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Topic: The Fair-Weather Friend
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Odette
Moderator Posts: 6570
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Registered: May 2012
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posted December 17, 2013 07:33 PM
  
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Who cares if he goes through tons of girls, he probably never felt strongly for them.
Yeah... that kind of thing flies over my head. I meant a more serious situation I guess.. I'm not even sure what answer I'm looking for here.
I think I just feel disappointed in this guy. IP: Logged |
summerlite
Newflake Posts: 0
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted December 17, 2013 07:38 PM
i don't think dropping friends for girlfriend is under this topic. That's mostly because of his love perspective. This topic is more of "what? You need to borrow money? But I'm not really that close to you." IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 4122
From: vodka fine, I'm so divine
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 17, 2013 07:45 PM
Hm, see, I kinda have this view...or theory...I dunno? But it's that a relationship is harder to keep up when the people involved have different settings or what have you in their life.Like, it can still be maintained...but imagine like, a person who is fifteen and able-bodied in high school, then a woman who is middle aged with a disability and children. It's seems obvious already that them being friends is an oddity, no? Well, even tone it down. A person who is suffering depression and money problems in her home life then a guy who is intelligent, taking school seriously, and has a good social life. They could very well be friends...but still seems like it would be an odd pair, right? The playing field just isn't level. She's depressed and he isn't, that'd put strain on him, right? So, in a way, I can understand why he wouldn't keep up their relationship. He's probably free, right? He doesn't have major obligations while she does. Their backgrounds/surroundings are too different, you get what I'm saying? I don't think you could empathise, Odette, since you're like, a shining star above earth, but that's generally what I've observed and noticed about people... That maintaining relationships is easier when the two people are not only similar, but have similar lives. IP: Logged |
summerlite
Newflake Posts: 0
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posted December 17, 2013 07:52 PM
Maybe your friend's just immature. After all taking care of kids is a huge responsibility. Maybe he just can't accept it at the moment of his life.
I would consider it to be more ruthless if he has been dating her for many years and talking about marriage and dumps her the minute he finds out she has, for example, breast cancer.
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theunknown
Knowflake Posts: 2745
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Registered: Dec 2010
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posted December 17, 2013 07:54 PM
^^^say 2 ppl having similar lives, but one has family member who has cancer and all his money goes to that person. He asks you for help, because you two have similar lives in the past and have been "friends", would you still support him even tho he doesn't have a similar life to yours and is depressed and troubled?
We obviously are not talking about 2 ppl who would never have a close friendship in the first placeIP: Logged |
23
Knowflake Posts: 714
From: The Strand
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 17, 2013 08:03 PM
I think you have to be careful with friends. There are very few true friends out there. Even the ones that are will slight you occasionally. I never ask for help from friends ever, only seek some emotional consolation and advice occasionally. I never ever lend money or do things like that, I guarantee that you will never get it back as well. If I have issues I go to my family. As to matters of love, you have to give friends a few months space so they can establish their relationships with their new partners. Good friends will always come back. As a person, I will ditch you if you have used me in some way, done something underhanded or stepped on me. I have no qualms do it. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 4122
From: vodka fine, I'm so divine
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 17, 2013 08:07 PM
@theunknown; are you asking me specifically what I would do?  If one of my friends had a family member with cancer and they needed some money, I...I guess I would help out, for a bit - but I don't want to take on a burden and I would NOT appreciate my friend making their burden into mine too without me asking for it! Everyone is different after all and we all have our own levels of tolerance for things.IP: Logged |
summerlite
Newflake Posts: 0
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Registered: Jun 2014
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posted December 17, 2013 08:17 PM
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Originally posted by 23:
I think you have to be careful with friends. There are very few true friends out there. Even the ones that are will slight you occasionally. I never ask for help from friends ever, only seek some emotional consolation and advice occasionally. I never ever lend money or do things like that, I guarantee that you will never get it back as well. If I have issues I go to my family. As to matters of love, you have to give friends a few months space so they can establish their relationships with their new partners. Good friends will always come back. As a person, I will ditch you if you have used me in some way, done something underhanded or stepped on me. I have no qualms do it.
capricorn much...
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CatMote
Knowflake Posts: 839
From: Fighting Neptune for his trident
Registered: Apr 2013
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posted December 17, 2013 08:18 PM
i may have been a fair weathered friend once or twice in my life and even though i have been stepped on, im willing to help out people if i can.
it just sucks when you help somebody out once, and they turn their back on you. but let it be known, that i believe in my heart that everybody deserves a second chance if you are willing to give it to them.
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Odette
Moderator Posts: 6570
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Registered: May 2012
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posted December 17, 2013 08:19 PM
Scorpy - I'll reply to your last post in more depth - but I just wanted to say - this wasn't really about money.
She didn't need his money. She just didn't spend as much time with him anymore. I asked him what his reasons were.. if she actually wanted something from him - and he said she didn't, but she was upset/depressed a lot of the time.. and he couldn't deal with her. IP: Logged |
somethingexcellent
Knowflake Posts: 4122
From: vodka fine, I'm so divine
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 17, 2013 08:21 PM
Oh I know it wasn't about money! Someone else just asked me about money, lmfao! Which wasn't really the point of my post either...IP: Logged |
Odette
Moderator Posts: 6570
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Registered: May 2012
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posted December 17, 2013 08:24 PM
I know lol ^ haha
I'm kind of not exactly in the best position to type atm I have a lot to say to your post. I'll come back! IP: Logged |
LeonisStar
Knowflake Posts: 243
From: Daytona beach, FL, USA
Registered: Jan 2013
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posted December 17, 2013 08:39 PM
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
People are very loyal by nature... have fun getting burnt by others your whole life 
Did you mean people areNT very loyal by nature? IP: Logged |
23
Knowflake Posts: 714
From: The Strand
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 17, 2013 08:45 PM
Summerlite - Sun in 10 opp Saturn. A lot of my attitude was caused by me being hurt. I was a very pure soul in my younger days and gave myself wholeheartedly. It was never returned and does not to today, people will use you if they can.IP: Logged |
meissieri
Knowflake Posts: 1419
From: Neptune with Faith, Bella, Muddy and Doux. Commuting between that and Chiron.
Registered: Feb 2013
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posted February 13, 2014 07:57 AM
Like I said in the dealbreakers thread, too many Uranus afflictions for me. Either in natal but especially in synastry. Exciting and out of this world amazing at first... then finding out what they're like when you need them, poof, they disappeared face of the planet. I'd imagine a weakly-aspected Saturn would make someone not put much value in doing things long-term. Maybe lack of Saturn aspects in synastry from the fair weather friend for wanting to stick around. Lots of mutable can be quite on-and-off too. IP: Logged |
CatMote
Knowflake Posts: 839
From: Fighting Neptune for his trident
Registered: Apr 2013
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posted February 13, 2014 08:28 AM
i think the air signs are pretty fair weathered honestly. not saying thats a bad thing but i feel that they get really detached really easily, especially aquas. the lack of commitment ticks me off sometimes.
a lot of pisces i know are also a bit fair weathered. cant really turn to them for help. ive noticed there arent a lot of fire signs on this list 
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