posted December 07, 2013 12:23 AM            

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Originally posted by sunflower-moon:
I didn't read all the replies so you may have (most likely have) already heard this but you did absolutely nothing wrong. I had a similar experience with a Cancer man a couple years ago and I quickly realized he had a whole line of girls lined up in case it didn't work out with whomever he was currently pursuing. If he really wanted to be with you, he would've comforted you and assured you this girl was not an issue. It doesn't sound like you were being rude about it or were bringing it up too much, so there's zero reason for him to get angry about it. Don't let it bring you down. I know it's rough but the issue is with him. At least with the Cancer I had this issue with. He had Venus in Gemini and an Aries moon. It didn't even seem like he really had feelings for any of the girls. He just needed someone around and when it didn't work out with one of them, it was the next in line's turn. I would steer clear from him or at least be extremely cautious when he contacts you again. I'm 99% certain he will be in touch at some point. I still hear from my ex Cancer every so often and we broke up over 4 years ago.

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You know I have wondered about that but the thing is that this man is SO QUIET when he meets anyone... it was a huge struggle for me to ever get him to talk...took quite awhile! He tends to go mute in even small groups and won't even go into groups for the most part. But even when I met him, it was just him and I playing together and he was totally shy and quiet like I've never seen any guy be. So I can't really see him being the type to have a lot of women since he has such a hard time talking to anyone that he hasn't known for quite awhile.

Beloved

posted December 07, 2013 01:38 AM            

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Originally posted by beloved:
Indigo, I don't think I suffer from "great insecurity" just because I find the ex situation makes me feel insecure based on prior experience. I can't imagine anyone having gone through the 2 traumatic break-ups I did owing to ex-involvement and not being insecure about that type of situation cropping up again.

As for the texts at work... he works 12 hour shifts in a job where all he can do is sit and stare at a computer screen and where he often is working in the wee hours of the morning all by himself. That's why he finds convo to be a great help so I don't read anything into that about being insecure either.

Beloved

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Honey, I get prior experience. But eventually, we've got to pick ourselves up by the bootstraps. You know? I'm not saying he's being insecure - I'm saying he's being selfish; expecting you to entertain him while he's at work on long shifts? And he treats you like this? Seriously?

I fear you simply setting yourself up; that's all.