posted October 19, 2013 12:34 PM            

I was wondering if compatible moon signs are the most important factor to keep relationships together for the long haul.
My partner and I have conjuct suns and ascendants ( leo and virgo)whilst my moon is taurus (14:10) and his is gemini (2:10). Most of the information online heavily stresses on compatibility in the moon signs so this aspect worries me?

I really respect my mate and even though he is gemini moon he hasn't shown signs of disrespect towards the relationship.

Anyone with experience of making it work with incompatible moon signs?

What aspects strengthens a relationship if moons don't match?

posted October 19, 2013 01:15 PM            

My brother`s Moon is in Sagittarius cojunct Jupiter and Uranusa nd square Sun, his gf`s Moon is in Virgo, opposite Sun

While their difference between her more pragmatic Virgo-Moon and his very idealistic Sag - Moon are very obvious, they also love each other to bits (though are discussng, debating, nagging and teasing each other a lot, but it just shows their trust in each other and thehir bond to be able to show their unpleasant sides as well),

they do have some very nice aspects to balance it:

Her Sun falls onto his ASC, and her Moon falls onto his DESC.

(Her Mercury on his Mars in ARies probably are rather the sign for their teasing and verbal sparring).

They are both Pisces, though Suns do not conjunct each other

his Moon-Jupiter-Uranus conjuncts her SN

his Vertex conjunct her MOon and his Antivertex conjunct her Sun

his Venus - Mars conjunct her Antivertex.

I think especially her Sun-Moon-opposition being placed so prominently in his chart, and his MOon on her SN indicates the emotional bonding that is there, despite incompatible Moons.

BTW they have been together for 7 years now, which I find to be a pretty long time seeing they have been together since their early 20`s (and my brother never even wanted a girlfriend to begin with. lol)

posted October 19, 2013 01:26 PM            

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Ceridwen:Moon are very obvious,they also love each other to bits

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posted October 19, 2013 01:27 PM            

Both of us have pisces descendant and virgo ascendant with a very heavy 12th house with both our suns, mercury and venus falling in that house. In a way we are private people and our relationship though isin't very private, we feel it cocoons us in a way.

We've dealt with the 12 th house while young- it's difficult but communication is helping us address any misunderstandings.

We also have a venus square pluto( mine natally and in composite)

Given all these red flags I was looking at our moons to see whether it affects the realtionship as well.

I'll try putting our natal charts if it interests anyone to guide me further?

posted October 19, 2013 01:32 PM            

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Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
[QUOTE][b]Ceridwen:Moon are very obvious,they also love each other to bits

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Moons in aspect are so sweet. You just can't stop doting on them, even when things go pragmatically bad - one simply internalises the emotions from that moment on - they'll live on in one's imagination So pulling, gentle yet constant tidal emos... Maybe Moon is the indicator no.1 for magnetism, synastrically (I don't know if this is a legit word...) [/B][/QUOTE]

I agree with you.
However in this instance there is no aspect between their Moons.

But even if Moon is in aspect to some other personal planet, it shows. (ideally both Moons should have nice and strong aspects to personal planets or ASC or IC).

Actually the only couple I know with Moon aspects is my best friend and her husband. They have Moons exactly sextile; it is funny how his Moon conjuncts mine, and he as pretty much the only partner she had who wasn`t weirded out by me at first.lol As a matter of fact we met first and got along just great because we vibed with each others weirdness. She couldn`t have gotten a better husband, and it is true they will do basically anything for each other. It is just so sweet.

posted October 19, 2013 01:35 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I will be honest, I did a lot of searching and had trouble finding examples of lasting celebrity marriages with poorly-matched moons. So this does not bode well imo.

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I know what you mean.

It also struck me how much of a pattern at least compatible Moon signs seem to be (even if not in aspect).

However in the cases you mentioned I am rpetty sure there will come up something like Sun or Moon on DESC/ASC, even conjunct the nodal axis, Venus or Jupiter. Something of the good stuff.

Also progressed Moons might at least temporarily play a role.

posted October 19, 2013 01:37 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
Oh, Jennifer Garner has a Gemini moon to Ben Affleck's Scorpio moon, so there's a fourth example.

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posted October 19, 2013 01:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
I will be honest, I did a lot of searching and had trouble finding examples of lasting celebrity marriages with poorly-matched moons. So this does not bode well imo.

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Portia and Ellen? Are they still together? I know both Tom Hanks and his wife Rita have conjuct moons in leo sigh.. If only some were that lucky

posted October 19, 2013 01:48 PM            

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Originally posted by Felis Leo:
Portia and Ellen? Are they still together? I know both Tom Hanks and his wife Rita have conjuct moons in leo sigh.. If only some were that lucky

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posted October 19, 2013 02:12 PM            

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Originally posted by Aquacheeka:
Ozzy and Sharon and Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale have moon opposed moon and Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick have moon sq. moon, so there's a few more I guess (shrugs).

I guess compatible or neighbouring sun signs help.

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If the girl has her moon a sign after the boy's moon then the relationship suffers - read it somewhere on sidereal astrology.

Moons do helps partners be intuitive to the others emotional needs, however if both have saturn trine their moon it means they know how to express that need helps perhaps if mercury is favourable between both the charts.

In the long run a relationship is based on communication of ones emotional needs. Having favourable moons to mercury is a huge help. I don't know whether incompatible moons but compatible saturn and mercury aspects help foster long term prospects?

posted October 19, 2013 04:14 PM            

Okay, so your Moons are in next-door signs (Taurus/Gemini). They're not grossly incompatible by any means (like a square or opposition). Their just different.

Also, it's the DEGREES between the Moons that matter, more then the signs.

Moon at 2 Capricorn compared to Moon at 27 Libra, is nowhere near as bad as Moon at 2 Capricorn compared to Moon at 2 Libra.

And, if two people don’t have Moon/Moon aspects in synastry, then Moon to personal planets can make up for this. Not every lasting couple in the world has tight Moon/Moon trines and sextiles. Moon/Sun, Moon/Asc, Moon/Mercury, Moon/Venus, Moon/Mars, and even Moon/Jupiter can help make up for a lack of tight Moon/Moon aspects.

I just remembered one celeb couple who had a really long marriage that had next-door Moon signs. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward! He’s was Aqua with Pisces Moon, She’s a Pisces with Aqua Moon. They’re like reverses of each other, but they DON’T have Moon/Moon.

If you and your partner both share the same Asc and Sun signs, this in itself is already a lot of similarity in your outlooks.

posted October 19, 2013 04:51 PM            

Here is a synastry chart: