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Doux Rêve
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posted August 16, 2013 08:20 PM
  
Share your stories & synastries!I wanna know all about your obsessive crushes.  IP: Logged |
LiesLilithsaidtouranus
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posted August 16, 2013 08:51 PM
Anyone exact squaring my sun, ah! I can never get them out of my head for some reason.IP: Logged |
hippichick
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posted August 16, 2013 09:55 PM
Its because they have YOU in their head!IP: Logged |
Orange
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posted August 16, 2013 10:11 PM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Share your stories & synastries!I wanna know all about your obsessive crushes.
you first
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Kerosene
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posted August 16, 2013 10:22 PM
You know my story.
nn conjunct dsc is the culprit, probably IP: Logged |
Gemmy
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posted August 16, 2013 10:29 PM
This has only happened to me once.It was on and off.I ran hot and cold,he lied all the time.We both became frustrated and argued every other day.It never really got off the ground.His Sun/Pluto conjunction trine my Sun,Moon,Mercury,and Venus.
His Neptune opposite those planets.
Opposite Ascendants.(not in aspect)
My Nodes conjunct his MC/IC.
My stellium in his 12th house.
His Venus in my 8th.
His Moon in my 12th conjunct my Neptune.
My Mars opposite his Venus.
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Odette
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posted August 16, 2013 10:41 PM
ummmm How odd! I clicked on this thread completely intending to answer it... and now that I've thought about it - I realised there isn't really anyone I can't get out of my head.. :\Back in the day it was my first love.. I think he's the only one I couldn't get out of my head for the years we were together on & off. Although now he's completely out. quote:
Anyone exact squaring my sun
His Sun was closely squaring my Mars.. and we had a pretty Plutonian synastry (Venus/Mars conj, Venus opp Pluto, Mars opp Pluto, his Mars conj my NN)
But WoW.. I'm kind of surprised that actually - since my first bf I haven't felt 'obsessed' with anyone.
I fell in love once but that wasn't obsessive - that was just loving and positive overall.
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Barbiegirl19
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posted August 16, 2013 10:47 PM
He has his sun, moon, mercury and venus in Gemini with a Pisces mars and I have sun, moon and mercury in Libra with a scorpio venus and cancer mars. We were coworkers and I hadn't really met him yet until the end of my shift when it was time to leave. As I was leaving our eyes locked and I was completely mesmerized. I literally felt like my heart had leaped out of my chest and fell in my stomach. I'd never had anyone make me feel such a thing without even saying anything to each other. I became extremely hooked to him and before long he and I became really good friends. We talked everyday and before I knew it we told each other how we felt and from what he told me he felt the same way. We grew closer and closer and it's like my feelings for him just grew and grew. He was all I thought about, dreamt about and wanted in general. We ended up hooking up a few times and my feelings for him grew deeper and deeper. We both were in relationships that just weren't for us but never broke it off with them. So we kept it a secret and kept hooking up and then one day he just stopped. I know she didn't know he'd never grow the balls to tell her so I knew that wasn't why. So the next time I saw him at work I was my normal happy little self and waved at him. He completely blew me off and from that day for a year and a half was a complete cold a hole. Then he texts me again and before I know it I'm hooked again and it felt just like it did before he stopped talking to me. We get close again and before I know it I'm in his bed yet again over and over. We're fine or so I thought and he's telling how much he likes me and just like that he stops texting me, blatantly ignores my texts, calls whatever I could do to try and talk to him he ignored me and I just don't get it. It hurt me beyond belief and made me feel so used and just stupid. So the moral to my story is that I was beyond obsessed I was in love with a guy who didn't feel the same for me and it killed me. Obsession and love are both very serious things and should never be taken lightly. I just wish I didn't fall so easily into his traps and let him get to me. I never let anyone in really and now I feel like I never will IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted August 16, 2013 11:25 PM
Barbie - That's really strange considering how compatible your signs are.
He must be very self-centred to have no clue what impact he is having. I don't know many Geminis who would be .. I guess... intentionally 'nasty' or 'evil'... So maybe he is just in his own head and uncaring about anyone but himself. Are there other reasons why he won't break up with his gf? Financial reasons? Or family-related reasons .. like his whole family loves her and thinks they'll get married- that kind of thing? quote:
and Mercury in Libra
Are your Mercuries trine? Does he have a Gemini Mercury?
Or - if he has a Cancer Mercury - is it conjunct your Mars?
Sometimes a lack of Mercury aspects can show problems in communication... so if he has a Taurus Mercury - that wouldn't bode well for a mental connection between you. IP: Logged |
ueharaa
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posted August 16, 2013 11:43 PM
There's no story. I fell for him while he was taken. We both moved to different towns. Now he's happily settled with a child. Nothing ever happened and nothing could have ever happened, but it still affected me and my life rather negatively. And I still think about him sometimes even though I haven't seen him in years.Tightest aspects:
NN conjunct dsc
Moon conjunct NN
Mercury conjunct NN
venus and moon square nodes
moon conjunct pluto
venus opposes pluto
venus conjunct saturn and venus trine saturn
saturn square sun.
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Zander916
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posted August 17, 2013 02:10 AM
Wellllll....
They're 4 years older (which is weird. Usually it's younger) AND married. (I have strong 12th house placements, including Venus)
It's a long long story.
I'm not 100% positive on her end. She opened up about a lot of things, but not all things. But, being that she talked to me after work EVERY SINGLE night and hid it from her husband, I'm guessing she fell for me....? Sometimes we'd just say goodnight. In fact, it became our little thing. We had to say goodnight to each other.
I fell for her very very hard.
I'm a tough one to understand and explain though. LOL! I spent a few months trying to figure her out. She was such a little crab (Cancer) and kept a lot in her shell. Eventually, I became certain that she was just kind of tagging me along. Wanted me a certain distance close to her, but also away from her so she could have her security at home and emotional release with me. Her husband is not very caring or romantic. He's not mean, he's just nothing!
The whole thing was just stupid. I don't know why I did it or how I end up in that kind of crap. LOL Nothing physical ever happened, thank goodness.
Now, she just absolutely HATES me. At least that's what she shows the outside world. Just incredible, bitter hatred.
Next week will be one year. In April I took a promotion and left that area where she and I worked. So I hardly ever saw her as she was sure to avoid me as much as possible. Then, about two months ago she went to another shift, I'm thinking to avoid me further.
Even though I almost never see her, we haven't spoken a word to each other for a year. I don't WANT her or dream of it, hope for it, etc. She's just stuck in my head and I don't even know why. Sometimes I miss her (the friendship - it was awesome!) and I don't know why that either!! I don't want her! ME:
Sun Leo
Moon Gemini
Mercury Virgo
Venus Virgo
Mars Virgo
Jupiter Taurus
Saturn Leo
Uranus Scorpio
Neptune Sag
Pluto Libra HER:
Sun Cancer
Moon Cancer
Mercury Leo
Venus Gemini
Mars Leo
Jupiter Cap
Saturn Gemini
Uranus Libra
Neptune Sag
Pluto Virgo Aspects: Venus Square Saturn
Mars Conjunction Pluto
Jupiter Opposition Neptune
Jupiter Trine Pluto
Saturn Conjunction Mercury
Saturn Conjunction Mars
Uranus Square Mars
Neptune Trine Mercury
Neptune Opposition Saturn
Pluto Conjunction Uranus There's one other kind of but I don't know their chart. 
I think in my case anyway, it's a lot to do with not knowing what the heck is going on in their mind. Most of the time I can feel it, sense it... I just know. But not these two. One of them, I don't really know them, never actually met them, and it hasn't been long at all but they're in there. I'm not sure why.
I'm such a confused man. LOL
Yet, I'm at peace almost all of the time. I might talk down about myself on here sometimes but you'd have to see me in person. I'm lighthearted about nearly all of it. IP: Logged |
magicspells
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posted August 17, 2013 04:45 AM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
Its because they have YOU in their head!
Ive heard that saying.. that if you can't stop thinking about someone it's because they're thinking of you.. Thoughts are energy after all
Usually this happens between people who are close e.g. gf/bf, parents/children Do you reckon it could happen to a peer you you don't talk to much, but you feel you have an unspoken connection to them? How do I know if its just a wishful daydream? IP: Logged |
Sven555
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posted August 17, 2013 04:58 AM
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Originally posted by magicspells:
Ive heard that saying.. that if you can't stop thinking about someone it's because they're thinking of you.. Thoughts are energy after all
Usually this happens between people who are close e.g. gf/bf, parents/childrenDo you reckon it could happen to a peer you you don't talk to much, but you feel you have an unspoken connection to them?
I never have actually thought about it in that way before lol. When I interact with people and someone manages to stick in my mind; I always think it's just me thinking about them and not them, they just seem to carry on with their lives and forget forever. Conjunct/Squares/Oppositions to your Sun, Moon or ASC (Because the ASC and Moon are the most critical points in the chart) from their Sun, ASC, Venus or Mars are possibly the usual cases of you thinking like this! IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted August 17, 2013 04:59 AM
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Do you reckon it could happen to a peer you you don't talk to much, but you feel you have an unspoken connection to them?
I think maybe it can ^^ ... but it would have to be someone who knows you and does talk to you and about you.
I felt someone was thinking about me and obsessed with me.. but other than my general feeling - they also said things that backed that up.
For example we had a conversation where they mentioned something I had said a long time ago - and they still remembered it, and they sometimes asked me strange personal questions.
I seemed to bump into them in all kinds of places as well - when I actually didn't like them and did not really want to bump into them. quote:
How do I know if its just a wishful daydream?
If this is someone you actually *see* and talk to occasionally - who is in your social circle or in your classes in HS/Uni.. or a colleague at work etc... someone you are around on a regular basis - then - this person would do things and say things that make it obvious they are into you.
If they are around you - and they are not making it obvious in any way .... then they are probably not obsessed with you or thinking about you that much.
The guy I was talking about... did other things.. like I walked through the door once and his jaw dropped telling me I was so beautiful and stunning and what not. He just "seemed" obsessed overall..
If they don't show it in *any* way... then - it's likely wishful thinking on your part. IP: Logged |
magicspells
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posted August 17, 2013 05:22 AM
^ ^It's funny.. their venus conjuncts my sun and their moon/pluto conjuncts my ASC
We also have other exact aspects that kind of freak me out like pluto square moon, saturn square moon, venus square neptune, chiron conjunct sun, pluto conjunct ASC as well as other 12th house overlays He is a colleague and we see each other a couple of times a week. He does pay some attention towards me, inititing conversation, flirting, constant eye contact, trying to make me laugh etc. (He's also a Leo so I don't know if this is just him being typically leonine) So I know there's an attraction, perhaps it's just shallow and physical.. I'm not sure if its as deep as my constant I-THINK-ABOUT-YOU-ALL-THE-TIME-AND-I-LOVE-YOU-I-KNOW-YOUR-SOUL thoughts that run rampant in my waking life. Sometimes I feel literally crazy.
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Odette
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posted August 17, 2013 05:30 AM
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not sure if its as deep as my constant I-THINK-ABOUT-YOU-ALL-THE-TIME-AND-I-LOVE-YOU-I-KNOW-YOUR-SOUL
What is his natal chart like? Some people are more inclined to obsess than others. IP: Logged |
magicspells
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posted August 17, 2013 05:44 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
What is his natal chart like? Some people are more inclined to obsess than others.
like some natal placements? Leo sun (8th house), Scorpio moon conjunct pluto, merc/venus/mars in Virgo, jupiter in Cancer, Capricorn ASC. Whaddya think? I have high hopes for the scorp moon conjunct pluto placement LOL One thing that kind of tripped me up once was how we somehow were talking about what our parent's jobs where and out of nowhere he knew my dad's occupation (which isn't that typical) when I had never told him .. he says he overheard my dad talking on the phone in the parking lot (my dad picks me up sometimes from work) and somehow this information was divulged lol, he said ' sometimes i just pick things up...' .. He seemed pretty reluctant to tell me this, kind of looked distracted and was looking at some items in front of him. Hmm
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Doux Rêve
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posted August 17, 2013 06:58 AM
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Originally posted by hippichick:
Its because they have YOU in their head!
I hiiiiighly doubt it!
But we can always dream, eh! quote:
Originally posted by Orange:
you first
Okay.. This person is someone I "met" here.
They're not very talkative, and can be a bit provocative but I like them that way.
Others may not see them for who they are but I find them delightful.
They make me happy for some odd reason.. My Amor conjuncts their Valentine. <3
Kerosene,
Oh yeah.. your synastry is quite intense. Gemmy, It's the Neptune / 12th house.  Odette, With all that Pluto.. makes sense!
But you're lucky not to experience it anymore.
Unless you miss it.
((( Barbiegirl )))
Sorry to hear you've been hurt 
Happens to most of us at some point.
Keep your head up!
ueharaa,
Were you the Node person?
Venus / Saturn can be so hard.. Zander, It's the Venus square Saturn.
The "star crossed lovers" aspect..
Dun worry, you'll find someone who'll make you feel better than she did!
And yes, you are quite confusing. lol.
Sven  Pretty much! But the Nodes are very potent as well.
Odette Agree with you.
There's gotta be some "signs". Otherwise it's pretty much all in your head! And God knows people are so delusional sometimes.. (especially me). magicspells, The Moon in a man's chart often shows the type of woman he'll attract.
So in his case - you'd be the Plutonian being obsessed with him. You play out his Scorpio Moon / Pluto for him.
It's possible he experiences it too but maybe to a lesser degree.
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Ceridwen
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posted August 17, 2013 08:13 AM
There`s someone I can`t get out of my head.
And it`s driving me FRIGGIN` CRAZY.  That´s not how an Aqua-Moon operates, for heaven`s sake! And the craziest-making thing about it that it was because HE seemed to pay (surprisingly) attention to me, that my interest was peaked.
I feel like I have walked in a spiritual/ emotional trap, with the most honourable analtical intentions in mind, and then voila! Suddenly I feel myself like a fly glued to honey!
Not fair!  IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted August 17, 2013 08:21 AM
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Originally posted by magicspells:
Ive heard that saying.. that if you can't stop thinking about someone it's because they're thinking of you.. Thoughts are energy after all
Usually this happens between people who are close e.g. gf/bf, parents/childrenDo you reckon it could happen to a peer you you don't talk to much, but you feel you have an unspoken connection to them? How do I know if its just a wishful daydream?
It`s true about the parents-children-thing though. My mom does that easily, and actually I have occasionally heard her voice in my head calling my name, just to find out that at that time she had been talking to other family members about me. Actualyl she tried to call yesterday (must have tried twice as a matter of fact, but I didn´t get the phone), and my parents both seemed to be a bit worried to not get a hold of me instantly. Well yeah that is unusual, but I found it almost hilarious that they picked the days for calling (they are on holidays and usually only call once or twice during the whole), when I was feeling less than great, having had major dizzy spills yesterday and the day before. Of course I did not tell them, to not worry them, and besides i was doing better already.
But in the case of my mum that definitely is true. IP: Logged |
its_aqua
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posted August 17, 2013 08:30 AM
Hey Doux!
Here it goes:Sun opposition Sun
Sun sextile Mars
Sun opposition Saturn
Sun conjunct Chiron
Sun conjunct S.Node Moon square Sun
Moon sextile Mercury
Moon qunincunx Mars
Moon square Jupiter
Moon square Saturn
Moon trine ASC Mercury square Moon
Mercury quincunx Venus
Mercury opposition Neptune
Mercury opposition Uranus
Mercury trine Pluto
Mercury trine Vertex
Mercury trine Eros Venus sextile Moon
Venus trine Venus
Venus quincunx Neptune
Venus quincunx Pluto
Venus opposition Lilith
Venus conjunct ASC
Venus quincunx Eros Mars sextile Sun
Mars square Mercury
Mars sextile Mars
Mars trine Jupiter
Mars sextile Saturn
Mars sextile Psyche Jupiter trine Sun
Jupiter conjunct Mars
Jupiter trine Saturn
Jupiter trine N.Node
Jupiter conjunct Psyche Saturn sextile Venus
Saturn opposition ASC Uranus opposition ASC Neptune conjunct Mercury
Neptune conjunct Uranus
Neptune sextile Eros Pluto square Sun
Pluto sextile Mercury
Pluto square Jupiter
Pluto sextile Neptune
Pluto sextile Uranus
Pluto conjunct Eros ( first planets are the guy's, seconds are mine)
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beckylee
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posted August 17, 2013 09:05 AM
2 guys..with one we had pluto-venus square, venus-mars conjunct (i was venus) (i still love him after 10 years, he is a great person ) other guy, venus-mars , sun-mars conjunct (i was mars) (i don't want to love him anymore because it hurts but i never felt that way with anyone, it felt magical) IP: Logged |
teasel
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posted August 17, 2013 09:06 AM
Mercury conjunct Mercury.
My Moon/Venus trine his Pluto.
My Mars, Uranus/ascendant, trine his Mars/Saturn.
His Sun/Moon conjunct my descendant.
His Jupiter in my 4th or 5th.
His Uranus opposed our Mercuries.There was more. I loathe him now, but he's always there, because of that. At the time, his progressed venus was conjunct my Sun, and his progressed Sun moved across my Moon, Venus, and SN. After my vertex, I managed to lose the connection a bit, because, if you will excuse me: he's a real ******* . IP: Logged |
Ami Anne
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posted August 17, 2013 10:50 AM
Nessus/Deja seems to be the culprit in the charts I do. However, once it truly ends, it ends. The in between stage is when the people seem obsessed as if they have lost their minds. In fact, if someone writes to me with that feel of total obsession, it always is nessus/Deja ime. ------------------
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Orange
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posted August 17, 2013 11:36 AM
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Originally posted by Doux Rêve:
Okay..This person is someone I "met" here.
They're not very talkative, and can be a bit provocative but I like them that way.
Others may not see them for who they are but I find them delightful.
They make me happy for some odd reason.. My Amor conjuncts their Valentine. <3
Amor conjunct Valentine is very delightful, I agree. I bet they have their Juppy on your Venus or something like thAat IP: Logged |
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