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Topic: People Who Can't Let Go?
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swampys
Knowflake Posts: 621
From: St. Louis, Missouri, USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 01:22 AM
  
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Originally posted by 12muddy:
Swampys: I'm sorry I don't know. The whole situation sounds quite unusual to me so I don't know what to make of it. He could be dealing with his own issues. Do you have any other way to contact him, other than blogs?
We used to chat via IM all the time but on AIM it says he doesn't take messages while offline and he's never online. Also, I kind of stated the possible AIM issue a couple minutes ago.  I miss him so badly. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4437
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 01:40 AM
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Originally posted by swampys:
I tried sending him messages on AIM but he's not online. Plus I updated my computer to Mavericks and all I had before that was iChat and I haven't even had the chance to see if AIM even works, and I've also been paranoid if it's just not working and he's been thinking that I'm ignoring him!  I have Google Analytics for my blog and I've been checking to see if he's viewed my blog. It used to be everyday, but lately it's been about every THREE DAYS! It's killing me and very draining because I don't want him to forget me. :'( If messaging him was an option, I'd message him my little heart out, trust me!
Do you have his email? Is it possible to send him an email?
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swampys
Knowflake Posts: 621
From: St. Louis, Missouri, USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 01:41 AM
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
Do you have his email?Is it possible to send him an email?
No. He never gave me his email. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4437
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 01:44 AM
Okay, then he has made it almost impossible for you to contact him.Fact: He knows it and wants to be alone. Don't try to contact him or send him offline messages. IP: Logged |
swampys
Knowflake Posts: 621
From: St. Louis, Missouri, USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 01:46 AM
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
Okay, then he has made it almost impossible for you to contact him.Fact: He knows it and wants to be alone. Don't try to contact him or send him offline messages.
But I can't let go!  That was the whole point of this post.
BTW, that's not a fact. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4437
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 02:36 AM
Well it is to me, since you used to talk to him only via IM. If he modified his settings so as not to receive offline messages and if he is never online, and if he has never given you his email address, it is a fact that he doesn't want to communicate with you, at least for the time being. He has made it such a way that he is the one who decide when to open the channel of communication between you two.I bet if he wants to find you, he'll do it in a jiffy.IP: Logged |
swampys
Knowflake Posts: 621
From: St. Louis, Missouri, USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 02:52 AM
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
Well it is to me, since you used to talk to him only via IM. If he modified his settings so as not to receive offline messages and if he is never online, and if he has never given you his email address, it is a fact that he doesn't want to communicate with you, at least for the time being. He has made it such a way that he is the one who decide when to open the channel of communication between you two.I bet if he wants to find you, he'll do it in a jiffy.
Ow, you're hurting me! But actually I didn't get AIM until about a week ago, and before that I just used iChat, and it never told me his settings on iChat, so it might have always been that way. We were also talking via tumblr but he deleted his blog, and since looking for his blog it doesn't seem like he's made a new one. And I think he makes a new one right away, too. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
Moderator Posts: 4437
From: Saturn
Registered: Sep 2012
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posted December 05, 2013 09:22 AM
Sorry, that wasn't my intention.Give him time swampys. I hope things work out for the best for you. IP: Logged |
swampys
Knowflake Posts: 621
From: St. Louis, Missouri, USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted December 05, 2013 01:05 PM
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Originally posted by Jessica2407:
Sorry, that wasn't my intention.Give him time swampys. I hope things work out for the best for you.
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theunknown
Knowflake Posts: 193
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 05, 2013 05:37 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Oh no..
Capricorn Moon remembers everything that has ever happened - their entire lives.
I am testimony to that lolBut actually they can 'let go' in the sense of moving past the situation ... but they still don't forget.
Yup yup yup! Cappy people move on, but they never let go. Trust me, they are the type who forgive but never forget because they do not want to make the same mistakes again. They dwell on the past for a very long time, they just don't show it. @swampys: what are his other placements? IP: Logged |
next to neptune
Knowflake Posts: 570
From: Mercury
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 06, 2013 04:12 AM
My best capricorn friend with capricorn moon and cancer mars is totally unable to let go of her old virgo ex-boyfriend… this is just the perfect example.
She says that it's because "he gives her safety"
but I know that it's not the only reason, she actually just seems to see him in the same light as always, no matter how stupid he is, she just likes him like always…capricorns are the most loyal people, but in this situation it's not a good thing!I'm a virgo girl with huge cancer and capricorn influence, and I can never let go either, I might move on at some point, but not really deep inside, the feelings are still there, messing everything up at some point when I want to move on…and I'm still single, 24 and it probably won't ever change lol
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swampys
Knowflake Posts: 621
From: St. Louis, Missouri, USA
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted December 06, 2013 04:16 AM
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Originally posted by next to neptune:
My best capricorn friend with capricorn moon and cancer mars is totally unable to let go of her old virgo ex-boyfriend… this is just the perfect example.
She says that it's because "he gives her safety"
but I know that it's not the only reason, she actually just seems to see him in the same light as always, no matter how stupid he is, she just likes him like always…capricorns are the most loyal people, but in this situation it's not a good thing!I'm a virgo girl with huge cancer and capricorn influence, and I can never let go either, I might move on at some point, but not really deep inside, the feelings are still there, messing everything up at some point when I want to move on…and I'm still single, 24 and it probably won't ever change lol
Well, for someone who's dealing with a Cap who's currently not available, your reply actually made me feel a little better. Like, he won't forget me. I mean, we've been with each other for three years and we've gotten pretty close, so how do you completely forget someone like that anyway, I guess. IP: Logged |
beloved
Knowflake Posts: 86
From:
Registered: Jun 2012
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posted December 06, 2013 07:00 PM
I'm triple earth -- Virgo Sun, Cap ASC and Taurus Moon and I also have a very very hard letting go. I'm able to do it much easier when the person is abusive but I will still cry and grieve. But a relationship that wasn't abusive is very hard to let go of if I cared for the other person.I'm currently dealing with a Cancer/Leo cusp guy who stopped talking to me just a week ago because I got worked up about an ex of his that is standing on the sidelines waiting to make a play. Just dealing with his silence has been really really hard on me emotionally so you can imagine what break-ups do to me! Beloved IP: Logged |
PiscesCancerTaurus
Knowflake Posts: 126
From: AZ
Registered: Jun 2013
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posted December 06, 2013 09:42 PM
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Originally posted by beloved:
I'm triple earth -- Virgo Sun, Cap ASC and Taurus Moon and I also have a very very hard letting go. I'm able to do it much easier when the person is abusive but I will still cry and grieve. But a relationship that wasn't abusive is very hard to let go of if I cared for the other person.I'm currently dealing with a Cancer/Leo cusp guy who stopped talking to me just a week ago because I got worked up about an ex of his that is standing on the sidelines waiting to make a play. Just dealing with his silence has been really really hard on me emotionally so you can imagine what break-ups do to me! Beloved
I read your other post about the Cancer/Leo person. I am a Cancer myself, we usually always come back if we really care about the person. If he has stopped talking to you and won't even give you a chance to talk it out with him then you deserve better. That is the best advice I can give you hope it works out. IP: Logged |
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