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Topic: Venus in aqua boredom.
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NeptunianSag
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From: Your imagination
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted December 08, 2014 06:02 PM
  
Is this like a doomed Venus placement? Everyone is so boring, I've come to a boredom phase in my life where men are all predictable or have nothing interesting or mysterious to offer. I feel abit crazy too, like a teenager looking for the next exciting thing to do, but everyone is so safe, closed and predictable EURGH! Just waiting for a bad boy to sweep me off my feet, be ourselves and just live! IP: Logged |
midnightvenus
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From: outerspace
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 06:08 PM
As a Mars in Aquarius, I know the feeling. The problem is not you though. Soon or later the bad boy will come. Mine hasn't arrived yet either lolIP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
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From: Mordor
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 08, 2014 07:21 PM
 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysbauRz1ZXY ------------------
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Solar_Leo_Queen
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From: Planet Earth
Registered: Jan 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 07:26 PM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysbauRz1ZXY
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MineAgain
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posted December 08, 2014 07:44 PM
I once dated a Venus in Aquarius man. I know the feeling. He's never had a relationship that lasted more than 3 weeks. He keeps going from one girl to another. He never seems to stop. I think that even he doesn't know what he's looking for. He's just chasing some pipe dream. He can date any sort of girl from the unattractive one to the tom boy or the cougar and have some sex friends on the side. He never seems to be fulfilled. Of course, I was deluded enough to think I had something special that would make him change his ways ... Haha. I was sorely disappointed. I think he's a better friend than a lover. Even his exes say so. He gets bored easily. He just can't resist any girl and he always finds flaws in girls. It was a strange encounter and I said "never again". Good luck to him on fiding his perfect match. Given how fickle and uncertain he is, I doubt he ever will find a woman that fulfills every single one of his "fantasies". IP: Logged |
midnightvenus
Knowflake Posts: 63
From: outerspace
Registered: Sep 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 07:55 PM
My crush has Sun and Venus in conjunction in Aquarius.
The last girl he dated (2 years ago lol) was a Sag Sun with Venus in Scorpio. What makes sense to me, since he has a Taurus ASC.
I have Sun and Mars conjunct in Aquarius and I also have a Taurus ASC. Crazy stuff lmao
My Venus is in Aries, though.IP: Logged |
Pretty Theft
Knowflake Posts: 56
From: Chicago
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted December 08, 2014 08:10 PM
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Originally posted by NeptunianSag:
Is this like a doomed Venus placement? Everyone is so boring, I've come to a boredom phase in my life where men are all predictable or have nothing interesting or mysterious to offer. I feel abit crazy too, like a teenager looking for the next exciting thing to do, but everyone is so safe, closed and predictable EURGH! Just waiting for a bad boy to sweep me off my feet, be ourselves and just live!
Sounds like you are looking for a madman! I hope you find him. In the meantime I'd suggest looking in places you wouldn't ordinarily look, like a dive bar you've never been to or volunteer somewhere or maybe a skydiving club or something. I mean seriously! There are plenty of people out there. It is also important to take a look at what you are putting out there. If this is your pattern, then I disagree with the other person -- it most definitely is you. You sound pretty young as well. If you want to keep sowing your oats then what's stopping you? As a conflicting viewpoint for the people out there, I dated an Aquarius sun/Aries moon with Mercury and Venus in Aquarius. I think he might have had Uranus in his 7th house too. If you looked at those aspects you would think he was a major commitment-phobe, but we were together for 7 years and he has a new girlfriend too! (Don't worry about me -- I'm in love with my new boyfriend) So I would remind people that while Aquarius loves novelty, it is also a fixed sign. Fixed signs are, by nature, rather stationary and stubborn in their outlook, and Aquarius is no different. I think it is actually Aquarius that is most likely to remain stuck in an unhappy relationship. IP: Logged |
fairaqua
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posted December 09, 2014 06:52 AM
Aqua in venus here.
I've been in a relationship for 11 years now. Hes great. Not the most exciting guy, but hes my best friend. Stable, supporting loves me and accepts my weirdness, no questions asked.
I contribute my 7th house Jupiter to him though.
People in general bore me though (except the ones that scare me, those people I admire and am fascinated with)
Usually people do seem predictable.
Its like I can read all their problems, just give me a few moments to watch them.
I love to keep to myself. It's a party in my own mind. Always creating and doing.
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lisalisa
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posted December 09, 2014 06:57 AM
Does this count for moon in aqua men too??IP: Logged |
I'm so cappy
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From: Mordor
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 06:58 AM
I have this Venus and I'd like to have a relationship that is lasting and stable (devotion and emotional connection wise) like marriage (should be). How flighty is that? Of course, I still require intellectual stimulation and excitement.------------------
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LeeLoo2014
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From: Venus cornering Neptune
Registered: Mar 2014
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posted December 09, 2014 06:58 AM
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Originally posted by I'm so cappy:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ysbauRz1ZXY
 OMG, he hurt his hand, look, he's showing it to you...prepare some Band-Aids.
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I'm so cappy
Knowflake Posts: 9191
From: Mordor
Registered: Nov 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 06:59 AM
Jinx It's energy, silly! My baby taught me telekinesis and stuff.------------------
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aquaguy91
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From: Uranus
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 08:23 AM
No,
I'm an Aqua venus and I rarely ever get bored because I can always entertain myself and create fun. Thus I don't expect my relationship partners to provide entertainment or get bored when they can't deliver 24/7. OP, since you are constantly getting bored in relationships maybe the problem is you. Are you fun? Are you interesting? Do you put forth your best efforts to spice up your relationships before you hit the eject button?etc. I could ask a million more questions but you prolly get the point. I'm not meaning to come across as a jerk, i'm just calling things as I see them. I get the impression that you are one of these girls that expects a guy to carry the relationship,or the atleast early stages (dating/courtship phase). Don't be one of those girls... There's enough of those running around in the world. Those are the types of girls that love bad boys because they get to have fun with zero responsibility or effort. A bad boy is the last thing you need. You need to work on yourself and try to be a happier and more interesting person so you have something to bring to a relationship. And once you get into a relationship try to facilitate more fun and spontaneity yourself instead of expecting the guy to do everything. If you do those things I think you will have more rewarding relationships, but that's just my opinion.IP: Logged |
AmelieRose81
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posted December 09, 2014 08:46 AM
Your partner isn't there to provide you with entertainment.Entertain yourself and them for a change :-) IP: Logged |
lisalisa
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Registered: Jun 2013
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posted December 09, 2014 08:48 AM
Does this count for aqua moons too? Especially men????IP: Logged |
bansheequeen
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From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 10:14 AM
In my observation aqua people are usually interesting and stubborn enough that they prefer to be the ones with the source of all excitement and fun. I'm wit a venus and mars in aqua man! He wants to be the one that takes the leash and decides what we will do next. Maybe this placement expresses itself diffrently in men and women. Or maybe that's his aqua mars.I agree with what the last couple people said. Are you fun? Are you interesting? Boring people are always bored. It's not the world's problem, it's an individual problem. Are you a sag sun? Aquas like excitement but they also want stability and commitment. Getting easily bored is something I've seen in sag. My sag friend has never had a boyfriend for more than a couple weeks. She's always dating new people. Or dating several people at a time. She's done like everything there is to do. I'm gonna guses she's eaten at like 5000 different restaurants. She loves the bad boys. Or the weirdos.she crushes easily but loses interest just as fast. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Uranus
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 11:32 AM
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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
In my observation aqua people are usually interesting and stubborn enough that they prefer to be the ones with the source of all excitement and fun.
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No,just no. As a man with Aqua sun,ascendant,and venus with gemini mars I have to say that this isn't true of me at all. What I desire is a truly equal partner. You know how women often complain about men only wanting them for sex and "objectifying" them? Well the idea of having to woo and romance a woman in the traditional way makes me feel objectified. I am not comfortable being that guy at all... I do not want to pursue a woman... I want us to pursue each other. I have tried it and I felt like a seal balancing a ball on my nose hoping a woman would throw me a fish. To me, there is an inbalance of power in that system that overwhelmingly favors women and I don't like it. IMO a relationship should be a 50/50 thing from the first date onward. Like I said, I want a truly equal partner. Sadly most women still cling to the old way of doing things and there's a good chance I'll stay alone because of that and that's ok with me. I've figured out what I want and won't settle for lessIP: Logged |
bansheequeen
Knowflake Posts: 746
From: Beachville, USA
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 11:48 AM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
No,just no. As a man with Aqua sun,ascendant,and venus with gemini mars I have to say that this isn't true of me at all. What I desire is a truly equal partner. You know how women often complain about men only wanting them for sex and "objectifying" them? Well the idea of having to woo and romance a woman in the traditional way makes me feel objectified. I am not comfortable being that guy at all... I do not want to pursue a woman... I want us to pursue each other. I have tried it and I felt like a seal balancing a ball on my nose hoping a woman would throw me a fish. To me, there is an inbalance of power in that system that overwhelmingly favors women and I don't like it. IMO a relationship should be a 50/50 thing from the first date onward. Like I said, I want a truly equal partner. Sadly most women still cling to the old way of doing things and there's a good chance I'll stay alone because of that and that's ok with me. I've figured out what I want and won't settle for less
What's your moon sign? I'm an aqua, I'm with an aqua venus and mars, my mom is an aqua moon, and I've dated an aqua sun. Seemed like all of us kind of prefer being the one that thinks of new interesting things when it comes to where aqua is ruling. When I briefly dated the aqua sun guy (scoprio moon cap venus and mars) he got kinda insecure when I would suggest something or be more interesting than him... And I'm not sure if the op was talking about who pursues who. That's a completely different topic. You can be bored of someone even if you're the one pursuing them. Still. I agree that most women like being pursued. I don't know how that's an imbalance of power though. Seems like the man has the power in that situation. Also the whole traditional notion of the man romancing the woman for thw hope of getting sex. The woman acts like shes too good for him. The man has to act like hes all romantic and will chase her till she gives in. It's all a game. Either you play it or you dont. Your choice. But don't get butthurt when 99 percent of the world is playing it. Are you from a small town? Seems like that's mostly where these kinds of games happen. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
Moderator Posts: 10206
From: Uranus
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posted December 09, 2014 12:24 PM
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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
What's your moon sign? I'm an aqua, I'm with an aqua venus and mars, my mom is an aqua moon, and I've dated an aqua sun. Seemed like all of us kind of prefer being the one that thinks of new interesting things when it comes to where aqua is ruling. When I briefly dated the aqua sun guy (scoprio moon cap venus and mars) he got kinda insecure when I would suggest something or be more interesting than him...And I'm not sure if the op was talking about who pursues who. That's a completely different topic. You can be bored of someone even if you're the one pursuing them. Still. I agree that most women like being pursued. I don't know how that's an imbalance of power though. Seems like the man has the power in that situation. Also the whole traditional notion of the man romancing the woman for thw hope of getting sex. The woman acts like shes too good for him. The man has to act like hes all romantic and will chase her till she gives in. It's all a game. Either you play it or you dont. Your choice. But don't get butthurt when 99 percent of the world is playing it. Are you from a small town? Seems like that's mostly where these kinds of games happen.
I'm a moon in taurus. And what??? If you don't think there's an imbalance of power in the traditional courtship rituals that overwhelmingly favors women you are delusional. Think about it this way... Men are expected to make all the moves, plans, phone calls/texts,and pay for the dates while the women get to keep their cards close to their chest and accept or reject him. It's alot like a job interview process... The applicant (man) turns in their resume/application to the company (woman) and they get to decide if they wish to give the applicant an opportunity to come in for an interview. If they decide to grant an interview they tell the applicant when to come by. Once the interview starts it's up to the applicant to sell themselves and convince the company to hire them. Afterwards the company gets to take their time and make their decision while the applicant is sweating bullets and hopes and prays that they get the job or atleast a 2nd interview.In that scenario who clearly has the power? The company! Anyone who has ever been through that process knows that. And that's the way traditional dating is for men, atleast that's the way it feels to me. I know the OP wasn't directly talking about pursuing/being pursued but I constantly hear the kind of language she is using in her OP from the type of women that expect a man to do all the work in dating. Oh... And i'm not butthurt!  I just know what I want and won't settle anymore. I would rather be alone than deal with women like that.
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bansheequeen
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From: Beachville, USA
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posted December 09, 2014 01:05 PM
I never thought of it as a power thing. For some reason I always saw the courtship game as something both parties lose on. Now if the two people can be real with eachother that's a different story but that rarely happens. And the person that is real while the other person isn't will end up getting hurt.The problem with women that chase after men and give into them too easily is that other people label them as ***** . So even if she wants a guy shell probably just act like shes too good for him. Even if shes playing the same gane with 10 other guys shell eventually have sex with after the 5th date or something. Because she acts like she didnt want it she can keep the illusion of being pure. Or something. I think what you're asking for is an upheaval of our entire society. IP: Logged |
Pretty Theft
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From: Chicago
Registered: Nov 2014
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posted December 09, 2014 01:09 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
And that's the way traditional dating is for men, atleast that's the way it feels to me. I know the OP wasn't directly talking about pursuing/being pursued but I constantly hear the kind of language she is using in her OP from the type of women that expect a man to do all the work in dating. Oh... And i'm not butthurt! I just know what I want and won't settle anymore. I would rather be alone than deal with women like that.
Don't worry, there are plenty of women who feel this way too! I personally do not subscribe to it, since every time I've tried pursuing someone it hasn't worked out. Actually, that's not true. I can be an amazingly effective bait. But I'm not a hunter  Anyway, the point is, all people have to do is figure out what exactly they want and then find someone out there who wants the same thing. Problem is, some people aren't sure what it is they want. That takes maturity. IP: Logged |
FireMoon
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From: Minnesota
Registered: Mar 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 01:20 PM
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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
I never thought of it as a power thing. For some reason I always saw the courtship game as something both parties lose on. Now if the two people can be real with eachother that's a different story but that rarely happens. And the person that is real while the other person isn't will end up getting hurt.The problem with women that chase after men and give into them too easily is that other people label them as ***** . So even if she wants a guy shell probably just act like shes too good for him. Even if shes playing the same gane with 10 other guys shell eventually have sex with after the 5th date or something. Because she acts like she didnt want it she can keep the illusion of being pure. Or something. I think what you're asking for is an upheaval of our entire society.
This. Chivalry creates certain expectations for women as well, which men often end up resenting if it turns out to be a façade (sort of like their chivalry more often than not). For what it's worth I really would like an upheaval of our entire society lol but alas most people don't. So I wouldn't say it's boredom I have a problem with really, but yeah I suppose it is difficult to be an Aqua venus regardless of gender...
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bansheequeen
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From: Beachville, USA
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posted December 09, 2014 01:24 PM
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Originally posted by Pretty Theft:
Don't worry, there are plenty of women who feel this way too!I personally do not subscribe to it, since every time I've tried pursuing someone it hasn't worked out. Actually, that's not true. I can be an amazingly effective bait. But I'm not a hunter Anyway, the point is, all people have to do is figure out what exactly they want and then find someone out there who wants the same thing. Problem is, some people aren't sure what it is they want. That takes maturity.
Yes. I am one but I won't chase a man either. Id rather get to know him stripped of societys rules. He's gotta be genuine and not play these games with me because it shows that either he isn't serious, or he plays them all the time with other women, or he won't know what to do with someone that's real with him. Of course I have dated men that chased me because I felt like he wants me that bad I think it could be special. Or could be that I am very special to him. But no. Just a game. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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From: Uranus
Registered: Jan 2012
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posted December 09, 2014 01:25 PM
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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
I never thought of it as a power thing. For some reason I always saw the courtship game as something both parties lose on. Now if the two people can be real with eachother that's a different story but that rarely happens. And the person that is real while the other person isn't will end up getting hurt.The problem with women that chase after men and give into them too easily is that other people label them as ***** . So even if she wants a guy shell probably just act like shes too good for him. Even if shes playing the same gane with 10 other guys shell eventually have sex with after the 5th date or something. Because she acts like she didnt want it she can keep the illusion of being pure. Or something. I think what you're asking for is an upheaval of our entire society.
No,No... I don't expect a woman to pursue me, I think all of those games are childish. What I mean is I want a woman who meets me halfway in everything. It doesn't really matter who breaks the ice first though.
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bansheequeen
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From: Beachville, USA
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posted December 09, 2014 01:33 PM
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Originally posted by FireMoon:
This. Chivalry creates certain expectations for women as well, which men often end up resenting if it turns out to be a façade (sort of like their chivalry more often than not). For what it's worth I really would like an upheaval of our entire society lol but alas most people don't. So I wouldn't say it's boredom I have a problem with really, but yeah I suppose it is difficult to be an Aqua venus regardless of gender...
Yeah. It's just all screwed up. Women are expected to be pure so they hide thier desires. Men have the idea that if a girl makes him work for it or she puts it off for a few dates, she is a good girl and pure and whatever. Even if she isnt. And girls will think that if a man is willing to go that far to get inside her lol then he is going to do everything for her if she strikes the perfect balance of putting out and restricting it. Which isn't true either. It's just all screwed up. Makes me want to become a hermit haha. Well I'm an aqua sun. And I really value people that are genuine. Cant tolerate fakeness. And to me, the whole dating courtship thing is all a huge fake game. IP: Logged |
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