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Topic: Do Virgos Ever Forgive and Forget ?
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beckylee Knowflake Posts: 224 From: japan Registered: Jun 2012
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posted April 23, 2013 05:40 PM
Thank God he realized that it was going to be a big mistake if we don't give each other another chance, so yes, we made up! He said he still wants it to be a serious relationship. I feel so happy with him in my life IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 7466 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted April 23, 2013 05:42 PM
Becky YAAAY! *hugs* I knew everything would work out!!! IP: Logged |
curiouswoman Knowflake Posts: 1123 From: on earth Registered: Sep 2011
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posted April 25, 2013 10:16 PM
Most virgos I know hold grudgesIP: Logged |
anonymidarkness Knowflake Posts: 4668 From: Registered: Aug 2012
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posted April 25, 2013 10:40 PM
In my own experience, they forgive but they don’t really forget as they usually whine about it afterwards.IP: Logged |
beckylee Knowflake Posts: 224 From: japan Registered: Jun 2012
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posted April 26, 2013 04:02 AM
Thanks Starlight ! I can feel like his expectations are even higher now ! We have talked about hours and hours but yes, he still reminds me every now and then of what I've done. He also said he will always remember what I've done, like a knot in a rope.. He drives me crazy sometimes It's as if he doesn't see his own flaws at the beginning of the relationship IP: Logged |
3blessed Newflake Posts: 2 From: TX Registered: Jan 2014
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posted January 19, 2014 01:16 AM
This is a really long story but about a year ago I was going through a divorce from a man that verbally abused me. I had started to believe what he said was true and had very low self esteem. I sought attention but didn't want my pictures plastered all over the internet so I created a fake profile on a social media sure with pictures of someone else, made up name only one child when I really have 3, lived in a different state, etc. unexpectedly, I met a guy and at first we were just friends with no physical attraction on my part. The more we talked, the closer we got. He sought advice from me with a gf he had for a little while, etc. we shared a lot. Everything regarding my life stories, jobs, the person that made him laugh, intrigued him, etc was all the real me. We started developing feelings fur each other and soon we spent all day texting and talking and then would be on the phone till 4 or 5 am because we enjoyed each other so much. We grew close and started to share our feelings which I could tell was something he had a hard time at first revealing. We talked jokingly about weddings, proposal, etc and he told me how bad he wanted to spend time with my son and I, how he felt we were perfect for each other, etc. he spent many nights at home on the phone with me when he could have been out meeting girls or having fun. I wanted to tell him the closer we got that I wasn't really the person he saw in pics or my name wasn't really my name but was scared if I did, he would never speak to me again but I knew eventually it would have to come out. Finally, after 9 mths of putting him off, I met him at a restaurant. I went in first and text him. He came in and since he was looking for the girl in the pictures, didn't come up to me right away. He finally tapped my shoulder and asked my name and I panicked and gave him my real name. He apologized and said he was waiting for someone. He stood there for a minute on his phone while I talked to the bartender and then he left. When he got to his car, he text me and said he knew that was me because he stood there to listen to my voice and why didn't I tell him who I was. He called me and being upset he yelled at me and I cried (I know I deserved it). We ended up meeting and talking about it in person but I still gave him my maiden name, he didn't ask how many kids so I didn't tell, told him I wasn't married (although the divorce wasn't completely final but it was in the waiting stage for the date to be final). I assumed I would never hear from him again since he was angry. We kissed and had an enjoyable evening but then 3 weeks passed with no talking (I knew he was still mad) but then I got a text saying he had found out my name, where I really lived, went to college, etc. I came clean about 3 kids, etc everything. He asked if I was married and I told him the truth that I was but it was essentially over and he was terribly upset that I had lied about that. He said he could forgive me but not forget and that he didn't want to speak to me again. A few weeks later he text me asking if I had left a note on his door (which I hadn't). I m told him no and all he said was ok thx and now we haven't spoken in 2 mths. Is he done with me? Can I do anything?IP: Logged |
Orange Knowflake Posts: 1255 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted January 19, 2014 12:09 PM
I am a Virgo and i hold grudges for life. No second chances, really. IP: Logged |
Orange Knowflake Posts: 1255 From: Georgia Registered: May 2009
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posted January 19, 2014 12:12 PM
3blessed, Only a fool will forgive what you did. It was disgusting even just reading your story let alone being on the receiving end of it. IP: Logged |
StarlightSmileSupreme Knowflake Posts: 7466 From: neptune Registered: Nov 2012
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posted January 19, 2014 01:33 PM
I guess it depends on the Virgo and what you've done. With this Virgo, it's more about distancing because I don't like the idea of getting into a cycle where I get even, then they get even with me so I have to get even with them and on and on until someone blows the other's house up with them inside. So I don't take the revenge thing too far but emotionally, I am icy when they cross that line and I realize it will never get any better. Virgos can be really cold.IP: Logged |
3blessed Newflake Posts: 2 From: TX Registered: Jan 2014
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posted January 19, 2014 11:48 PM
You say he would be a fool to forgive me but we all make mistakes. I certainly got the karma that I deserved by losing him. I was in a really bad place when it all started and never intended on meeting anyone at all much less someone I would fall for like I did. I know what I did was terribly wrong and I know if he never forgives me it will be what I deserve but I fell for this guy and would never dream of hurting him ever again. I knew there would be negativity slammed at me and I deserve it but just because one person sins differently from another, doesn't make anyone else any better.IP: Logged |
theunknown Knowflake Posts: 636 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted January 20, 2014 01:10 AM
Virgo is mutable so forgiveness is possible. Please look at his whole chart though. He might have scorp planets or smth IP: Logged |
ash20 Knowflake Posts: 255 From: Registered: Mar 2013
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posted January 20, 2014 01:47 AM
Virgo/Scorpio moonHe will forgive you on his time and not a second before, no matter how much begging and pleading you do. And he may also forgive you and never tell you. He'll just move on and become like ice. He will treat you as if you don't exist (lol sometimes i have to pinch myself) He's so cold!! Maybe if the virgo doesn't have any scorp placements he can easily forgive... IP: Logged |
Venusincap89 Knowflake Posts: 176 From: Registered: Jul 2013
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posted January 20, 2014 02:19 AM
quote: Originally posted by beckylee:
He says if I really loved him, I wouldn't date another guy whether we were serious or not. In fact, I dated someone else to make sure that I wasn't getting carried away this guy. I was falling for him and I was scared.Do you think I suck at romance ?
I am sorry to say, if he were to... go along with you dating another man, he would be indirectly telling you that it's ok for you to date another man again in the future. In that sense, he has no choice but to.. tell you what he told you. But, if you dated another man before you've talked about establishing the relationship with him, I say you have absolutely all the rights to not feel guilty. IP: Logged |
summerlite Knowflake Posts: 955 From: Registered: Nov 2013
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posted January 20, 2014 04:19 AM
Virgos forgive. But whatever you did is called a betrayal so no, they can't forget it.IP: Logged |
hodad Knowflake Posts: 188 From: tiburon ca usa Registered: May 2009
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posted February 15, 2014 11:27 AM
Virgos can forgive but they forget so easily. Their memories are retentive in that way,like Cancer.They remember all the details,and then file it away in a catalogue somewhere,where they can always access it.Annoying in that way,those Virgos!IP: Logged |
Jo B Knowflake Posts: 97 From: Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 15, 2014 03:52 PM
quote: Originally posted by GemNymph: No offense, but I think you need to let this guy go and move on. This sounds manipulative: "I really wanted you to be my wife"--has he asked you at all about what YOU want in life? Did he express this to you before? Yet he's already shaming you with the "You could have been my wife" thing and telling you that YOU lost HIS trust. He's playing with your emotions and fears of social rejection to try to keep you an available option for him. Unless he expressed his feelings BEFORE this, just assume whatever he's saying is insincere.
Exactly what I would have said. but GemNymph said it so much better! lol There's this thing men sometimes do (and I guess some women) called "future faking". They might hint you have a future together as a serious couple, but they then let you down and never live up to their "promises". I had one guy (he was Aquarius actually) who after behaving appallingly when I was with him - flirting with other women right in front of me, blowing hot and cold, etc - suddenly emailed me out of the blue a year later and said "I was 110% in love with you," "I'd marry you Jo", have kids, etc, when originally he ran a mile at their mere thought I might get pregnant by him! If this guy says this kind of thing after only a month of actually KNOWING you it smacks of immaturity on his part, as well as the manipulation GemNymph mentioned above. As to whether Virgo's forgive and forget easily, speaking as one myself there have been times where I would NEVER forgive them in a million years for how they behaved towards me but I sure as hell FORGOT about them! lol IP: Logged |
Jo B Knowflake Posts: 97 From: Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 15, 2014 04:05 PM
quote: Originally posted by beckylee: We talked on the phone for 1.5 hours. He says our relationship was serious enough for me not to be dating or kissing another guy. I explained him my point of view, but he says although he still likes me, he has too much pride and ego to let it go. I think I understand him I did the same thing to someone I loved out of my pride once in the past.
This is all about CONTROL CONTROL CONTROL on his part. Don't be sucked in. So he says you're not supposed to kiss/date another guy but does he actually says he's going to stop kissing/dating other WOMEN? Please read the warning signs. One month of knowing someone and 6 days of being with them really isn't enough time to consider something as serious as marriage.
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Jo B Knowflake Posts: 97 From: Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 15, 2014 04:20 PM
quote: Originally posted by 3blessed: You say he would be a fool to forgive me but we all make mistakes. I certainly got the karma that I deserved by losing him. I was in a really bad place when it all started and never intended on meeting anyone at all much less someone I would fall for like I did. I know what I did was terribly wrong and I know if he never forgives me it will be what I deserve but I fell for this guy and would never dream of hurting him ever again. I knew there would be negativity slammed at me and I deserve it but just because one person sins differently from another, doesn't make anyone else any better.
3blessed, if you really wanted forgiveness and the possibility of something deeper with this man, you REALLY should have owned up before you finally met him in person. I'm not surprised at his reaction really, regardless of whether he was attracted to the REAL you or not, it must have left him pretty embarrassed not to mention unsure of whether you could be trusted or not. I think that's the real reason he's gone quiet, the trust thing. IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze Knowflake Posts: 889 From: Pluto with Barbiegirl19 Registered: Nov 2013
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posted February 15, 2014 04:51 PM
In my experience, having three Virgo placements and a 32 year long friendship with a Virgo. Forgive...yes. Forget....no.I know I won't mention it nor him unless necessary.
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