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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 4614
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted February 16, 2014 09:30 AM
  
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I've been single 90% of my life!
This doesn't equal being ok with it  Anyway, if I wasn't emotionally involved nor afraid of being single, I'd just shrug. Wait, no...I wouldn't get into a relationship in the first place ^^ Sorry if I sounded harsh but I have no patience for such crap.If you need companionship, why don't you simply hang out with friends more? If you need sex on a regular basis and are ok with no strings attached you can always take care of it. Forming quasi-relationships and then counting on miracles is the worst idea. Personally, I wish you a loving, lasting relationship  Figure out your priorities. If it's emotional fulfilment and devotion, don't waste your time and energy on relationships like this.
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Jo B
Knowflake Posts: 113
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Registered: Feb 2014
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posted February 16, 2014 09:57 AM
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
No not in love at all, but I do care for him as a friend.
This is the bit that puzzles me. It sounds like you're a bit confused by the nature of the relationship (and possibly so is he). Maybe you both SHOULD take a little break from each other to give yourselves a chance to step back from the relationship as it stands and get a new perspective. But it sounds to me there's not much grounds for a romantic relationship if you're not even in love with him. Sorry. Having forced breaks or even temporary splits though can make you appreciate all the good things about them and make your friendship stronger eventually. I've just been through that myself. IP: Logged |
hannaramaa
Knowflake Posts: 6560
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Registered: Nov 2011
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posted February 16, 2014 10:10 AM
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Originally posted by Jo B:
This is the bit that puzzles me. It sounds like you're a bit confused by the nature of the relationship (and possibly so is he). Maybe you both SHOULD take a little break from each other to give yourselves a chance to step back from the relationship as it stands and get a new perspective. But it sounds to me there's not much grounds for a romantic relationship if you're not even in love with him. Sorry. Having forced breaks or even temporary splits though can make you appreciate all the good things about them and make your friendship stronger eventually. I've just been through that myself.
We are. When he asked if that's what I wanted I answered saying I think we both need it. I'm okay now, though, I think. IP: Logged |
filleaspirant
Knowflake Posts: 1067
From: Rio de Janeiro
Registered: Sep 2013
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posted February 16, 2014 02:28 PM
I know of some relationships that were based on friendship that turned out great. A friend of mine once confided that she only kissed this guy because HE wanted to be with her and her friends were egging them on. It was her first kiss ever, btw. Today, she is happily married with the only guy she kissed in her life. The attraction wasn't there for her, you know... the type that you usually expect from reading books and watching movies? She said it wasn't there, but that she cared for him and that he was her best friend and partner in crime, and that was enough for her. So I get why you'd be disappointed and upset over a relationship that seemed headed towards a calm and stable long-term (they also become girlfriend and boyfriend not even a month later after that first kiss; they've been together 10 years now).Passion seems to be confused a lot with romantic love, nowadays. Passion is something temporary, while love can last a lifetime. Also, even if you're not in love with him but you were in a committed relationship, why shouldn't you be upset about a break? It's easy to be callous about such matters when you're in the outside, away from the storm of feelings. Feelings are feelings because they're subjective; and sometimes you feel a connection that you momentarily think it's It when it's not, so there's nothing wrong or incomprehensive about "mourning" and worrying over the possible end of such a relation. Not everyone wants the same that the majority does. *hug* IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 4614
From: Saturn (summer house on Chiron)
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted February 16, 2014 03:38 PM
One of the problems with such relationships is that the majority of people sooner or later fall for someone and if it's not the person they're with then I'm afraid the friendship won't stand a chance with romantic feelings.------------------
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