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Topic: No casual sex
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I'm so cappy
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From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 10:41 AM
  
You mean they don't mind talking about sex or having casual sex?------------------
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Lavender CrystalSwan
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From: Canada
Registered: Sep 2013
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posted November 07, 2013 11:00 AM
I'm like that.
Not into casual sex at all.
I see it as something very sacred to be shared only with the love of your life, and NO one else.  Sure, I can find others physically attractive and all but that doesn't mean I have any desire to actually get involved with them sexually.
The thought of it just sickens & repels me.
I need security and a deeper, more spiritual and empathic/emotional connection.
The attraction/bond needs to be there for me on ALL levels to ever even consider becoming intimate with someone, or its a no go.  Virgo Sun opposite Saturn
Cancer Moon & Mars in the 12th trine Saturn
Pisces on the 8th house cusp
Desc co-ruler: Saturn in Pisces in the 8th
5th house ruler: Jupiter in Scorpio in the 4th
Placements of someone I know who's like this too:
Virgo Sun/Asc trine Saturn
Virgo Moon & Mars
Sun/Asc sextile Pluto
Capricorn on the 5th house cusp
5th house ruler: Saturn in Capricorn in the 5th
Desc ruler: Neptune in Capricorn
Desc co-ruler: Jupiter in Cancer IP: Logged |
LovelyAries86
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From: OH, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 11:10 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
"Anything involving Capricorn!" Which I've personally found to be true but… whenever I see Capricorn Suns they are definitely not reserved about sex, so I don't understand…
I've also noticed that. Some Cap Suns - the males - are into casual sex, especially in youth. But many of them grow OUT of that! I have a male cousin of mine who was a GIANT manwhore but he recently met the love of his life, got married, and found Jeezus!! His mindset is completely transformed and he now sees how *silly* casual sex really is. IP: Logged |
tgem
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posted November 07, 2013 11:34 AM
I would say heavy pisces people also cap on the 8th house cusp...That's me anyway...cannot do casual sex...just can't. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted November 07, 2013 11:37 AM
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Originally posted by Lotis White:
I'm a Capricorn with Moon in Cancer, and Venus in Sagittarius (but Venus is trine Saturn). This is the way I feel. I like security.
Similar here: Cap sun, Sag Venus trine Saturn, Pisces moon. I never had casual sex. Also, I have Mars opposing Neptune, in a t-square with my moon. IP: Logged |
Faith
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posted November 07, 2013 11:47 AM
quote:
Originally posted by hannaramaa:
"Anything involving Capricorn!" Which I've personally found to be true but… whenever I see Capricorn Suns they are definitely not reserved about sex, so I don't understand…
Capricorn is a sex sign just like Scorpio and, like Scorpio, we are just very particular about things being on terms that feel right to us. My guess is, the Caps who have casual sex are probably much more particular about who they are doing it with, and why, than some other signs would be. IP: Logged |
LovelyAries86
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From: OH, USA
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posted November 07, 2013 12:08 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
Capricorn is a sex sign just like Scorpio and, like Scorpio, we are just very particular about things being on terms that feel right to us.
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NeptunianSag
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From: Your imagination
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 07, 2013 06:51 PM
Mars in cancer, Venus in aqua if there is no emotional or intellectual relationship then I just cannot. It's the fixed aqua that makes me stubborn/slow and cancer mars that I need to feel safe and secure before something special.IP: Logged |
12muddy
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posted November 07, 2013 06:59 PM
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Originally posted by Faith:
we are just very particular about things being on terms that feel right to us.
Yeah. And often the "waiting time" for the people who make us "feel right" is quite long lol IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 3211
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 07:00 PM
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I'm sooo happy! I mean, cappy. IP: Logged |
PixieJane
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posted November 07, 2013 08:10 PM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
Odette, what about good old "sexuals" who choose celibacy over bunga bunga because they realize that's what's best for them?  This is actually what I had on my mind when I made this thread.
This is a different question than what you started with. I could not answer your original question because I'm not against casual sex and in my experimental years I dabbled in it, mostly out of curiosity. However this new question you posted as "what you really meant" is different enough that I can post on it. (That said, celibacy means NO sex, not even with someone special, but I'm putting this revision in context by your original post.) My 5H Sag placements (including Eros) makes casual sex okay to me as I don't see it as that sacred. (Hmm...I was interested in doing the Wiccan Great Rite as a one time thing and mildly regret that I probably never will, and that would be sacred sex for me.) But my airy 3H Libra placements find much more fascinating ways to focus my attention and sex often leads to awkwardness & drama and therefore generally not worth it (which my Libra would not like) so I finally phased that out of my life. While not celibate I'm not the least bit casual about it either. And if the relationship I'm in now ever ends I could see being celibate the rest of my life (it actually took some convincing to enter into the relationship I'm in now prepared for literal celibacy already). IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 3211
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
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posted November 07, 2013 08:12 PM
By bunga bunga I meant casual sex...Ehhh.------------------
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PixieJane
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posted November 07, 2013 08:15 PM
I know what you meant by "bunga bunga." Celibacy doesn't mean "saving yourself for your soul flame" or whatever, that would be abstinence. IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 3211
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 08:20 PM
Ok, one more try.
I consider my reluctance to casual sex a natural tendency. I've always been like that. I used to be religious but I'm not anymore. I also don't care whether others would accept it or not. It's just not my style.
And yeah, I used the wrong word :/------------------
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StarlightSmileSupreme
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From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 08:21 PM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I know what you meant by "bunga bunga." Celibacy doesn't mean "saving yourself for your soul flame" or whatever, that would be abstinence.
That's true. Celibacy, I guess, is lifelong :IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 3211
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 08:22 PM
I suppose I can call myself celibate since I've never had sex and I might never do it. Or not?------------------
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StarlightSmileSupreme
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From: neptune
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posted November 07, 2013 08:23 PM
I guess, technically, I am abstinent. IP: Logged |
MsPrism
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posted November 07, 2013 08:24 PM
I thought there was a time when you were going on and on about having sex since you hadn't yet?  IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 3211
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 08:25 PM
Yeah, I talk here about sex sometimes, so?------------------
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PixieJane
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From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 07, 2013 08:28 PM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I suppose I can call myself celibate since I've never had sex and I might never do it. Or not?
Celibacy is typically thought of as a vow. Until you actually resolve, perhaps even formally vow, to never have sex then you aren't truly celibate, you just simply haven't met the right person yet. Those who swear themselves to celibacy often wrestle with temptation and part of the admiration is that they win over it...if you're not tempted or inclined to have sex anyway then that's not true resolve, that's just being true to your nature. A choice to be celibate often means overcoming your own nature rather than living according to it. And contrary to some religious views there are more choices and conditions outside of marriage than "virgin" or "***** ." IP: Logged |
MsPrism
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posted November 07, 2013 08:28 PM
Never mind then. I guess you're switching off and on about it.Great job, Pixie. Simply in reference to being abstinent: I was watching a youtube video by a woman that decided not to have sex anymore until she was in a committed relationship. Sadly, her story was about a guy she had a great friendship with, they would talk for hours and really seemed to connect. The instant she told him she was abstinent, he completely changed.  It made me sad for her. IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 3211
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 08:29 PM
Prism, what is unclear to you?Pixie, you won  I'm don't rule out the possibility of having sex in the future if certain conditions are met. ------------------
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 3211
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 08:36 PM
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The instant she told him she was abstinent, he completely changed. It made me sad for her.
Ouch...
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StarlightSmileSupreme
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From: neptune
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 08:48 PM
Oh well, if he's going to be that shallow it's his loss. That's not a very good thing to change feelings about another person over imo. If you really like someone you like someone regardless of whether they are abstinent or not.IP: Logged |
Krista_Kay_1993
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From: St. Paul, Mn, USA
Registered: Oct 2012
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posted November 07, 2013 09:24 PM
I can't do casual sex i have Venus in lovely cancer trine pluto in scorpio
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