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Topic: A Scorpio female "friendzoned" by a Taurus Man.
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Yanmorg
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posted July 29, 2013 02:57 PM
  
Me:
Ascendant: Taurus
Sun: Scorpio
Moon: Libra
Mercury: Scorpio
Venus: Scorpio
Mars: Sagittarius
Jupiter: Scorpio
Saturn: Aquarius
Uranus: Capricorn
Neptune: Capricorn
Pluto: Scorpio
Him: (unknown birth time)
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Taurus
Mercury: Aries
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Cancer
Jupiter: Leo
Saturn: Aauarius
Uranus: Capricorn
Netune: Capricorn
Pluto: Scorpio
I got involved with my Taurus guy a little over a year ago when he started working at my job. The attraction was immediate and intense and after our manager set us up, we've been connected ever since. After about 8 months of intense dating, I ended things due to an impulsive reaction to an argument we had. After about two months, I broke down and called him. He wanted to be friends at first, but after discussing our relationship, he agreed to give us another try. A couple of weeks after that, he ended things. At this point, I was extremely hurt and we lost contact after that for about two months until I decided to send him a Facebook message. After that, he texted immediately and wanted us to meet up. When we did, the chemistry and connection was still strong and it started out with light conversation and flirtations and we even discussed us and why we broke up, etc. He couldn't believe I contacted him because he thought I was done with him after he ended things. When I asked where we were, he just said he doesn't want to focus on a relationship right now, but we could be friends. My question is, is he done with me or is he seeing if we can slowly make our way back to where we were before as far as a relationship goes? I am confused but my intuition is telling me he's testing me to see if I will stick around. What do you guys believe? I know there are other things to consider like aspects, houses, degrees, etc but just based off this general information.. I also have a Scorpio Stellium in my 6th house and my Chiron is in Virgo. I don't know how relevant that extra information is, but I just thought I'd add that. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted July 29, 2013 03:21 PM
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Yanmorg
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posted July 29, 2013 05:02 PM
Any takers? Nobody? okay.IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted July 29, 2013 06:59 PM
Mars in Cancer is a real pain to deal with. Seems like he's just score settling. Advice: cherish the memories/friendship & let the rest go.IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted July 29, 2013 07:09 PM
After my unfortunate experience with a Moon in Taurus man, I have one thing to say: a moon in Taurus man (especially a double Taurus) has a hard time letting go of a relationship, but when they end a relationship, that is it. They rarely change their mind once it is made up.The fact that he ended the relationship shows that he's done and no longer wants a romantic relationship with you. If he's the involved type, he may just use you for sex, but you won't be his girlfriend. If he's a decent guy, he'll make it clear that he wants only friendship. Accept the fact that this relationship has run its course. I know this is hard to hear, but it's best to move on. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted July 29, 2013 07:13 PM
What was your man's Sun sign? IP: Logged |
Sven555
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posted July 30, 2013 04:56 AM
Just forget about him; his planets suggest he is a waste of your time.Move on from this guy. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted July 30, 2013 04:58 AM
^ Agreed.He should be the one to be running after you, not the other way around. If he cares, he'll come back.
If not, his loss. Good luck. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted July 30, 2013 07:43 AM
I remember replying to your older thread and I think you said he was 22 or 23, so he's young. I guess you're both young.
You can always keep in touch and stay friends and see if it goes anywhere in the future.
But don't pursue anything romantic for now. You mentioned in the other thread that he said you are the only woman he thinks he could settle down with.
This could be a very SLOW relationships..If it does go anywhere - it might happen later on.. if you start dating again in your 30s perhaps. I think you should throw in the towel romantically for now.
But don't completely cut him out. He has a very difficult chart for a man - a very feminine chart... and many women might be put off by how passive he can be. Often in his relationships there can be a role reversal with him playing a more traditionally 'feminine' role.
He is definitely not someone who chases... He is very slow and steady in his behaviour (in everything he does).
I would say that your type of chart - with the Scorpio stellium and Taurus AC - makes you one of the few women out there who could love him *as* he is.. and who he could trust and feel 'at home' with. Having both Venus and Mars in Cancer he can be extra emotional, again - in a way that is not considered "masculine"... so he could try to hide that and act 'tough' - but with you he would be honest.. because he can sense that you *get* him. The thing is... looking at your placements I could think of men who would be more compatible with you - so I can see where Sven is coming from..
But looking at his own placements, on the other hand, I feel like it's unlikely for him to find many women who would be *as* compatible with him, as you are.. if that makes sense. So because I do think you have a connection, I wouldn't advise you to completely drop it, but don't pursue either.. just let it *go* for now.. and simply 'keep in touch'.
Don't obsess over this every day though.. You have to move on with your life and do your own thing.
Maybe it will go somewhere in the future.. Maybe it won't. You're leaving the door open - That's all. Not putting your life *on hold*. IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon
Knowflake Posts: 864
From: Nyc
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted July 30, 2013 08:55 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Astra:
After my unfortunate experience with a Moon in Taurus man, I have one thing to say: a moon in Taurus man (especially a double Taurus) has a hard time letting go of a relationship, but when they end a relationship, that is it. They rarely change their mind once it is made up.The fact that he ended the relationship shows that he's done and no longer wants a romantic relationship with you. If he's the involved type, he may just use you for sex, but you won't be his girlfriend. If he's a decent guy, he'll make it clear that he wants only friendship. Accept the fact that this relationship has run its course. I know this is hard to hear, but it's best to move on.
I agree. A Taurus moon will hold on for dear life and try to work things out for a while but if he ended things its done.
Just keep being friends. No sex.
U never know what can happen in the future.
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Gemini sun 12th.(Gemini/cancer cusp)
Cancer asc 1st
Taurus moon 11th
Taurus venus 11th
Libra mars 3rd
Gemini mercury 11th IP: Logged |
EmpressMendez
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posted July 30, 2013 09:00 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
I remember replying to your older thread and I think you said he was 22 or 23, so he's young. I guess you're both young.
You can always keep in touch and stay friends and see if it goes anywhere in the future.
But don't pursue anything romantic for now. You mentioned in the other thread that he said you are the only woman he thinks he could settle down with.
This could be a very SLOW relationships..If it does go anywhere - it might happen later on.. if you start dating again in your 30s perhaps. I think you should throw in the towel romantically for now.
But don't completely cut him out. He has a very difficult chart for a man - a very feminine chart... and many women might be put off by how passive he can be. Often in his relationships there can be a role reversal with him playing a more traditionally 'feminine' role.
He is definitely not someone who chases... He is very slow and steady in his behaviour (in everything he does).
I would say that your type of chart - with the Scorpio stellium and Taurus AC - makes you one of the few women out there who could love him *as* he is.. and who he could trust and feel 'at home' with. Having both Venus and Mars in Cancer he can be extra emotional, again - in a way that is not considered "masculine"... so he could try to hide that and act 'tough' - but with you he would be honest.. because he can sense that you *get* him. The thing is... looking at your placements I could think of men who would be more compatible with you - so I can see where Sven is coming from..
But looking at his own placements, on the other hand, I feel like it's unlikely for him to find many women who would be *as* compatible with him, as you are.. if that makes sense. So because I do think you have a connection, I wouldn't advise you to completely drop it, but don't pursue either.. just let it *go* for now.. and simply 'keep in touch'.
Don't obsess over this every day though.. You have to move on with your life and do your own thing.
Maybe it will go somewhere in the future.. Maybe it won't. You're leaving the door open - That's all. Not putting your life *on hold*.
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mcmlxix
Knowflake Posts: 140
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Registered: Aug 2010
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posted July 30, 2013 09:46 AM
To the OP...off topic...How does your Sag Mars interact with your Scorpio Venus? The former recoils at "forever" and the latter requires it. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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Registered: Sep 2012
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posted July 30, 2013 10:11 AM
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Originally posted by Sven555:
his planets suggest he is a waste of your time.
I thought only Vedic astrology comes up with this kind of interpretation. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted July 30, 2013 10:24 AM
My mars in Sagittarius is the cause of my instability somewhat, in my relationships. I say somewhat because my Scorpio Venus really doesn't consider it a "break up" because I'm still emotionally attached. My Sagittarius mars makes me reactive impulsively when I'm hurt, happy, angry, etc. I basically make temporary decisions off of temporary emotions which I always find to be negative habit when it comes to my relationships because a lot of people sees this constant impulsive nature as either crazy or not dependable or both which is not me at all. After my impulsive reaction to something, I tend to go and think things over and try to return to my partner. It's not that I am unsure of my feelings or I'm fickle, it's just that my emotions run deep and that Sagittarius mars makes me react right away instead of thinking things over and allowing the storm to pass.IP: Logged |
Sven555
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Registered: Jul 2012
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posted July 30, 2013 10:28 AM
Just take a look at his planets. Venus and Mars in Cancer.Cancer isn't exactly one of the boldest signs of the zodiac, and hates confrontation, so he is likely to wait for her to make a move. His focus sounds like he just doesn't really care too much about relationships, as to what Yanmorg is saying, "he doesn't want to focus on a relationship right now, but we could be friends." Maybe he doesn't have time for a relationship? Does his Venus and Mars conjunct and then square Mercury, or Oppose Uranus and Neptune? Sorry, I just don't understand the point of "waiting" for him. I think you are what you make of yourself; just go out there and live life. Don't bother waiting around for him to make decisions, like coming back to you; just be the one to take the lead and tell him how you feel. If he can't handle it, then you know he's not worth your time anymore. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted July 30, 2013 10:37 AM
From what I remember, his Venus opposes his Neptune, you are absolutely right... all of you. I just hate giving up on someone I invested in emotionally. It's like he keeps pushing me away and I keep trying to make him see that he is loved and that I won't hurt him, but sometimes they just won't get it. I'm throwing in the towel for good. I was never good at "keeping in touch" or "hanging" around with someone I want to give my all to. It's all or nothing with me. I would rather cut ties and try to move on. I refuse to and I simply cannot deal with being around him and not "having" him. It will drive me insane. I appreciate the advice guys and I apologize for the redundant posts. As you can see, I was very confused. IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted July 30, 2013 10:39 AM
I find that I am attracted to guys who are hard to get, but not in the traditional sense. I'm attracted to the ones that have walls up and hard to reach emotionally even though I can see straight through those walls. I've only had two lasting and long-term relationships and I guess those were just karmic relationships if nothing else. IP: Logged |
Sven555
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posted July 30, 2013 10:40 AM
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
From what I remember, his Venus opposes his Neptune, you are absolutely right... all of you. I just hate giving up on someone I invested in emotionally. It's like he keeps pushing me away and I keep trying to make him see that he is loved and that I won't hurt him, but sometimes they just won't get it. I'm throwing in the towel for good. I was never good at "keeping in touch" or "hanging" around with someone I want to give my all to. It's all or nothing with me. I would rather cut ties and try to move on. I refuse to and I simply cannot deal with being around him and not "having" him. It will drive me insane. I appreciate the advice guys and I apologize for the redundant posts. As you can see, I was very confused.
Well done Yanmorg, you're moving in the right direction! Being confused is good, at least you've got some answers  IP: Logged |
mcmlxix
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posted July 30, 2013 10:42 AM
Have you found a sagittarius man with venus in scorpio? Now that could be promising.IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted July 30, 2013 10:47 AM
Oh and correction, he has his Venus opposite Uranus and his mars opposite Neptune, but I always find myself hesitant when it comes to fire and air signs regardless of the rest of their chart because I still sense that they would run from my intensity. I think mars in Cancer is the only position in a Man's chart that actually gets me. My only two long term relationships were with men who had mars in Cancer. Maybe it's a coincidence but I don't think so. Other signs just can't get as deep as I would like to. I find myself drawn to a lot of Scorpio moons too but they're too intense ironically. I really have no clue on who I would be compatible with astrologically speaking because my chart is contradicting all around. My Moon in Libra wants to be light and flighty but with all that Scorpio, I need that intensity too. My Taurus Ascendant craves stability, but my mars in Sagittarius yearns for excitement. IP: Logged |
page one
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posted July 30, 2013 11:18 AM
Is this really an astrology question? I don't think it matters here, really. You know the answer already. Move on.IP: Logged |
Yanmorg
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posted July 30, 2013 11:21 AM
You are a couple of replies too late, page one. Your reply was not needed, but thanks anyway!IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted July 30, 2013 11:46 AM
My first hunch was he was score settling the first time, and the second time he really is re-thinking if he wants a relationship with you or not. When you ended things with him the first time it probably shook him up. Taurus moons tend to plan forever. Do you know how his moon is aspected? That would give more insight into his emotional reactions. Mars in Cancer is the King of passive-aggressiveness (well, Mars in any water sign really.)IP: Logged |
Astra
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posted July 30, 2013 07:15 PM
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
What was your man's Sun sign?
Were you asking me this question, Yanmorg? If so, he was a Leo Sun. IP: Logged |
Nine
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posted July 30, 2013 07:36 PM
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I thought only Vedic astrology comes up with this kind of interpretation.
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