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Topic: Help? Inexplicable Sadness / Rage / Emptiness: What's Going On?
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maira Knowflake Posts: 1145 From: Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 25, 2014 05:02 PM
Just another quick word, since I thought I had the time, but really don't. I believe that you have cut the cord and that this has set in motion a process called "the dark night of the soul", for lack of a better description. Trust the process. We are here to evolve and it's always the most dark before dawn. Hugs and sorry for being so brief!IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014 Moderator Posts: 3563 From: Venus cornering Neptune Registered: Mar 2014
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posted June 25, 2014 05:20 PM
I have a question about this, maira. I suppose this cord is the mutual connection between your hearts, if it's really a TF thing. Many people here who speak of TF don't seem to know for sure if the other feels the same. (I mean, directly from him/her, from his confessions and actions etc.)So is this the cord, the mutual connection? IP: Logged |
maira Knowflake Posts: 1145 From: Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 25, 2014 06:29 PM
I am not so knowledgeable about these things, it's mainly what I have read here on the forum and personal experience. From what I understand, there are cords that link us with all the persons that we share a bond with, not only TFs. And yes, my opinion is that the bond is felt both ways but also that it depends on the level of awareness of the persons involved. One could be the queen or king of repression and would not allow the feelings or thoughts to enter the conscious, or could not even know that they exist.My ascendant is Libra and it seems that my answers could all be summarized in one short sentence: "Basically, it depends"  IP: Logged |
maira Knowflake Posts: 1145 From: Registered: Jun 2009
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posted June 25, 2014 06:32 PM
They are called "astral cords" if you want to research it more.IP: Logged |
fireopal09 Knowflake Posts: 398 From: Dallas,TX, Us Registered: Oct 2010
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posted June 25, 2014 08:45 PM
You are grieving, Indigo. Grief is almost as illogical as that dastardly four letter word love. He may not be evolved enough for you yet. You see the situation more clearly beyond his capabilities.My instinct/intuition tells me you & he are not done yet. It may be 5,10, or 20 years, but this is far from over. http://youtu.be/5W6gjAAHvo0 ------------------ Claire "When going gets weird, the weird turn pro." -HST IP: Logged |
AlexDern Knowflake Posts: 466 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted June 25, 2014 09:09 PM
Life is about grieving deeply and then loving deeply. No need to fear youngin.IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae Moderator Posts: 2915 From: Venice, California, US Registered: Jul 2011
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posted June 25, 2014 10:08 PM
quote: Originally posted by AlexDern: Life is about grieving deeply and then loving deeply. No need to fear youngin.
I'm still a youngen? Awesome! Granted, I look in the mirror and think how on earth do I still look like I'm attending high school. But to be referred to as 'youngen' reminds me I'm not as old as I think I am. IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae Moderator Posts: 2915 From: Venice, California, US Registered: Jul 2011
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posted June 25, 2014 10:09 PM
quote: Originally posted by fireopal09: You are grieving, Indigo. Grief is almost as illogical as that dastardly four letter word love. He may not be evolved enough for you yet. You see the situation more clearly beyond his capabilities.My instinct/intuition tells me you & he are not done yet. It may be 5,10, or 20 years, but this is far from over. http://youtu.be/5W6gjAAHvo0
Thank you for this. 
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AlexDern Knowflake Posts: 466 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted June 25, 2014 10:24 PM
Sometimes I get sad, and feel despair. I let myself cry and then it turns into something else.There's been times where I had to cry every day. I try to go inwards and not think. Eckhart toll may help but in general these speakers try to resolve dualities which can only be resolved by feeling what your feeling. Don't block it. Let it come out. Let it rain! Make it rain! You are a goddess...feed your people! IP: Logged |
AlexDern Knowflake Posts: 466 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted June 26, 2014 12:14 AM
Another thing that helps is leaning on loved ones for a hug and an I love you.
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IndigoDirae Moderator Posts: 2915 From: Venice, California, US Registered: Jul 2011
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posted June 26, 2014 02:16 AM
Thanks, AlexDern. That's something I need to hear sometimes. Especially with how much I withhold (or have spent years withholding) my emotions.Strange how I've not had 11:11 since I sent my email. No response, but I'm wagering he hasn't got it. But that's unusual; not getting 11:11. Interesting. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014 Moderator Posts: 3563 From: Venus cornering Neptune Registered: Mar 2014
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posted June 26, 2014 09:03 AM
quote: Originally posted by maira: I am not so knowledgeable about these things, it's mainly what I have read here on the forum and personal experience. From what I understand, there are cords that link us with all the persons that we share a bond with, not only TFs. And yes, my opinion is that the bond is felt both ways but also that it depends on the level of awareness of the persons involved. One could be the queen or king of repression and would not allow the feelings or thoughts to enter the conscious, or could not even know that they exist.My ascendant is Libra and it seems that my answers could all be summarized in one short sentence: "Basically, it depends" 
lol my Mars and Mercury in Libra understand all about it.... Thank you for explaining. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen Moderator Posts: 13360 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted June 26, 2014 10:59 AM
It`s not possible to cut the cord, though you can mutilate it somewhat I suppose. Disconnect from it for the time being. But cutting it, no. Not if you are really twinflames. How would that even be possible? You are two sides of the same coin. Anyway just wanted to tell you, Indigo, what you describes reminds me very much of what I felt in may. It now almost feels like a bad dream, in retrospect, a REAL, bad dream, and the most horrible feeling about it was the feeling of disconnect. Cause it felt like I was disconnecting or maybe dissociating even from myself.
However, I read in the other thread about you writing that mail to him, and forgive him and yourself. It sounds like a very good way to go.  I donīt really have a solution to the sadness/ rage and pain. But I remember that it was not really resolved through him, his reaction to me meant the world to me, yes, but it came AFTER i had processed a lot of the pain and resigned to it, accepted it, and yet for the first time in my life, despite being sad and empty, I still felt that I was still having value. Pain is just that, pain. An emotion, that of course cuts deep, but it is part of life, just like joy. And at least for me it is a cyclic process and I have learned to trust that the joy will resurface again, some day. And yes, it has. Maybe this sounds too simplistic, but it was a big learning-step for me. lol IP: Logged |
AlexDern Knowflake Posts: 466 From: Registered: Dec 2013
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posted June 26, 2014 08:38 PM
quote: Originally posted by IndigoDirae: Thanks, AlexDern. That's something I need to hear sometimes. Especially with how much I withhold (or have spent years withholding) my emotions.Strange how I've not had 11:11 since I sent my email. No response, but I'm wagering he hasn't got it. But that's unusual; not getting 11:11. Interesting.
You're welcome M'lady! Enjoy the summer weather and hot sun if you have it! IP: Logged |