posted July 10, 2018 02:27 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
So it lasted a few years huh?!

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Yes we talked though fb back in 2011
Met him in person in 2012 agreed to a ****boy relationship with him. Mr. I’m too spiritual for any kind of label. But I’m going to occupy all your time.

It’s like I put up with it, but deep down it bothered me. This guy wants to basically be my boyfriend but doesn’t want to be called my boyfriend. Mature people were like “what!?”
Honestly people can tell you it’s no good, but people have to come up with that conclusion for themself.

Yeah he always wants the upper hand and everything on his terms. I put up with it. Once I gave him space during that “ride it out time” and could see me conversing with other guys on FB, he wanted to keep tabs on me again. LOL
If I didn’t respond to his I’m so busy maybe talk to you later texts he would go oh crap. And holler at me.

He was immature for doing that, and I was immature for putting up with it.

When he settled back in home state around end of 2013. Doing our thing it wasn’t working and it was hard for both of us to admit.

Asked for more space, I was relieved. I could have my own life outside again. Started making career goals.

Once he worked on his he wanted more space. I respected...but I got to a point where I expressed feeling neglected. Said he needed time to himself cause I made him so upset. That was very hard. I knew it was over. I finally knew, this is not how people act who want a relationship to work.

Dumped me on February 7th 2015. I was like fine I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with me. When I said let me get my stuff back, he started crying that he still wants to be friends.
As a Scorpio moon that is not my nature.
He told me he would round up my stuff. I picked it up next week or something. I gave him back some of his things too. I grabbed it and gave him a look. Lmao as I put it in my trunk he was still standing there. I tried to thank him about not being difficult for getting my stuff back but I stammered so much that he just gave me a hug. And then we parted for good.

posted July 10, 2018 03:14 PM            

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Originally posted by athenaia:
Thank you for updating, and congrats on dropping the baggage

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posted July 10, 2018 05:09 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
fuqeries

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I am sooooo stealing this.

posted July 10, 2018 08:02 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
I am sooooo stealing this.

I just want to say that you did not mess up. He is a complicated guy it sounds like and you tried to make it work with him, there is no shame in that, you were just following your heart and it lasted as long as it was suppose to and you grew and learned from it, its a life experience, life experiences is what life is about.

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All credit goes to the blogger Mystic Medusa for “fuquery” lol

Right after that I decided no more guys that “don’t believe in labels”
Right how else would I get higher standards for myself? Haha

This is really a thing, my friends baby daddy said this, but he is reforming himself.

And my friend just had a falling out with a guy that didn’t believe in labels.

Anyways this guy from my past had a Scorpio stellulum. Asc, sun, Mercury, mars
Taurus moon
Capricorn Venus
And then he is born in 89 so he has that Capricorn stellulum

posted July 11, 2018 04:06 AM            

I dated two scorpios born in 89, pretty similar experiences with both of them to yours with this guy

One had moon in gemini and he was just too difficult for me as a pisces moon. I always disliked his personality but our sexual attraction fooled me and I was young lol!

The other had a capricorn moon and it was a lot easier with him. Both due to lunar compatibility and also the fact that his venus wasn't in a crazy opposition to jupiter and a tight conjunction to saturn like the gemini moon one.

Being with both of them felt like a roller coaster.

I think a lot of it is because of their Aquarius NN too, which squared my sun, adding to more mutual attraction.

posted July 11, 2018 08:24 AM            

Yeah we had a lot of opposition in our charts charts too. We were pretty drawn to each other
My Scorpio moon his Taurus moon
My Taurus Mercury his Scorpio Mercury
My Leo ic his aqua ic

Yeah this dude had some baggage. The rejection he felt from his father. And he kind of wasn’t over his ex who was also a childhood friend, and on and off with for 7 years. Being poor in a good area, made him somewhat bitter.

He had some weird behaviors. I realized how weird his behavior was in the last year. I liked to mess with me when I invited him on family trips. Would back out with two days notice. I couldn’t believe it, I just text “okay”
And that reaction suddenly he could go for some of it.

After the trip next years vacation came up in conversation
He said with school he might not be able to come. I basically told him it’s fine and that I appreciate knowing in advance.
He was not expecting that reaction from me.
Then immediately out of no where he said he could go on the trip.
?????

So for reasons such as that it only took me a little over a month to be sad about it being over. I mean I did emotionally invest but started to realize this wasn’t right.

posted July 11, 2018 11:38 PM            

Well there was a lot going on after we broke up. Everything I found out from other people, not from myself seeking really.
A mutual friend told me he hung out with that ex. After we broke up. Whether they hung out platonically or not it’s none of my business.
Then my other friend told me that he got into a relationship with another girl in March (2015)and made it FB official. Whatever there is to speculate about this, I’d rather put my energy into moving on.
But then I got that answer of “wow so it was just me then, I was just being used. Etc” Multiple people say the girl looks like me too. Whatever. Why waste anymore time obsessing over it? Haven’t I wasted enough? I was making strides, but that was the turning point for me that I was done being sad.

Ehh and some people say changed behavior is the best apology. I could see it that way and forgive or I could see it as some immature douche bag used me, or both?
I told a mutual friend never again will I commit to a “no labels guy” I decided that when I was committed to him too. Durrung the fed up but not over phase basically in my head “not sure if this is going to work, and if it doesn’t I’m not doing this no labels stuff anymore once I put myself back out there”

Anyways his DC is Taurus.

But yes sometimes I think, “well, I hope he treats her better than me. Sounds like he is if he made it FB official a little after a month from us parting. Having to deal with his baggage from his ex, and the family of that ex staying in touch with him. His shallow insecure Mom who will tell you if you gained 5 pounds and you better fix that, and his mean trashy aunt. Maybe she is better suited and accepting and more tolerable for all these things. Maybe. Whatever floats boats. I’m honestly glad it’s not mine to put up with anymore”

posted July 22, 2018 02:39 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Perhaps his venus in capricorn, overly cautious around relationships and making commitments. Add he was not over his ex whom he knew from childhood. It sounds like he was not ready.

What rules his 7TH house and what are the aspects and placements of his 7H ruler?

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posted July 25, 2018 11:40 PM            

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Originally posted by Stawr:
I remember that his Taurus moon is in the 7th house

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