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Topic: incompatible moon signs yet successful relationship?
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Felis Leo Knowflake Posts: 33 From: London Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 12:34 PM
Hey Knowflakes, I was wondering if compatible moon signs are the most important factor to keep relationships together for the long haul. My partner and I have conjuct suns and ascendants ( leo and virgo)whilst my moon is taurus (14:10) and his is gemini (2:10). Most of the information online heavily stresses on compatibility in the moon signs so this aspect worries me? I really respect my mate and even though he is gemini moon he hasn't shown signs of disrespect towards the relationship. Anyone with experience of making it work with incompatible moon signs? What aspects strengthens a relationship if moons don't match? ------------------ “Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” George Orwell, 1984 IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 5075 From: Registered: Aug 2010
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posted October 19, 2013 12:38 PM
Knowflakes say that Saturn is the glue. If the Moon energy is so important to you, check out IC ruler. IP: Logged |
Felis Leo Knowflake Posts: 33 From: London Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 12:44 PM
Thanks! I'll have a look:) IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 9081 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 19, 2013 01:15 PM
It`s a tremendous help to have compatible Moon signs, however there are relationship that lasts without them, but they have something else to make up for it.My brother`s Moon is in Sagittarius cojunct Jupiter and Uranusa nd square Sun, his gf`s Moon is in Virgo, opposite Sun While their difference between her more pragmatic Virgo-Moon and his very idealistic Sag - Moon are very obvious, they also love each other to bits (though are discussng, debating, nagging and teasing each other a lot, but it just shows their trust in each other and thehir bond to be able to show their unpleasant sides as well),
they do have some very nice aspects to balance it: Her Sun falls onto his ASC, and her Moon falls onto his DESC. (Her Mercury on his Mars in ARies probably are rather the sign for their teasing and verbal sparring). They are both Pisces, though Suns do not conjunct each other
his Moon-Jupiter-Uranus conjuncts her SN his Vertex conjunct her MOon and his Antivertex conjunct her Sun his Venus - Mars conjunct her Antivertex. I think especially her Sun-Moon-opposition being placed so prominently in his chart, and his MOon on her SN indicates the emotional bonding that is there, despite incompatible Moons. BTW they have been together for 7 years now, which I find to be a pretty long time seeing they have been together since their early 20`s (and my brother never even wanted a girlfriend to begin with. lol) IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 9081 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 19, 2013 01:16 PM
I also agree on the importance of IC-rulers. Definitely check them out.IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 5075 From: Registered: Aug 2010
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posted October 19, 2013 01:26 PM
quote: Ceridwen:Moon are very obvious,they also love each other to bits
Moons in aspect are so sweet. You just can't stop doting on them, even when things go pragmatically bad - one simply internalises the emotions from that moment on - they'll live on in one's imagination So pulling, gentle yet constant tidal emos... Maybe Moon is the indicator no.1 for magnetism, synastrically (I don't know if this is a legit word...) IP: Logged |
Felis Leo Knowflake Posts: 33 From: London Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 01:27 PM
That is very encouraging to know! The vedic system has given us a 0 on 7 ( kuta system calculation) but we both feel responsible for each other. Both of us have pisces descendant and virgo ascendant with a very heavy 12th house with both our suns, mercury and venus falling in that house. In a way we are private people and our relationship though isin't very private, we feel it cocoons us in a way. We've dealt with the 12 th house while young- it's difficult but communication is helping us address any misunderstandings. We also have a venus square pluto( mine natally and in composite) Given all these red flags I was looking at our moons to see whether it affects the realtionship as well. I'll try putting our natal charts if it interests anyone to guide me further?
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Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2833 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 01:29 PM
Paul and Linda McCartney, Oprah and Stedman, John Travolta and Kelly Preston... those are the only ones I can think of at the moment that are famous examples of lasting couples with ill-matched moons.IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2833 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 01:30 PM
Oh, Jennifer Garner has a Gemini moon to Ben Affleck's Scorpio moon, so there's a fourth example.IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2833 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 01:32 PM
I will be honest, I did a lot of searching and had trouble finding examples of lasting celebrity marriages with poorly-matched moons. So this does not bode well imo.IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 9081 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 19, 2013 01:32 PM
quote: Originally posted by VenusDiSirius: [QUOTE][b]Ceridwen:Moon are very obvious,they also love each other to bits
Moons in aspect are so sweet. You just can't stop doting on them, even when things go pragmatically bad - one simply internalises the emotions from that moment on - they'll live on in one's imagination So pulling, gentle yet constant tidal emos... Maybe Moon is the indicator no.1 for magnetism, synastrically (I don't know if this is a legit word...) [/B][/QUOTE] I agree with you. However in this instance there is no aspect between their Moons.
But even if Moon is in aspect to some other personal planet, it shows. (ideally both Moons should have nice and strong aspects to personal planets or ASC or IC). Actually the only couple I know with Moon aspects is my best friend and her husband. They have Moons exactly sextile; it is funny how his Moon conjuncts mine, and he as pretty much the only partner she had who wasn`t weirded out by me at first.lol As a matter of fact we met first and got along just great because we vibed with each others weirdness. She couldn`t have gotten a better husband, and it is true they will do basically anything for each other. It is just so sweet. (they also have his Sun and ASC conjunct her DESC, and his Jupiter on her Moon exactly).
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Ceridwen Knowflake Posts: 9081 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 19, 2013 01:35 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aquacheeka: I will be honest, I did a lot of searching and had trouble finding examples of lasting celebrity marriages with poorly-matched moons. So this does not bode well imo.
I know what you mean. It also struck me how much of a pattern at least compatible Moon signs seem to be (even if not in aspect). However in the cases you mentioned I am rpetty sure there will come up something like Sun or Moon on DESC/ASC, even conjunct the nodal axis, Venus or Jupiter. Something of the good stuff. Also progressed Moons might at least temporarily play a role.
I feel I am much more tolerant of water Moons since my Moon progressed into Cancer, even though My Aqua-Moon in natal sometimes complains about the murky, swampiness it has been plunged into. lol IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 5075 From: Registered: Aug 2010
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posted October 19, 2013 01:37 PM
^ Jupiter and Moon as well? That's a basket full of goodies. quote: Originally posted by Aquacheeka: Oh, Jennifer Garner has a Gemini moon to Ben Affleck's Scorpio moon, so there's a fourth example.
OTOH, Suns in quincunx are so fetching - I know so many Leo - Cap couples, for example. IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2833 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 01:39 PM
Ceridwen, what do you think of neighbouring moons? I found several of those couples when I did my search.IP: Logged |
Felis Leo Knowflake Posts: 33 From: London Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 01:42 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aquacheeka: I will be honest, I did a lot of searching and had trouble finding examples of lasting celebrity marriages with poorly-matched moons. So this does not bode well imo.
Portia and Ellen? Are they still together? I know both Tom Hanks and his wife Rita have conjuct moons in leo sigh.. If only some were that lucky ------------------ “Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” George Orwell, 1984 IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2833 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 01:48 PM
quote: Originally posted by Felis Leo: Portia and Ellen? Are they still together? I know both Tom Hanks and his wife Rita have conjuct moons in leo sigh.. If only some were that lucky
They are and their moon signs are trine  IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2833 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 01:49 PM
Felis Leo, I met a boy (yes boy, he was 6 years younger than me and I'm under 30 lol) who had the same moon sign as me, I felt an instant connection but being in a relationship obviously did not pursue it. And it's just as well I didn't (even if I had been single), I peeked at our synastry and there was NO Saturn. Probably why were two ships that passed in the night in the first place  IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2833 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 02:00 PM
Ozzy and Sharon and Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale have moon opposed moon and Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick have moon sq. moon, so there's a few more I guess (shrugs). I guess compatible or neighbouring sun signs help.
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VenusDiSirius Knowflake Posts: 5075 From: Registered: Aug 2010
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posted October 19, 2013 02:08 PM
Katherine Hepburn - Spencer Tracy, late lunar Taurus vs Gemini. IP: Logged |
Felis Leo Knowflake Posts: 33 From: London Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 02:12 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aquacheeka: Ozzy and Sharon and Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale have moon opposed moon and Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick have moon sq. moon, so there's a few more I guess (shrugs). I guess compatible or neighbouring sun signs help.
If the girl has her moon a sign after the boy's moon then the relationship suffers - read it somewhere on sidereal astrology.
Moons do helps partners be intuitive to the others emotional needs, however if both have saturn trine their moon it means they know how to express that need helps perhaps if mercury is favourable between both the charts. In the long run a relationship is based on communication of ones emotional needs. Having favourable moons to mercury is a huge help. I don't know whether incompatible moons but compatible saturn and mercury aspects help foster long term prospects? ------------------ “Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” George Orwell, 1984 IP: Logged |
Aquacheeka Knowflake Posts: 2833 From: Toronto Registered: Mar 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 02:19 PM
Perhaps. To be honest, this has been a very dispiriting exercise lol. The vast, vast majority of celebrity couples together more than 10 years have compatible moon signs (often trine or conjunct).Pink and Carey Hart don't but then she's written at length about their relationship troubles. It's not enough that they stick together, I want to look at the couples who seem happy. IP: Logged |
Lotis White Knowflake Posts: 1286 From: USA Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 19, 2013 04:14 PM
Hi Felis,Okay, so your Moons are in next-door signs (Taurus/Gemini). They're not grossly incompatible by any means (like a square or opposition). Their just different. Also, it's the DEGREES between the Moons that matter, more then the signs. Moon at 2 Capricorn compared to Moon at 27 Libra, is nowhere near as bad as Moon at 2 Capricorn compared to Moon at 2 Libra. And, if two people don’t have Moon/Moon aspects in synastry, then Moon to personal planets can make up for this. Not every lasting couple in the world has tight Moon/Moon trines and sextiles. Moon/Sun, Moon/Asc, Moon/Mercury, Moon/Venus, Moon/Mars, and even Moon/Jupiter can help make up for a lack of tight Moon/Moon aspects. I just remembered one celeb couple who had a really long marriage that had next-door Moon signs. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward! He’s was Aqua with Pisces Moon, She’s a Pisces with Aqua Moon. They’re like reverses of each other, but they DON’T have Moon/Moon. If you and your partner both share the same Asc and Sun signs, this in itself is already a lot of similarity in your outlooks. If you’d like you can post your synastry and we could all have a peek at the details.
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Felis Leo Knowflake Posts: 33 From: London Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 04:49 PM
Does exalted moon help?------------------ “Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” George Orwell, 1984 IP: Logged |
Felis Leo Knowflake Posts: 33 From: London Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 04:51 PM
Hi Lois WhiteHere is a synastry chart: ------------------ “Perhaps one did not want to be loved so much as to be understood.” George Orwell, 1984
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Felis Leo Knowflake Posts: 33 From: London Registered: Feb 2012
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posted October 19, 2013 04:52 PM
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