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Topic: Capricorn suns, when you dislike someone, what do you do?
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theunknown Knowflake Posts: 1415 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 29, 2014 07:39 PM
Do you start ignoring them?I attract too many caps and have been wondering... IP: Logged |
PisceanDream Knowflake Posts: 392 From: Registered: Jun 2014
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posted October 29, 2014 08:04 PM
I attract sooooooo much Cap energy. I'm not a Capricorn Sun but I do know for sure, based on my experiences with 3 Cap Sun guys and a Cap Sun ex-friend, that they will not hesitate to ignore you if they dislike you or feel they can't handle you. They do it so ruthlessly too, ignoring you even when you beg for their attention. They can also be very evil and vindictive. They will not hesitate to throw a back-handed, quick and curt, derogatory remark at you and watch you squirm as you try to reason with them, without then giving you the chance to do so. That is a very awful trait of theirs. I am still hopelessly attracted to them and they are definitely one of my favorite signs (though I also simultaneously hate them as well at times).IP: Logged |
Odette Moderator Posts: 4665 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted October 29, 2014 08:05 PM
quote: Do you start ignoring them?
Yes.. They ignore the person and keep their distance. Very cool-headed/measured type reaction. Capricorn is not very emotional about disliking someone. But as always - the rest of the chart can make a difference. IP: Logged |
Selenite Knowflake Posts: 214 From: Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 29, 2014 08:16 PM
quote: Originally posted by PisceanDream: I attract sooooooo much Cap energy. I'm not a Capricorn Sun but I do know for sure, based on my experiences with 3 Cap Sun guys and a Cap Sun ex-friend, that they will not hesitate to ignore you if they dislike you or feel they can't handle you. They do it so ruthlessly too, ignoring you even when you beg for their attention. They can also be very evil and vindictive. They will not hesitate to throw a back-handed, quick and curt, derogatory remark at you and watch you squirm as you try to reason with them, without then giving you the chance to do so. That is a very awful trait of theirs. I am still hopelessly attracted to them and they are definitely one of my favorite signs (though I also simultaneously hate them as well at times).
UGH, spot on. Even my best friend does this. And our mutual best friend who is a libra with mostly scorpio cannot handle it. I keep saying 'he doesn't mean it' cuz it's true, he just doesn't know how to react to someone when he doesn't resonate with them so he shuts off. But he comes back With vitality to make up for it.. IP: Logged |
theunknown Knowflake Posts: 1415 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 29, 2014 08:24 PM
quote: Originally posted by PisceanDream: I attract sooooooo much Cap energy. I'm not a Capricorn Sun but I do know for sure, based on my experiences with 3 Cap Sun guys and a Cap Sun ex-friend, that they will not hesitate to ignore you if they dislike you or feel they can't handle you. They do it so ruthlessly too, ignoring you even when you beg for their attention. They can also be very evil and vindictive. They will not hesitate to throw a back-handed, quick and curt, derogatory remark at you and watch you squirm as you try to reason with them, without then giving you the chance to do so. That is a very awful trait of theirs. I am still hopelessly attracted to them and they are definitely one of my favorite signs (though I also simultaneously hate them as well at times).
What do you mean by "can't handle you"?I'm not scared of them. Annoyed actually! I don't think cap ppl typically dislike me since I have do much cap energy but I'm wondering about the "can't handle you" part
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Nine Moderator Posts: 2069 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted October 29, 2014 08:48 PM
^^ control. You won't do as they say.IP: Logged |
PisceanDream Knowflake Posts: 392 From: Registered: Jun 2014
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posted October 29, 2014 09:14 PM
quote: Originally posted by theunknown: [QUOTE]Originally posted by PisceanDream: [b]I attract sooooooo much Cap energy. I'm not a Capricorn Sun but I do know for sure, based on my experiences with 3 Cap Sun guys and a Cap Sun ex-friend, that they will not hesitate to ignore you if they dislike you or feel they can't handle you. They do it so ruthlessly too, ignoring you even when you beg for their attention. They can also be very evil and vindictive. They will not hesitate to throw a back-handed, quick and curt, derogatory remark at you and watch you squirm as you try to reason with them, without then giving you the chance to do so. That is a very awful trait of theirs. I am still hopelessly attracted to them and they are definitely one of my favorite signs (though I also simultaneously hate them as well at times).
What do you mean by "can't handle you"?I'm not scared of them. Annoyed actually! I don't think cap ppl typically dislike me since I have do much cap energy but I'm wondering about the "can't handle you" part[/B][/QUOTE] As in, when they feel that they can't handle your feelings or when you can't handle their coldness and start to confront/retaliate against it. I wouldn't call it "not doing as they say" so much as I would call it not acting in a way they see fit. There is an element of control but not in the Plutonian sense. They don't want to control *you* they just want your emotional expression to be controlled. It's more of making sure the waters are still as opposed to directing where the waters go and at what rate they should flow. I'm not scared of them either, but I wouldn't underestimate their ability to make you feel like sh*t by ignoring you, especially if you care so much about them. That becomes a part of their weapon against you.
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Faith Knowflake Posts: 8708 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 29, 2014 09:20 PM
quote: Originally posted by theunknown: Do you start ignoring them?I attract too many caps and have been wondering...
Wondering....when they will get the hint that you have a surplus of Caps around and wish they'd take a hike? Seems the problem is that you don't like them. Why not just disengage on your own terms? IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2065 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted October 29, 2014 09:27 PM
Since I'm a cap sun, I guess I can answer this. It depends on what the other person did. If I just dislike them (well this hardly ever happens, I don't *just* dislike people), then I'd stay out of the way. Idk why make things harder for myself. If they actually did something (now this has to be serious, otherwise I'd just accept that it's a part of life), I'd keep a close watch. Sometimes I choose confrontation, it depends. IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2065 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted October 29, 2014 09:28 PM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: Wondering....when they will get the hint that you have a surplus of Caps around and wish they'd take a hike?Seems the problem is that you don't like them. Why not just disengage on your own terms?
Yeah I sorta wonder the same thing. And well, If someone ignores you, and the person is nothing significant, then just ignore them. quote: Originally posted by PisceanDream: they just want your emotional expression to be controlled.
Actually no. People can express their emotions as they wish, if for whatever reason I don't wish to be there when they do that then I'd go somewhere else. IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 8708 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 29, 2014 09:33 PM
To answer the question...as others have said, Capricorn usually ignores the person or turns to ice. 'Will treat you like you don't exist, that kind of thing.That's how I was when I was younger. I stopped being that way after my Saturn return. For the most part I stopped disliking people. Wastes too much energy, focusing on the negative. If someone annoys me in real life, I circumvent them or if I can't, will tell them straight-on what the problem is, as nicely as I can.
------------------ 6H Capricorn sun, 6H Aquarius Mercury, 8H Pisces moon, Leo rising IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 8708 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 29, 2014 09:34 PM
quote: Originally posted by 12muddy:
It depends on what the other person did. If I just dislike them (well this hardly ever happens, I don't *just* dislike people), then I'd stay out of the way. Idk why make things harder for myself. If they actually did something (now this has to be serious, otherwise I'd just accept that it's a part of life), I'd keep a close watch.
I was typing while you were posting. Small wonder that we said just about the same thing, and I hadn't even read your post. IP: Logged |
PisceanDream Knowflake Posts: 392 From: Registered: Jun 2014
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posted October 29, 2014 09:41 PM
quote: Originally posted by 12muddy: Actually no. People can express their emotions as they wish, if for whatever reason I don't wish to be there when they do that then I'd go somewhere else.
Having been involved heavily with Caps, this is the experience I was confronted with. They are uncomfortable with strong and passionate displays of emotion, both negative and positive. Again, they do not desire to control you but they do desire that your emotional expression is cool and contained. Usually, this going somewhere else "if [they] do not wish to be there", in my extensive experience with Caps, has almost always been a result of a) not wanting to be surrounded by someone who shows signs of emotional sloppiness and intensity b)someone who pesters them about their coldness. I've cried oceans over Capricorns to not know what I'm talking about LOL. IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2065 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted October 29, 2014 09:42 PM
Faith: Yeah, while I'm not as nice as you (I'm waiting for my saturn return, hopefully I'd be more like you after it), I think there is a number of ways to deal with things like this. And so far, it seems like accepting/letting people do what they want is the most effective way. IP: Logged |
Nine Moderator Posts: 2069 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted October 29, 2014 09:43 PM
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12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2065 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted October 29, 2014 09:49 PM
quote: Originally posted by PisceanDream: Having been involved heavily with Caps, this is the experience I was confronted with. They are uncomfortable with strong and passionate displays of emotion, both negative and positive. Again, they do not desire to control you but they do desire that your emotional expression is cool and contained. Usually, this going somewhere else "if [they] do not wish to be there", in my extensive experience with Caps, has almost always been a result of a) not wanting to be surrounded by someone who shows signs of emotional sloppiness and intensity b)someone who pesters them about their coldness. I've cried oceans over Capricorns to not know what I'm talking about LOL.
While I can deal with strong displays of emotions, it's true that I sure don't enjoy it (well sometimes I do). With my friends, it's natural for me to want to be there and offer comfort. As for other people, it depends. I know that walking away doesn't exactly inspire positivity. But I have to watch out for my mental state too, so yeah if it gets too much, I'll just walk. If their displays are caused by some events that they and I go through, then yes I'll accommodate. If not, then what I want is that they don't demand/expect me to deal with it. IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 8708 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 29, 2014 09:56 PM
quote: Originally posted by PisceanDream: Having been involved heavily with Caps, this is the experience I was confronted with. They are uncomfortable with strong and passionate displays of emotion, both negative and positive. Again, they do not desire to control you but they do desire that your emotional expression is cool and contained.
^^ Gosh I would have said the same thing about men in general. Capricorn emotion is like a tsunami. Most Caps that I know talk about throwing things, breaking things, turning destructive when they are p*ssed off. You don't do that when you don't care. So, for the preservation of life on earth, Capricorn evolved with a freezer switch that we can turn on when we are about to go psycho. You don't (usually) see the psycho, you just see someone who is weirdly calm and cool. It's better that way... IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 8708 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 29, 2014 10:07 PM
quote: Originally posted by 12muddy: Faith: Yeah, while I'm not as nice as you (I'm waiting for my saturn return, hopefully I'd be more like you after it), I think there is a number of ways to deal with things like this. And so far, it seems like accepting/letting people do what they want is the most effective way.
Aww! Well as you've seen I can be a serious b*tch to this day...didn't mean to make myself sound better than I am...but it's rare that I dislike someone even if I make a sharp remark. Yes, Caps are supposed to be wise...at some point that wisdom ought to come in the form of "Everyone is different, no use trying to change anyone." IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2065 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted October 29, 2014 10:07 PM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: throwing things, breaking things, turning destructive
Sometimes I do this, but always in the shed. Where no one has to suffer seeing me. Which is why I don't get why sometimes I'm expected to sit through others' crazy displays. I'd start to wonder "Do they not care about how all this makes me feel?" IP: Logged |
hannaramaa Moderator Posts: 8727 From: Registered: Nov 2011
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posted October 29, 2014 10:34 PM
What if you remain unaffected by their ignoring you and ignore them right back aka aren't begging for their attention?IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2065 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted October 29, 2014 11:00 PM
^ With the general public, that means everything is fine. There is nothing more that needs to be done. With people I know (excluding my best friends), I call them afterwards. IP: Logged |
theunknown Knowflake Posts: 1415 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 30, 2014 01:02 AM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: Wondering....when they will get the hint that you have a surplus of Caps around and wish they'd take a hike?Seems the problem is that you don't like them. Why not just disengage on your own terms?
Calm down Faith! I have bad experiences with *one cap who for goodness has a retrograde cancer mars! Im just asking because I'm curious. I've seen on some message board the differentiation between Aqua and Cap. So I'm asking to see if maybe be even *I do it too. So this is for self-awareness as well. I think the feminine signs are harder to read. I am just starting to go back to more "fundamental" parts of astrology I guess. And I'm taking sun signs more seriously than I used to...
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Faith Knowflake Posts: 8708 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 30, 2014 07:09 AM
quote: Originally posted by theunknown: Calm down Faith!
LOL, why do you imagine I wasn't calm? Nevermind, I don't care. Hope you figure out what you're curious about.
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Faith Knowflake Posts: 8708 From: Registered: Jul 2011
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posted October 30, 2014 07:11 AM
quote: Originally posted by 12muddy: Sometimes I do this, but always in the shed. Where no one has to suffer seeing me. Which is why I don't get why sometimes I'm expected to sit through others' crazy displays. I'd start to wonder "Do they not care about how all this makes me feel?"
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theunknown Knowflake Posts: 1415 From: Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 30, 2014 08:32 AM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: LOL, why do you imagine I wasn't calm? Nevermind, I don't care.Hope you figure out what you're curious about.
Then my apology! I don't dislike cap. IP: Logged |