posted April 23, 2013 04:59 PM            

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Originally posted by magicspells:
7th house ruler in the 12th house..I want to get married but I want a deep spiritual union of souls and nothing less.

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Mercury is the ruler of my 7th house (Virgo) and it's placed on the 12th house. Magicspells I want exactly the same, you 're so right!
In addition, Mars is in my 7th house, so I usually want to be in charge in the relationship and Juno is in Sagittarius so I prefer open minded and adventurous partners. In fact Sagittarius is not a big fan of marriage... If I ever do it I want it to be special, different and with few special people.

posted April 24, 2013 10:06 AM            

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Originally posted by somethingexcellent:
Uranus here! I'm down for anything really. Hell one time I was drunk, I proposed to my best friend that we get married "as friends".

I don't place particular importance on marriage itself to be honest - if the relationship fades and both parties want a divorce, then divorce it up! Sure it'll be costly, but whatever, go get married again if you wanna! If it's special, then it's special, if you remarry, then you remarry...whateva.

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I really want that I could think like this ^ somedays.
My 7th Ruler is Neotune, in3 rd house, trine venus,square AC and Jupiter.

posted April 24, 2013 08:50 PM            

My first marriage was horrible with a Pisces. With Miss Scorpio, her Venus conjunct my Neptune.

My 5th house ruler is Saturn in the 12th. I want my marriage and partners to be serious.

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Gemini Sun
Libra Moon
Gemini Mercury
Cancer Venus
Virgo Mars
Virgo Asc

posted April 24, 2013 11:33 PM            

I really don't care what type of wedding I have at all, as long as I marry someone right for me. Actually, what I'm more concerned about is picking a good day/time/place for the wedding, so I can have a nice wedding chart.

In terms of relationships themselves, intellectual and spiritual compatibility is very important to me. I like a strong friendship to be part of the relationship, because this outlasts physical passion. However, I also want to be completely in-love with my husband, for both his looks and his personality. And I want him to feel the same about me. Hey, I'm not that old yet!

In my chart Saturn is sextile my Jupiter in the 7th house. My attitude towards marriage is both idealistic and practical. I both respect it as a legal contract, and revere it as a sacred union. I view marriage as something that should be taken seriously, and marriage vows as promises that should be honored. I mean, nobody HAS to get married! So if you do, my feeling is that it's better to give your word with well considered respect and sincerity. I fully intend to mean it when I promise to 'forsake all others, till death do us part', and all the rest.

posted April 25, 2013 12:47 AM            

I mentioned these in my last post. I saw a book in a store one time about planning a good date/time/place for your wedding. I didn’t buy the book but I jotted down some notes from it.

Here they are… (In my own words)

Note: For wedding charts, all approaching aspects count for the future (influences in the marriage that are growing stronger), while separating aspects count for the past (influences in the marriage that are moving away). Approaching aspects refer to all aspects a planet will make before leaving a sign.

KEY POINTS FOR THE ASTRO-TIMING OF MARRIAGE

~ It’s best to marry during the waxing Moon. The waxing Moon is when the Moon is growing larger, and so symbolizes embarking new ventures that are growing in strength. The Waning Moon is when the Moon is decreasing in size, and symbolizes letting things go, and influences moving away. Most people want their marriage to grow in strength with time, so for this marrying under a waxing Moon is best.

~ Avoid approaching Saturn/Sun squares (the Sun aspecting Saturn at ANY point before it leaves it’s current sign). The author said these can be ‘devastating‘. E.g. Saturn at 11 Scorpio, and the Sun at 4 Leo. The Sun would square Saturn before it left Leo, and so theoretically the Saturn/Sun square would be part of the marriage’s ‘future’ (progression wise, and symbolically).

~ Avoid Mercury or Venus retrograde (Hiccups in communication and expression of affection).

~ Avoid marrying when Venus, Mars, and Jupiter, are in poor aspect to each other. Between them, they rule (co-rule) four signs.

~ Avoid marrying when the Sun, Moon, or Venus are in the 6th or 12th house.

* Treasures to find…

~ Good approaching aspect between Sun/Moon.

~ Venus in an approaching aspect to Mars, or Jupiter.

~Venus in an comfortable sign, like Libra, Taurus, or Pisces, and not in a ‘cranky’ sign like Aries, Scorpio, or Virgo.

~ The last aspect the Moon makes before it leaves it’s current sign (goes void) should be a positive one. According to the author, the final approaching aspect that the Moon makes before going void indicates how the marriage in general ends up. If the last aspect were Moon trine Venus, the marriage would end up with ‘grandma’ and ‘grandpa’ being nice to each other.

~ The 1st and 7th house rulers should be approaching a harmonious aspect with each other.

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This author put a lot on emphasis on finding the right approaching aspects for the wedding chart, and avoiding negative ones. She suggested that we take care to avoid certain negative approaching aspects in the wedding chart first, and then try to find a chart that has good synastry with both partners.

The tight orb approaching aspects would of course be the most significant. Separating aspects do have an effect but they are said to symbolize an influences in the marriage that lessen with time.

Personally, think that there might be some wiggle room with regard to the aspects present in the wedding chart, depending on the natal charts of the bride and groom. What I really appreciate though, is how this author introduced me to the notion approaching aspects, even if they’re wide in orb, as relating to the future of a marriage. Before this, I only looked at what aspects were tight in orb for event charts. I might not have even paid attention to something like an approaching wide orb Sun/Saturn aspect, if it were 15 degrees apart or something like that. But if you were to progress the marriage chart eventually (in 15 years) the approaching Sun/Saturn aspect would become exact! So on both a symbolic level, and with progressions, very disturbing approaching aspects like Saturn/Sun hard aspects are bad news in the marriage chart, even if the orb is wide.

I also really appreciated the points about the waxing Moon and the last aspect of the Moon. The waxing moon is about increasing the influence of something. This is good symbolism for a marriage, as opposed to the waning Moon which is about releasing the old.

The last aspect of the Moon shows the final state of the marriage. Just like the last aspect of the Moon before it leaves a sign, shows the last significant event under that sign’s energy.

posted April 25, 2013 12:51 PM              

I think marriage should be based on spiritual values and love, yin and yang, blah blah. I fancy marriage though. I cant wait to get married. ¢¾

posted April 26, 2013 01:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Lotis White:
WEDDING CHARTS!

I mentioned these in my last post. I saw a book in a store one time about planning a good date/time/place for your wedding. I didn’t buy the book but I jotted down some notes from it.

Here they are… (In my own words)

Note: For wedding charts, all approaching aspects count for the future (influences in the marriage that are growing stronger), while separating aspects count for the past (influences in the marriage that are moving away). Approaching aspects refer to all aspects a planet will make before leaving a sign.

KEY POINTS FOR THE ASTRO-TIMING OF MARRIAGE

~ It’s best to marry during the waxing Moon. The waxing Moon is when the Moon is growing larger, and so symbolizes embarking new ventures that are growing in strength. The Waning Moon is when the Moon is decreasing in size, and symbolizes letting things go, and influences moving away. Most people want their marriage to grow in strength with time, so for this marrying under a waxing Moon is best.

~ Avoid approaching Saturn/Sun squares (the Sun aspecting Saturn at ANY point before it leaves it’s current sign). The author said these can be ‘devastating‘. E.g. Saturn at 11 Scorpio, and the Sun at 4 Leo. The Sun would square Saturn before it left Leo, and so theoretically the Saturn/Sun square would be part of the marriage’s ‘future’ (progression wise, and symbolically).

~ Avoid Mercury or Venus retrograde (Hiccups in communication and expression of affection).

~ Avoid marrying when Venus, Mars, and Jupiter, are in poor aspect to each other. Between them, they rule (co-rule) four signs.

~ Avoid marrying when the Sun, Moon, or Venus are in the 6th or 12th house.

* Treasures to find…

~ Good approaching aspect between Sun/Moon.

~ Venus in an approaching aspect to Mars, or Jupiter.

~Venus in an comfortable sign, like Libra, Taurus, or Pisces, and not in a ‘cranky’ sign like Aries, Scorpio, or Virgo.

~ The last aspect the Moon makes before it leaves it’s current sign (goes void) should be a positive one. According to the author, the final approaching aspect that the Moon makes before going void indicates how the marriage in general ends up. If the last aspect were Moon trine Venus, the marriage would end up with ‘grandma’ and ‘grandpa’ being nice to each other.

~ The 1st and 7th house rulers should be approaching a harmonious aspect with each other.

***

This author put a lot on emphasis on finding the right approaching aspects for the wedding chart, and avoiding negative ones. She suggested that we take care to avoid certain negative approaching aspects in the wedding chart first, and then try to find a chart that has good synastry with both partners.

The tight orb approaching aspects would of course be the most significant. Separating aspects do have an effect but they are said to symbolize an influences in the marriage that lessen with time.

Personally, think that there might be some wiggle room with regard to the aspects present in the wedding chart, depending on the natal charts of the bride and groom. What I really appreciate though, is how this author introduced me to the notion approaching aspects, even if they’re wide in orb, as relating to the future of a marriage. Before this, I only looked at what aspects were tight in orb for event charts. I might not have even paid attention to something like an approaching wide orb Sun/Saturn aspect, if it were 15 degrees apart or something like that. But if you were to progress the marriage chart eventually (in 15 years) the approaching Sun/Saturn aspect would become exact! So on both a symbolic level, and with progressions, very disturbing approaching aspects like Saturn/Sun hard aspects are bad news in the marriage chart, even if the orb is wide.

I also really appreciated the points about the waxing Moon and the last aspect of the Moon. The waxing moon is about increasing the influence of something. This is good symbolism for a marriage, as opposed to the waning Moon which is about releasing the old.

The last aspect of the Moon shows the final state of the marriage. Just like the last aspect of the Moon before it leaves a sign, shows the last significant event under that sign’s energy.

To bad I can’t remember who wrote this book. Maybe I’ll research it and post it later.

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posted May 09, 2014 06:13 PM            

I don't care about marriage, but if I'm in a relationship with someone I like to think about it as a forever-commitment where you just DONT split up unless you have some serious problems that cannot be solved.
If I feel the relationship have beaten every problem, then I could imagine myself getting married, but just because I would be 110% sure about that we was never going to get divorced anyways.

posted May 09, 2014 06:23 PM            

--lol, that's fantastic

posted May 09, 2014 06:33 PM            

- I believe in marriage, but I don't believe it's for everyone lol. When I marry, I would really like to stay with that person till death do us part (unless things were really crappy i.e. abuse/cheating/etc.). My mom divorced twice growing up, and just personally after seeing that and all of the drama, I'd just like to make sure that when I marry, it's for the long haul (especially if we have kids together).

- I don't want anything extravagant though. To me, it's about what happens after the wedding day, not the wedding day in itself. I just want something super simple and private with only really close friends and family (that I like) invited.

posted May 10, 2014 11:39 AM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
Saturn in my 5th. I hate that I'm not married yet

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Saturn in my 5th. I love that I'm not married

posted May 10, 2014 12:16 PM            

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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
Don't you want a touch of passion with your 'companion'? My 8th house ruler is in the 7th house,may be that's the difference you reckon? Passion is linked with relationship,I can't have it any other way.

I totally get what you mean though,having someone solid,reliable,trustworthy by my side is what I would like to have too.

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OMG- Blast from the past!!!

Oh yes. I am all for passion too. The ruler of my 8th house(Pluto) is in the 7th house too. And the ruler of my 2nd house is in the 8th house. I value sex and emotional intimacy.

The ruler of my 1st house(Mars) is in the 7th, the ruler of my 10th house(Saturn) is also in the 7th- so I tend to consider companionship pivotal to my existence.

But my thing is privacy and intimacy. I really do value that and I don't picture a huge wedding but I do consider my marriage will be extremely loving.

posted May 10, 2014 12:17 PM              

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Saturn in my 5th. I love that I'm not married

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