posted February 16, 2014 02:52 AM            

Basically from what you said, you both want a break. He hopes to get back together - probably he meant that after spending time apart and thinking things through, you and him may come to decide that it's worth another try ?

posted February 16, 2014 06:31 AM            

I am certain he's dying to get back with you
but given that you are the one who brought up the 'break' (which most ppl understand as, 'this is over'), going along with it means giving you the opportunity to make the same threat in the future again, basically he gives up wayyy too much power by going along with your 'break' thing

I am sure you had a good reason to assume that 'break' was a good idea, but the fact that you even thought about the idea of 'break' raises many concerns for your capricorn partner
We capricorn ppl cant stand inconsistent people, we cannot afford to count on inconsistent/back and forth interest towards us

posted February 16, 2014 07:07 AM            

As much as his Sun, Venus and Mars are relationship-oriented, that Moon of his will go back and forth on the idea of commitment. When they find someone that seems like the real deal, either they'll commit or they'll bail, according to their level of maturity.

posted February 16, 2014 07:16 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
I'ng is he has been inconsistent. He brings up wanting to meet my friends, and then says it's going too fast - so I didn't do it. See how that works? When I tried seeing him today to talk about it in person, it was pretty obvious he didn't want to see me. His tone changed and where he used to make time for me, he didn't. He suggested Monday and I said I couldn't, and all he said was "Okay that's fine." Vs. finding a mutually convenient day. I'm not blaming him and apologize if I'm coming across that way...I just don't understand and wanted unbiased insight. From what I gathered taking a break and breaking up are different though.

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Oh
Once again I was connecting the dots with assumptions due to lack of knowledge on the situation, I aplogize

and I agree with you on that one, if you guys have been dating longer than 2 months, meeting friends should be no problem, something is wrong from his side

And as for the finding the mutual convenient time, given that you are the one who declined the offer, counteroffer to reschedule should have been made by you. But in your defense, it is obvious that he would have offered other days if he really really wanted to see you

Um and no... break means.. pretty much over
it really depends on how you explained it and the tone you used I guess but usually break pretty much is often used to indirectly say.. I never wanna see you again

posted February 16, 2014 07:16 AM            

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I'ng is he has been inconsistent. He brings up wanting to meet my friends, and then says it's going too fast

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3 months in not that little. Besides, no one forced him to be with you. I think he's either not ready to be in a relationship for some reason but didn't have the balls to admit it or he's a commitment phobe. If I were you I'd confront him and depending on the result I'd end it or not.

Sag Moons...most likely it would land in my 4th house but I don't give a damn, it'd still be cautious :/

posted February 16, 2014 07:17 AM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
This smacks of a Sag Moon issue.

As much as his Sun, Venus and Mars are relationship-oriented, that Moon of his will go back and forth on the idea of commitment. When they find someone that seems like the real deal, either they'll commit or they'll bail, according to their level of maturity.

I attract and am attracted by Mutable sign Moons, so I know how frustrating it is to not know where you're stepping with them, because they change their emotional approach so much. Tiring stuff.

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posted February 16, 2014 07:45 AM            

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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
VenusinCap - everyday, all day or until we see each other.

I'm so Cappy - I agree, I'm just disappointed. Him and I are very similar in some ways and don't trust people that easily, which I thought meant we wouldn't give up so fast.

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So I think when he said things are moving too fast, I think this is what he meant

The thing is, texting or skyping and other electronic communications only offers poorest quality of communication. You might be saying one thing but the receiver may perceive your message completely differently. I think it is generally agreed that body language is the most important part of the communication

and if you text everyday, it creates huge problems, because it creates sense of instant gratification.
Not only will he no longer feel urgent to meet you and take you out on a date, he may take you for granted, if texting happens too often. He is given all kinds of infos via texting and if you really think about it, it's not the way you want to present your self.
and you know what they say, the fun in dating is over once you know everything about the person you are dating.

In this sense, even if you meet the soulmate, the other person is bound to be bored/tired at some point if you text too much

If you play hard to get in a classy way, that is... becoming less available while accepting almost all the incomings/offers
you will almost always have the upper hand of the situation and most importantly, your partner would not know what to do because he just will not be able to get enough of you

posted February 16, 2014 08:07 AM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I'm sorry

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posted February 16, 2014 09:09 AM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
You could even call each other husband and wife but how important would it really be when there are no deeper feelings involved?

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posted February 16, 2014 09:20 AM            

I see no point in being in a relationship just for the sake of it. Are you afraid of being single or what? If you so desperately need this status, keep trying. But don't expect commitment and fulfilment. Especially since he apparently cares less than you.

posted February 16, 2014 09:23 AM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
This will be $50

I see no point in being in a relationship just for the sake of it. Are you afraid of being single or what? If you so desperately need this status, keep trying. But don't expect commitment and fulfilment. Especially since he apparently cares less than you.

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