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Lunae
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posted August 17, 2013 11:53 AM
  
The common factor of all my obsessive crushes were Capricorn luminaries that conjuncted my NN. The top 2 most obsessive crushes of mine were both Capricorn suns. Capricorn is on my 8th house cusp,with most of it in the 7th. My NN is in the 7th house. Probably I obsessed over them because Cappy rules my 8th house? IP: Logged |
ueharaa
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posted August 17, 2013 12:33 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
ueharaa,
Were you the Node person?
Venus / Saturn can be so hard..
His venus moon opposition squares my nodes and my DSC, moon, mercury conjunct his NN There are indeed some dejanira aspects: my nessus opposes his dejanira but I don't obsess as much as I used to.
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Zander916
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posted August 17, 2013 12:40 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
[b]Zander,
It's the Venus square Saturn.
The "star crossed lovers" aspect..
Dun worry, you'll find someone who'll make you feel better than she did!
And yes, you are quite confusing. lol. [/B]
That sucks. I don't like being confusing but I know I am. I used a psychic back in June I think it was based on recommendations about her. It was incredible! She knew things about me in a lot of detail, I was just blown away! She did say I would meet someone at the end of this year or beginning of next year. I don't see it. I don't see how.
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la_mer
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posted August 17, 2013 01:06 PM
ha, who hasn't such a person in his or her life  won't list every aspect but almost everything touches everything in our synastry.
this is the "best of" of the major aspects(from me to him):sun square sun 5'06
(sun sextile venus 5'56)
sun conjunct mars 2'44
sun quincunx neptune 0'01
sun sextile asc 0'52 moon conjunct mars 4'38
mercury square mercury 2'11 venus trine sun 1'22
venus square venus 2'11
venus opposite neptune 3'43
venus trine pluto 0'11
venus conjunct chiron 1'11 mars sextile sun 1'38
mars square venus 0'48
mars sextile pluto 2'49
mars opposite chiron 1'49
mars conjunct north node 2'18 jupiter conjunct sun 0'33
saturn sextile moon 0'55
uranus square sun 0'55
uranus trine venus 1'44
uranus opposition mars 1'28
pluto square moon 1'39 and last but not least: north node square north node 2'06 maybe the tension is too much, I don't know. wasn't meant to be IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted August 17, 2013 01:36 PM
Ceridwen,Haaahaha, yeah.. girl, you're in too deep. its_aqua, Hi, girl!
Still stuck on Mr.Mystery?
How are things going? Anything new?
Your poor Saturn is clinging.. beckylee, Oh you like Venus / Mars, huh!
Passion, passion!  teasel, The DSC conjunctions and Pluto trines are quite powerful.
Thanks for including your progressions, totally makes sense!
I hope you won't waste your time on him if he's not worth it.. Ami, Yep, I think you're right!
But Nessus / Dejanira would probably make for some extreme obsession, not just a crush but something like.. "I WANNA DIVE INSIDE YOUUU!!" type of thing, haha. quote:
Originally posted by Orange:
Amor conjunct Valentine is very delightful, I agree. I bet they have their Juppy on your Venus or something like thAat
Something like "thAat", yes!
How d'you know?
Are you implying that.. you know who I'm talking about..? Please don't tell anyone!
I'd rather my crushes stay secret. Lunae, Well it definitely makes sense.
I know a dude who was born 2 days after you and he's into Cap girls, too.
He has Gem rising too but Cap falls mostly in his 9th (secondary DSC, remember?).
Someone once said that there's something quite special between Scorps & Caps. Maybe, maybe..! ueharaa, Oh boy, that's some intense Node stuff.
They can be quite sticky..
Do you know how the other party feels about it all? Zander, You're not really confusing.
You're more like.. semi-secretive.
It's like you wanna say something, and then you don't. Tease, tease! I had one psychic tell me some very accurate things about myself once, too.
However she was wrong on the future.
She said I'd meet 3 dudes this summer and would have a long-term relationship with one handsome man - bullcra*, I'm still waiting!! Yoo hoo, Prince Charming, where are ya?? I'm getting old! rofl! la_mer (hellooo the sea ) That synastry looks intense, indeed.
Is it one-sided? IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 17, 2013 01:37 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Barbie - That's really strange considering how compatible your signs are.
He must be very self-centred to have no clue what impact he is having. I don't know many Geminis who would be .. I guess... intentionally 'nasty' or 'evil'... So maybe he is just in his own head and uncaring about anyone but himself. Are there other reasons why he won't break up with his gf? Financial reasons? Or family-related reasons .. like his whole family loves her and thinks they'll get married- that kind of thing? Are your Mercuries trine? Does he have a Gemini Mercury?
Or - if he has a Cancer Mercury - is it conjunct your Mars?
Sometimes a lack of Mercury aspects can show problems in communication... so if he has a Taurus Mercury - that wouldn't bode well for a mental connection between you.
You're telling me its the weirdest thing. He's the most confusing person I've ever had to deal with in my entire life. He just doesn't know what he wants at all and it's not only annoying but extremely frustrating. He'll stop talking to me and then out of nowhere he pops up and gets me hooked yet again. It's the most frustrating thing I've ever dealt with. He has his own job and she has her own they don't even live together. The three of us used to work together and she tried getting he and I fired and it just really ****** me off that he'd still date her after all that she did. I'm black and have dated white guys my entire life pretty much and he's white and claims that his parents are racist and doesn't wanna get me involved but its not like I'm so ghetto trashy mess. My name here literally fits me to a t. I may not be 19 anymore but I'm always being compared to a little Barbie doll. I just don't get all of the drama and why if he doesn't want me he can't stay away. Does this mean he really does want something with me?
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its_aqua
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posted August 17, 2013 02:03 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
its_aqua,Hi, girl!
Still stuck on Mr.Mystery?
How are things going? Anything new?
Your poor Saturn is clinging..
Haha hey Doux
You know mee!!
I think its more my poor Cancer node!
There was like a tiny tiny action but nothing huge really.
And I did get some readings that dont really show much of a bright future either  But yeah, I'm still stuck. And sometimes I like it that way, I mean I really dont like meeting new guys much, weird huh? We should make a thread about this. I really like recycling the old love stories, I know other people just want a fresh start, but thats not me!
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Doux Rêve
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posted August 17, 2013 02:13 PM
its_aqua,Sorry about that, sweetie.
It can be though.
There was an awesome thread on Saturn in synastry, and people basically all agreed that with Saturn, you get stuck for a long time, especially at first.
And if you really wanna get over it, the only thing you can do is basically cut off all contact! IP: Logged |
Zander916
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posted August 17, 2013 02:14 PM
@Doux RêveI hear ya! I'm getting old too! Thanfully, I both look and feel 10-15 years younger than I am. But still, I'm not getting any younger here!
You're right.... I'm still trying to dig up my courage. I've spent years on either car forums or a hockey forum and those people will jump on you for a simple misspelling! It's ridiculous!
Just trying to feel things out.
@Barbiegirl19
Ahh.... things are coming together.
So the other girl is white? I'm guessing so but you didn't actually say.
Unfortunately the racism could be very real - no matter HOW "good" you are.
My dad is very racist, or was. I'm not sure how he feels now. I'm not very close to him, but I know him pretty well from being close to him as a kid. He would say just the most awful things about black people without ever knowing anything about them. Years ago, one of my sisters started going out with black guys. My dad, just flipped. He said he would rather of heard that she died, blah blah blah. He had absolutely NOTHING to do with her at all for 3 1/2 - 4 years. My sister would send him pictures of his granddaughter (she's 12 now and just a beauty queen! Very fun and outgoing) Eventually, I think missing out on this cute granddaughter got to him. She's with another black guy now that she's been with for 10 years. My dad loves him because he works hard and takes care of my sisters family. Traits my dad ignorantly assumed untrue of all black people.
I've personally known of other similar kinds of things from others. Actually, my sister was going to go to Oklahoma to visit with her ex's family and they told him that "They didn't want a white girl staying at their house."
The whole thing is ridiculous. I don't get it. But anyway, he could very well be telling the truth and it could be weighing heavily on him. IP: Logged |
la_mer
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posted August 17, 2013 02:32 PM
@doux: hiiii! I just love the ocean
tbh I never got to find out, he is seeing someone and I didn't ask what he felt. we just had conversations about work (he plays sports professionally, I worked for the team) and basic small talk (how r u, nice weather, etc). haven't seen each other in a while, but in the past when we did our eyes were glued to each other. :-S two ships passing in the night hahaIP: Logged |
its_aqua
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posted August 17, 2013 02:34 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
its_aqua,Sorry about that, sweetie.
It can be though.
There was an awesome thread on Saturn in synastry, and people basically all agreed that with Saturn, you get stuck for a long time, especially at first.
And if you really wanna get over it, the only thing you can do is basically cut off all contact!
I cant cut off all contact.
Firstly because I basically stalk him
Secondly we have too many mutual friends, similar working places so really not gonna happen. I think he will re-appear in my life sometime. Cancer men alwaaaaays come back at some point. I hope Im not over him by then though. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted August 17, 2013 02:55 PM
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Originally posted by Zander916:
@Doux RêveI hear ya! I'm getting old too! Thanfully, I both look and feel 10-15 years younger than I am. But still, I'm not getting any younger here!
You're right.... I'm still trying to dig up my courage. I've spent years on either car forums or a hockey forum and those people will jump on you for a simple misspelling! It's ridiculous!
Just trying to feel things out.
You sound quite young, and I'm sure you look young too, no worries.
Oh come on, we're all good folks here! You can be an open book, no one will think bad of you (unless you say something really not cool).
It can be quite cathartic to just.. vent, haha.
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Originally posted by la_mer:
@doux: hiiii! I just love the ocean
tbh I never got to find out, he is seeing someone and I didn't ask what he felt. we just had conversations about work (he plays sports professionally, I worked for the team) and basic small talk (how r u, nice weather, etc). haven't seen each other in a while, but in the past when we did our eyes were glued to each other. :-S two ships passing in the night haha
Nice username. 
Ah.. I see.
Life is quite weird sometimes, isn't it?
You meet someone, can feel a connection, and yet.. nada. Nothing happens.
At least you have some sweet memories!
Hopefully next time, something will happen. quote:
Originally posted by its_aqua:
I cant cut off all contact.
Firstly because I basically stalk him
Secondly we have too many mutual friends, similar working places so really not gonna happen.I think he will re-appear in my life sometime. Cancer men alwaaaaays come back at some point. I hope Im not over him by then though.
You're not ready yet, and it's okay.
Whatever happens, you'll know in time if it was meant to be or not.
Cancer men don't always come back, by the way! Most of them do but some of them are quite set in their ways and if they decide they're done, they're done.
I hope everything will turn out for the best for you. IP: Logged |
its_aqua
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posted August 17, 2013 03:09 PM
Thanks Doux!!
Everyone happens for a reasonn actually. For the past months, I had a severe health problem, so even if he was interested in me I wouldnt be able to be with him. Even now, no matter how much I want him,its not the right time I have exams I cant be in a relationship, so maybe it's all for the best.Hehe but I really like it how I can joke about it with you! IP: Logged |
la_mer
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posted August 17, 2013 03:28 PM
exactly! everything seems like a lesson with saturn transits hovering over oneself looking forward to a grand water trine in december/january, when saturn in scorpio completes my natal venus/jupiter trine plus neptune finally fully wandering into the 7th house. let me tell ya, the upcoming love transits are excellent on paper, anything can happen ^.^IP: Logged |
Hera
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posted August 17, 2013 03:45 PM
It's not about the synastry for me. I pretty much can't get out of my head all of my lovers and crushes, when I am in the first.. 2 weeks phase? After that I get bored/impatient and spell goes away.  I believe it's because of my ruler of the 3rd exactly opposite Pluto. Like I said, nothing personal. It's just how I'm wired. IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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posted August 17, 2013 06:37 PM
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Originally posted by its_aqua:
Thanks Doux!!
Everyone happens for a reasonn actually. For the past months, I had a severe health problem, so even if he was interested in me I wouldnt be able to be with him. Even now, no matter how much I want him,its not the right time I have exams I cant be in a relationship, so maybe it's all for the best.Hehe but I really like it how I can joke about it with you!
You're welcome.
You sound like such a sweetie pie, its_aqua. 
Take care of yourself, okay? quote:
Originally posted by la_mer:
exactly! everything seems like a lesson with saturn transits hovering over oneself looking forward to a grand water trine in december/january, when saturn in scorpio completes my natal venus/jupiter trine plus neptune finally fully wandering into the 7th house. let me tell ya, the upcoming love transits are excellent on paper, anything can happen ^.^
I'm sure good things are on your way, la_mer. quote:
Originally posted by Hera:
Like I said, nothing personal. It's just how I'm wired.
It's all the Fire! IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 17, 2013 06:41 PM
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Originally posted by Zander916:
@Doux RêveI hear ya! I'm getting old too! Thanfully, I both look and feel 10-15 years younger than I am. But still, I'm not getting any younger here!
You're right.... I'm still trying to dig up my courage. I've spent years on either car forums or a hockey forum and those people will jump on you for a simple misspelling! It's ridiculous!
Just trying to feel things out.
@Barbiegirl19
Ahh.... things are coming together.
So the other girl is white? I'm guessing so but you didn't actually say.
Unfortunately the racism could be very real - no matter HOW "good" you are.
My dad is very racist, or was. I'm not sure how he feels now. I'm not very close to him, but I know him pretty well from being close to him as a kid. He would say just the most awful things about black people without ever knowing anything about them. Years ago, one of my sisters started going out with black guys. My dad, just flipped. He said he would rather of heard that she died, blah blah blah. He had absolutely NOTHING to do with her at all for 3 1/2 - 4 years. My sister would send him pictures of his granddaughter (she's 12 now and just a beauty queen! Very fun and outgoing) Eventually, I think missing out on this cute granddaughter got to him. She's with another black guy now that she's been with for 10 years. My dad loves him because he works hard and takes care of my sisters family. Traits my dad ignorantly assumed untrue of all black people.
I've personally known of other similar kinds of things from others. Actually, my sister was going to go to Oklahoma to visit with her ex's family and they told him that "They didn't want a white girl staying at their house."
The whole thing is ridiculous. I don't get it. But anyway, he could very well be telling the truth and it could be weighing heavily on him.
But he has black friends so I mean that part I just don't understand at all. Those friend have and are always around his parents and I just don't get it. I come from a pretty decent family. Both of parents have degrees. They may not be together anymore but they both are educated. So to me the vibe I keep getting is that he's BSing me. I don't buy it. The other girl is white yes but I honestly just can't stand her. I feel like he's just afraid to hurt her feelings and stays with her hoping that she'll just leave him and I don't think that'll ever happen. I honestly don't care I just don't get why he can't leave me alone. If he knows all of that and his parents are really closet racist why doesn't he leave me alone then!? Why get the both of us deeper involved when it can't go on anymore ya know
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Zander916
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posted August 17, 2013 07:17 PM
Hmmm...
Sounds like he's just being a butthole
I don't know what else. I guess I'd just stay away from him. Don't talk to him if he just hurts you all the time. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19
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posted August 17, 2013 07:24 PM
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Originally posted by Zander916:
Hmmm...
Sounds like he's just being a butthole
I don't know what else. I guess I'd just stay away from him. Don't talk to him if he just hurts you all the time.
I don't at all. He just always after a year of not talking will texts me randomly something that gets me going again. It's just very frustrating especially when you're trying to get over this person that was supposed to be your "one" or at least that's what my heart had him set as :/ IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
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posted August 17, 2013 10:37 PM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
Its because they have YOU in their head!
I've always wondered and kind of thought this. ^ The people I couldn't get out of my head usually had Scorpio prevalent in their chart, so it naturally conjuncted with my Pluto in the 5th. More often than not their Mars. IP: Logged |
Lunae
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posted August 18, 2013 02:10 AM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:Lunae, Well it definitely makes sense.
I know a dude who was born 2 days after you and he's into Cap girls, too.
He has Gem rising too but Cap falls mostly in his 9th (secondary DSC, remember?).
Someone once said that there's something quite special between Scorps & Caps. Maybe, maybe..!
Capricorn is on my 7th/8th, Aquarius on 8th/9th (but it's the 9th house cusp sign). Uranus in Capricorn, Saturn in Aquarius so there goes the strong Saturnine energy I', drawn to haha. IP: Logged |
LionFish
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posted August 18, 2013 08:50 AM
I have two I can share..The first one is a guy who I've loved from the moment we set eyes on each other almost 15 years ago. His:
ASC conjunct my ASC
Sun/Venus/Merc conjunct my ASC, trine my Sun/Venus/Merc.
Mars opp my Mars
Juno opp my Juno
P.O.F. opp my P.O.F.
Moon conjunct my Saturn
Sun/Venus/Merc trine my Saturn
Sun/Venus/Merc square my Pluto
ASC square my NN by minutes
He also activates one of my YODs with his ASC/Venus/Merc (His sun missed out on it by only a couple degrees) Nobody has ever held my heart and mind the way he once did. I would have brought the Moon and stars to worship at his Leo feet if he had wanted me to. And probably still would if I ever saw him..Ugh.. It's almost unhealthy the effect he has on me. The 2nd one is much more recent and you even told me to "go for it" if I recall correctly We have:
Sun trine Sun
Moon trine Moon
Merc trine Merc
Mars trine Mars
Sun square Venus DW
My Sun aspects ALL of his planets except for Uranus.
My Eros is conjunct his Moon/Saturn
His Eros/Psyche is conjunct my Moon.
My Eros trine his Psyche by 1 degree.
His NN in my 7H, my Jupiter in his 7H. I think I referred to my thoughts as his "personal playground." And that's still true. The harder I try to not think about him the more I do it. I find him ridiculously attractive and the fact that he's a bit sensitive doesn't make me uneasy and run away like it normally would. I'm a bit brazen and outspoken and most "sensitive" people can't handle me on a daily basis. But his Aries Mars kicks in to deal with me and match my energy, I think Him and I are wonderful friends and a part of me would like to keep it just that.. But then there's that Aries Venus/Leo ASC combo of mine that demands the attention I desire and won't be sated by mere hugs and cuddles here and there..I do so love the chase of a new boy and I don't get *too* bored after I've won.. I don't want to get bored with him at all, though. I think that may be why I've been keeping him at arm's length..I know the result if I chase what I think I want atm, and it's him getting hurt. I don't think I could do that to him.
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IrisRainbow
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posted August 18, 2013 09:33 AM
I had a massive crush on a Leo who's saturn squared my sun EXACT.It lasted over 4 years and the feeling is still there when I rarely see him,it's more nostalgic now though------------------
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Aries Eagle
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posted August 18, 2013 09:35 AM
Moon conjunct Sun can do that easily, my experience.
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Lianee
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posted August 19, 2013 02:21 PM
it's not gonna be a crush, but my ex, and the truth is that I will probably never get over him (dated for 2 years and it's been almost 4 years since we broke up), but I am still so obsessed with him, it's freaking crazy, I compare everyone to him (dates, boyfriends after him, everyone ). My extra strong pluto probably does it all his sun and moon opposes mine (i got a scorpio rising, so even though I'm a freaking taurus, I still love scorpios way more), pluto conj sun (does it make you obsessed?)
venus trine venus, mars trine venus, load of asc conj personal crap, and my personal crap trines his asc (capricorn), so yeah I think those are the reasons IP: Logged | |
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