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Topic: Scorpio Boyfriend Shocked Me
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beckylee Knowflake Posts: 168 From: japan Registered: Jun 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 04:50 AM
So I have been seeing this Scorpio for 2 months now. It started off as a relationship based on sex, then he insisted that we should do stuff together, go on a holiday, introduce each other to friends. I said ok, lets hang out more but I don't want to get too emotional because I might go to another country next year and because I'm still talking to my ex, I still have feelings for him. Then he insisted that we go abroad together for a holiday. It was obvious that I didn't want to go, but he booked the tickets, and last night during sex, he was kind of violent and said things like, ' if your ex saw you now, do you think he would talk to you again ?' and 'you can deny it but you are mine now, you can date him but I know you will come back to me in 3 days' and threatened me (kind of jokingly) with getting even more violent if I don't agree to this holiday !It was fun I must admit, and I do have feelings for him, but he is so full of himself ! (I didn't agree to the holiday) And yes, I'm still not completely over my ex. Do Scorpio men like going after girls they can't have ? I gave him so many chances to just break up with me because right now I'm a bit confused. him(31):Scorpio Sun, Libra Moon, Capricorn Venus, Virgo Mars, Mercury scorpio, jupiter libra
me(29): Scorpio sun, Aries moon, Libra venus, Virgo Mars, Mercury/jupiter saggittarius IP: Logged |
SunMoonStars Knowflake Posts: 26 From: Mercury Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 04:59 AM
Yes, they tend to get kind of obsessive when they set their eyes on something/somebody... IP: Logged |
SunMoonStars Knowflake Posts: 26 From: Mercury Registered: Aug 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 05:00 AM
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Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 5652 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 05:00 AM
He sounds like an axe murderer. Kinda reminds me of that lifetime movie Devil's pond where Tara Reid cute love interest takes her to a deserted island for a romantic honeymoon in this shabby cottage. The twist is he refuses to let her go back... you can figure out the rest of the plot.Anyways.. don't go with him to a foreign country.. just be safe... IP: Logged |
beckylee Knowflake Posts: 168 From: japan Registered: Jun 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 05:15 AM
No he is safe I guess.. I mean he is a successful businessman, with lots of friends, family.. What does it mean to him, why was this holiday so important ? Is it about pride, or that he can't handle rejection ? He is hot, and very kind, great in bed, but that doesn't mean I will fall in love with him.IP: Logged |
geea Knowflake Posts: 533 From: Registered: Jun 2011
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posted September 26, 2013 05:52 AM
quote: Originally posted by beckylee: I gave him so many chances to just break up with me because right now I'm a bit confused.
why? you cannot pronounce the words? Cant believe im reading this coming from a scorpio sun IP: Logged |
beckylee Knowflake Posts: 168 From: japan Registered: Jun 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 06:00 AM
I don't want to break up. I mean I was honest with him about this confused state I'm in, which I also hate. I told him that he didn't have to put up with me.IP: Logged |
Xodian Knowflake Posts: 551 From: Canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 26, 2013 06:08 AM
Yeah... Intimidation through violence = BIG no no. Violence and threats (in any form) in a relationship should signal the last strike. Allowing him to behave in such a manner will only give him the green light to treat you even more badly later on. I get the feeling that this is more of an infatuation than love but if you do love him be ABSOLUTELY firm with him that you are NOT going to tolerate being badgered and bullied like that. He also has a Libra Moon... Yeah, he is so not going to make the first move when it comes to innitiating a breakup. IP: Logged |
IrisRainbow Knowflake Posts: 309 From: Pluto Registered: Jul 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 06:16 AM
quote: Originally posted by beckylee: So I have been seeing this Scorpio for 2 months now. It started off as a relationship based on sex, then he insisted that we should do stuff together, go on a holiday, introduce each other to friends. I said ok, lets hang out more but I don't want to get too emotional because I might go to another country next year and because I'm still talking to my ex, I still have feelings for him. Then he insisted that we go abroad together for a holiday. It was obvious that I didn't want to go, but he booked the tickets, and last night during sex, he was kind of violent and said things like, ' if your ex saw you now, do you think he would talk to you again ?' and 'you can deny it but you are mine now, you can date him but I know you will come back to me in 3 days' and threatened me (kind of jokingly) with getting even more violent if I don't agree to this holiday !It was fun I must admit, and I do have feelings for him, but he is so full of himself ! (I didn't agree to the holiday) And yes, I'm still not completely over my ex. Do Scorpio men like going after girls they can't have ? I gave him so many chances to just break up with me because right now I'm a bit confused. him(31):Scorpio Sun, Libra Moon, Capricorn Venus, Virgo Mars, Mercury scorpio, jupiter libra
me(29): Scorpio sun, Aries moon, Libra venus, Virgo Mars, Mercury/jupiter saggittarius
Don't be shocked this is a typical scorpio man thing lol IP: Logged |
beckylee Knowflake Posts: 168 From: japan Registered: Jun 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 06:24 AM
He keeps saying I'm his. It's nice but my aries moon hates that. I should decide whether I belong to someone !IP: Logged |
IrisRainbow Knowflake Posts: 309 From: Pluto Registered: Jul 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 06:31 AM
quote: Originally posted by beckylee: He keeps saying I'm his. It's nice but my aries moon hates that. I should decide whether I belong to someone !
I have an Aqua moon and can handle it,you can too(my guy is a scorpio sun too) unless he's too clingy or something which wouldn't be such a good thing IP: Logged |
Swift Freeze Knowflake Posts: 408 From: One World Registered: Nov 2009
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posted September 26, 2013 09:31 AM
Sounds like he is a wanna be Dom, and pretty insecure as well. With all the 'Mine' talk and trying to force you to go on holiday, and talk about you and your ex. Sounds to me like he is trying to drag you down.You said it yourself, you don't love him, yet. It must be tough being confused and not knowing what to do in this situation. Have you thought about asking yourself, what you are doing with him, what you want out of this relationship? He's a successful businessman, lots of friends, family, he is hot, great in bed, kind, but still you don't love him? I can understand why you're confused, but it seems like there is something that he is missing or just cannot give you, how do you feel about it? ------------------ Learn lots. Don't judge. Laugh for no reason. Be nice. Seek Happiness. Follow your dreams. IP: Logged |
Venusian Moon Knowflake Posts: 1093 From: Nyc Registered: Feb 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 10:01 AM
Yes they get like that. My scorpio ex use to do that and say things like that during sex. LolI need to get myself another one.
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Venusian Moon Knowflake Posts: 1093 From: Nyc Registered: Feb 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 10:19 AM
quote: Originally posted by Xodian: Yeah... Intimidation through violence = BIG no no. Violence and threats (in any form) in a relationship should signal the last strike. Allowing him to behave in such a manner will only give him the green light to treat you even more badly later on. I get the feeling that this is more of an infatuation than love but if you do love him be ABSOLUTELY firm with him that you are NOT going to tolerate being badgered and bullied like that. He also has a Libra Moon... Yeah, he is so not going to make the first move when it comes to innitiating a breakup.
I take it that u never had rough sex before? Lol
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IrisRainbow Knowflake Posts: 309 From: Pluto Registered: Jul 2013
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posted September 26, 2013 10:40 AM
quote: Originally posted by Venusian Moon: Yes they get like that. My scorpio ex use to do that and say things like that during sex. LolI need to get myself another one.
Isn't that obsession of authority what makes them so intriguing,anyway? Scorpios-at least the ones i've met-also have a very deep voice,kind of hair-raising when they say "You are mine." IP: Logged |
Xodian Knowflake Posts: 551 From: Canada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted September 26, 2013 10:46 AM
quote: Originally posted by Venusian Moon: I take it that u never had rough sex before? Lol
Rough sex? Sure; When its consensual! And even then, its limited to being aggressive and taking a more stronger lead rather than being violent; And not going way too overboard. Given Beckylee's post, I doubt she gave him the green light to be the dominator. IP: Logged |
LovelyAries86 Knowflake Posts: 446 From: OH, USA Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 11:01 AM
quote: Originally posted by IrisRainbow: Isn't that obsession of authority what makes them so intriguing,anyway?Scorpios - at least the ones i've met - also have a very deep voice,kind of hair-raising when they say "You are mine."
YOU. ARE. MINE. Simply gives me the *tingles* all over just thinking about it. MMMmmm!! I that. However, reading the OP...I was somewhat alarmed. There is a fine line between passion & psychotic. Make sure that you aren't ignoring RED FLAGS. IP: Logged |
beckylee Knowflake Posts: 168 From: japan Registered: Jun 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 11:09 AM
Well, Xodian, I did let him dominate me in bed, but by not agreeing I think I showed him he does not possess my mind!It annoys me when someone makes decisions for me. I get all stubborn to just do the opposite. IP: Logged |
redshoes Knowflake Posts: 673 From: Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 26, 2013 11:16 AM
Scorpio people dont share....they want to be exclusiveMaybe a good thing to remember IP: Logged |
geea Knowflake Posts: 533 From: Registered: Jun 2011
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posted September 26, 2013 11:32 AM
quote: Originally posted by beckylee:
It annoys me when someone makes decisions for me. I get all stubborn to just do the opposite.
tell him that if he really likes you he will adjust IP: Logged |
Stawr Moderator Posts: 2541 From: N. America Registered: Nov 2010
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posted September 26, 2013 12:34 PM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: He sounds like an axe murderer. Kinda reminds me of that lifetime movie Devil's pond where Tara Reid cute love interest takes her to a deserted island for a romantic honeymoon in this shabby cottage. The twist is he refuses to let her go back... you can figure out the rest of the plot.Anyways.. don't go with him to a foreign country.. just be safe...
haha oh yeah I saw that one! and he wont let her see what he has in his locked box. IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 5652 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 12:52 PM
Look I've date a lot of rich people too and yeah they are very uhm generous with their wealth. I find it strange within two months he wants to take you on a vacation... I'm not saying you aren't special but that's just a lot of money, you would think with scorpios they would make sure they trust someone and that fact that he said that means he does not trust you and is suspicious.Secondly just because someone is rich and popular does not mean they are sane.. I don't care what you do in bed, that's between you two. but it just seems odd to me, unless he's like madly in love with you.. If that's the case than uh.. figure out what you want. The fact this thread exists shows you don't know what you want.. IP: Logged |
Kerosene Knowflake Posts: 5652 From: Mercury Registered: Dec 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 01:00 PM
quote: Originally posted by Stawr: haha oh yeah I saw that one! and he wont let her see what he has in his locked box.
LOL what was it? I never finish it... IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Knowflake Posts: 5539 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted September 26, 2013 01:36 PM
I'm annoyed he booked the tickets even though you clearly haven't decided and don't seem enthused to go. I don't get the vibe he's some creep from your sexual activities... it's sex. Things are said and done in the heat of the moment. The fact he is forcing you to be "coupley" with him is annoying. You're an Aries moon, so it's gotta drive you nuts on some level. I still wouldn't go on holiday with him even if he booked the tickets. You said no, and he should respect that... or he can pout about it and be out X amount of dollars on a wasted tickets. Don't go if you don't want to.IP: Logged |
vickymadness Knowflake Posts: 1233 From: Minnesota Registered: Jan 2012
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posted September 26, 2013 02:34 PM
It sounds to me most people here in LL are sexually frustrated. There's a fine line between hot-rough and violent-obsessive. Trust me, no one healthy would like the second. IP: Logged |