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Topic: Skipped Step and does it ever get resolved?
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rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 09, 2013 05:51 PM
I have been reading about karmic debts in relationships and what happens if you are someone's skipped step. It is hard on the person willing to work at the problem than the person who is afraid to explore the pain and get past it by working with their skipped step person. Do people ever resolve the issue? Or does it go on from one lifetime to another, with each partner avoiding it and trying to let it peter out? How do you resolve it best, especially when you have an unwilling partner? Thanks for the help.IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 4433 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 09, 2013 07:21 PM
What exactly is a skppied step, to you? Is it a square to your Nodes from someone's planet?I don't believe in past lives, so this may be different from what others think, but I don't think there are rules when it comes to stuff like that. Anything can happen - you can work it out, or not. Obviously it doesn't solely depend on you, that's why I think it's best to leave if you see that things aren't getting better. Otherwise it's like wasting time & energy on a lost cause, so to speak. IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 43591 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 09, 2013 07:25 PM
Hi Rajin Sweetie Just wanted to say hello.
------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 09, 2013 09:12 PM
Hi Doux, Can post charts if you are interested. Ami Anne, Missed you . How are you doing, ,hon?IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 43591 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 09, 2013 10:13 PM
I am doing well, Rajin. What happened with that guy?------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 09, 2013 10:38 PM
Hi Ami, Nothing happened. He came back 3 times, each time saying he was sorry and was interested in a relationship, then developed cold feet and left. So am trying to still figure out what makes him tick. I have no clue how things will work out and if I will find any happiness in a relationship. Sometimes I get very depressed, hon, trying to figure out why I live this life.IP: Logged |
mir Knowflake Posts: 1127 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 06:25 AM
Sorry to interrupt like this Rajin, but I hope you didn't have sex those 3 times he visited you?Guys can do or say *anything* to make you feel the queen for just one moment, only to fire off their seed. IP: Logged |
rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 07:53 AM
Hi Mir, It was not 3 visits, he broke up and returned back thrice. He gives out mixed signals, says I am interested in you, then when things get serious develops cold feet and runs. I can't decipher what is going on with him.IP: Logged |
Jessica2407 Knowflake Posts: 2764 From: Saturn Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 07:55 AM
You've let him do that to you THREE TIMES??IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 43591 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 10, 2013 08:03 AM
quote: Originally posted by Jessica2407: You've let him do that to you THREE TIMES??
We all do, Friend. I have not met a woman yet who has not made relationship mistakes. I sure have.
------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 43591 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 10, 2013 08:05 AM
I did not have as much experience when I looked at your synastry before, Rajin. Did you and he have a strong Chiron aspect in synastry. This seems to make these on and off again relationships.------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 08:28 AM
I know Jessica. I have been pretty good about not letting any guy take advantage of me emotionally, but with him, God knows why, I keep giving him a 2nd and 3rd chance. We have a lot of Pluto connections. Ami hon, I can post the synastry chart, I think it is the Pluto connections that mess it up. " TARGET=_blank>http://s268.photobucket.com/user/richcal03/media/synastrymay13_zps8f1b9abb.png.html] IP: Logged |
Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 43591 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 10, 2013 08:33 AM
I will look later Sweetie. I got very busy but I will be back to look!------------------ Passion, Lust, Desire. Check out my journal http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 08:34 AM
Take your time Ami. Just posted it for any info I can get to resolve the issue or at least learn how to get out of this never ending cycle. No hurry, Thanks Hon.IP: Logged |
rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 08:36 AM
oh, one other thing, when I post the synastry chart from photobucket it shows the URL thread on the posting, how do I get rid of that information from the website?IP: Logged |
its_aqua Knowflake Posts: 483 From: Mars Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 10, 2013 08:51 AM
quote: Originally posted by rajin: oh, one other thing, when I post the synastry chart from photobucket it shows the URL thread on the posting, how do I get rid of that information from the website?
Hey! On photobucket on the right of the picture there are multiple codes that you can have immediately copied on your keyboard, you should always choose the IMAGE one, it starts like [IMG], there is an option right there of having it automatically copied on your keyboard, so when you post here you just have to "paste" the whole thing in the post without doing anything else. I hope you understood what I mean. About they guy, I dont have advance astrological knowledgr but I've experienced this when Nodes are in the mix, specifically when there is Sun conjuncts the S.Node, could that be a possibility ?! IP: Logged |
rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 10:00 AM
Hi Aqua, Thanks. I will try to work it as per your help. I did not encounter this issue earlier but with the new version of Photobucket, I seem to have the thread link present. I think the nodes do have a significant role to play. We have so many planets in each other's 7th and 5th houses plus the composite has a stellium in the 7th house. We have a lot of hard aspects too and I have been trying to understand why he is so scared of letting his guard down and letting someone get close to him. Thanks for you help.IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 4433 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 10, 2013 10:22 AM
Hi rajin,About the synastry, I notice Saturn square Nodes - difficult, but very binding. You should read about it. Your Moon falls in his 8th - you evoke strong feelings in him that may remind him of past traumas, and thus making him unwilling or scared to deal with them. If you want to know why he's so hot & cold, you should probably take a look at his natal chart and see if his Venus or Moon are afflicted.
On another note, I don't think it's worth the trouble.
Sorry to be blunt but you only live once (as far as I know) and wasting time on someone who's not willing to give you the love, care, and support that you need, is a bad idea. Think about it. IP: Logged |
rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 10:36 AM
Hi Doux, I will post his natal chart too. You are very right and I know that I should let go.But it seems to be easier said than done for me. Somehow he seems to find a way back to me even if I don't reach out to him. It seems like a lame excuse and I am willing to let go but I just don't know how to un-love a person. Pl. help.IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 4433 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 10, 2013 10:49 AM
The first thing to do is to tell him about it. Tell him why you want to do it (if he's willing to listen, sometimes this step has to be skipped).Then you cut all contact with that person. No contact, at all. At first it will hurt like hell, if you're really in love it'll feel like a big part of you is dying. But don't worry, it's part of the process. You should pray and ask some Angels (or whoever you believe in) to cut the chords that bind you to him, so that you can let go. You can also talk to him mentally - say things like "Even though I don't know why you were acting that way with me, I forgive you and wish you the best in life, and I am ready to let you go for good". Whatever feels right to you. It's important not to keep any negative feelings when you decide to let someone go. So try your best to forgive him, and yourself. Then consciously choose to let it go and move on. It'll take time but you'll know it's the best thing to go. I wish you lots of luck ~
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rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 10:59 AM
Thanks Doux. appreciate your help and concern. I have been going through a rough patch for the past ten years, with my job, my dad's health and with my love life. It seems I can't catch a break on any front in life. Usually it is easier to bear a setback when other aspects of life are working, for me it seems like life is piling on all the troubles at the same time. Does anything in my chart indicate that I will have a tough life? I am the sun in Scorpio. Thanks again.IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 4433 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 10, 2013 11:09 AM
You're welcome, rajin.Oh dear, your chart is being bombarded with difficult transits, and it looks like it's gonna last for a while. You know what you should do, go to astro.com, select "Short Horoscopes" and "Short Report Forecast" - it will show you your most important transits (you can use another site for that as well, I guess, anything that will show you your current transits is fine). I bet you'll see some difficult ones, but keep in mind that by being aware, you can lessen the effects, and adapt yourself more to the changes in your life. Also, remember that you're only given events that you can handle. You can get through this, just believe in your abililty to survive! IP: Logged |
Textbook Knowflake Posts: 68 From: Scotland Registered: Jun 2013
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posted July 10, 2013 11:18 AM
quote: Originally posted by Doux Rêve: The first thing to do is to tell him about it. Tell him why you want to do it (if he's willing to listen, sometimes this step has to be skipped).Then you cut all contact with that person. No contact, at all. At first it will hurt like hell, if you're really in love it'll feel like a big part of you is dying. But don't worry, it's part of the process. You should pray and ask some Angels (or whoever you believe in) to cut the chords that bind you to him, so that you can let go. You can also talk to him mentally - say things like "Even though I don't know why you were acting that way with me, I forgive you and wish you the best in life, and I am ready to let you go for good". Whatever feels right to you. It's important not to keep any negative feelings when you decide to let someone go. So try your best to forgive him, and yourself. Then consciously choose to let it go and move on. It'll take time but you'll know it's the best thing to go. I wish you lots of luck ~
Aw, honey. (in a Southern Drawl) That don't workkkk. Ask me how I know.
(in Freddy Krueger's voice) First, they tried burying me! (hacks off one of my fingers; green juice squirts from the stump) Then, he tried prayer! (hacks off another one) Then I'm pretty sure he tried "magick", and probably this "cord cutting" thing you just mentioned as a last resort. (hacks off two more fingers)
Ask me where he is right now. smirks; then runs
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Doux Rêve Moderator Posts: 4433 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted July 10, 2013 12:20 PM
Don't poke holes in my glorious advice, Textbook! IP: Logged |
rajin Knowflake Posts: 646 From: Registered: Jul 2009
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posted July 10, 2013 12:21 PM
Textbook, So far for me, that don't workkkkk is right. Can't seem tohate him, no matter how hard I try. The brain understands that it may be a lost cause, but the heart wants what it wants. Sigh....IP: Logged |