posted July 13, 2013 06:46 AM            

Insecurity issues that he cannot express to you.

That may be what's holding him back.

A lot of his planets fall in your 11th house - he may be comfortable with being your friend, that's what feels most natural to him.

His Mars square your Venus, and his Venus conjunct your Moon & Mercury - I'm pretty sure he has romantic feelings for you.

Not sure what's holding him back except as I said insecurity and maybe a lack of experience.

posted July 13, 2013 07:03 AM            

Or maybe he's scared that he's not a good enough kisser... lol

posted July 13, 2013 07:32 AM            

I remember when I was younger and didn't have experience, I was terrified of guys who showed interest in me and even more terrified of guys in whom I was interested.

So I was always running away from them, even though I wanted to get closer.

Ah, youth.

posted July 13, 2013 07:50 AM            

If that's what you're asking then I'd have to say that everyone can (and usually do) fear something even if it is what they want/need.

I'm with Doux. When I was inexperienced, I was the most terrified by the person I desired. That is where I was hesitant and even downright evasive.

posted July 13, 2013 08:01 AM            

I know he will probably withdraw after that, but what else can you do?

posted July 13, 2013 08:43 AM            

Also, I do flirt with him, just not so much anymore. So I did try to make it pretty obvious to him. That didn't scare him off though. He did say that he doesn't want to commit, but then it completely contradicts with the picture he put up that said: "Philophobia - the fear of falling in love or being in love"... So I think he's making up excuses to not sound vulnerable.

posted July 18, 2013 08:41 AM            

Tuesday night, after he greeted me, he just stared at me for an awkwardly long time. We literally looked at each other, & I immediately got the feeling that he's really into me, or something is wrong (in a good way) like he's completely in love with me. I got that feeling, I mean its human instinct & I picked that up instantly.

posted July 18, 2013 11:06 AM            

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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
Lol, no, I won't chase him. He must make the decision to contact me again. He's been a bit distant for two weeks now, but he has contacted me after about three days? Then he goes quiet again... Then talk to me, &. So it goes on..

Tuesday night, after he greeted me, he just stared at me for an awkwardly long time. We literally looked at each other, & I immediately got the feeling that he's really into me, or something is wrong (in a good way) like he's completely in love with me. I got that feeling, I mean its human instinct & I picked that up instantly.

I asked him why & obviously he makes up this laaaame excuse "no, your friend's boyfriend bumped into me" (which I didn't see, I was too busy looking at him while talking to him). "Usually I would just stare at anyone who I am busy talking to & think about what I'll do the next time someone like him is rude to me or disrespects me"..LOL!*

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Awe you and I are in a similar situation Hun and until this day (a yr and 3months later) I still do not understand him. My guy is a sag sun CAP moon venus in scorpio mars in Pisces guy I'm the sun in cancer moon in virgo mars in cancer venus in Gemini. His asc is in Virgo and mine is Scorpio.
It's one hell of a roller coaster ride I'm the one who is constantly expressing my emotions whereas he is not so open maybe cause we never spoke about feelings face to face....ah yes the stare it always get me idk what it is when we are in each others presence the looks he gives me the stares he gives me it's a silent love. However I feel at times I want to give up because of his flighty and distant ways. Idk I feel your guy is scared to love or like you stated insecure not sure how to deliver his emotions his love too you. It gets me frustrated because why hold out why don't these men just go forth with their feelings already. Us ladies can not stay around forever just take it one day at a time. Don't chase him but he may or may not like it. I've read capricorns like to test the ones they love it's all about a test to see if you are the one who wins there heart in the end. Loyalty

posted July 18, 2013 11:50 AM            

Very unemotional. you never knew when he was gonna blow hot or cold.

Venus in sags are usually commitment phobes.

We would see eacother everyday then he just shut off.

posted July 18, 2013 12:31 PM            

Young men like him can be VERY immature and insecure. He is probably riddled with insecurity and feels safer having things be platonic/borderline romantic than actually expressing how he feels. It's his problem, not yours although I'm sure that it hurts because you care about him a lot. Don't instigate a conversation about relationships or commitment. I agree that will just turn him off. He knows already what he should be doing and for whatever reason isn't doing it.

You can still be his friend. Still be loving and receptive and open to him when he contacts you. But don't wait around for him, go out and meet other men. You'll be happy you did. And perhaps it will instigate him to ask you out once he realizes you're not going to stand around and wait for him to get over his insecurities.

He knows what he should be doing. But again, boys his age are very immature. It may take a few years in order for him to catch up with you in the maturity department and get over his fear of falling in love and being close to someone. Now might not be the time.

Good luck my dear, you are handling this very well, just keep doing what you're doing. Start being open to the possibility that maybe there is another man out there who is perhaps a better fit for you right now - someone who would never hesitate at the opportunity to ask you out.

posted July 18, 2013 02:23 PM            

I don't drink, I don't smoke... So you get the picture*

& yes, he could have the opportunity to ask me out, but he isn't. I'm very aware of that. I know that there are plenty of guys out there & that you have to go through a few wrong ones in order to get the right one.

I socialise a lot on Facebook with my friends to keep in touch, but I'm scared that when I try to do all those things, for instance, liking pictures of guys I'm interested in or guy friends or writing on their walls, would drive this guy away when he has to see it.

I don't want him to think that I'm a little jezebel, even when I am single. I don't want him to distance himself from me any further or do anything to ruin the relationship we've built up these past couple of months.

I talk to my granny a lot. She's a very wise old lady & she told me to wait, but the thing is, do I wait, I will only get disappointed again, because it seems like a Murphy's Law type of thing that happens to me everytime I put my heart on something. Like... I don't know what to tell him... What to do, because I'm in a position where I'm thinking that any move might push him away.

But maybe when he sees me dating other men or at least going out with them, he'll decide whether to take me out or not, because he will stand a chance to lose me. I don't know.

posted July 19, 2013 12:10 AM            

He's not emotionless, due to his Aqua/Sag influences. He's veeeery vocal & lively in person. It's just over text that he's not very emotional & that doesn't count in my books. What counts is how he is in person. He's actually quite romantic. I know he is & he has shown me that side before.

Yet again, I'm the not so vocal one in person, because I'm very shy, but over text I'm brave enough to be vocal about my feelings. Lol*

posted July 19, 2013 01:42 AM            

I need someone who's very good at reading birth charts, so that they can maybe help explain why he is the way he is, because that's all information that could help.

He's not a texter, as in, his texts will be cold & short, but he will text me. I mean, he has been for well over two months everyday, it's just now that he's pulling away.

posted July 19, 2013 02:07 AM            

One thing I don't understand about this combination is what they expect out of a partner. My friend likes another guy who's a Capricorn Sun, Taurus Moon and Venus in Aquarius, and he ignores her up close, but pays attention to her from afar. My other Aqua sun, Venus in Capricorn interest did the same thing and was cripplingly shy with me. So much that I thought he hated me! Now THIS Capricorn Sun (with the Sag Moon) has told me in one long conversation over text that he really likes me, loves talking to me, and he's always complimented me and talked to me since the first day I met him. He's been very direct about his interest, but when I try to pursue it (like inviting him out to the lake to hang out) it stalls. Or he doesn't respond to my texts (the past three times since he told me he liked me. So I'm not doing that anymore.)

Like, what is WITH these guys and their hot and cold approach? How the heck are we ever supposed to take them seriously? I do agree that you will know a Capricorn is interested right away, but then there's these finnicky bunch .....

posted July 19, 2013 07:37 AM            

Has the guy you're involved with currently ever been involved with other girls before? If so, then I'm placed (just my luck) in a much more difficult position.

I really don't hope it's because of my looks as well that makes him feel insecure (this was told to me by various people's opinions) & some men feel threatened when in relationships with beautiful women?

I don't know if that's true, but what does it matter if I can prove to him that he's the only guy I like... Because I'd even be willing to do that if this is the situation, which I hopefully doubt.

I have asked him if he's kissed a girl before & he laughed & said yes, he's heard that he's a good kisser. I haven't asked him more than that, because it would just be inappropriate to talk about personal things like that.

Some people say that some Cappy people get hurt early on in their childhood & this is one of the reasons why they are so withdrawn. Now, I know he's told me that he didn't have an easy life growing up, I want to ask him openly if he has been hurt in the past, not necessarily by women, but people close to him, that might have contributed to him being able to trust.

posted July 19, 2013 11:53 AM            

My guy, oh yes... he's been with girls. Not a lot, but enough. I'm not really "involved" with him, but I guess you could say we are friends. I don't push him to make me anything. He randomly came out and told me how much he liked me. And then went cold. So what I am thinking is these are the types of guys who (in the beginning) don't feel the need to lavish someone with attention (like, say, a Leo would). They say what they need or want to say and then go off to do their own thing. They're not the type to be thinking about you every second, but I could see these placements being loyal despite other opinions.