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Topic: How long does it usually take for a Capricorn man to open up/ask you out?
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*Golden_Wing*
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From: South Africa
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted July 09, 2013 05:36 PM
  
I've been friends with a Capricorn guy for about six months now, & I know for a fact that he likes me, he talks to me every day over text, & I would see him during the week at gym (that's how we met).The thing is, he's had this profile picture up of "philophobia - the fear of falling in love or being in love", obviously because he's scared that he's going to get hurt. He's a Cappy to a tee basically. We talk over the phone all day, but by way of text, I can tell that he's a bit detached, also, he doesn't ask me out. He's never been in a relationship before & yes, he is the shy type, but surely he must be used to me by now? Or he's just reeeeeally scared. All the signs ARE there, I'm not just seeing what I want to, I'm definitely not that dull & even other people can see that he likes me a lot! I've read that some Cappy men take up to a year to open up & ask you out. Is that true? Any advice & insight about this, will be greatly appreciated.  IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted July 09, 2013 05:38 PM
They can take more than a year. It depends on the synastry and how much they instinctively trust you.
Do you have Scorpio in your chart? IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted July 09, 2013 05:40 PM
If you have a lot of personal signs like Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer -- they'll be less inclined to trust you right away. IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
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From: South Africa
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posted July 09, 2013 05:41 PM
Hahah, yes, I do. I've got Sun, Mars & Pluto in Scorpio ... Any suggestions what I should do in order for him to trust me more perhaps?
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I'm so cappy
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From: Saturn
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 09, 2013 05:46 PM
My condolences.------------------
I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
birdy
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posted July 09, 2013 05:47 PM
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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
I've read that some Cappy men take up to a year to open up & ask you out. Is that true?Any advice & insight about this, will be greatly appreciated.
In my experience, guys with strong Capricorn planets, is they asked fairly quickly.
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ail221
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From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 09, 2013 05:53 PM
Quickly actually I had a Capricorn ask me out the first day we spoke.IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted July 09, 2013 06:00 PM
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Originally posted by ail221:
Quickly actually I had a Capricorn ask me out the first day we spoke.
Yeah my first boyfriend ever was a Cap. My first day at school there was a buzz about how some guy really liked me, and he basically charged right in. Decisive. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted July 09, 2013 06:01 PM
Surely there's more than one type of Capricorn, so what about anyone's experiences with those types instead of the opposite of what the OP is asking?My advice would not to overanalyze anything he says. Simply give what you get, Capricorns learn quicker that way, imo/e. Live your life, go on dates and don't wait for him. Don't parade your social life, but if he asks - be honest. IP: Logged |
ail221
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From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
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posted July 09, 2013 06:03 PM
quote:
Originally posted by Faith:
Yeah my first boyfriend ever was a Cap. My first day at school there was a buzz about how some guy really liked me, and he basically charged right in. Decisive.
SAME HERE! There are really decisive about whether they like you or not even before you get to know them. Scenario:
Me: Hi I'm....
Capricorn: Do you want to go out? I've already made XYZ plans for us?
Me: O___o IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted July 09, 2013 06:03 PM
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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
Hahah, yes, I do. I've got Sun, Mars & Pluto in Scorpio ... Any suggestions what I should do in order for him to trust me more perhaps?
Why not ask him out and see how he handles it? If he likes you enough to talk to you that much, I doubt he'll be scared off by one blunt question. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted July 09, 2013 06:04 PM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
My condolences.
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Faith
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posted July 09, 2013 06:10 PM
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Originally posted by ail221:
SAME HERE! There are really decisive about whether they like you or not even before you get to know them.Scenario:
Me: Hi I'm....
Capricorn: Do you want to go out? I've already made XYZ plans for us?
Me: O___o
LOL...cute. My ex was, I am proud to say, very popular, and the whole cafeteria seemed to be on fire with this gossip, that he liked me. Maybe because I'm plain looking and people marvelled at his choice. I thought he was weird and out of his mind (who'd pick me?) and kept giving him the cold shoulder. He started writing me notes and I'll be damned if he wasn't the funniest, most charming guy ever. It took me 9 months to accept an offer for a date. We broke up about 6 months later. When I met him again at a party in my college years, he ignored me completely. Acted like I didn't exist. This is a guy I had planned to MARRY. So I went up to him and said, "Excuse me, are you just NOT going to talk to me or something??" He stared me down and said: "DO NOT start talking to me...unless you promise that you will NEVER STOP talking to me." I just loved that...long story about how it unfolded after that but my point is, he was very decisive. IP: Logged |
ail221
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From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
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posted July 09, 2013 06:17 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
LOL...cute.My ex was, I am proud to say, very popular, and the whole cafeteria seemed to be on fire with this gossip, that he liked me. Maybe because I'm plain looking and people marvelled at his choice. I thought he was weird and out of his mind (who'd pick me?) and kept giving him the cold shoulder. He started writing me notes and I'll be damned if he wasn't the funniest, most charming guy ever. It took me 9 months to accept an offer for a date. We broke up about 6 months later. When I met him again at a party in my college years, he ignored me completely. Acted like I didn't exist. This is a guy I had planned to MARRY. So I went up to him and said, "Excuse me, are you just NOT going to talk to me or something??" He stared me down and said: "DO NOT start talking to me...unless you promise that you will NEVER STOP talking to me." I just loved that...long story about how it unfolded after that but my point is, he was very decisive.
A long but cute story, fairly decisive. IP: Logged |
IntenseCappy
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posted July 09, 2013 08:14 PM
I'm a Cappy lady and I can hold out with the person I like for awhile. I am also shy though, due to my Cancer Ascendant. Sometimes the feelings build up too, because if I fall in love I cannot get them out of my head! Or well I mean infatuation...
But that's great that he keeps talking to you. One of my good friends has a Capricorn Sun and Stellium and she was friends with a guy for a year before they became official. Then again, they were kinda already a couple as close as they were. IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
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From: South Africa
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 01:11 AM
Lol, wow okay!! Thank you for all the replies guys, I really appreciate it! It kind of makes sense why he isn't as decisive, because he doesn't have a lot of placements in Capricorn. His sun's in Capricorn, moon in Aquarius, (not sure what his rising sign is, because I don't know his exact birth time). Now, my moon's in Sagittarius, my rising sign is Aquarius, & I'm a pretty decisive person myself, so it's not to say that if I have a lot of "free spirited" placements, that I don't know what I want. The thing is, do I go out & date other guys or see other guys, I'm scared he'll break contact with me & not look back?? That's I guess the only reason why I'm holding on. Could it be that he's never been in a relationship, that he's keeping everything inside & doesn't know how to control his emotions or how to react? I really don't know*  IP: Logged |
11nahyt
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From: the future
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 01:53 AM
Cap men are usually quick to ask you out... It's when it comes time to decide if they want something serious with you, that they take forever.. About 5 minutes less than Taurus takes lol.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 02:02 AM
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Originally posted by 11nahyt:
Cap men are usually quick to ask you out... It's when it comes time to decide if they want something serious with you, that they take forever.. About 5 minutes less than Taurus takes lol.
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LionFish
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posted July 10, 2013 02:54 AM
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Originally posted by 11nahyt:
Cap men are usually quick to ask you out... It's when it comes time to decide if they want something serious with you, that they take forever.. About 5 minutes less than Taurus takes lol.
To ask you out or to proposition you lmao.. I'm not sure about Cap Sun, but a friend of mine is a Cap Moon and he seems kind of shy when it comes to relationships, but that sure didn't stop him from letting me know he was interested the first night he met me  If you want this guy and it's obvious he likes you, maybe you need to drop some not so subtle hints.. or just ask him out yourself if that's a socially acceptable thing to do.. IP: Logged |
ail221
Moderator Posts: 3586
From: Hanging Gardens of Babylon
Registered: Feb 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 09:13 AM
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Originally posted by *Golden_Wing*:
Lol, wow okay!! Thank you for all the replies guys, I really appreciate it! It kind of makes sense why he isn't as decisive, because he doesn't have a lot of placements in Capricorn. His sun's in Capricorn, moon in Aquarius, (not sure what his rising sign is, because I don't know his exact birth time). Now, my moon's in Sagittarius, my rising sign is Aquarius, & I'm a pretty decisive person myself, so it's not to say that if I have a lot of "free spirited" placements, that I don't know what I want. The thing is, do I go out & date other guys or see other guys, I'm scared he'll break contact with me & not look back?? That's I guess the only reason why I'm holding on. Could it be that he's never been in a relationship, that he's keeping everything inside & doesn't know how to control his emotions or how to react? I really don't know*
OK Instead of generalizing Cappy men,I point out some synastry aspects I had with this person in particular which was the reason he was so "decisive"
Planetary Placements that stand out:
1. Sun/Sun opposition
2. Moon conjunct Mars
3. Venus sq Mars 1 orb
4. Sun conjunct Uranus
5. Venus conjunct MC/NN exact
6. Mars sextile Jupiter exact
7. Venus opposite Uranus
8. Venus opposite Sun Asteroids and Hypothetical objects
1. Eros opposite Sun/Jupiter exact
2. Juno conjunct Pluto exact
3. Black Moon Lilith opposite mars
4. Black Moon lilith conjunct Juno/Valentine
5. Juno/Valentine opposite Moon
6. Valentine conjunct Valentine exact His Mars Falls in my 7th, and he is a unaspected Sagittarius mars which speeds up the process despite his Taurus Moon.
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Azurenite
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posted July 10, 2013 10:09 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
They can take more than a year. It depends on the synastry and how much they instinctively trust you.
Do you have Scorpio in your chart?
Why do you want to know about Scorpio? I like a Venus in Capricorn guy. He's very frustrating. It's been 7 months and we've only gone out 3 or 4 times and there is no physical contact other than hugs. All I want to do is HAVE this person. I have sun, venus, jupiter and a few asteroids in Scorpio. IP: Logged |
beckylee
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From: japan
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 10:50 AM
Sun, mars, pluto in scorpio ?Well I had a Capricorn bf, it took him 2 months to open up, but he didn't really open up although he gave me compliments. He made it happen through friends Later we broke up, he wanted us back together. Again, he let me know through friends. I think it's because Capricorns and Scorpios both want to have control, they are afraid of rejection. And they enjoy flirting a lot. Capricorns can be a little shy with Scorpios. Why don't you invite him to something ? IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
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From: South Africa
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 12:04 PM
I have asked him out, but he just isn't reacting to my requests. I read that Capricorn men like to chase & they should be the ones to ask you out first, as pursuing them by asking them out, puts them off. So after, I haven't really asked him again. Maybe he is serious about his decision & wants something serious, which is why it's taking him longer than what a guy would ask a girl just for the sake of having something not so serious or not seeing her as his potential "life partner". I have extremely high standards, I have also not been in a serious relationship myself & when I do choose someone, it must be a life partner, because honestly, the whole dating thing isn't for me. I'm definitely not fling material, I'm long-term material, & all the men in my life know that. I just don't want to feel like I'm being kept on a line (I don't mind waiting if he can just give me at least ONE subtle sign that will motivate me to keep waiting for him), but I'm also scared of losing someone who is totally different to any other guy I've ever met, by dating other guys. I'm scared he'll think differently of me & decide that I'm not the girl for him, only because I couldn't wait for him. My gran told me that if a guy takes this long to react, that when he first decides to commit, he will do so 100%... & that is what I want. It's just quite hard, especially if you don't know what's going to happen, even if he does show his interest by contacting me everyday, he's NOT the flirting type, I guess that's what makes me feel so unsure. IP: Logged |
LovelyKitty
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From: 12th House with pr.moon
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 12:08 PM
I dated a capricorn sun before. He is taurys moon, cappy mars, aqua venus.
We were introduced by my closed friend. As a first met , he was very approachable . Then after that night , he moved to another town . Since then , we texted ,called and everytime he came to my city , he called me he want to meet. It was around 3 months together and we decided not to continue relationship because a distance. From this , I could tell , he is interested to go further if we were in the same town. I'm lack of earth (although I'm a late virgo AC , I don't feel it at all) , so..the way he show me that he's interested is quite "earthly interacting" that I'm not get used to it but you can tell without a try if he interested . Atleast capricorn people are almost strainght-forward. IP: Logged |
*Golden_Wing*
Knowflake Posts: 86
From: South Africa
Registered: Aug 2012
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posted July 11, 2013 04:45 AM
This Capricorn definitely isn't straight forward, because I think he might be scared of rejection, I really don't have a clue.IP: Logged |
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