posted February 09, 2014 12:06 AM            

Well me (Leo ASC/Taurus sun/Virgo moon/Venus Pisces/Mars Libra) actually took it very well in the sense that I didn't get all emotional about it (well anger is an emotion right?) As soon as I read the email, I text him I wanted my key back, he said something about being over in an hr. Right after that I deleted/blocked him from EVERYTHING. Deleted emails, pictures, got all of his crap and put it in a plastic bag and put it out in front of my door like garbage. Then before he came I decided I didn't want to see his face, so I text him to slide the key under the door and that his stuff was in a little plastic bag. He text me back saying the keys were all mixed up and he didn't know which one was which. I said that the key had it's own ring (I saw him put it with his house keys with the keyring in tact). I told him to just keep the damn key & get your sh*t and go!

I will put in a work order to get my locks changed on Monday. I think he might have been expecting some dramatic scene or that I'd beg him to be with me and let's work it out..I actually even surprised myself in the way I reacted. But either way I'm quite happy with how I did & glad I didn't let him get the satisfaction of seeing me all emotional.

posted February 09, 2014 12:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemmy:
I wish I could do that! I obsess over it,I feel physical pain,it's horrible.
I'm Gemini Sun,Moon,Venus,Mercury
Cap rising
Pisces Mars

I've only been in love once though.

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posted February 09, 2014 12:36 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemmy:
I'm Gemini Sun,Moon,Venus,Mercury

I've only been in love once though.

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YAAAAAAAAS.

posted February 09, 2014 12:49 AM            

It's not hard for me to break it off initially because I'm the rip off the bandage quickly type of person.

posted February 09, 2014 02:18 AM            

It's cowardly of someone to break up with you by email, imo.

Yes get those locks changed asap. lol. Good luck.

posted February 09, 2014 02:24 AM            

As for the last one, my lesbian girlfriend cheated on me twice, the 2nd being what ended it. She did know me enough to know how best to appeal to me to talk it out, but after I realized this was hopeless, our values were too different, and it was just making it a lot more painful than it had to be, then I just froze her out completely, and she could leave or I would, and since she couldn't afford the rent on her own (and had someone willing to take her in) she left. I didn't yell, insult her, block her (though I would've if it became a problem), I was just cold...my Scorpio influences allow me to do that. I wasn't even vengeful, she was just dead to me for all practical purposes, and I grieved hard, but I didn't wish her back at all.

posted February 09, 2014 02:26 AM            

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Originally posted by Gemmy:
I wish I could do that! I obsess over it,I feel physical pain,it's horrible.
I'm Gemini Sun,Moon,Venus,Mercury
Cap rising
Pisces Mars

I've only been in love once though.

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Me too. First i would start a huge confrontation then punch him and tell him to go **** himself. I will never turn back even though its hard

Throw an extra punch in case too ;(

posted February 09, 2014 03:07 AM            

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Originally posted by Venusian Moon:

Me too. First i would start a huge confrontation then punch him and tell him to go **** himself. I will never turn back even though its hard

Throw an extra punch in case too ;(

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Personally I wouldn't. I wouldn't satisfy a man's ego by showing I cared. I did the "go f*** yourself" thing once and he just thought I was nuts. lol

posted February 09, 2014 03:33 AM            

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Originally posted by Jo B:
Personally I wouldn't. I wouldn't satisfy a man's ego by showing I cared. I did the "go f*** yourself" thing once and he just thought I was nuts. lol

It confuses them when you don't react and just calmly show them the door.

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Its not even about him. I have a bad temper. Just punching would make me feel better

Maybe a few slashes with my nails on his face too

posted February 09, 2014 04:15 AM            

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Originally posted by babybull82:
So the guy I was "seeing" broke up with me today via email lol. (Scorp ASC/Scorp Sun/Cancer moon/Venus & Mars in Virgo).

Well me (Leo ASC/Taurus sun/Virgo moon/Venus Pisces/Mars Libra) actually took it very well in the sense that I didn't get all emotional about it (well anger is an emotion right?) As soon as I read the email, I text him I wanted my key back, he said something about being over in an hr. Right after that I deleted/blocked him from EVERYTHING. Deleted emails, pictures, got all of his crap and put it in a plastic bag and put it out in front of my door like garbage. Then before he came I decided I didn't want to see his face, so I text him to slide the key under the door and that his stuff was in a little plastic bag. He text me back saying the keys were all mixed up and he didn't know which one was which. I said that the key had it's own ring (I saw him put it with his house keys with the keyring in tact). I told him to just keep the damn key & get your sh*t and go!

I will put in a work order to get my locks changed on Monday. I think he might have been expecting some dramatic scene or that I'd beg him to be with me and let's work it out..I actually even surprised myself in the way I reacted. But either way I'm quite happy with how I did & glad I didn't let him get the satisfaction of seeing me all emotional.

How do you guys handle break-ups and what's your sign while you're at it. It's always been easy for me to just cut people off and I'm pretty sure that's not normal, but I like that I can because it helps with minimizing the pain.

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the first two break ups were difficult. after that I knew what to do. pretty much what you described. delete, block, ignore, throw away everything that reminds me of them - photos, diary pages, letters
the first two break ups taught me a very important lesson. I can't make anyone love me, it's either they do, or they don't. as soon as I understand that, it's easy to initiate break up, and to get over a break up.
My family is not big on relationship either. Other than family ties and marriage (because marriage unites the 2 families), they usually don't consider anything else permanent/serious. so if I had a break up, they'd say well you'll get over it lol so yeah such family influence also helps me deal with break ups easier

posted February 09, 2014 05:44 AM            

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Originally posted by babybull82:
It's funny, because when we first got together I was soo obsessed and absolutely feared losing him, but then something just kind of came over me and now I'm pretty much indifferent to him and the whole situation. Our relationship didn't have as much Pluto as the last one I had, so it wasn't quite as bizarre and obsessive, but it kind of was a little bit on his part.

I just hope now that we're not together anymore I will stop dreaming about him. I had a dream about him just last night. Sometimes when he'd sleep over I'd dream about him and he'd be right next to me..it was weird I never slept very well when he was here, I felt like he was invading my thoughts if that makes any sense...

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It does make sense. In my opinion it means you are repressing your emotions too much and they are coming back to you in the shape of a dream.
I don't mean you necessarily have to go all psycho, but allow yourself to think "I wish it hadn't ended so early" or "I wish he's done it with a little more elegance" or whatever it is you might feel (generally speaking or for 10 or 20 minutes from time to time).

posted February 09, 2014 11:32 AM            

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Originally posted by dadoo:
It does make sense. In my opinion it means you are repressing your emotions too much and they are coming back to you in the shape of a dream.
I don't mean you necessarily have to go all psycho, but allow yourself to think "I wish it hadn't ended so early" or "I wish he's done it with a little more elegance" or whatever it is you might feel (generally speaking or for 10 or 20 minutes from time to time).

(My Pluto aspects my Mercury, my Venus, my Moon and my Saturn. Emotional control is my hobby lol)

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posted February 09, 2014 01:43 PM            

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Originally posted by summerlite:
Your description sounds emotional to me. You trying to hold back and not letting him see the emotional side could be due to your Leo asc putting up a brave front.

If you are hurt, just admit you are hurt. It's faster to recover this way instead of pretending it doesn't affect you.

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I didn't say it wasn't emotional, but instead of the typical boo-hoo crying that some women do after they've been dumped, the only emotion he saw or felt was anger and even then not really because it was thru text as far as he knows I was calm the whole time. What's there to talk about and why should I even have to see his face? Just leave my key, get your crap from in front of my house and go about your business. I can almost guarantee he was expecting some emotional (crying, yelling, begging, what-have-you) outburst from me and I didn't give him the satisfaction. The only thing he got from me I guess is the text I sent him after he left, but it was only the truth and I may have said some hurtful things, but I felt they were deserved. And of course anything he replied with was completely ignored.

posted February 09, 2014 04:51 PM            

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Originally posted by babybull82:

I'm not pretending it didn't affect me..it did or else I wouldn't have gotten angry, but to me being angry is a lot better than showing weakness by crying and all that crap, men play on that and bank on it. Nope nuh-uh not getting that from me!

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I totally get what you're saying and would probably have reacted the same way. But imo there are two things that must not be confused. Things you show (or don't show) to him, and things you actually show to yourself and are ready to work on.
If you're aware of everything you keep from him, be it sorrow, anger, desire or whatever, I don't think you have any reason to worry about any negative impact it could have on you, really. Staying true to oneself is what it takes ^^

posted February 09, 2014 05:48 PM            

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Originally posted by dadoo:
I totally get what you're saying and would probably have reacted the same way. But imo there are two things that must not be confused. Things you show (or don't show) to him, and things you actually show to yourself and are ready to work on.
If you're aware of everything you keep from him, be it sorrow, anger, desire or whatever, I don't think you have any reason to worry about any negative impact it could have on you, really. Staying true to oneself is what it takes ^^

Take care!!

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posted February 10, 2014 11:14 AM            

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Originally posted by babybull82:
So the guy I was "seeing" broke up with me today via email lol. (Scorp ASC/Scorp Sun/Cancer moon/Venus & Mars in Virgo).

Well me (Leo ASC/Taurus sun/Virgo moon/Venus Pisces/Mars Libra) actually took it very well in the sense that I didn't get all emotional about it (well anger is an emotion right?) As soon as I read the email, I text him I wanted my key back, he said something about being over in an hr. Right after that I deleted/blocked him from EVERYTHING. Deleted emails, pictures, got all of his crap and put it in a plastic bag and put it out in front of my door like garbage. Then before he came I decided I didn't want to see his face, so I text him to slide the key under the door and that his stuff was in a little plastic bag. He text me back saying the keys were all mixed up and he didn't know which one was which. I said that the key had it's own ring (I saw him put it with his house keys with the keyring in tact). I told him to just keep the damn key & get your sh*t and go!

I will put in a work order to get my locks changed on Monday. I think he might have been expecting some dramatic scene or that I'd beg him to be with me and let's work it out..I actually even surprised myself in the way I reacted. But either way I'm quite happy with how I did & glad I didn't let him get the satisfaction of seeing me all emotional.

How do you guys handle break-ups and what's your sign while you're at it. It's always been easy for me to just cut people off and I'm pretty sure that's not normal, but I like that I can because it helps with minimizing the pain.

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Are you sure that you aren't "punishing" him? The sudden "cutting off" of people seldom means you are over them. It just means that you imagine it'll hurt far too much to see them again and again.

I wonder if its the Asc Scorpio(his) opposing your Sun that is evoking such a response.

You reaction is typical Mars in Libra. It spells of passive aggressiveness.

Are there current transits that are affecting your Moon, Venus and Mars positions?

posted February 10, 2014 01:35 PM            

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Originally posted by AscTaurus:
Are you sure that you aren't "punishing" him? The sudden "cutting off" of people seldom means you are over them. It just means that you imagine it'll hurt far too much to see them again and again.

I wonder if its the Asc Scorpio(his) opposing your Sun that is evoking such a response.

You reaction is typical Mars in Libra. It spells of passive aggressiveness.

Are there current transits that are affecting your Moon, Venus and Mars positions?

If Mars is aspecting your Pluto watchout for an increase in rage.

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I see what you're saying about "punishing" him, but that's not what I had in mind by cutting it off like that. My thought was he doesn't care anyway how it went down or else he wouldn't have broken up with me via email. So I felt the reaction was justified given the action. As far as my Mars being in Libra passive/aggressiveness, it is with certain things, but I normally don't back down from a fight. I normally WOULD have been combative and wanting to have a shouting match with him. But I decided to just go with the way I did it.

Mars is conjuncting my pluto, which I know normally means raging and such. While I felt angry, I just didn't feel the urge to have a fight with him, it might have turned ugly..but like I said earlier I don't usually back down from stuff like that.

I don't have anything transting my Venus right now, but I do have Venus squaring my Saturn, which would probably explain why it didn't work out in the first place.

The only moon transit I'm having is moon sextile saturn...I just looked at my natal chart and the moon sits in my first house.

I just read this regarding this transit:

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When transiting Saturn trines or sextiles our natal Moon, we feel more in control of our emotions, our domestic affairs, and our personal habits. We feel considerably more mature and capable of handling our personal lives. Family matters assume more importance in our lives now, and we meet our responsibilities with maturity and competence. We have much to learn from older people in our lives, and during this transit, we are more likely to actually listen to what they have to say, and learn from them. Which house does the Moon rule in your chart? (There may be more than one). Wherever you find Cancer in your chart, you will notice this mature and steady energy. For example, if the Moon rules your 5th house, you might be less inclined to jump into a romantic fling during this transiting trine and more capable of dealing with children. You might begin a new romance that is considerably more mature in nature than previous ones, or your current relationships might become more practical or reliable. Because the fifth house rules our creative self-expression, and Saturn has a stabilizing and realistic effect, we might turn our hobbies into businesses during this transit. At the very least, our self-expression becomes more sober and practical. If the Moon rules our seventh house, we might notice that our partnerships (including marriage) become more practical and goal-oriented. We are able to manage these relationships with more maturity. If we are not involved in a partnership before the transit, we might enter into one, simply because it is a more relationship-friendly period of time when we get serious about our commitments.

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posted February 10, 2014 03:50 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
I will cry for a couple of days, then go out and meet someone new. After a while I won't feel sad anymore, but only that I lost contact with him.
The worst thing is to lose contact with someone I really loved for a long time. Even though I'm never gonna be together with him again, I'll always think a little about how it was.
I mean, I spend so much time with him, then I think it's a shame that we can't even be friends/friendly.
I'm only friends with one of my ex-flirts (a libra) the rest probably hates me like plague, or just doesn't care about me anymore. I don't really know why though, cause I don't get angry after a break-up, I just get a bit sad, and then that's it. Life goes on, it has to right?

Virgo sun, pisces moon, cancer rising, libra mercury, scorpio venus and virgo mars.

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Maybe your Pisces moon may have something to do with why you only dwell on it for a few days and then meet someone new. My Venus is in Pisces and I'll usually give myself a day to cry, be mad, whatever and then it's like ok..on to the next! LOL

posted February 10, 2014 05:32 PM            

At first when it comes to a break up I respond with fierce anger, than I usually move on. I need to eliminate the person completely from my mind though, and fill my head with lots of other projects and ideas. I need to write down and focus on why this person was a bad choice for me. I avoid anything that reminds me of the person.

I am a very early Gemini SUN / Late Degree Aries Moon / Mercury, Venus, Mars, Juno all in TAURUS. / with a watery pisces ascendant. I also have Uranus in Scorio in the 8th house, I am able to quit bad habits really easily, with the right mental focus and determination