posted June 26, 2014 04:17 PM            

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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
I think the older I get the more secretive I become. I have Pluto in the 3rd house and Mercury in the 4th house. My Sun rules the 12th house.

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Hmm... for me it's the opposite. I started off secretive for a long while, and like about 2 years ago (maybe less) I got dramatically better. And I have those planets switched; Mercury in the 3rd House and Pluto in the 4th House.

Interesting...

I mean, I'm still pretty secretive about my private home life (Pluto in the 4th House), but that's where I'm the most secretive, and I'm getting much better with it.

I think it probably has to do with the older we get (from birth until an adult of course, not forever, lol) the more conscious we become of the world we're living in, therefore, we worry more about our business being let out into the public, in case of it backfiring because of possibly not being socially accepted, creating conflicts, getting into trouble, etc.

posted June 26, 2014 05:56 PM            

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Originally posted by Sandra018:
[QUOTE]Originally posted by IV XXIV:
[B]My 12th house is my heaviest house.. I have Sun, Mercury, Venus and Ceres (all in Aries) there. I've also allegedly got an Aries stellium there (I don't know what that means exactly so I refrain from saying it as a fact).

you have a stellium- a stellium is a group of planets close together.
I too have a XII house Aries Stellium- Sun,Mars,Venus and Merc.

we should start a club

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I'm in! I'd probably adore both of you instantly 'cause I'm a sure-fire sucker for Aries or Leo anything! I'm an almost Fire Void (except for my Neptune singleton), so I'm just drawn to Fire energy like a moth to the light.

posted June 26, 2014 06:14 PM            

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Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Let me ask this - which I can make a new thread if the OP wants.

Those of you who are secretive, do you also dislike crowds of people or "busy" places?

Generally speaking, I don't like to go to busy places. I haven't even been to a fourth of July event in YEARS. Barbie loves them, so... it's time for me to prepare myself. LOL
I try to shop during slower hours, etc. I just hate crowds/traffic. I'll just skip things if I have an option rather than fight through that crap.

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Yes, DeepFreeze. I'm a lot like what IV XXIV said, too.

I have Saturn in my 11th house in Gemini, so I'm very reticent. I'm definitely an introvert. This causes some clashes between my husband and I because he is a FULL-ON extrovert. In the early years of our marriage he kept trying to convert me from an introvert to an extrovert, and he just would not accept that it was futile. He would beg and cojole and drag me to all these social events with him. We lived in New Orleans for a few years, and he would want me to go to the French Quarter and to Mardis Gras events, etc. I would go reluctantly, but I was miserable. I hated it. The crowds, the noise, the riotousness just made me wince inside. I didn't wanna be a drag, though, so I would just put on a happy face and try to have fun.

Eventually, as I matured, I just had to tell him no. I wouldn't deny him from going wherever he wanted to go. He's got a Sag IC, so I know he needs his freedom. I have no problem with that, but I was resenting having to conform to his preferences and his extroverted nature. He has Pluto in his 1st and Sun-Venus-Mars conjunct in Scorpio. He can be very, very persuasive when he wants something, and usually gets his way. I realized I had to stop, though, because the resentment was doing harm to our relationship. We had a long talk and I laid all my cards on the table, and we came to an agreement that I had to be who I was and he had to stop trying to turn me into him. He didn't like it, because he hates to admit defeat, but he came around.

These days, he gets to be his happy extroverted self, and I get to be my happy introverted self.

posted June 26, 2014 11:23 PM            

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Originally posted by Wild Horses:
I'm in! I'd probably adore both of you instantly 'cause I'm a sure-fire sucker for Aries or Leo anything! I'm an almost Fire Void (except for my Neptune singleton), so I'm just drawn to Fire energy like a moth to the light.

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