posted March 21, 2013 12:12 AM            

I've been noticing in the past few days my guy being unpredictable, and I feel like there is less stability. Like he went from one extreme to another. And I'm kind of feeling insulted, like he is turning into a tool or something. Tomorrow it will be right smack on his Venus. So we shall see where we stand when it starts to ease off of his Venus again. I began to dislike the situation when it was 0.04 on his Venus.

I've had insane mood swings today because of it.

I checked my transits...and no answers. Nothing new.

So then I check his....HE IS GOING THOUGH A URANUS SQUARE VENUS TRANSIT!

So please tell me your experiences with it. What was your Uranus square Venus like? Who is going though this transit now?
Also who has been in my situation where your "special someone" is going though this? What happened? How did you deal with it?

Thanks
Stawr

posted March 21, 2013 06:49 PM            

The weekend he went to a strip club. I was fine with it, I trust him. We communicated. But now it's like if he goes to play pool with his friends we can only text.(not while he's out only before and when he gets home) Of course I don't expect him to call me while he's out. But if I know I'm going out, I'll call him earlier. The first time he pulled this, he didn't bother to do that. And that's not like him.
So then he told me that he plans on continuing to do that. Good for him. But yuhh I'll be insulted if I feel like I'm putting more effort into talking to him, than he is. Like 'I'll only talk to you if I'm not going out with my friends.' Ohhhhwoww don't I feel special!

And I told him "you know you can call me earlier if you know you're gonna be out, but you don't have to." I said in an annoyed, I shouldn't even have to say this kind of tone. And the last sentence was reverse psychology kind of tone!

I've only started to feel concerned for his behavior since Monday.

posted March 21, 2013 09:50 PM            

I need answers from the universe.

Since Uranus has gone back and forth...I wanted to check to see if he had this going on while talking to me.

We first starting talking to each other like crazy on fb on February 23 2012.
Nope didn't have that transit (that I see as a sick cruel joke right now) going on. He had stuff going on like
Jupiter Trine Uranus
Uranus Square Uranus
Pluto Conjunction Venus

But then around the time we met in person(we have/had same friends and that's how we started talking like crazy on fb) Near the end of April he had this transit going on...ya know Venus Square Uranus. And we hit it off...it took us about 3 days of hanging out before we got intimate.

No complaints from this transit until this time around.

Well I'm concerned cause the cafe astrology talks about this transit and how you could meet someone but wont last. (but this transit had all kinds of interpretations.)
And I'm wondering, am I THAT person in his life?

Or does it not count since we where talking and we both secretly liked each other though we hadn't met yet?

posted March 21, 2013 09:53 PM            

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Originally posted by jjj:
And share about tr Uranus conjunct natal Venus as well plz!

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posted March 21, 2013 10:12 PM            

I went through a Uranus square Mercury transit two years ago. Mercury rules my 7th house, so it was somewhat like a Uranus square Venus transit. I broke it off with my guy at the first 'hit' of the transit, and immediately met someone new (an Aqua guy who was going through a Uranus conjunct Venus transit! lol). I always meet a guy when he's going through some kind of Uranus transit (I have Uranus conj Sun/Ascendant and a bunch of other Uranus aspects). Anyway, I fell sooo hard for the Aqua guy, but he was totally on-off the whole time.. I got back with my ex (casually), and dated quite a few other guys. My ex was sooo upset the entire time; he felt so ignored.

ANYWAY, by the time the transit was over, I had dumped all the guys I had met, and went back to only seeing my ex.

When I look back, I can't understand why I ever liked any of those other guys! They were NOT my type. I was just attracted to the newness and excitement of the relationship. Also, Uranus brings 'weird' people into our lives, so I was very attracted to the fact that the new guys were different than the men I had dated before. However, it was one big 'what was I thinking?' moment in the end.

And of COURSE, once that Aqua's Uranus conjunct Venus transit was over, he was not on-off anymore. By that time, however, my Uranus transit was over, and I was no longer interested (even though I was crazy for him during the transit). To be honest, the only reason I was attracted to him in the first place was because he was so on-off. I went on one date with him after the transit was over, and I made him drop me home after 20 minutes LOL I was like, "ew! why did I ever like you?!"

Anyway, sorry for rambling, but this is the energy Uranus supposedly brings. I experienced a strong urge for freedom, and I cut off relationships I deemed routine or repetitive. It's really hard to tolerate those kinds of relationships when you're going through a Uranus transit like that. None of the relationships I had during the transit lasted longer than the transit itself. There were also tons of 'what was I thinking?' moments..

posted March 21, 2013 10:25 PM            

Oh man...I had no love life. I was able to flirt with guys. One was interested but I ignored him. I just wasn't ready. I was cold, I had walls up, plus I hadn't even hit puberty. haha

posted March 21, 2013 10:52 PM            

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Originally posted by starfairy:

Anyway, sorry for rambling, but this is the energy Uranus supposedly brings. I experienced a strong urge for freedom, and I cut off relationships I deemed routine or repetitive. It's really hard to tolerate those kinds of relationships when you're going through a Uranus transit like that. None of the relationships I had during the transit lasted longer than the transit itself. There were also tons of 'what was I thinking?' moments..

I read somewhere that the best thing to do if your SO is going through a transit like this is to not bug or nag them too much. Just give them their freedom and let them be. It's a lot easier said than done, but clinging may push them away. When Uranus hits your SO's love planets, you can feel sooo helpless.. it sucks!

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Yes we where very routine with each other...plus we are long distance right now. We usually call each other around a certain time. Ah yeah and routines in relationships seem to be a turn off for him right now, even if he wont admit it.

Yeah trying to do that...It makes me feel like I am giving him the cold shoulder. I hate acting like I don't care...that I'm not a high priority lately.

If he grows more distant I'm gonna have to talk to him on where I stand...but currently want to feel it out more before I jump to that conclusion...and say something to him like "you don't seem to want to put that much effort in anymore, and I just want to know if I should move on? Because if things continue to go this way I can't take you seriously, I guess I'll just start to care less...cause I can't care about people that don't care about me...and I call ******** that you are at work so late, and that you can't make time for me, and I want my pie recipe and apron back please" these are things I think about saying to him...but want to be sure before I come to a conclusion. Cause saying/doing hurtful things really can have consequences.

Yes I definitely had an overwhelming feeling of helplessness yesterday.

posted March 21, 2013 11:07 PM            

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Originally posted by starfairy:
You must be having some sort of Uranus transit, too, no?

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Uranus Square Uranus Capricorn house 8

Saturn Sextile Uranus
Pluto Conjunct Uranus

posted March 21, 2013 11:19 PM            

Uranus square Uranus can certainly indicate changes. I guess Uranus is transiting your 11th house (assuming equal houses again)? So, you and your bf have Uranus conjunct Venus in your synastry, right?

Anyway, I didn't want to scare you or anything with my examples. Uranus squaring Venus doesn't always mean break-ups and meeting new people. But it tends to always indicate at least one person needing more 'space' for the time being. I think the fact that you are long-distance right now also reflects the transit; Uranus indicates separations, which includes being separated by distance.

posted March 22, 2013 12:44 AM            

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Originally posted by starfairy:
So, you're a Gemini Ascendant? Saturn opposing Mercury, the ruler of your 1st and 4th (assuming equal houses). That mustn't be fun at all!

Uranus square Uranus can certainly indicate changes. I guess Uranus is transiting your 11th house (assuming equal houses again)? So, you and your bf have Uranus conjunct Venus in your synastry, right?

Anyway, I didn't want to scare you or anything with my examples. Uranus squaring Venus doesn't always mean break-ups and meeting new people. But it tends to always indicate at least one person needing more 'space' for the time being. I think the fact that you are long-distance right now also reflects the transit; Uranus indicates separations, which includes being separated by distance.

Anyway, I think you should talk to him about this. I wouldn't conclude anything; just let him talk about how he feels, and try to figure things out together.

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Yes Gemini Asc.
Yes Uranus is transiting my 11th house this transit can be stressful, but I end up finding rebellious outlets with people, from past experiences...that really helped make my dull life eventful.

Yeah my Uranus does conjunct his Venus, 1 degree apart.

Saturn is transiting my 6th house opposing my 12th house.

Yeah at first he's all like "ya know, I like going out"
Honestly he hasn't gone out much since I moved. So now he is coming out of his shell, and good for him...but it sucks how lately it seems like he has to choose me or his "bros" and I'm on the "back burner"
He told me yesterday that he's been pretty anti social lately and how he needs to do this. I understand...but it just sucks that he feels like he can't balance or do both. Like now he can only talk to me if he has nothing better to do.
Last time we talked on the phone he talked about how hes been really anti social lately, and how it's good that he is finally getting out.

posted March 22, 2013 07:00 PM            

I'm just shutting down...don't want to be around anyone. My co-worker could tell something was up with me. I just want to go under a rock and live there.

It was painful to small talk with people at work today. I don't think I smiled one genuine smile. I'm usually chatty with my co-worker. And saying stuff she finds funny, and vise versa. She usually gets me to crack up real good at work.

I'm just not myself.

Twice this week I've been on the verge of tears at work. And cried for a bit when I was finally home alone, and today is one of those days.

I could keep crying now but my mom just got home...damn it.

God and I hate when people ask "how are you guys doing?" whether I'm content or not! I hate small talk like that, cause it's like why do you have to QUESTION how we are doing, whether we are doing good or not is none of your business, you don't know me like that! Like I'll tell you how we are doing if I feel like it. You know it's kind of belittling, don't you think.
I know I know everyone small talks once in a while. But that **** gets on my damn nerves.

And people I've seen that know me well have asked me if "I'm okay" today. I'm not ready to talk about it, to people I know.

I talked to my sister on the phone about what I'm going though today, cause we have some deep talks. She didn't pry. So I choose to tell her.

Co worker made me fess up.

And my mom just asked me if I was okay. FML

posted March 22, 2013 07:24 PM            

I am sorry to tell you this, but the vast majority of tUranus square Venus transits do end up in a break up. Someone I know is going through this transit (and Pluto was squaring their Venus not long ago too, now it's a bit out of orb) and they were on and off with their partner for months; now it seems that they're broken up for good.

Just take care of yourself and take some time away from all the pressure and negativity.

It's crazy how transits are accurate, see, two people in a relationship can have completely different transits going on and yet it makes total sense.. for example, in your case, his distant/on and off behaviour (tUranus sq Venus) makes your mind go negative (tSaturn sq Mercury).

posted March 22, 2013 10:47 PM            

I just wish I was just sitting in the woods in the middle of nowhere all by myself.

I'm getting so impatient. I really don't like this trend of him having no time for me but acting like he is trying to make things work. I don't know if I can take it anymore. I feel like my head is being ****** with by someone who use to treat me right.

I feel I've done nothing to deserve this. This is the most mature relationship I've ever been. I often feel super down when Saturn opposes any of my planets.

From late teens to adulthood I've experienced saturn oppose my Mars, Venus, Sun.

opposing Mars I got out of my comfort zone, (it was very un comfortable but it was something I had to do, to grow) and felt like my life was starting over

Venus opposition was probably when my self esteem was the lowest.

opposing my Sun I felt like my life was a sick cruel joke but I also felt empowered.

But I notice that during these times I feel down, but at the same time re-evaluating my life. I really feel it now. My love life, friends, job, school.

Right now I feel so down like I have nothing to look forward to but I know this will pass.

He text me today around 4 on how he looks forward to talking to me but might not be able to and will let me know. Yeah the word MIGHT...he used that word a lot. I haven't even said anything back...He is not making me feel good about my self right now, that just made me shut down.

I'm just full of doubt. If he does actually call me tonight, I don't even know what I'll say...my mental state is that bad from this.

I felt fine when Saturn was going forward but rx...this is not good.

posted March 23, 2013 01:43 AM            

HE JUST ****** WITH MY HEAD EVEN MORE

I am so ready to tell him off. And tell him I give up...

I was fine sleeping not feeling any pain. He texts me a bit. Then acts like he is going to call me soon. Then has more excuses....

I am so ready to tell him I give up. Now I can't sleep!

posted March 24, 2013 02:18 PM            

I've been though so many mood swings this week.

Freaked out again Saturday morning.
Then talked to my older Libra sister about my situation...read the texts to her that I took as "fuqing with my head."

My sister's input was that I am overreacting, and insecure. And worrying to much.

"And from the texts it sounds like he is just having a wild unpredictable night and being a good guy and letting you know."

My sister is really into the law of attraction, and has been telling me and other people that I need to think more positively.

I shouldn't assume bad things if I don't 100 percent know.

I feel like that is my Saturn oppose Mercury lesson right now...I can't go on having healthy relationships if I worry when there are challenges. And to train my mind to be positive when challenges arrive. Not only am I being the bigger person, It's probably more attractive...and way more healthy for myself and my partner.

And I would like to thank everyone for their input on my post.

But yeah I see Saturn rx opposing my Mercury playing out here.

I read on an excellent astrology blog, that for Taurus it can be hard to move forward in relationships, right now. I definitely see that playing out! And since mine is in Mercury, communicating has been difficult.

All I can do is ride this out. Anyone know when Saturn will be direct again? haha

Oh and in case anyone is wondering here's our some of our synastry
Moon conjunct Pluto
Mercury Trine Venus
Venus Sextile Venus
Mars Square Sun
Jupiter Trine Mars
Saturn Sextile Mercury
Uranus Conjunction Venus
Pluto Conjunction Sun
Pluto Conjunction ASC

posted October 16, 2013 07:58 PM            

I thought he was done for good with Uranus Square Venus for good. BOY WAS I WRONG. I tried calling him and no answer. He must be rebelling for me being upset at him.

And again I have Saturn oppose Mercury.

So I just feel like a complete failure today. Like I have learned nothing from my Saturn transit and that I shall reap no rewards.

Yeah lets just say I gave him space in a negative way today, and that didn't go well.