posted March 26, 2013 01:58 PM            

I am Aquarius and he is Scorpio. I know according to most readings they aren't a very good match, but we hit it off immediately and there is rarely a dull moment. Perhaps the antiscia of our two signs is at play here?

posted March 26, 2013 02:33 PM            

I have a big issue with genders and astrology...

Folks tend to expect the same "qualities" from the sun and other placements, despite gender..

My rule of thumb is:

1) placements, plantes in signs and houses, aspects, etc.

2) gender...every sun sign and everyother placement will be colored by a gender...now you throw in a gay individual, and it is colored more.

My eldest daughter is gay and her chart speaks of her so eloquently, but I have to remember, she is in love with a woman, and she is the more masculine of the two, so when I read for her and her gfriend, I have to remember, placements first, gender second then gender with a twist....

blessins!

posted March 26, 2013 02:40 PM            

So in same sex attraction I wonder if it's as simple. The male projecting his Mars on the male and the female projecting her Venus on the female. But I think it'll be more complex than that.

My Venus is in Leo, so why am I always attracted to Aquarius Sun females?!?! They're fun and iconoclastic, but they're usually unable to give my Venus the adulation it deserves. I find Leo Sun women (and men) tedious. There's only room for one monarch.

Then I'm usually attracted to Capricorn Sun males. Their earthiness is sexy, and their calm is comforting, but in a short amount of time that translates into boring for me. My Mars is in Sagittarius and the centaur male is my ideal. But that pesky Capricorn is in my 5th house.

Then Pisces and north node is in my 7th house and Venus in my 12th. I think my karma is tied up with Neptune. I just don't know what that implies exactly.

posted March 26, 2013 04:29 PM            

Cap in 5th for romance.

I do know what that Neptune business is. I just don't like thinking about it. In matters of partnership I'll find fulfillment in dissolving my ego...my considerable ego*. Say it isn't so.

* Venus Leo, Sun in 1st, south node in 1st conjunct Sun, Mars square Pluto, etc.

What I've just given thought to for the first time is Sagittarius in the 4th. With the Cancer Moon, home is very important to me, but it dawns on me that making a home with a Sag is quite a possibility.

Although, given the nature of Sag, that "home" might as often be just a backpack and passport as it would be brick and mortar.

posted March 26, 2013 04:35 PM            

I'm not sure about that. Everyone has masculine and feminine to a degree...some more than others. Overall, do you see yourself as more masculine, feminine, or balanced?

Also your Moon/Venus will be your feminine principles and Sun/Mars the masculine. It's my personal opinion that Moon is the feminine you are, and Venus is your feminine ideal. Likewise Sun is the masculine you are, and Mars is your masculine ideal.

posted March 26, 2013 05:05 PM            

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Originally posted by BlueRaven:
Thanks for the replies everyone. I am not sure how all this would work. Can we really assign it by who superficially is more feminine and masculine between the two of us?

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I'd say only if it were overtly so. Sexual orientation shouldn't be confused with gender, however.

I think most of the time it just takes a little common sense adaptation treating the gay couple as the same gender unless they've strongly defined their relationship among gender norms (btw, I do think there are rare times straight men & women should be counted more as the opposite gender astrologically as well). There's just not a big market for gay adaptions (and I have no idea how the niche market would work in this case, especially as I haven't met many gays into astrology and they're already a minority).

posted March 26, 2013 05:05 PM            

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Originally posted by BlueRaven:
Thanks for the replies everyone. I am not sure how all this would work. Can we really assign it by who superficially is more feminine and masculine between the two of us?

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I think so. It comes down to synastry, too.

I'm a straight female but have been in a 'masculine' role in some of my relationships. In one of them, the guy's moon was conjunct my sun, and in another, the guy's moon was opposite my sun. There were many other aspects, but I'm just using the sun moon one as an example. In both cases, I 'led' the relationship while the guy was more needy and dependent (and thus took on the 'feminine' role). I also have a 'masculine' chart (luminaries and planets in masculine signs).

My gay friend and his boyfriend have interesting synastry. His boyfriend has Venus in cancer, while my friend has Venus in Aries. His boyfriend is the 'feminine' person in the relationship; he's super needy and moody!! Lol I will look up their synastry and post more.

posted March 27, 2013 01:06 AM            

mcmlxix,

Thanks for your examples and input. I am not well versed enough to really be able to look at the details of our charts( I don't have a full one nor does he), but I guess that would be the next step to go with if we want to look further.

posted March 27, 2013 01:51 AM            

There is a book available called "Gay love signs" but I found that it focused too much on male "masculine"/"feminine" gay archetypes. I just couldn't relate to the perspectives therein.

I think compatibility goes beyond male/female gender roles and is all inclusive.

I am with a Taurus/Taurus male guy myself and I find that when I read compatibility(especially the Moon-Moon compatibility) it describes our relation to each other quite well.

Neither of us are "feminine" nor are we "straight-acting". Its not an "act", its whom we both are.
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