posted June 28, 2013 10:25 PM            

Scorpio/Libra can be hard to deal with, though. Completely different energies!
But we're lovely people.. for the most part!

posted June 29, 2013 12:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
This is sooooooo very hard for me. I am Venus in Scorpio too and I just want to love/be loved at the most intense level.

*sigh*

You are right. I need to be more self-contained / self-reliant.

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have you ever read that crap about "dont have expectations of others and you wont get hurt" ? well, that is just dumb. what it actually is, is do have expectations of others and yourself. be clear with yourself about your expectations and be even more clear with others . try not to do anything that goes against your expectations.

wishing you well.

posted June 29, 2013 02:41 AM            

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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
This just happened to me tonight.

Moon/Saturn.

Everyone let me down, I organised a "party" and they all left and now I'm alone, feeling lonely and sad.

I need a hug.

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((( squeezie hugs )))

posted June 29, 2013 03:59 PM            

maybe it goes back to the fact that plutonic people would go 150% for someone...
but, we rarely meet folks who would do the same for us, and that,
leads to the disappointment....

posted June 29, 2013 04:02 PM            

I have to remind myself that people cannot always be what I'd like them to be.
I have no control over others.

posted June 30, 2013 06:54 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
I wanted to add that I can get just as disappointed in a friend or colleague, but it happens most often with romantic partners.

I feel like I always have to lower my standards to stay happy. In my current relationship, I am the happiest I have ever been because I feel like he is the closest to an equal I've ever known. And I don't say that meaning I am superior to him or to degrade him because I do love this man and deep down I know how lucky I am.

I say that like he is close to an equal because he offers an equal level of love & dedication MOST of the time. But not always.

And I do wonder sometimes what it would be like if someone were 100% into me like I am 100% into them. It has NEVER happened.

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posted July 01, 2013 07:00 AM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
Where does this come from in a chart?

It's kind of a selfish placement but I don't feel selfish. In fact, it's the opposite. I feel like I am so selfless that I am nearly sacrificial and when others don't live up to my expectations, I get mad.

I've evolved to the point where I don't lash out at them and yell at them, but now my anger & disappointment is more dangerous because I turn it inward on myself. I tell myself, "It's your own fault for believing..." or "It's your own fault for..." whatever.

Here's a specific example I am steaming about.

I do contract work & I have deadlines. I have Friday deadlines with a two projects due today and I knew this yesterday. But I've been doing back to back projects for weeks and I feel like I haven't spent much time with my partner or my kids.

So yesterday, in spite of my deadlines, I took the day off. I spent time with my kids (which is fine, they are kids so I have no expectations with them).

However, I took the night off to be with my partner. He didn't get home from work til 10 & then I pampered him, gave him a massage etc. and basically set the tone for romance. The night did not go as planned and there was no reciprocation. I was so furious, I steamed about it until 4am. I didn't tell him, but I am angry. At first, I was upset with him but I feel like it's not his fault he didn't live up to my expectations because my expectations are too high.

I got up at 8:30 still mad. Now, I have these deadlines to attend to so I am mad at myself.

But it got me thinking about astrology because this is a recurring theme in my life. It happens at least three times a month. What is it and how can I retrain it so I am not CONSTANTLY disappointed?

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posted July 02, 2013 05:48 AM            

H7 ruler is Pisces

H11 ruler is Cancer

posted July 02, 2013 09:06 AM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
Sun is square Neptune
Ascendant trine Neptune
Moon conj. Neptune
Saturn square Neptune

Chiron.... Lemme look it up on astrodienst.

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posted July 02, 2013 03:03 PM            

It's my one year anniversary (when we made it "official") and he volunteered to work today. It's his normal day off. He didn't wish me happy anniversary before leaving either.

I always make him breakfast & tea, but today I made an extra pretty (read: effort) breakfast with fresh fruits, fresh baked muffins, an omelet, etc. and delivered it to bed. I didn't even hear a "thank you".

As I was hugging him goodbye, I said I was sad he was leaving today. He just said, "oh I'll be back tonight" and acted like I was silly.

*sigh* Stupid expectations.

posted July 02, 2013 03:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Geeky:
It just makes me feel so unimportant.

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You should tell him about it, hun.
Maybe he really doesn't know what's going in inside you.
Just say you need to tell him something, then sit down, relax and honestly explain him that you feel neglected by him, and that you'd appreciate it if he paid more attention to you.

There's nothing wrong with that.

You need to state your frustration and hurt feelings before it's too late.
Resentment grows very quickly..
So please, just talk things out with him.