posted February 14, 2014 10:41 AM            

I tend to relate to people more mentally and I'm not a sucker for a sob story (or any other emotional manipulation), I'll analyze any and sometimes I may feel bad for someone but decide I can't do anything about it or it's not my place and just shrug it off. I've often told people my charity is random and fickle. I used to be more charitable until I realized that people were losing respect for me and using me which encourages me to be anonymous or at least unavailable in the future when I do...which I already did somewhat because I didn't want people to feel like they were in my debt, a debt that I'd be calling in later as some people will do with a hidden price tag that is not worth what was given.

Nevertheless, I practice all sorts of random acts of kindness, being picking up tacks someone left on a bike path, hammering down a nail in a park gazebo before someone cuts themselves on it, sweeping up broken glass so kids don't get hurt and animals don't get it in their paws to then lick off and swallow (when even mothers watched their kids play in that same glass), to all sorts of individual charity even for strangers and organizations. And for people I'm close to, like good friends and significant others, I'm much more willing to help and don't consider it charity, that's just give and take in my book.

I think I can also be nicer than many water dominant signs (such as Cancer) because I'm not anywhere as likely to hold a grudge or as easy to have my feelings hurt in the first place. I have philosophical reasons (mix of Libra & Sag with a splash of Scorpio) that got me into the habit of helping out when I felt it was appropriate and I'd guess that the Sag makes me passionate and also a bit "easy come, easy go" so that I don't mind being haphazardly charitable (but also not wanting to be tied down to a cause, either) which is also more encouraging of charity than Cancer (not to say Cancer isn't charitable but that having such a placement isn't a prerequisite).

When a neighbor I didn't know well but was friendly with asked me if I'd be willing to take her cat if she had to give him up I asked and found out a horrible trick had been played on her by a government bureaucrat that was making her living arrangements impossible, and though she got some minor public assistance she didn't have anything for paper products or her cat (no food, no litter). My Libra was outraged by such unfairness and Libra being 3H (with Venus) I'm also more caring of the community I'm in, and my Sag added passion to that feeling, and to the sympathy I felt for her. So I, having a little extra money (I take care of me first before others), bought a big bag of cat food & litter, paper products, and a few others things with $20 in an envelope (I meant that for things like feminine products which I didn't want to choose for her), and to keep her from being scared of my hidden price tag as well as to prevent someone from continually seeking my charity I delivered it secretly to her back door at like 2 AM (carried it over in a wheelbarrow praying the cops didn't stop me... ). But she knew it was me...I was the only one she told about her cat (she was a secretive Scorpio) as she'd seen me take care of cats and knew I was responsible (as in cleaning up the neighborhood plus keeping a stable place).

posted February 14, 2014 10:58 AM            

And then I got a call from the girl I'd been paid to take who was panicking. I couldn't understand all that she said (she was 11 as well as scared) but I understood her mom was incredibly sick, there was almost no food in the house, and nobody would help (she'd found my number on her mom's phone and remembered me), plus her mom forbid her to call 911. So I grabbed food, movies, and such and went over where I could get a better idea of what was happening, though my sympathy was more for the little girl at that point.

Her mom was so incredibly sick & dehydrated (and delirious) that I thought maybe 911 was for the best but she (incoherently) talked me out of it, so I just stayed over and took care of things. As she got better she said she couldn't pay me and I said just take care of me if I catch what she had.

The little girl had her birthday coming up and one of my jobs was a birthday entertainer so I made her a Hannah theme party, even spent some of my profits from the Hannah movie babysitting gig to pay for it, as her mom was just too sick (even when her birthday came around her mom was weak, though recovering her strength). The boy had a party soon after and wanted me to do a Transformers party for him (that movie was out the same time as Hannah Montana) so I did. And me and their mom started to get to really know each other...

As for why I did that for a stranger it was because I saw she genuinely needed help who COULD BE helped by me and figured I was the logical person for it since she had no family and others (including a church that supposedly helped people) made it clear they had their own problems or overburdened. Probably the 3H Libra stellium again, Scorpio adding influence, and the Venus in particular made me think it was up to me. But mainly I liked children, they were pleasant to me and I was comfortable around them so whereas I'd have left the mother to fend for herself once I felt she could I hung around because I didn't want them to feel the sting of having a missed birthday (that wouldn't be fair...and the boy should get a special party, too, that's fair), and it was fun exercising my creativity that way, and also helped me forget a pain of mine.

posted February 14, 2014 11:20 AM            

I'm very protective of those I love. Partners, family, great friends.

My Mother is in a Nursing Facility right now - but it's like *I* am her Nurse also because I'm constantly re-checking things and making *SURE* that the staff is giving her outstanding care. My Mom's two sisters (one has Cancer Sun, the other Cancer Mercury) are exactly the same! We'll all turn into PITBULLS very quickly if we feel that something is off about her care. You will sink like the Titanic if you f*ck with our family!!!

posted February 14, 2014 11:48 AM            

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Originally posted by earthypisces:
lol oddly enough...Cancer is one of my least dominant signs and Capricorn one of my most dominant, yet I'm the one always taking care of other people.

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posted February 14, 2014 11:49 AM            

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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:

I love Cancer energy. They're so caring.

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posted February 14, 2014 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by earthypisces:
lol oddly enough...Cancer is one of my least dominant signs and Capricorn one of my most dominant, yet I'm the one always taking care of other people.

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you do have a 6th house NN. 6th house is service.

posted February 14, 2014 02:34 PM            

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Originally posted by summerlite:
you do have a 6th house NN. 6th house is service.

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ooh, good point.

I don't have to think about it, I just instantly jump into the role lol