posted May 06, 2014 10:58 AM            

I don't mind the SO doing whatever he wants..
I'm not really the jealous type at all.
Id probably silently laugh if I saw someone hitting on the SO because I know he'd be so uncomfortable.

If he went to the strip club nightly it'd be a problem (but on the level of respect for the relationship)
But if it were on a occasional basis, whatever.

posted May 06, 2014 11:02 AM            

The only I don't like is hooking up with others because I don't do that so I don't see why its fair.
Also I don't want any stds... which is my main concern not the fact that you had a meaningless ****

pretty laid back otherwise.

posted May 06, 2014 11:18 AM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
What about him flirting with someone in front of you? Would you shrug at it?

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posted May 06, 2014 11:20 AM            

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Originally posted by Lilithsquared:
I think it's the Venus/Uranus

I'd add positive aspects between Mercury, Jupiter, maybe even Neptune in the ring if you have any.

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posted May 06, 2014 11:25 AM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
I mean if you see a situation where you don't like go in their and be like baby let me show you something and get him out of there and flirt with him instead.

I dunno like don't be a push over there is nothing more unattractive.

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I tried that so much, and especially in front of her too, but she has a sagittarius moon so no fear… she just don't care lol

posted May 06, 2014 11:29 AM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
I'm writing this topic because that's exactly what almost happened this weekend lol… I was extremely annoyed but kept it IN, that's the most important thing, right? I'm not gonna say anything.

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Ouch. If I kept it in I'd probably freeze him with my eyes and silence later.

posted May 06, 2014 11:38 AM            

I'm like this now but its more from forcing myself to cut off emotionally than by nature. By nature I am quite jealous and possessive.....but its just so exhausting to always be worrying about what another person is doing and honestly if they're going to fool around, they're going to fool around and you being possessive won't stop it. At least this way everything is up front and they think I don't care lol.

posted May 06, 2014 11:44 AM            

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Ouch. If I kept it in I'd probably freeze him with my eyes and silence later.

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posted May 06, 2014 01:14 PM            

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Originally posted by Kerosene:
is he a libra?

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posted May 06, 2014 01:15 PM            

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Originally posted by 12muddy:
Moon square uranus, I let my s.o does what he wants, if he wants or does s.t that I don't tolerate, we'll just end things and I'll wish him luck. Lol that sounds like blackmail. But yeah to me it's just fair Lucky we're on the same page n have similar values, otherwise things would have gone down the sewage ages ago.

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I like your approach

posted May 06, 2014 01:20 PM            

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Ouch. If I kept it in I'd probably freeze him with my eyes and silence later.

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posted May 06, 2014 01:33 PM            

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Originally posted by charlie:
That mentality will never work unless you both are hardcore Polygamists. My opinion though.

IF and a very big IF, I get attached for the long haul, that mofo better have eyes for me and only me...my Pluto ain't sharing sh1t!

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This is me.

I came to the conclusion in my last relationship that we seek external anything when our current SO doesn't fit the bill properly. So I'd rather be single than with my ex or with my current mutual crush.

posted May 06, 2014 01:35 PM            

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Originally posted by sag_stellium:
This is me.

I came to the conclusion in my last relationship that we seek external anything when our current SO doesn't fit the bill properly. So I'd rather be single than with my ex or with my current mutual crush.

It's also an ego thing. I'm too good looking to let any bf get away with such BS.

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posted May 06, 2014 01:37 PM            

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Originally posted by next to neptune:
First I was like WTF is she really like this? Then I got to realize she is actually going after him right in front of me with no fear at all…

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posted May 06, 2014 01:44 PM            

I like freedom, and encourage my bf to do his own things. The thing is, even though he's very air, Sag Venus, Aqua Asc, he insists on doing everything together. Recently, he had a work staff party, he went, but kept txting me all night, saying he's bored and can't wait to get lift home

posted May 06, 2014 01:45 PM            

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yup. Libra sun conjunction venus… a very shy libra though, but this weekend he showed me his more flirtatious side lol

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Have you tried seeing the flirting through his eyes, instead of seeing it as a slap in the face, like "how dare he"?? Not that you are but the underlying feeling is hurt, or to feel it shows a lack of respect for you..that's only human!

Try seeing it for what it is, he's human and we all need to feel attractive n wanted.
Yes, he gets most his needs met by you, but doesn't it feel good sometimes when you realize other ppl still think your cute n like you?

When that happens it's not a reflection of YOUR feelings for your SO, so it isn't like that for him either. Its just a momentary ego boost that he got caught up in and will probably make him feel better about himself in the long run!

What would happen if you teased him about his flirting, in a flirty/sexy way...let him know you saw it and thought it was cute or hot...tell him how hot he is when he's flirting n how all the girls want him, but your the one that wants him the most!
Then tease him more, playfully do the things she was doing n ask him if he likes that.

Then when you see girls flirt with him, just watch and learn what things get him going, learn how to best bring out that side of him....if he catches you watching and smiling, maybe even looking turned on a little?
He will be surprised n his attention will be drawn back to you. He will be curios as to why your smiling at him, maybe he doesn't even realize he's flirting with another girl.
If he does he might keep flirting but it will probably be just to keep you paying attention and he will want to figure out what your thinking about...it could turn into a sexy game you play together.

posted May 06, 2014 02:00 PM            

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Have you tried seeing the flirting through his eyes, instead of seeing it as a slap in the face, like "how dare he"?? Not that you are but the underlying feeling is hurt, or to feel it shows a lack of respect for you..that's only human!

Try seeing it for what it is, he's human and we all need to feel attractive n wanted.
Yes, he gets most his needs met by you, but doesn't it feel good sometimes when you realize other ppl still think your cute n like you?

When that happens it's not a reflection of YOUR feelings for your SO, so it isn't like that for him either. Its just a momentary ego boost that he got caught up in and will probably make him feel better about himself in the long run!

What would happen if you teased him about his flirting, in a flirty/sexy way...let him know you saw it and thought it was cute or hot...tell him how hot he is when he's flirting n how all the girls want him, but your the one that wants him the most!
Then tease him more, playfully do the things she was doing n ask him if he likes that.

Then when you see girls flirt with him, just watch and learn what things get him going, learn how to best bring out that side of him....if he catches you watching and smiling, maybe even looking turned on a little?
He will be surprised n his attention will be drawn back to you out of curiosity as to why your smiling about him flirting with another girl...he might keep flirting but it will probably be just to keep you paying attention and trying to figure you out...it could turn into a sexy game you play together.

My opinion is to punishment doesn't work! What works is to help them refocus by becoming part of the flirtation game, make it your game together. This will allow him to get out his need to flirt with others(all Libras have this need) and it gets all attention turned back to you, making the other girl just a pawn in the game your playing with him!

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