posted July 07, 2014 10:18 PM            

Like say you want a Aries Sun child (exalted) with a Taurus Moon (exalted) and a Libra Rising
Good Mercury, Venus, Mars.. all that

posted July 07, 2014 10:43 PM            

The ONLY thing I'll ever use astrology for is to get a better understanding of my child. Just so that I can get on their level. Understand why they have certain feelings and react certain ways. A little of what their needs are but only to help with our relationship and to make them the best people I can.
That's about it... If they are a certain sign or have moon conjunct Mars and square Pluto.... Well then they do and I'll work with that. Understand that it's a part of them and if they are the kind of kid that needs some space... Then I'm for it.
If our synastry is messed up... Well I've overcome some obstacles in my own chart so I guess that's that.

posted July 07, 2014 10:51 PM            

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Originally posted by Comatoes:
It always backfires, we have no free-will when it comes to birth, death, and our natal charts. What is funny is that exalted planets don't mean good, just because you have the best chart in the world doesn't make you a great person.

But people are free to think what they want.

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posted July 07, 2014 11:22 PM            

IMO, even if you go and plan that...then it's meant to be that way, you were meant to plan everything just as you did and all is exactly as it should be.
If something is destined, and I think your babies are very destined, you can't change it no matter how you go about making it happen. The way they are doing it is just a not so typical but it's still fulfilling destiny.

I would look at the couple, the ones who are planning their destiny with a calendar would probably be a cap and virgo couple and the ones who do it the more traditional way...get drunk and condom broke would be more of a gemini and a libra at a singles bar, or maybe a pisces and cancer who fell in love at first sight!

You can't change it, the way it happens is the way its suppose to happen, destiny is destiny.
The soul that is born to you, at the time it comes to you, is the one that's meant to be with you.
No matter how it happens or how much ppl think they are controlling destiny the universe is still the one guiding everything to ensure everyone gets exactly what is meant to be theirs.

posted July 07, 2014 11:48 PM            

Though it seems some people take offense at the idea. Is it for putting down a sign? Or is it sacrilege to think we have any control over our lives (so that birth control, etc, is all an illusion)?

posted July 08, 2014 12:49 AM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I will say that if I planned my pregnancy years ago I wouldn't have wanted a Cancer. Not because Cancers are bad but because I'd have thought they'd need a lot more reassurance than someone like me could give.

And yet now I'm helping to raise a Cancer and we're extremely close. There's no way I'd be worried about having a Cancer now, or any other sign for that matter.

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From the second I read the thread I thought "Probably not, except I would see if I could avoid Cancer".

Because I personally don't have the capacity to deal with their energy and it would be not good for a Cancer child to have me as their mother.

At the end of the day, I didn't have children and it's probably bordering on too late, so, it's not an issue.

Like Barbie said, you can only really target a sun sign. The rest... Sure you can choose to have a C section at a certain time, but you never know how the aspects would manifest. So I can't see the point.

posted July 08, 2014 04:57 AM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:

IMO, even if you go and plan that...then it's meant to be that way, you were meant to plan everything just as you did and all is exactly as it should be.
If something is destined, and I think your babies are very destined, you can't change it no matter how you go about making it happen. The way they are doing it is just a not so typical but it's still fulfilling destiny.

You can't change it, the way it happens is the way its suppose to happen, destiny is destiny.
The soul that is born to you, at the time it comes to you, is the one that's meant to be with you.

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posted July 08, 2014 12:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Gabby:
I would try to avoid giving my child tough angles by choosing the time I had a c- section.
Although I never did that, I would! I would want to avoid something like a moon in 12th or a bunch of squares to the their angles.

IMO, even if you go and plan that...then it's meant to be that way, you were meant to plan everything just as you did and all is exactly as it should be.
If something is destined, and I think your babies are very destined, you can't change it no matter how you go about making it happen. The way they are doing it is just a not so typical but it's still fulfilling destiny.

I would look at the couple, the ones who are planning their destiny with a calendar would probably be a cap and virgo couple and the ones who do it the more traditional way...get drunk and condom broke would be more of a gemini and a libra at a singles bar, or maybe a pisces and cancer who fell in love at first sight!

You can't change it, the way it happens is the way its suppose to happen, destiny is destiny.
The soul that is born to you, at the time it comes to you, is the one that's meant to be with you.
No matter how it happens or how much ppl think they are controlling destiny the universe is still the one guiding everything to ensure everyone gets exactly what is meant to be theirs.

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posted July 08, 2014 01:00 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
I will say that if I planned my pregnancy years ago I wouldn't have wanted a Cancer. Not because Cancers are bad but because I'd have thought they'd need a lot more reassurance than someone like me could give.

And yet now I'm helping to raise a Cancer and we're extremely close. There's no way I'd be worried about having a Cancer now, or any other sign for that matter.

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Haha! I am a Cancer Sun with a lot of Virgo. The signs I least understand are Sag and Aquarius. So, what did I get? One daughter as a six planet stellium in Sag, including Sun and Moon. The other has a six planet stellium in Aquarius including Sun and ASC (Moon in Sag). Sometimes they drive me crazy but we are learning from each other. We each benefit from the others energy. It all works out!

It would be extremely difficult to plan for a certain Moon or rising sign. I believe your children are already planned before you reincarnate and therefore, their charts are, too.

posted July 08, 2014 03:17 PM            

i think it's fine to consider all sorts of factors like that when planning to pro-create.

posted July 08, 2014 05:07 PM            

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Originally posted by mareaire:
Unless you're getting a planned c-section, and even then unexpected things can happen, it's pretty much impossible to aim for anything other than sun sign.

when i decided i wanted to have a baby i was like okay, I could do this right now and end up with a sag, but i thought i better think about the idea a bit more before just going ahead with it. And then i realized that if I waited two cycles i'd most likely end up with an aquarius. I LOVE aquas and it felt like it would be a good fit for our family. So that's what we did...aimed for an aqua and got a precious little aqua. he's amazing!

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As an Aqua, I highly approve of this message lolol.

posted July 08, 2014 05:50 PM            

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Originally posted by KarmicMoon:

It would be extremely difficult to plan for a certain Moon or rising sign. I believe your children are already planned before you reincarnate and therefore, their charts are, too.

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I agree. My mom and dad didn't plan their pregnancy. And I was born from c section. My mom, dad, my grandma and I are all fixed square sun signs lol. Dad Leo. Mom Taurus. Grandma Scorpio. Me Aquarius. I include my grandma in the nuclear family because I grew up with her and knew her more than i ever knew my dad. But man oh man, I thought all families had this much tension! For some reason I feel like it's no coincidence were all squared sun signs... Also... We're are so incredibly stubborn!

posted July 08, 2014 05:57 PM            

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Originally posted by PixieJane:
The funny thing is if you change destiny then it becomes your destiny that can't be changed.

Though it seems some people take offense at the idea. Is it for putting down a sign? Or is it sacrilege to think we have any control over our lives (so that birth control, etc, is all an illusion)?

I'll throw out that an occultist I knew did think that it was best to plan magical workings and open a business (so that the chart of the "birth" of the business mixed well with the community and had other auspicious placements), etc, taking astrology into account and that sounds similar as planning when to have a child.

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It kinda gives me a twisty feeling in my stomach I can't really even begin to understand why, just feels kinda wrong to me personally.