posted October 10, 2013 11:13 PM            

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Originally posted by Faith:
Not necessarily but often the two go hand in hand.

A mature person has learned how to let things roll off their backs. They have become less reactive and realized they can't please everyone, so comments don't sting as much. Mature people have things in perspective.

I consider myself somewhat mature, it's my prize for getting to 37 and figuring out how to endure hardship; insults definitely don't hurt the way they did when I was younger. Now, if someone insults me, I usually laugh to myself or secretly feel sorry for them...actually, I almost never *feel* insulted. I know who I am and what my issues are, comments from outsiders are basically irrelevant. The only exception is when someone I trust (or trusted) blindsides me and tries to take me down; but then the comment itself isn't the issue but my own anger at myself for not seeing it coming.

But anyway yeah, generally speaking, I consider myself thick-skinned. People can still annoy me, but I associate a thick skin with resilience against personal attacks. And while I might shoot back at someone for jabbing me, it usually comes from a desire to show someone more of myself so they understand exactly who or what they were criticizing...not from a feeling that I have to defend my honor or something.

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