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Topic: Pisces men. Can you fully trust them ever?
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ifaf
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posted October 03, 2014 07:43 PM
  
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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I haven't been interested in dating since. One day, he just stopped replying to my texts. He dodged the birthday text I sent him a week after our last date. To this day, I don't understand what I did to deserve such disrespect. He could have just told me it wasn't going to work, I would have understood.
First thing: trust me, there's no being "good enough" in personal relationships. You're either compatible or you're not... If someone tells you it's not working because YOU aren't good enough.. That's manipulation. An easy way to feel less inadequate is to remember that not every person on earth feels that you aren't good enough, not every person would have the same reactions to you. So, if blame was useful, put it on the relationship itself. If someone is ever "good enough" for everyone, they must be pretty f*ing shallow and constantly reinventing themselves through other people's wishes. coincidentally I haven't been interested in dating since my pisces.
I don't know how much this would be true for yours, but we talked about everything, and he told me that he leaves when he starts having feelings for someone. It threatened his freedom or something. Idunno the exact reasons.. but he did leave out of the blue for a long time the day after everything was starting to look perfect (we weren't 'together' though). He came back, supposedly after having thought about it for a long time, and at first wouldn't tell me why he did that.
He obviously wasn't as mean about it as your guy... he insisted it wasn't my fault lol. And eventually said it was because he has feelings for me.
after that we stayed "together" for a few months until I ended it (for unrelated lies and trust issues lol)
He would sometimes become mean depending on his mood and I don't know how I handled it so well honestly.
One of the first things I learned about him was that he never ever wanted to be in a relationship. I unfortunately developed feelings anyway and he supposedly did too. you also said "I will never ever let another person have such power over me"
Just a thought but maybe we're letting them have power over us if we're still thinking about them and won't let ourselves love after the experience?
I think about him too much. quote:
Originally posted by bansheequeen:
So what happens when our situation changes? Or a fight crosses the line? Or he changes and I can't change with him? Or I get very sick? Or I get old and ugly while there are new young girls everywhere?
That really sucks  this concerns me a lot in relationships. Even though I'm starting to understand that nothing is set in stone, I still find it hard to accept and surrender. I hope you find some peace of mind through it all. Yes... a lot of pisces end up being more sociopathic/schizoid than the transcendental all-loving being they're made out to be.
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MineAgain
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posted October 04, 2014 04:38 AM
Thank you for your kind words. He has a Cancer moon. I never knew how to figure him out. The day before he stopped replying to my texts, he told me he wouldn't let me go. The next day, he disappeared. He's been single since but he sure makes no sense. He disappeared on me once before this scenario. My dad is a Pisces man and he's the most faithful, loyal person I know. The problem is that he doesn't like to hurt people's feelings so he tends to go with the flow which might make him sound hypocritical, but it's not the case at all. Pisces cannot make their mind up. Their indecisiveness tends to drive people crazy. IP: Logged |
SoStellarOne
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posted October 04, 2014 12:48 PM
MineAgain,
You are giving this guy waaay too much power. I cannot believe that he insulted your intelligence like that. If someone were to do that to me? I would immediately shut down and cut them off soon after because that is the ULTIMATE SIGN of disrespect. I think you should work more on loving "you" and make your self esteem issues shrink down to a minimum. This Pisces guy sounds like a real a-hole. Find your "inner BAD B***H" and claim your confidence so that no one can take it away from you. Once you do that, the breath from jerks like him wouldn't be enough to flip your hair away from your face. CLAIM YOUR CONFIDENCE!!!  IP: Logged |
bansheequeen
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posted October 06, 2014 06:36 AM
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MineAgain
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posted October 06, 2014 07:03 AM
You are right I'm usually a pretty strong Scorpio and I'm not one to pin over some man who didn't care about me/disrespected me. I had a very healthy ego before meeting him and could kick any guy to the curb. Pisces have a way of mesmerizing people. He was charming, sweet, romantic and charismatic. The first time we met, he was the sweetest. Then something must have happened to him and the only thing he seemed to care about was sex. He's probably one of the most promiscious guys I've ever met. It is true that he likes leading girls on to get an ego-boost out of it. It's as though they have no regrets/remorses whatsoever. I mean, anyone with half a conscience wouldn't behave like this. When they reach a certain maturity level, they become great people (my dad is a Pisces) but it seems as though most young Pisces tend to be players. I should have guessed as much when he told me he was a "third leg" to a cheating situation (he was the "other guy") and claimed the girl led him on by not breaking up with her LTR boyfriend. Pisces however have a dual personality. They can be very romantic but they're quite moody and you never get to fully understand what's beneath the surface. This one ditched me and once he gathered I wasn't going to beg him/chase him ever again, he engaged in some sort of attention-seeking behavior on social media. These people are so elusive and indecisive, it's quite disturbing and unhealthy to say the least. IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted October 06, 2014 07:39 AM
Pisces need boundaries for what is tolerable and acceptable! Trust me when I say that if you don't care or stand up for yourself, they will just keep on swimming-in whatever direction the current flows. Can they be trusted? I guess trust can be based on what your expectations of him are..They daydream alot. And some have wandering eyes-alot. But I find them to be honest when they have something to say. If pressed for info, all kinds of things can pop out simply because their thoughts are scattered and not ripe. IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted October 06, 2014 07:59 AM
MineAgain - quote:
It is true that he likes leading girls on to get an ego-boost out of it. It's as though they have no regrets/remorses whatsoever. I mean, anyone with half a conscience wouldn't behave like this.
I think you might be misinterpreting here. The only Pisceans I know who come across as egotistical have several planets in Aries. He might have issues you are unaware of. Either way.. he is toxic so it's a good thing that he is out of your life. Try not to paint him black though - because first of all, you don't know the whole story.. and secondly, it will just make you angrier to rehash things and throw negativity his way. I like this quote: http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/603179-holding-onto-anger-is-like-drinking- poison-and-expecting-the IP: Logged |
MineAgain
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posted October 06, 2014 08:32 AM
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Originally posted by Odette:
MineAgain - I think you might be misinterpreting here. The only Pisceans I know who come across as egotistical have several planets in Aries. He might have issues you are unaware of. Either way.. he is toxic so it's a good thing that he is out of your life. Try not to paint him black though - because first of all, you don't know the whole story.. and secondly, it will just make you angrier to rehash things and throw negativity his way. I like this quote: http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/603179-holding-onto-anger-is-like-drinking- poison-and-expecting-the
Thanks Odette I'm not painting him black, just his behavior. He doesn't have any planet in Aries. He's got a Cancer Moon and an Aquarius Venus along with a Mars in Capricorn.
Anyway ..
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AmelieRose81
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posted October 06, 2014 01:23 PM
Ive only met two. Been involved with them both. There were similarities. Both had aqua moons. They blew hot and cold, push & pull....whatever.but im not deluding myself or blaming it on the fact that they dont know what they want. If a man doesn't know what he wants, it means he doesn't want what he has. As a side note the most disloyal, untrustworthy sign I have found to be is Gemini. Lying cheating two faced etc. IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted October 06, 2014 02:16 PM
Ive only met two. Been involved with them both. There were similarities. Both had aqua moons. They blew hot and cold, push & pull....whatever.but im not deluding myself or blaming it on the fact that they dont know what they want. If a man doesn't know what he wants, it means he doesn't want what he has. As a side note the most disloyal, untrustworthy sign I have found to be is Gemini. Lying cheating two faced etc. IP: Logged |
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