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Topic: Flirtatious but Choosy?
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Solar_Leo_Queen Knowflake Posts: 2691 From: Planet Earth Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 21, 2014 05:36 PM
I like to flirt a lot, but I don't seem to like any of the guys that I flirt with. I attract guys so easily that people always think I'm dating the guy--which is not true since I've been single for 2 years now. The only relationships I've ever actually had lasted for 1-2 days with both guys (different times). It seems to me that I only like the fact that I make them fall for me without even trying. But that's not fully true. I actually want to get involved in a serious relationship. It's like part of me wants to just play around while the other part wants something meaningful and special. Also, I don't really flirt with guys I actually like. I tend to stay away from them as much as possible. I'm very shy around them to the extent that I avoid making eye contact. And I've only ever actually liked 2 guys my whole life. I'm wondering which placements or aspects in my chart indicate this contrasting personality. ------------------ Gemini Ascendant Sun in Leo Moon in Cancer Mercury in Virgo Venus in Virgo Mars in Libra "You were born a lion. Don't die a sheep." ~ Leos ♌️ IP: Logged |
summerlite Newflake Posts: 0 From: Registered: Jun 2014
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posted February 21, 2014 05:47 PM
Your Mars obviously. Why even flirt if you don't like them?
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Solar_Leo_Queen Knowflake Posts: 2691 From: Planet Earth Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 21, 2014 05:49 PM
Yeah, it's probably that.. or my ascendant. And I don't even know why I flirt. I just flirt like it's a natural thing. Sometimes I don't even realize I'm flirting until I catch myself.IP: Logged |
7thGuardian Knowflake Posts: 1479 From: Transylvania Registered: May 2012
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posted February 21, 2014 05:51 PM
This 3 might be the main culprits: Mars opposition Saturn
Mars and Saturn in opposition suggests some conflict between your desires and your sense of responsibility. There is conflict between a need for impulsive action, Mars behavior, and the conservative apprehension associated with Saturn. There is a sense of being rejected associated with this aspect. You establish goals out of realistic reach, and then suffer feelings of futility when you can't achieve them. You may over evaluate the accomplishments of others, and undervalue yours. Like yourself a little better, and establish objectives that are attainable in a detailed process. You may be well suited to work in law enforcement, the military, industrial engineering, or conservation. Personal relationships are often disappointing to you. You may select a mate that is an extension of one of your parents. You should instead seek one who would be less demanding, more liberal, and who could compensate for the austerity of your parents. It is unlikely that your family environment will be a replay of your childhood. You will want your children to have more flexibility to enable them to become secure, independent adults. Mars square Neptune The square between Mars and Neptune suggests that your natural tendencies to assert yourself may cause confusion and turmoil in your life. You may experience ups and downs in your feelings and ambitions. Vague or subconscious reasons prompting you to act may conflict with your sensitive feelings. This aspect stimulates interest in spiritual issues and produces a degree of psychic energy, even spiritual delusion. It's often associated with sexual anxieties, repressed sexual urges, or some degree of deception associated with sexual affairs. This aspect is one that suggests you may do best when you are alone. You should perhaps work by yourself or with as few people as possible. Preferably, you should work in a field such as medicine where you can satisfy a need to provide human service and remain detached. Develop your abilities to plan and control, and be more willing to accept responsibility when something goes wrong. Venus square Pluto A square forms between Venus and Pluto suggesting that your emotional life is subject to many problems. Many of these relate to sex. This aspect causes intense emotional and sexual involvements, and sometimes this can be with very debasing influences. In extreme cases, this aspect shows involvement with prostitution or other sex related crimes or rituals. Sexual passions are hard to control and properly direct, and romantic ties are in some way fated. It may be any benefit you receive is always accompanied with some negative side effect. What you want and seek is often not what you need, and obtaining the objective or object creates ill effects. Life is full of upheavals and upsets in domestic and professional affairs. There is a need to be more honest and less patronizing with people. Don't make promises unless you intend to keep them. This aspect must be controlled by the free will. You can find more description: http://www.skyscript.co.uk/venusaspects.html You should check - the more positives ones as well as - some can be quite helpful: Venus sextile Moon (for example) The sextile aspect formed between the Moon and Venus shows the need and disposition for happy personal relationships. There is a sense of sharing and communication in partnerships that will usually produce good results. You succeed socially because you can usually think of something good to say about nearly anyone. You're willing to discuss problems, but your optimistic attitude keeps you from becoming preoccupied with them. You feel matters will work out well and most of the time they do. Rarely is your progress impeded by misunderstandings with others. IP: Logged |
Solar_Leo_Queen Knowflake Posts: 2691 From: Planet Earth Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 21, 2014 05:59 PM
^ What you said is actually pretty true, especially with Venus square Pluto. I'm afraid that if I ever get into a relationship, I might get tempted to cheat because of this flirtatious tendency. I'm still trying to tone it down somehow so I don't come off as a good-time girl.IP: Logged |
RunAroundScreaming Knowflake Posts: 8223 From: Registered: Oct 2010
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posted February 22, 2014 07:42 AM
Venus square pluto people really want a relationship, but once they are in one they want to run for the hills.Venus square pluto is love (venus) afflicted by depth, intimacy, sharing power, and letting someone fully in (pluto) So you have problems with fully letting people in, even though you highly want it (plutonian kind of relationship) So what you do is you will say mean things to them or act disinterested or push them away if they are clingy with you....you could love them more than anything in the world. Yet you will still push them away. You get intensely involved with everyone you meet. You also hate being "sexy" or "superficially beautiful". Here the superficial beauty of venus is being challenged by the depth of pluto. All things venus in your life are being challenged by pluto the investigator (is this person deep enough, does this person love me enough, is this relationship genuine enough, is this person worth my respect?) which makes you avoid intimacy or fully letting them in. It is not a bad thing. You just have to be aware of this and have to make sure that in relationships you take it extra slow and start out as friends first because if you get together with someone too fast and it blindsides u to where u are not aware of ur tendencies, then the relationship will be full of them clinging to you, and you...running away. Possibly breaking up with them on a whim several times. And then when THEY finaly leave, u becoming the clingy one and trying to fully control them so theyll stay. The thing is that you want a deeper relationship than most people do...and....you usually get that. But, when you Are finally in this super intense relationship it challenges you to be so vulnerable that you want to run away. The problem is not you, it's the desire for a super intense relationship and expecting that it will happen smoothly and perfectly without getting to know them slowly. Its like in the romance novels..u want intimacy and passion right out. But that makes people scared to be vulnerable if it happens so fast and right away b4 being able to know if they can trust the other person or getting comfu with them. So when the intense relationship happens it will naturally make u scared to be fully vulnerable, it would anyone... So you have to be aware of this deep want of yours inside and consciously try to take it very slow in relationships so that you dont end up pushing the person away and shutting them out. I have venus square pluto : P ------------------ Cancer: The mother of the zodiac. Nurturing and helping you to understand yourself. ebay compatibility readings | testimonials | Past readings | Ideal compatibility (3rd post) | Q&A | What's a Love stellium? | Most important aspects descriptions | Aspects to avoid | Guide to Chinese Zodiac Appearance | The Order in Astrology
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LoVeLy Knowflake Posts: 475 From: Registered: May 2009
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posted February 22, 2014 07:58 AM
Choosy is your Venus in Virgo haha I suffer with this placement everyday (((------------------ Sun in Virgo conjunct Venus ( 11th House ) Moon in Libra Rising sign Libra Honesty is Confidence - Hoodie Allen ❤ IP: Logged |
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posted February 22, 2014 09:28 AM
You said it yourself, you attract guys too easily I assume you are turned off by the guys that rush to be rejected by you too fast too soonYou tell them you can wash your car yourself but they beg to do it for you anyways You want a gentleman who is classy and respectable it's really hard to find a gentleman these days romantic hollywood movies have us believe that its romantic for men to spill their guts out on a first date Like how edward told bella that hes a vampire without even going out on a official date or something (which is cute at the moment but when you go home and talk to your girlfriends about it, you come to realize that it turns you off. It is argued that fun in dating is over once you know everything about the person) anyways, I don't think you are choosy, you just happen to trust your gut instincts and know what's good for you and honestly, not all but many women out there these days goes out on a date, just to go out or stays in relationship because they can't stand to be alone and I think you are respecting yourself by not taking similar actions
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Solar_Leo_Queen Knowflake Posts: 2691 From: Planet Earth Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 22, 2014 11:42 AM
@RunAroundScreaming everything you said makes a lot of sense. that's exactly how my last relationship ended--I dumped the guy because I felt that he was getting too comfortable and we were only dating for a few days. Major turn-off and we really did rush it :/ I didn't even know much about him then. I only just recently found out about his musical abilities, too, which he never told me. Now I feel really bad about dumping him.@Venusincap89 that is true. I don't really mind being single although I get really lonely sometimes. And what you said about guys just being willing to do everything for me, that's is so true, too. It kind of turns me off when guys do that because I know I am capable of doing things (not all) by myself, but many of them treat me like a damsel in distress. It actually feels nice knowing I have a bunch of guys willing to treat me like a princess, but I'd rather have someone who treats me as an equal. IP: Logged |
Angel Cara Knowflake Posts: 34 From: Registered: Sep 2012
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posted February 22, 2014 07:17 PM
Aren't Leo Suns in general the type to flirt with everyone in the world?IP: Logged |
Solar_Leo_Queen Knowflake Posts: 2691 From: Planet Earth Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 22, 2014 10:16 PM
^ That's a general statement, but yes, according to the books, Leo suns are flirtatious.IP: Logged |
Kerosene unregistered
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posted February 22, 2014 10:19 PM
The yod with moon-uranus-(venus-mercury)Loving that domicile sun-uranus opposition! IP: Logged |
Solar_Leo_Queen Knowflake Posts: 2691 From: Planet Earth Registered: Jan 2014
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posted February 22, 2014 10:37 PM
quote: Originally posted by Kerosene: The yod with moon-uranus-(venus-mercury)Loving that domicile sun-uranus opposition!
The yod is actually with Mercury which is conjunct Venus. But I guess that's the same thing. Anyway, is the domicile opposition a good thing or a bad thing? IP: Logged |