do with it. I'm trying to get my feelings out at better moments. I hate those meltdowns, not just for myself, but especially for people who have to be around that. (Even if I secretly think they were asking for it, because they'd been giving me rough time for weeks.)

I can really beat myself up over it for a long time, even when other people have already forgotten about it.

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posted March 07, 2013 05:37 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
that happened with me and him. he got all rude and slightly nasty with me (this was a few weeks ago, and after that our conversations started sucking.) but he apologized, and i felt he genuinely felt bad for it.

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posted March 07, 2013 05:39 PM            

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Originally posted by meissieri:
Very glad it all worked out! He came back for you, so it wasn't something you did. It's tough for us to admit we've made a mistake, so you can count on that he meant it. It's sweet that you're worried, just reassure them you'll be around if they need someone to talk to. He'll probably make a mental note about that, even if you don't see it.

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posted March 07, 2013 07:18 PM            

Listen to them and their interests, they're ambitious so they can talk for a long time about something they're interested in or doing at the time.

Of course I'm a man so I'm speaking for the Capricorn women I've been with.

The way to not melt their heart: Not listening to them, being selfish (even if they're being selfish themselves) not being considerate really hurts their feelings, of course they wouldn't let you know probably.

The person's moon sign plays a big role here, as well as venus.

Whoops, I read that wrong, all of it applies for Cap moons as well though, but what's their sun sign and Venus? (sorry if you've said it already)

posted March 07, 2013 07:24 PM            

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Originally posted by CherryVodka:
Capricorn men and Capricorn Moon men are fairly simple guys. Their sun sign and Venus is important here though.

Like Capricorn people in general don't feel hurt if they stop talking to you for a while, they're almost always (most likely) doing something regarding to work, or future work endeavors.

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Sun and Venus are both in Sag. Merc and Mars in Scorpio.

posted March 07, 2013 07:28 PM            

Like I said before though, don't be too weak as compared to him, they want to be in charge in a overall kind of way, meaning that they don't want to pick up the slack for you, but they will want to have overall control.

It's more of a vibe of control with them, not actual control sometimes (they can be oblivious about this)

Have ambitions as well, that way they keep interested.

Sag Suns are usually always on the move, and Sag Venus is a fairly nice position for Venus because they're likeable and friendly people.

Don't get so jealous (idk if you're a jealous person, this will put them off)

posted March 07, 2013 07:46 PM            

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Originally posted by CherryVodka:
Ah! Mars in Scorpio, as with Capricorn Mars they can be ambitious to a fault, as to neglect people they care about, they will feel bad if you let them know about it though, and make effort to see you (if they truly like you).

Like I said before though, don't be too weak as compared to him, they want to be in charge in a overall kind of way, meaning that they don't want to pick up the slack for you, but they will want to have overall control.

It's more of a vibe of control with them, not actual control sometimes (they can be oblivious about this)

Have ambitions as well, that way they keep interested.

Sag Suns are usually always on the move, and Sag Venus is a fairly nice position for Venus because they're likeable and friendly people.

Don't get so jealous (idk if you're a jealous person, this will put them off)

I could get more in depth if I had a chart to look at.

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posted March 07, 2013 08:18 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
Don't waiver from your personality. Don't be fickle. Don't be vague. I smell insincerity blocks away..

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posted March 08, 2013 05:53 AM            

cappy moons have no real interest in controlling other people. the only person they feel the need to control, is themselves.

but ... what do i know!

posted March 08, 2013 01:37 PM            

The earthiness can balance this out a bit. I don't know too much of Sagittarius in someone's chart, but I think the combination of fire/earth would make him more balanced, even though he likes his freedom. And you're still talking to him, right? Then it can't be that bad.

Have you thought of that he may have some personal problems he's trying to deal with? Maybe he feels he has to tough it out on his own and doesn't want to burden his friends with it? Capricorns take things a lot slower than Aries.

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i'm sorry, but i don't agree with almost everything CherryVodka has said. i'm a capricorn moon. none of that is me.
cappy moons have no real interest in controlling other people. the only person they feel the need to control, is themselves.

but ... what do i know!

sam.

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posted March 08, 2013 01:54 PM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Sigh... I don't think it matters anymore. I am 90% sure he likes someone else. :/

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posted March 08, 2013 02:32 PM            

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Originally posted by meissieri:
I hope I can reassure you a little here about the smothering. My mother is an Aries sun/Scorpio moon like you and yeah, she's quite a lot to handle now and then, but I love her and wouldn't want her to be any other way. So it's not all hopeless with other Cap moons! At least not for this one.

The earthiness can balance this out a bit. I don't know too much of Sagittarius in someone's chart, but I think the combination of fire/earth would make him more balanced, even though he likes his freedom. And you're still talking to him, right? Then it can't be that bad.

Have you thought of that he may have some personal problems he's trying to deal with? Maybe he feels he has to tough it out on his own and doesn't want to burden his friends with it? Capricorns take things a lot slower than Aries.

I agree on the "wanting to control themselves" thing. What sign your Sun/Venus/etc are in? That changes how your moon plays out for you (and maybe it's why you don't feel that description).

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I think he is or was... I go by the pictures he posts on his blog because he won't talk about it lol. We still keep in touch but our conversations aren't consistent like they were in the beginning.