posted April 30, 2013 06:29 PM            

I personally can get quite furious with this kind of attitude, but I am a cap, and so I donīt openly say what I feel. I know it wonīt change their minds. I just basically try to ignore it, but I usually end up subconciously competing with them. Iīm too proud to surrender to this crap.

And usually what happens is that the cap men get even more oppressive and patronizing (God I hate that). It makes me feel like they are woman-haters and secretly gay.

Itīs not my intention tpo diss all cap men, just the ones I know. If they have a moon in an earth or air sign itīs even worse. They are to cold and square for me.

The weird thing though is that most of these guys at some point tried to flirt with me, and one even confessed that he loves me (after treating me like this. I never could have guessed the man felt anything else that despise for me). I gently turned him down and he refused to speak to me again.
I guess they are really emotional underneath, and they have serious issues with professing feelings of love. Sad to say, but they donīt know how to treat a lady. Thatīs odd, because they seem to be really competent in other areas in life. And they are also very sexy and sensual, so itīs a shame really that theyīre kinda pricks.
Weird thing is that other women seem to love cap men, especially cancers and leao. They like the old-fashioned chauvenistic thing.
But cap men often end up playing them. It is my observation that cap men go for needy women, but secretly love the strong ones.

Having said all this, I am currently crushing on a cap man, who also possese all these attributes, so you can imagine my confusion.

Anyway thatīs all I had to say.

Cheers.

posted April 30, 2013 06:58 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
You made me laugh

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posted April 30, 2013 09:44 PM            

I've know a lot of Capricorn men... to the point where the running joke my friend has is someone should put a sticker on my ass that says capricorn magnet *sighs*...

I've known a few who could seem sexist, but for sure some prefer women with more "traditional" roles. I think it's more of an earth sign thing tho.

posted May 01, 2013 12:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
I feel bad for craps they truly have terrible opinions of themselves.
If you can't love yourself...

edit: LOL craps...
Caps*

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posted May 01, 2013 01:11 AM            

If this is about the guy on the other thread -- honestly - LOOK..

It is NOT you.
It is NOT his natal chart.
It is NOT his sun sign.
It is NOT your synastry.

He simply has his own issues.
If he does not resolve them (which could take years anyway) - no one else will resolve them for him.

posted May 01, 2013 01:44 AM            

And anyone who decides to use their astrological placements in a nasty way... has their own issues.
They have their own reasons to do that.
You can't *fix* someone who has decided to be a prick or who does not know better -- His/Her chart is meaningless.

There are serial killers with a particular chart and particular aspects.. and there are people out there who were born on the same day as them.. who are not murderers.

posted May 01, 2013 04:09 AM            

It doesnīt have to do with the guy I like, although yes, heīs a cap.

About his "isses" - even if he does have them he is still a person who deserves love and respect from the right person for him.
Society doesnīt seem to encourage unconditional love nowdays. People say "If heīs doing this, this and that than he is a jerk and you should leave, and so on". Although I understand that attitude I think that there true love is so much deeper than that and so much more complex, and even if a guy IS a jerk, he can still be your soulmate and very valuable in teaching you lessons, and you know what - even jerks have hearts. If we write them of as jerks then how can we expect to get unconditional love from a man in return?

And yes, this attidude most definitely IS a pattern in my life.

Thanks all.

posted May 01, 2013 04:29 AM            

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About his "isses" - even if he does have them he is still a person who deserves love and respect from the right person for him.

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posted May 01, 2013 04:38 AM            

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If heīs doing this, this and that than he is a jerk and you should leave, and so on"

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This is not about him at all.

You leaving him is not punishment for him being a jerk.

You leaving is simply saving yourself a lot of time and energy that will probably go wasted.

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even if a guy IS a jerk, he can still be your soulmate and very valuable in teaching you lessons

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If you want to say that... then a person who steals from you, physically abuses you, betrays you -- can also be your soulmate.
Where do you draw the line?
Should a wife stay with a physically abusive husband - because of all the amazing lessons he is teaching her?

posted May 01, 2013 04:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
This is not about him at all.

You leaving him is not punishment for him being a jerk.

You leaving is simply saving yourself a lot of time and energy that will probably go wasted.

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Well first of, I still strongly feel that all people deserve love and respect, no matter their issues. HOW they are given the love and respect is a different matter. Maybe one shouldnīt have a relationship with them or let them in too close, as they might use that. BUT one can still love them from afair and respect them on a fundamental level.

I also understood that you were saying one should leave for ones own safety and not punishment. In this case I have no relationship to leave, but I do get your point.

However, relationships are complex. Sometimes problems can be worked through, and sticking it out is necessary for any kind of unconditional love. No one is perfect. I have days when I act like a total ***** , or sometimes I have days when I canīt talk to anyone. I have intimacy problems, and Iīm deeply introverted. Alot of people probably think Iīm nuts according to societys idea of what normal women should behave like. But I still feel likeI deserve a loving relationship and a man who will be there for me even in my darkest moments. And for that I must offer the same.

posted May 01, 2013 12:33 PM            

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Originally posted by Little Doe:
I hope everyone understands that this is a completely personal rant. It has no objective validity whatsoever. I have the greatest respect for cap men, itīs just that the ones I know in MY LIFE have been hard for me to get along with.

It doesnīt have to do with the guy I like, although yes, heīs a cap.

About his "isses" - even if he does have them he is still a person who deserves love and respect from the right person for him.
Society doesnīt seem to encourage unconditional love nowdays. People say "If heīs doing this, this and that than he is a jerk and you should leave, and so on". Although I understand that attitude I think that there true love is so much deeper than that and so much more complex, and even if a guy IS a jerk, he can still be your soulmate and very valuable in teaching you lessons, and you know what - even jerks have hearts. If we write them of as jerks then how can we expect to get unconditional love from a man in return?

And yes, this attidude most definitely IS a pattern in my life.

Thanks all.

And I hope the cap man take this with a grain of salt. I was just frustrated with the ones I know, thatīs all. <3

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posted May 02, 2013 01:17 AM            

When I read your opening post, it made me smile,cause I know someone just like you described.I understand your confusion,and your feelings of love for that person you are crushing into.