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Topic: How to be in a relationship with a 12th house moon?
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goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2014 08:40 PM
Relationships require vulnerability and emotional openness, something very hard for Moon in the 12th house. WHAT DO I DO????IP: Logged |
ayujegeg Knowflake Posts: 264 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted July 06, 2014 08:51 PM
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goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2014 08:57 PM
No he isIP: Logged |
Solar_Leo_Queen Knowflake Posts: 3240 From: Planet Earth Registered: Jan 2014
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posted July 06, 2014 09:36 PM
It's hard to get them to open up as far as I've experienced. They like to keep their feelings to themselves and you almost never could tell what they're feeling at a given time (unless you're an Empath, of course). They're really good at hiding emotions. I'm seeing a guy with the same Moon as me (Cancer) and he has it in the 12th house, while I have it in the 1st. I believe that house placements have a bigger impact on the planets than the sign placements. Our Moons are conjunct, but it's pretty difficult for me to try to get him to open up. And when he does open up, it still feels like he's not telling me everything. It frustrates me because as a 1st house moon, I tell him almost everything and then there he is, making me feel like he doesn't trust me. With this placement, you really gotta be careful and understanding of their feelings and privacy if you want to make it work. IP: Logged |
ayujegeg Knowflake Posts: 264 From: Registered: Jan 2013
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posted July 06, 2014 10:45 PM
does he have mother issues. everyone that has moon in 12th have a bad relationship with mother and were emotionally unavailable or physically from their child.IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2014 10:54 PM
Yes he does have mother issues, but I'm already aware of that and so is heIP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2014 10:56 PM
That's another thing I hate about his 12th house moon! When he finally opens up, he doesn't tell me everything!!! I'm a Scorpio Moon so I probe, probe, probe!IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2014 10:59 PM
I jokingly call him "Pandora's Box" when we're talking about memories because he acts like it's so difficult to bring things up, even good memories! What makes it worse is that his Moon is in Libra!IP: Logged |
deptic Knowflake Posts: 475 From: Earth, Raised on Pluto Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 06, 2014 11:16 PM
holllyy chopsticks lol... i just realized my girl has cancer in her 12th house... that explains alot! she confuses me because she doesn't really open up emotionally or knows how and she's also secretive (i think) that confused me alot, lead me to wondering if she was into me at all lol... did my research on it n now i understand alot more!IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2014 11:18 PM
Her 12th house is in Cancer?IP: Logged |
deptic Knowflake Posts: 475 From: Earth, Raised on Pluto Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 06, 2014 11:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by goatcat: Her 12th house is in Cancer?
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Comatoes Knowflake Posts: 441 From: Registered: Jan 2014
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posted July 06, 2014 11:21 PM
They will never open up completely, they always hold a little of themselves to themselves. I have a 11th/12th house Moon (most charts put my Moon in 12th) and I would never tell anyone everything, even my family doesn't know everything. Closeness can just be hearing, sympathizing and being there for other people without you having to spill your own insides. Sometimes a Moon in 12th person feels close to someone who lets them be. I find that when this Moon feels a strong connection they will talk about themselves more, it takes time. I know sometimes I will say something very emotional but it will be at a weird time, watch for moments like this, as a 12th house Moon has to be in the moment before they share. Don't push them, it only makes them more uncomfortable where they won't share anything. Also, most 12th house Moon people have a deep concern how information is used against them, they know that being vulnerable can be used against them if the relationship sours, it's their own little defense mechanism for a very sensitive Moon, this Moon can be wounded the most out of all the Moons. If you want a lot of emotional bouncing off, you may want to try another Moon, sometimes it just won't work unless the other chart shows other possibilities. Not all 12th house Moon people have issues with the mother, sometimes people are born with this moon placement so they can learn to get in touch with their own emotions and inner workings, somewhere in the chart they have a problem with this, and the chart is pushing them to this goal. We are all born with certain placements for a reason... IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2014 11:21 PM
So if her 12th house was in Leo it'd be different? Idk I'm about to go look at my 12th houseIP: Logged |
yellowelevator Knowflake Posts: 437 From: Michigan/Neptune Registered: Nov 2013
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posted July 06, 2014 11:42 PM
quote: Originally posted by Comatoes: They will never open up completely, they always hold a little of themselves to themselves. I have a 11th/12th house Moon (most charts put my Moon in 12th) and I would never tell anyone everything, even my family doesn't know everything. Closeness can just be hearing, sympathizing and being there for other people without you having to spill your own insides. Sometimes a Moon in 12th person feels close to someone who lets them be. I find that when this Moon feels a strong connection they will talk about themselves more, it takes time. I know sometimes I will say something very emotional but it will be at a weird time, watch for moments like this, as a 12th house Moon has to be in the moment before they share. Don't push them, it only makes them more uncomfortable where they won't share anything. Also, most 12th house Moon people have a deep concern how information is used against them, they know that being vulnerable can be used against them if the relationship sours, it's their own little defense mechanism for a very sensitive Moon, this Moon can be wounded the most out of all the Moons. If you want a lot of emotional bouncing off, you may want to try another Moon, sometimes it just won't work unless the other chart shows other possibilities. Not all 12th house Moon people have issues with the mother, sometimes people are born with this moon placement so they can learn to get in touch with their own emotions and inner workings, somewhere in the chart they have a problem with this, and the chart is pushing them to this goal. We are all born with certain placements for a reason...
Very well put! I agree with all you said. I also have a 12H Moon. I'm definitely incredibly sensitive, but most of the time I mask it so well that perhaps I appear emotionless. I've been emotionally wounded by many people in my life, some way more than others. But over the past couple years I have noticed that I mask my vulnerability so well, because of how sensitive I really am that I either try my hardest to pretend it isn't there or I do not open up emotionally. It's not a fun placement at all, but reading about it has given me new insight into my own emotional nature and validation for the things I DO feel, and why I do the things I do. IP: Logged |
deptic Knowflake Posts: 475 From: Earth, Raised on Pluto Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 06, 2014 11:51 PM
quote: Originally posted by yellowelevator: Very well put! I agree with all you said. I also have a 12H Moon. I'm definitely incredibly sensitive, but most of the time I mask it so well that perhaps I appear emotionless. I've been emotionally wounded by many people in my life, some way more than others. But over the past couple years I have noticed that I mask my vulnerability so well, because of how sensitive I really am that I either try my hardest to pretend it isn't there or I do not open up emotionally. It's not a fun placement at all, but reading about it has given me new insight into my own emotional nature and validation for the things I DO feel, and why I do the things I do.
And what's ur solution to try n opening up more? IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 06, 2014 11:55 PM
The fact they don't wanna open up bothers me because there are some discussions and understandings that require a pinch of vulnerability. I've just moved in with this 12th house mooner.IP: Logged |
deptic Knowflake Posts: 475 From: Earth, Raised on Pluto Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 07, 2014 12:06 AM
quote: Originally posted by goatcat: The fact they don't wanna open up bothers me because there are some discussions and understandings that require a pinch of vulnerability. I've just moved in with this 12th house mooner.
just keep being/doing u. don't force things. just carry on, show u care n stuff n she will come around eventually. she may not spill everything all at once, but in time. Goodluck! IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 07, 2014 12:08 AM
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goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 07, 2014 12:09 AM
Goatcat is a girlIP: Logged |
Long - standing Knowflake Posts: 94 From: Russia Registered: Aug 2011
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posted July 07, 2014 12:14 AM
Both i and my husband have moon in the 12th, both have issues with moms,both very intuitive and vulnerable. Simply be honest,don't afraid to show your weak points, 12 th house moons are sympathåtic and always ready to help ) IP: Logged |
Solar_Leo_Queen Knowflake Posts: 3240 From: Planet Earth Registered: Jan 2014
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posted July 07, 2014 12:14 AM
@goatcatHow about your Moon? What house is it in? IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 07, 2014 12:17 AM
quote: Originally posted by Long - standing: Both i and my husband have moon in the 12th, both have issues with moms,both very intuitive and vulnerable. Simply be honest,don't afraid to show your weak points, 12 th house moons are sympathåtic and always ready to help )
Not me! Him! He is a 12 house moon! IP: Logged |
goatcat Knowflake Posts: 1703 From: Registered: Nov 2012
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posted July 07, 2014 12:18 AM
@Solar_Leo_Queen I have a 2nd house Scorpio moon so like I was saying, I probe, probe, probe!IP: Logged |
deptic Knowflake Posts: 475 From: Earth, Raised on Pluto Registered: Jun 2014
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posted July 07, 2014 12:27 AM
quote: Originally posted by goatcat: Goatcat is a girl
ooooooops! lol sooooorrrrry! he'll come around. IP: Logged |
Barbiegirl19 unregistered
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posted July 07, 2014 12:32 AM
quote: Originally posted by Comatoes: They will never open up completely, they always hold a little of themselves to themselves. I have a 11th/12th house Moon (most charts put my Moon in 12th) and I would never tell anyone everything, even my family doesn't know everything. Closeness can just be hearing, sympathizing and being there for other people without you having to spill your own insides. Sometimes a Moon in 12th person feels close to someone who lets them be. I find that when this Moon feels a strong connection they will talk about themselves more, it takes time. I know sometimes I will say something very emotional but it will be at a weird time, watch for moments like this, as a 12th house Moon has to be in the moment before they share. Don't push them, it only makes them more uncomfortable where they won't share anything. Also, most 12th house Moon people have a deep concern how information is used against them, they know that being vulnerable can be used against them if the relationship sours, it's their own little defense mechanism for a very sensitive Moon, this Moon can be wounded the most out of all the Moons. If you want a lot of emotional bouncing off, you may want to try another Moon, sometimes it just won't work unless the other chart shows other possibilities. Not all 12th house Moon people have issues with the mother, sometimes people are born with this moon placement so they can learn to get in touch with their own emotions and inner workings, somewhere in the chart they have a problem with this, and the chart is pushing them to this goal. We are all born with certain placements for a reason...
I have 12th house moon and a lot of what you said I agreed with, some I didn't quite so much. I've had mommy issues since I was a little girl, we always bickered at each other, had screaming battles, the whole nine yards. I don't even talk to my father, haven't in years now. I've always felt like some what of a black sheep in my family, both mom and dad's sides. Always kept everything to myself, and never opened up to any of them. I act a lot different from them so I never felt like I fit in. The only person who's understood me(besides my Scorpio best friend) completely is DeepFreeze. He's also 12th house heavy as I am and we get each other at soul type levels. All we have to do is look at each other, and we know if there's anything wrong. There are no limits with him, I've been able to completely be myself. I think the key to solving the problem is to make him feel completely comfortable. Tell him your deepest darkest secrets, that no one else knows. By doing so then he knows he can trust you and that you trust him by telling him those things. He will open up. It's all about trust and having security with us 12th housers, moons specifically. We are very dreamy and become even more so when in love. We give our whole selves and expect the same in return. If you aren't ready for FULL commitment then stop wasting your time. Be honest because you can't bull**** a bull****er. IP: Logged |