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Lotis White
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posted October 17, 2013 05:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lotis White     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lavender CrystalSwan:
Mr. Virgo has his Desc in Pisces, Neptune trine Sun/Asc exact, with his Sun at the end of his 12th house.
Would these placements be strong enough for him to act/exude a Piscean type of energy? Because I can sure sense it lol.
He is very artistic, idealistic, dreamy, soft, sensitive, spiritual and compassionate, which makes me ~melt~ LOL.

But what I find interesting is that the Pisces guy is HEAVILY Piscean, with Sun, Mars & Saturn in Pisces, and Moon/Venus in the 12th house and the attraction I felt to him wasn't even as NEAR as what I feel towards Mr. Virgo and his impact on me.

But if I look to see how they each aspect my 12th house and my Secondary 12th house, it makes so much more sense as to why I admire Mr. Virgo guy's watery/Pisces traits more than the Pisces guy himself LOL.

[b]12H aspects with Mr. Virgo:
His Jupiter conjunct my 12H ruler & 12H planets (Moon/Mars)
His Saturn/Neptune opposite my 12H ruler & 12H planets
His Mercury square my 12H ruler
His Pluto trine my 12H ruler
His Sun/Asc sextile my 12H ruler exact

His Pluto in my Secondary 12H (IC)
His Pluto conjunct my Secondary 12H ruler
His Jupiter trine my Secondary 12H ruler
His Sun/Asc/Saturn sextile my Secondary 12H ruler

12H aspects with Pisces guy:
His Venus square my 12H ruler
His Mars/Saturn trine my 12H ruler

His Venus quincunx my Secondary 12H ruler
His Mars/Saturn trine my Secondary 12H ruler[/B]


Yeah, well it's not enough for a person to just have the right signs/symbolism in their chart for a major attraction to be generated. They need to make the right type of chemistry producing aspects with you as well. Otherwise, you might only vaguely like their style and that would be the end of it. Synastry is the IMPACT we have on somebody.

Also, I just wanted to point out that with the 12th house being your secondary 8th house, looking at the 12th house itself is really enough. Secondary houses are like echos of the original house. The first time a sound bounces it's the loudest and strongest. You can look at your secondary 12th house if you'd like to, but by then the echo may have become a bit weakened and stretched out.

Oh yeah, and I just thought of something. If your Virgo guy has Virgo rising, then his secondary 7th house is the 12th house... Virgo risers usually have Leo on the 12th house. In his case his secondary 7th house would then be Leo ruled by the Sun in Virgo, and you're a Virgo with Leo rising! That's good for his attraction to you.

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posted October 17, 2013 07:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lavender CrystalSwan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lotis White:

Saturn rules your 5th? I thought you had Sag on the 5th ruled by Jupiter in Scorpio (Lol, I remember charts better then names sometimes!).

Yes I do have Sag on my 5th with its ruler Jupiter in Scorpio, but its trine Saturn in Pisces which I think adds to me beings attracted to Piscean energy

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Hard aspects are like squeaky wheels, they make you stuff and fix something. They cause a big fuss.

Soft aspects are like the wheels that roll perfectly smoothy, and allow things to flow easily in our lives. We get to where we're going on time, and there's no big drama. Everything's fine.


I love how you put this!
Makes it so much more easier to grasp how their distinct natures function and are expressed, respectively.

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posted October 17, 2013 07:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lavender CrystalSwan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lotis White:
Yeah, well it's not enough for a person to just have the right signs/symbolism in their chart for a major attraction to be generated. They need to make the right type of chemistry producing aspects with you as well. Otherwise, you might only vaguely like their style and that would be the end of it. Synastry is the IMPACT we have on somebody.

Defintely true,
I got so caught up with the house-symbolism attraction that I forgot to take into account the rest of the synastry aspects as well

I feel though, that the house attraction is the basic "skeleton" or foundation of the attraction potential towards another...
If that's missing, then they most likely wouldn't even feel any of the the "chemistry producing" synastry aspects they share, or rather, they'll feel them on a more non-romantic level.

But if there ARE certain "juicy" aspects present in their synastry, along with the house symbolism, those aspects will be felt with much more intensity and depth, boosting their attraction to one another through the roof!!!

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Also, I just wanted to point out that with the 12th house being your secondary 8th house, looking at the 12th house itself is really enough. Secondary houses are like echos of the original house. The first time a sound bounces it's the loudest and strongest. You can look at your secondary 12th house if you'd like to, but by then the echo may have become a bit weakened and stretched out.

You're right, lol I guess I got a bit carried away there!
It makes sense that the farther you go from the original (secondary) house symbolism, the weaker its energies would be felt.
So it'd be a good idea then to look only at the primary houses and its secondaries for a more solid/clearer idea on which energies you are attracted to. The farther you go from there on, the more muddled up and confusing the picture would become.

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Originally posted by Lotis White:
Oh yeah, and I just thought of something. If your Virgo guy has Virgo rising, then his secondary 7th house is the 12th house... Virgo risers usually have Leo on the 12th house. In his case his secondary 7th house would then be Leo ruled by the Sun in Virgo, and you're a Virgo with Leo rising! That's good for his attraction to you.

Yes, great observation!

His 12th H ruler (Sun) is exactly conjunct my Sun and makes exact aspects to the rest of my 8-9° cluster of planets too lol

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posted October 17, 2013 07:55 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lavender CrystalSwan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted October 17, 2013 10:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lotis White     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lavender CrystalSwan:

Defintely true,
I got so caught up with the house-symbolism attraction that I forgot to take into account the rest of the synastry aspects as well

I feel though, that the house attraction is the basic "skeleton" or foundation of the attraction potential towards another...
If that's missing, then they most likely wouldn't even feel any of the the "chemistry producing" synastry aspects they share, or rather, they'll feel them on a more non-romantic level.

But if there ARE certain "juicy" aspects present in their synastry, along with the house symbolism, those aspects will be felt with much more intensity and depth, boosting their attraction to one another through the roof!!!


Heck girl! You should’ve read my old thread about why aspects like Venus/Mars and Sun/Moon and so on, sometimes work for attraction and other times don’t. It’s been my theory for a while that the difference between Venus/Mars (or some similar type of physical attraction aspect) being switched on romantically or just manifesting in a platonic way, is symbolism matches. When someone matches our ‘type’ as shown according to our chart, we’re more likely to interpret the synastry with them as romantic, then if they didn’t symbolically match our ‘type’.

Here’s the link if you’d like to read…
http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/216505.html
SYNASTRY OF ATTRACTION: WHY IT DOES OR DOESN’T WORK

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Originally posted by Lavender CrystalSwan:

His 12th H ruler (Sun) is exactly conjunct my Sun and makes exact aspects to the rest of my 8-9° cluster of planets too lol

No wonder you’re raving about him then. His Sun sextiles your 5th house ruler Jupiter, opposes your 7th house co-ruler Satrun, and sextiles your secondary 8th house ruler the Moon. On top of that you guys have Sun sextile Moon, and Mars sextile Sun in synastry… Both of which are attraction aspects. And the fact that you’re both in each others symbolism is a good sign for a mutual pull between you.

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posted October 17, 2013 11:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lotis White     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted October 18, 2013 02:16 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lavender CrystalSwan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lotis White,

Thanks for the link! ~ Very profound and enlightening!

Yes, that's what I have observed in my experiences too, I fully agree

With Pisces, I have Moon/Venus DW and a Venus/Mars DW but I am the one who felt the effects of it in a romantic sense, and that is so because he activated my romance houses.

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No wonder you’re raving about him then. His Sun sextiles your 5th house ruler Jupiter, opposes your 7th house co-ruler Satrun, and sextiles your secondary 8th house ruler the Moon. On top of that you guys have Sun sextile Moon, and Mars sextile Sun in synastry… Both of which are attraction aspects. And the fact that you’re both in each others symbolism is a good sign for a mutual pull between you.

LOL
I know

I've always wondered why I felt an affinity towards those who had placements touching my 8°-9° planetary cluster, long before I delved deeper into the house-attraction stuff.
All those who I resonated with on some level either had important planets/points aspecting them or they were on the mirror degrees (antiscia/contra-antiscia) of those placements.
And its interesting because the mirror degrees of my 8°-9° planets fall on the rest of my chart placements (20°-24°) which is another planetary cluster on its own!

Astrology never ceases to amaze me

He has more planets around those degrees too that are his relationship significators.
But I don't want to hijack/spam this thread by posting them all lol


Sorry Ceridwen for going a bit off topic here.

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posted October 18, 2013 04:26 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ceridwen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lavender CrystalSwan:

And its interesting because the mirror degrees of my 8°-9° planets fall on the rest of my chart placements (20°-24°) which is another planetary cluster on its own!

Mirrorpoints have VERY close orbs (1 degrees), as they really are points.

so 24° is too wide for a mirrordegree to 9°

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posted October 18, 2013 04:37 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lavender CrystalSwan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
Mirrorpoints have VERY close orbs (1 degrees), as they really are points.

so 24° is too wide for a mirrordegree to 9°


Oh, I thought they were like conjunctions/oppositions so you could use an orb up to 3 or even 4 degrees of orb.

But yes, I see what you mean.
Because they are points, it would make sense that the orb needs to be exact or near-exact as possible.

Ty for letting me know!

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posted November 07, 2013 09:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Doux Rêve     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted November 07, 2013 09:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah, bump!

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posted February 20, 2014 03:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Cz1l1     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Lotis White:
Well, you know all about my take on this, but I'll elaborate anyway for the sake of the thread :D.

The three traditionally 'romantic' houses are the 5th house (rules falling in love, romantic sparks, and courtship), the 7th house (marriage, affection, and the feeling we've found our long-term mate), and the 8th house (rules intimacy, the private bond, and how our lives become entwined with our partners emotionally, physically financially).

But in our charts we also have 'secondary' 5th, 7th, and 8th houses. These are the houses traditionally ruled by the signs on the cusp of our 5th, 7th, and 8th houses.

Using myself as an example, my 5th house cusp is Aries. Aries rules the 1st house. So my secondary 5th house is the 1st house. Synastry in the 1st house will have a 5th house echo/vibe to it for me, along with it's usual meaning.

My 7th house cusp is Gemini. Gemini rules the 3rd house. So my secondary 7th house is the 3rd house. Synastry in the 3rd house has a 7th house echo/vibe to it for me, along with it's usually meaning.

My 8th house cusp is Cancer. Cancer rules the 4th house. So my secondary 8th house is the 4th house. Synastry in the 4th house has a 8th house echo/vibe to it for me, along with it's usually meaning.

Apart from synastry analysis, the secondary 5th, 7th, and 8th houses can be used to elaborate on the qualities and traits we are attracted to.

I've noticed a similar phenomenon involving the 'secondary' houses of Venus for men, and Mars for women.

Here's what I mean...

If a girl has Mars in Gemini, she may find men who resemble the symbolism of her 3rd house (puts placements in her 3rd house) attractive because they bring her the communication she craves from the suitors in her life.

If a Man has Venus in Taurus, he may find women who resemble the symbolism his 2nd house (puts placements in his 2nd house) attractive because they bring him the security, and sense of worth, that he craves from the women in his life.

I've noticed this type of attraction seems to happen much more with the secondary houses of Venus and Mars, the those of the Sun and the Moon. Maybe that's because Venus and Mars are specifically more 'romantic' then the Sun and the Moon. Symbolically, Venus is the beautiful young women, while Mars is the dashing young man.

Another way I could see a house becoming 'romantic' is if the rulers of the 5th, 7th, or 8th houses fall into that house. For instance, if your 7th house ruler is in the 12th house, you might find 12th house situations 'romantic' so to speak.

I'm curious ceri, do you have anything more to add?



Hi Lotis,

You did a reading for me a few months ago (Mr Capricorn...) and I just found this post because it addresses a question I had about this very issue - the role of secondary houses.

I noticed that both my venus and mars in cancer and his venus in sag, dispose to the sign virgo in our respective charts. And, our mercuries are in trine - ruling 7th and 4th houses. Anyway, on the surface, nice connection. But i can see where there might be some difficulties - those houses are in opposite sides of the horizon. in fact, the houses themselves are in quincunx. Our relationship to the relationship, based on what those houses represent is different. For him, it's attraction, but for me, it's home, the bottom line. i noticed that in charts of some of his old flames (he shared them with me, so no hanky panky here), all of them had venusus that disposed to an 8th house virgo. What was that all about? Well, all of them shared a venus sextile mercury like his. And all of them had a scorpio mc - his scorpio moon is in the 10th house. The eighth house is ruled by scorpio. And mercury rules virgo. Anyone with Virgo in the 8th would certainly catch his attention. Just wanted to share that. secondary cusps rule!

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posted February 21, 2014 09:38 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for tgem     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Can secondary houses becoming romantic work for composites as well? Say in composite you have no planets in the 5th house. But Saturn is the ruler and you have jupiter in the 10th.

Also Saturn is ruler of the 5th, and it is located in 12th house Leo (the natural 5th house ruler.). So do these two secondary houses make for romance and/or children in the composite, even with no planets technically in the 5th?

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posted February 21, 2014 10:55 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I can tell you two houses that aren't romantic in synastry even if there's a romantic aspect concerning them. Third and ninth.

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posted February 21, 2014 10:57 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for I'm so cappy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What if they're secondary romance houses?

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posted February 21, 2014 11:15 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ceridwen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I can tell you two houses that aren't romantic in synastry even if there's a romantic aspect concerning them. Third and ninth.

I can`t agree with that completely (though in a general sense it is true of course). Even these houses can become romantic, if the houseruler of romantic houses are sitting here.


my friend`s 7th and 8th house ruler is in 3rd house, and granted her idea of romance might be different from other people, but there is no falling in lvoe for her witout talking, communicating, exchanging ideas.
She married a very intellectual man (before him all ther boyfriends had to wear glasses, too! lol), with Aqua-Mercury in 1st house, with his Moon and Mercury falling into her 9th house.
He`s exactly what she`s always been looking for.


Another friend of mine has ruler of 7th and 8th house in 10th house conjunct Sun in Aquarius.
She totally utterly fell in love with and practically immediately became committed to a man with Leo Sun (her 7th house ruler conj. Sun) conjunct Uranus (her 7th house ruler in Aquarius) and Saturn in 1st house, and ASC ruler in 10th house.

Granted it does not always work just as completely as this transfer.


But the 10th house usually is not seen as a very romantic house either, but for her it becomes exactly that.


For myself, the ruler of my 5th and 7th are in 1st house, the ruler of my 8th house is in my 2nd house.
I never seem to be attracted to guys who put personal planets into my 5th, 7th or even 8th house (there might be excpetions, but I can`t remember them right now).
However I am insanely attracted to guys (well maybe nto every single one. lol) who hav epersonal planets in my 1st and 2nd house.


I know that others rae more resonating with house overlays in their 5th, 7th or 8th house; for me personally the house the rulers are in take precedence, even though they might be considered unromantic on first glance.

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posted February 21, 2014 11:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Mars rules my seventh house and it still wasn't romantic in the third when in exact opposition to someone's Venus in the ninth. We were neighbors with a sister like relationship and it goes right along with what the third house is all about.

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posted February 21, 2014 11:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ellynlvx     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Guess if you are close to having the Natural Zodiac, it would just be doubly so?

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posted February 21, 2014 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ceridwen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Mars rules my seventh house and it still wasn't romantic in the third when in exact opposition to someone's Venus in the ninth. We were neighbors with a sister like relationship and it goes right along with what the third house is all about.

I don`t think this can be determined (if at all) from an isolated aspect.

As I said I am certianly not attracted to EVERY guy who put some personal planets into my 1st or 2nd house.

Usually they put something there AND are representing my "astrological type" and are of course having exact aspects to my houserulers.
It more and more seems to me, having only one of these conditions met is simply not enough
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It also depends on how the houserulers are interacting natally within the chart or the personal planets.

For me my houserulers fit my personal planets (because they ARE personal planets maybe) and there is no struggle there within.
My 7th house ruler is conjunct Sun in 1st house, and that is it. No squaring, no quinkunxing to anything.
Not even by sign.

But as I said, people are different, and other people might resonate more with houseoverlays.

And as always, the whole context of the chart has to be taken into consideration.


Do you have a Venus-Mars-aspect natally?

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posted February 21, 2014 11:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ceridwen     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ellynlvx:
Guess if you are close to having the Natural Zodiac, it would just be doubly so?

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posted February 21, 2014 11:52 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's fascinating because in both charts these two planets; Mars in mine, Venus in hers, are the only ones that are nearly unaspected except for a Pluto square. Our friendship could have been karmic in some way since my Pluto is in the twelfth. Her's is in the second.

However, her Mars trines my natal Venus, too. It's funny because we were just good friends and these planets are both in close aspect in our charts. However, my Venus is in the tenth and rules the first which isn't romantic imo.
Her Mars is in the fifth house and it has some nice aspects.

edit - oops I meant it's in the fourth house because Capricorn is on the cusp of the sixth. So it is a fourth or possibly third house Sagittarius Mars.
She told me her birth time once and I remember her being a double Leo and her sun is conjunct the ascendant and had just entered Leo when she was born. So I am going by memory and in my head, both, trying to picture the chart.

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posted February 21, 2014 01:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Chiemi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm SO glad this topic was brought up! Just recently I came across someone who I'm VERY attracted to and could very much see myself in a relationship with, but looking at my chart it would seem like he wouldn't catch my attention at all.


But...
My Dsc is Capricorn and my 10th house is ruled by Pisces and Aries takes up most of my 10th house.
And...
He has his Sun, Mercury, and Venus in my 10th in Aries (Mercury might be Pisces though)


My 7th house ruler is Saturn in the 9th house and he has his mars in Pisces in my 9th house.


His moon is also in Virgo which is the sign of my IC and Sun.


I do have a question though, I haven't read much good about having someone's Saturn in your 8th (his is in mine) but...

What if your 8th house ruler is Uranus in Capricorn (in 7th), wouldn't having someone's Saturn in 8th work positively for me based on my natal chart?

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posted February 21, 2014 05:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lotis White     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Ceridwen:
I can`t agree with that completely (though in a general sense it is true of course). Even these houses can become romantic, if the houseruler of romantic houses are sitting here.


my friend`s 7th and 8th house ruler is in 3rd house, and granted her idea of romance might be different from other people, but there is no falling in lvoe for her witout talking, communicating, exchanging ideas.
She married a very intellectual man (before him all ther boyfriends had to wear glasses, too! lol), with Aqua-Mercury in 1st house, with his Moon and Mercury falling into her 9th house.
He`s exactly what she`s always been looking for.


Another friend of mine has ruler of 7th and 8th house in 10th house conjunct Sun in Aquarius.
She totally utterly fell in love with and practically immediately became committed to a man with Leo Sun (her 7th house ruler conj. Sun) conjunct Uranus (her 7th house ruler in Aquarius) and Saturn in 1st house, and ASC ruler in 10th house.

Granted it does not always work just as completely as this transfer.


But the 10th house usually is not seen as a very romantic house either, but for her it becomes exactly that.


For myself, the ruler of my 5th and 7th are in 1st house, the ruler of my 8th house is in my 2nd house.
I never seem to be attracted to guys who put personal planets into my 5th, 7th or even 8th house (there might be excpetions, but I can`t remember them right now).
However I am insanely attracted to guys (well maybe nto every single one. lol) who hav epersonal planets in my 1st and 2nd house.


I know that others rae more resonating with house overlays in their 5th, 7th or 8th house; for me personally the house the rulers are in take precedence, even though they might be considered unromantic on first glance.


I couldn't agree more. Each person will respond differently to their attraction pattern depending on the setup of their natal chart, their personal circumstances, and even just who they happen to meet. The context of entire synastry with the other person, especially, needs to be taken into account. Some people are more attracted to their original 5th, 7th and 8th houses by planetary overlay, some people are more attracted to the signs of the rulers of these houses (like Ceri). Others are more attracted to their secondary 5th, 7th and 8th houses... This pattern can also vary from house to house. A particular person might be attracted to mainly their secondary 7th house, but also prefer the sign on the cusp of their 5th house, while being attracted to the sign ruled by a planet in their 8th house (liking Cancer, if Moon is in the 8th). When it comes to attraction patterns, each person is a snowflake in terms of how the respond to the setup of their own chart. A lot of this may have to do with how the signs on the 5th, 7th, and 8th houses can be aspected with in the context of the chart, and also how the rulers are aspected.

Personally, I've noticed that I'm very attracted to the sign of the ruler of my 7th house, and also the planet in my 7th house. My Dsc ruler is in Sagittarius, and Jupiter is in the 7th. I really love Sagittarius energy. More so then Gemini, which is the sign on my 7th house cusp. I can still be attracted to Gemini energy, but if I had to choose I think Sag would be my pick (in terms of the dominance of the sign in the partner's chart). I also quite like my secondary 7th house signs... Aquarius ruled by Uranus in Scorpio. With my 5th house I tend to really like the sign on the cusp of this house, Aries. With my 8th house, my 8th house ruler Moon is in the 8th house in Cancer, I'm quite drawn to Scorpio and Cancer Moons.

And it DEFINITELY takes more then one factor for a full attraction to develop. If a person had a planet conjunct my 7th house ruler, but they don't touch my attraction pattern in any other significant way, I might like them a bit but that's it.

However, if they had a planet conjunct my 7th house ruler, AND their Asc was in my secondary 7th house, AND they had three planets in my 5th house, AND their Moon trining was my 8th house ruler, AND they are of the opposite sex, then a full attraction is MUCH more likely to develop.

It's best if the other person hits each of the 5th, 7th, and 8th houses in some way. There are a variety of ways to do that though. A partner can aspect the ruler of these houses (especially by conjunction), they can put planets in these houses, or they can have the symbolism (planets and signs) associated with one or more of these houses strong in their chart (for example, a Gemini Dsc could be attracted to a strong Mercury, 3rd house, or Gemini emphasis in the partner's natal chart). The same methods of analysis apply to the secondary version of each of these houses. The are many, many ways for individuals to connect with each of the 5th, 7th, and 8th houses.

Which brings me back to my original point... Each person responds the their attraction pattern in a unique way. So how we respond to a particular synastry will depend on how we have prioritized different parts of our attraction pattern within our own psyche.

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posted February 21, 2014 05:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lotis White     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Chiemi:
I'm SO glad this topic was brought up! Just recently I came across someone who I'm VERY attracted to and could very much see myself in a relationship with, but looking at my chart it would seem like he wouldn't catch my attention at all.


But...
My Dsc is Capricorn and my 10th house is ruled by Pisces and Aries takes up most of my 10th house.
And...
He has his Sun, Mercury, and Venus in my 10th in Aries (Mercury might be Pisces though)


My 7th house ruler is Saturn in the 9th house and he has his mars in Pisces in my 9th house.


His moon is also in Virgo which is the sign of my IC and Sun.


I do have a question though, I haven't read much good about having someone's Saturn in your 8th (his is in mine) but...

What if your 8th house ruler is Uranus in Capricorn (in 7th), wouldn't having someone's Saturn in 8th work positively for me based on my natal chart?


Sounds good.

Have you heard of PROJECTED HOUSE RULERS (Ceri started a thread on this a while back). That's he theory that if we have Leo on the 5th, 7th, or 8th houses, that we also appreciate a partner's Sun aspecting our chart, regardless of the Sun's actual sign. That is, we enjoy aspects from our partner's Sun because we are looking for the type of energy in a relationship.

I think it's possible to take that theory a step further. If your love interest has Aquarius on the 8th house cusp, by the projected house rulers theory, they would enjoy experiencing their partner's Uranus and Saturn (the co-ruler of Aquarius) in synastry. Added to that, if Uranus is in Capricorn, this would add an emphasis to liking the experience of Saturn in this context.

Using my own example, I have Aries on the 5th house ruled by Mars in Leo. This indicates that I'd like to feel a love interest's Mars in synastry. With Mars in Leo, this could add a liking to aspects from a love interest's Sun as well. Mars and Sun synastry to me from a love interest's chart would likely attract me in a 5th house type of way.

Now that I think about it, this actually seems to fit. There are all kinds of ways a person can reflect back to us parts of our attraction pattern.

Here's the link to the PROJECTED HOUSE RULERS thread if you're interested. http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/219108.html

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posted February 22, 2014 12:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for vickymadness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It's related to your own preferences. For example, my Venus is in Taurus, DSC ruler in 2H. His stellium falls in my 2H. His Venus is in Aries in 11H, Uranus on the DSC, DSC ruler in Aquarius. My moon and mars conjunct his ASC ( for the aries Venus) and my sun/mercury fall in his 11H.

He also has Neptune in his 7H, Neptune trine moon, and we share 12H synastry.

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