posted December 20, 2014 01:13 AM            

I think my sex drive was average- in as far as "doing it" is concerned.I must admit.

But I did love my porn.Seemed to love to "watch" other people do it and imagine myself a part of that than participating in it myself.

But i have noticed that a lot of that has changed- since being in this relationship.

I like to have sex quite a lot now. My partner turns me on a lot and it seems the longer we stay together,the more the passion for him increases(instead of weakening).

I used to have a hard time figuring out what I want.Have a hard time knowing whether what I wanted,was what I wanted.Or just a reflection of my partner?

I think I may have figured out what is really important for my Mars in Libra.It's kind of made me come into full contact with my sexuality too.

*My Mars in Libra likes the fairness of our relationship.

We take turns doing everything;dividing chores,picking movies,deciding on which places to go out to etc.Everything.

*My Mars in Libra likes continuous mental exchange with a partner.

My cell phone bill is crazy because we talk to each other constantly- like we are joined at the hip.

Initially,I thought its our joint water moon "clingy" nature. But now I see that that is only a contributing factor.Not the basis

Our topics range from politics to media coverage,to celeb culture to religion. Nothing is off limits. And my Sag Sun doesn't feel tired of that either.

*My Mars in Libra likes to do small things for the partner.

Sometimes(compliments of Moon in Cancer too) I will do very small favours for him; buying small gifts,giving him massages(my Chiron in Taurus) and cooking for him a lot etc.

With all these things I do,my drive for physical intimacy increases. I think he is sex on legs.Really!!

So I was wondering. And this is particularly for those with Mars in Libra;Do you find that your sex drive increases depending on the quality of the relationship?

If the quality of the relationship is really not that great i.e not being mentally stimulated or lacks "fairness" etc. Do you find that the desire for your partner is not immediate? Or you are not that keen to get physical?

I have heard many on here say how "low" the sex drive for Mars in Libra is. But I am not experiencing that at all. Not with him. And not even with his Saturn conjunct my Mars.

I have Moon-Mars square,Mercury-Mars square and Mars in Libra 6th house.He has Mars in Sag in 5th.

With other relationships,I was going with the motions.But with him,I really "connect". He is very much a good friend and lover to me

Maybe that is the key to Mars in Libra sexuality? To really "connect"?

posted December 20, 2014 01:49 AM            

You see the equality of the relationship (Libra) expressed through Virgoan qualities, and this vibrates with your Martian energy.

I think why your Mars-Saturn conjunction works is because his Saturn IS in Libra. The responsibility is divided in a way that is equitable, and that's how he views it should be. This vibes with your notion of fairness through Libra in the 6H. You see eye to eye, and there's no fuss. What turns Libra on more than the beauty of harmony?!?

My Cap Mars is in the 3H. Nothing turns me on like good conversation/intelligence. I'm slow, steady, and deliberate, like a Cap Mars, but 3H matters really excite me and resonate with my sexuality. Hope this makes sense.

posted December 20, 2014 03:01 AM            

My opinion of a personal planet in 6th was that of someone who offers a service.

And by that I mean a person who is very much eager to do work- usually under the guidance of someone.Or someone who has pieces of their personality invested in rendering a service(6th)to others.

When Mars/Sun/Pluto/Uranus is in the 6th,one often wants to "lead" in the rendering of that service in some way. And this conflicts greatly with the 6th house attitude of "subordination".

Now with regards to sexuality,I now see how this also plays out.

Since Mars is a planet of the leader(not the secretary),the person who has Mars in 6th wants to do the rendering of the service(6th),ON THEIR OWN TERMS(Mars)!!!

This is why I always LEAD conversations with my partner.Which he then responds to.Or when a conversation has already started,I am quick to take the lead in asking questions and guiding its development.

So my sex drive could be connected to how able my partner(Libra)is to respond to me(Mars)?The more he responds,the more sexually confident I feel.

Even when having sex.I want to make him feel good(6th).That is my initial motivation.

But I don't like to ask him what makes him feel good(ironic).I prefer going on my own devices and make him feel good on my own terms-Mars wants to lead on their own terms.

So the more he responds to my "service",the more turned on I get(Mars in 6th).If he doesn't,I don't feel him as much.Not to mention the relationship.

Wow!! So my Mars in Libra is really quite self-centered in essence and is not about "fairness" after all.But rather about reciprocation/mirroring(Libra).

posted December 20, 2014 06:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
*My Mars in Libra likes the fairness of our relationship.

*My Mars in Libra likes continuous mental exchange with a partner.

*My Mars in Libra likes to do small things for the partner.

So I was wondering. And this is particularly for those with Mars in Libra;Do you find that your sex drive increases depending on the quality of the relationship?

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Yes, yes, yes & definite yes.

I do have a very high sex drive, but if I am unhappy in the relationship, I will turn to porn and become completely uninterested in sex with my partner.

Mars in Libra

posted December 20, 2014 06:38 PM            

It happened to me and my mars is in Gemini, funny i know we are both air mars but my sex drive has always been strong until i had a pretty bad addiction with porn at one point. It got so bad that i couldn't get "it up" when i would get intimate with a woman, only when i watched porn. Kinda similar to that movie Shame with Michael Fassbender.

posted December 20, 2014 07:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Honestly i think you watching porn too much has hurt your sex drive, not your mars sign.
Get rid of the porn!

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Ummmm...no.

I will have sex with him as much as he wants (which is about 3-4 times a week), but he doesn't want it as much as I do (daily). Probably because he's 13 years older than me (and he's getting close to 50). He needs more time to rest in between our marathons lol. Anyway, porn is a nice fill in... it keeps me sane while he is in recovery mode.

I was referring to my past relationships.

When those relationships went down the toilet, I lost interest in having sex with those partners (in spite of my very high sex drive) because they were being a-holes to me.

In those previous scenarios, I basically had relations with myself for my own sanity. I watched porn as an aid to avoidance, which is not why I watch it currently.

Now, porn is used as a supplement, not a replacement.

posted December 20, 2014 08:02 PM            

Except for when my partner does something stupid.. I like to get even. If he flirts with another girl, I'll freaking flirt with another guy, because that's fair right?

I do agree with the "doing little things for the partner" part, though. I have a water moon too, and I have Venus in Virgo which is notorious for that kind of thing.

Mental exchange is highly important to me. I hate it when the guy tries to come up with a topic that I like, but he doesn't, and he's only coming up with that topic just because he wants to impress me. Real conversationalists are what I'm looking for. If the guy can't come up with a topic that we both can exchange ideas with, then I'm out (also if all he does is talk sh*t about other people or complain).

If the relationship is not great (most likely because I don't like him), I won't even be dating the guy. I'll just stay friends. Like don't touch me in an intimate way, bud. You're in the friendzone lol.

I think for you, the square with the Moon makes you someone who can only be truly passionate with someone you feel deeply for. Otherwise, it would just be a "going with the flow" kind of thing.

posted December 20, 2014 11:59 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Honestly i think you watching porn too much has hurt your sex drive, not your mars sign.

It happened to me and my mars is in Gemini, funny i know we are both air mars but my sex drive has always been strong until i had a pretty bad addiction with porn at one point. It got so bad that i couldn't get "it up" when i would get intimate with a woman, only when i watched porn. Kinda similar to that movie Shame with Michael Fassbender.

Get rid of the porn!

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I used to watch porn a lot in relationships where I was feeling unsatisfied. Even told my partner about that. Was very open.

But as I said, things have changed. Not in this relationship. I am indifferent to porn and haven't watched it much since we got together.

For me , I associated that with the quality of the relationship. As I said, i really feel that I "connect". Not like with my exes. But in a more genuine, transparent and sometimes very friendly way.

Mars in air is can be "cerebral" - quite detached, cold and not that passionate.I beg to differ.Not when air Mars feels stimulated No ways!!!

posted December 21, 2014 12:17 AM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
Depending on quality of relationship?
Uh, increases the better I'm treated that's for sure.
Increases the more my attraction is reciprocated.
But it remains fairly high, and, eh, I think I relate that to my rather pervy Venus sq Pluto. Maybe some other things.
Libra Mars

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I think that is more your Mars in Libra than Venus-Pluto square actually.

Venus tends to lend a kind of "intimacy" to Pluto and wants Pluto to be more focused on relating to others?

In other words,it would be safe to say that one with Venus-Pluto square tends to fall for bad boys/girls type?

Not because they see them as "bad", but because they believe that Pluto(bad boy/girl) is simply just "misunderstood". They want to believe that there is a part of Pluto that resonates with them completely. Which there very rarely is.

With the square aspect,there is always an issue of not being able to fit the square peg(Pluto)into the round hole(Venus).

Its almost like there can never be a smooth flowing relation between you(Venus)and the other(Pluto).Because you want them to be something that they are not- and they keep on disappointing you.

The trick here is when Venus starts to accept Pluto "as is".Than the bond can solidify or break-up.Depending on the people involved.

posted December 21, 2014 02:39 AM            

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Originally posted by Lonake:
You think Mars in Libra is perverse..
Well it is Air. I guess that counts for something.

Venus/Pluto rule my 11th/5th if that helps you any.
Then Venus also rules my 4th.
Pluto in the 4th, Venus in the 6th.

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I wonder if what I said above about planets in 6th resonates much with you?

I think that Venus is a better placement than Mars/Pluto/Sun/Uranus in 6th. As the 6th is about "subordinates" and rendering a service.

So my guess is that Venus is more "open" to pleasing others. More "open" in fulfilling the needs of others- especially when Venus is in Capricorn,Virgo,Pisces,Libra and to a less extent Taurus.

The joy comes with the giving;barring Cap Venus- who feels "obligated" and guilted into giving most times.

Pluto in 4th suggests that your home was strongly polarized(Pluto).This is also true of those who have Mars there.Especially when Pluto/Mars were in Scorpio/Sagittarius at the time of birth.With Libra, the emphasis could have been to find common ground.

IMO Mars is the prime influence of sexuality.If it touches Pluto in the natal, its influence is extended to Pluto- depending on the aspect.

posted December 21, 2014 02:51 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
I don't think I'm the typical Mars in Libra. "LOW" sex drive? Nah, I'm a crazy **** when I'm doing it with someone I like.

Porn does turn me on but I feel that the actual thing drives my hormones to the roof. Other things like picking out movies or restaurants or stuff like that, I prefer someone who takes charge of that.

I'm the type of person who likes someone who can show me things I've never tried or done before (Sag desc, Jupiter in Aqua), so that's out of the list as well.

Except for when my partner does something stupid.I like to get even. If he flirts with another girl, I'll freaking flirt with another guy, because that's fair right?

I do agree with the "doing little things for the partner" part, though. I have a water moon too, and I have Venus in Virgo which is notorious for that kind of thing.

Mental exchange is highly important to me. I hate it when the guy tries to come up with a topic that I like, but he doesn't, and he's only coming up with that topic just because he wants to impress me.

Real conversationalists are what I'm looking for. If the guy can't come up with a topic that we both can exchange ideas with, then I'm out (also if all he does is talk sh*t about other people or complain).

If the relationship is not great (most likely because I don't like him), I won't even be dating the guy. I'll just stay friends. Like don't touch me in an intimate way, bud. You're in the friendzone lol.

I think for you,the square with the Moon makes you someone who can only be truly passionate with someone you feel deeply for. Otherwise, it would just be a "going with the flow" kind of thing.

And I think the actual key to unlocking your Mars's sexuality is to look at the aspects to it and the house it is in, not just the sign.

Like for me, I might have a high sex drive just because I have Mars in the 5th opposite Saturn, trine Jupiter, and square Uranus.. or maybe simply because I am a fire Sun.

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I would look at the planets influencing Mars to get an idea of the kind of sex drive a person has.And not the planets that Mars influences.

And you are correct. I tend to be most "turned on" by my partner when emotions are involved. I am very sensitive to slights or rebuffs- my sex drive just goes.

Is the ruler of your 1st house in the 7th house? Or is your chart more DSC point heavy?

I often notice that people who have lots of planets in 6th to 9th house tend to go along with others easily.Or tend to want to cooperate with the general consensus

But it becomes ever more tricky when Pluto,Uranus,Mars,Sun and to a certain extent Saturn,are part of the mix.

posted December 21, 2014 05:01 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
I would look at the planets influencing Mars to get an idea of the kind of sex drive a person has.And not the planets that Mars influences.

And you are correct. I tend to be most "turned on" by my partner when emotions are involved. I am very sensitive to slights or rebuffs- my sex drive just goes.

Is the ruler of your 1st house in the 7th house? Or is your chart more DSC point heavy?

I often notice that people who have lots of planets in 6th to 9th house tend to go along with others easily.Or tend to want to cooperate with the general consensus

But it becomes ever more tricky when Pluto,Uranus,Mars,Sun and to a certain extent Saturn,are part of the mix.

Mars/Uranus/Pluto especially will not like to say "yes" all the time to what others want.

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No, the ruler of my chart is in the third house (Mercury in Virgo). Heck, I got nothing on my 7th house. I have a splash chart and have 4 unoccupied houses.

And what do you mean by Pluto, Uranus, Mars, Sun, and Saturn being a part of the mix? Do you mean by aspect?

posted December 21, 2014 05:13 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
No, the ruler of my chart is in the third house (Mercury in Virgo). Heck, I got nothing on my 7th house. I have a splash chart and have 4 unoccupied houses.

And what do you mean by Pluto, Uranus, Mars, Sun, and Saturn being a part of the mix? Do you mean by aspect?

My Mars does square Uranus, but it's an out of cross square (my Uranus is in Aqua early degrees and Mars in late Libra). Uranus is in house of Scorpio, the 8th. I think that plays out, too. I noticed you mentioned 6th house placements as well. I have Pluto in Sag in there and that house is ruled by Scorpio.

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Oh ok I see.Ruler of 1st in the 3rd house of intellectual curiosity and constant flux.

But that Pluto in 6th is interesting.Pluto likes to be its own boss(if being the boss of others is not possible).

So I have always assumed that since I also have Pluto in 6th(house of servants),that I am the type of worker/employer who likes to have free reign. Someone does not need to constantly watch over me. I need more space to do my own thing.

posted December 21, 2014 05:37 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Oh ok I see.Ruler of 1st in the 3rd house of intellectual curiosity and constant flux.

But that Pluto in 6th is interesting.Pluto likes to be its own boss(if being the boss of others is not possible).

So I have always assumed that since I also have Pluto in 6th(house of servants),that I am the type of worker/employer who likes to have free reign. Someone does not need to constantly watch over me. I need more space to do my own thing.

Is that the same with you?

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posted December 21, 2014 05:47 AM            

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Originally posted by Solar_Leo_Queen:
Yes, I definitely agree with that. I don't like to work for someone (although it's necessary at times) and I don't usually feel comfortable working in a group, but somehow I manage.

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Excellent. That is why I made that comment about someone having a large concentration in the 6-9 houses being in a pickle when Mars/Uranus/Pluto/Sun are also there.

These planets tend to demand more independence and to go on their way.

Maybe you are not too concerned with picking movies or restaurants and consider that "small fish". That is why you don't mind going along with your partner's choice in these.

I on the other hand do mind. I tend to be a little bit of someone who wants to have a say in those things.

My Mars/Pluto in 6th,my Sun/Uranus in 8th. I have a large concentration of planets between 6-9th house. But I find it difficult to conform to "group think".

posted December 21, 2014 06:10 AM            

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Excellent. That is why I made that comment about someone having a large concentration in the 6-9 houses being in a pickle when Mars/Uranus/Pluto/Sun are also there.

These planets tend to demand more independence and to go on their way.

Maybe you are not too concerned with picking movies or restaurants and consider that "small fish". That is why you don't mind going along with your partner's choice in these.

I on the other hand do mind. I tend to be a little bit of someone who wants to have a say in those things.

My Mars/Pluto in 6th,my Sun/Uranus in 8th. I have a large concentration of planets between 6-9th house. But I find it difficult to conform to "group think".

I also don't like someone else making decisions for me I prefer going 50/50 at the least.

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Picking movies and restaurants really are "small fish" to me. It's like, hey if you wanna watch Spiderman 2, okay cool. Let's go with that. I'm not sure what in my chart causes it though.

As for group think, it really depends on the people I'm with. I also don't like other people making decisions for me (AT ALL), but I do ask other's opinions on a decision.

It's not a bad thing to make your own decisions. I mean, it's your life, right? You should be in control of it.

posted December 21, 2014 07:31 AM              

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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
This position has got a reputation for having a low sex drive,not being sexual enough,being evasive and even not really liking the act of sex.

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I have no idea where this comes from. Mars in Libra is disposited by Venus, he/she is a lover. Of course, the position (sign house) and aspects to Venus will tell you more about it, just like the house and aspects of Mars. The sign is only a flavor of one's Mars.

I think this strange idea comes from the fact that the pleasure of Mars in Libra is tightly connected to the pleasure of the other, to giving pleasure to the other. This is somehow (wrongly) seen as a form of being "detached" and people who are getting in there and doing it like they're eating a huge cake, totally immersed in their own pleasure and self-gratification is seen as having a "high sex drive". I always find this idea bizarre - putting your mind in sex or having mind sex and combinations lol (sexually cerebral) or a heart/sex connection (mixing love/emotions with your sex drive) does not mean, IMO, a low sex drive, lower than just being instinctive and carnal. I thin that's where this idea comes from - Libra Mars is not purely instinctive and carnal but as I was saying, this does not mean low sex drive. Honestly, I don't think there's an astrological placement, a Mars for low sex drive, just different ways to experience and love sex.

Well, obviously, there are people with low sex drives compared to other people. But this being reflected by the sign of their Mars? Hardly. That would be an interesting survey thread, BTW

The people I know with high sex drive have all kinds of Marses and I know lots of people with Marses traditionally seen as "hot" with low sex drive.

EDIT: One example will be someone with Mars in Scorpio and Saturn in the 8th with very low sex drive. Mars in Capricorn in the 12th - another example (maybe here the 12th house may be a clue), Mars in Virgo in 1st on the ASC - just 3 examples I know.
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posted December 21, 2014 08:11 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I think this strange idea comes from the fact that the pleasure of Mars in Libra is tightly connected to the pleasure of the other, to giving pleasure to the other. This is somehow (wrongly) seen as a form of being "detached" and people who are getting in there and doing it like they're eating a huge cake, totally immersed in their own pleasure and self-gratification is seen as having a "high sex drive". I always find this idea bizarre - putting your mind in sex or having mind sex and combinations lol (sexually cerebral) or a heart/sex connection (mixing love/emotions with your sex drive) does not mean, IMO, a low sex drive, lower than just being instinctive and carnal. I thin that's where this idea comes from - Libra Mars is not purely instinctive and carnal but as I was saying, this does not mean low sex drive. Honestly, I don't think there's an astrological placement, a Mars for low sex drive, just different ways to experience and love sex.

Well, obviously, there are people with low sex drives compared to other people. But this being reflected by the sign of their Mars? Hardly. That would be an interesting survey thread, BTW

The people I know with high sex drive have all kinds of Marses and I know lots of people with Marses traditionally seen as "hot" with low sex drive.

EDIT: One example will be someone with Mars in Scorpio and Saturn in the 8th with very low sex drive. Mars in Capricorn in the 12th - another example (maybe here the 12th house may be a clue), Mars in Virgo in 1st on the ASC - just 3 examples I know.

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You are right ofcourse. And I did wonder that perhaps Juno in Aries(12th) opposite my Mars is in Libra did make the open expression of my sexual impulses that much more difficult.

As I said. I did enjoy my porn and found it hard to express sexual feelings for my partner before.

But there was a thread:Where people debated sex drives according to Mars placements and as can be expected, Air signs(most particularly Libra)came in "least" inspiring when it came to sexual expression or having a sex drive.

And this is not the only place where such a conclusion was drawn.Every other site I visit seems to highlight this or make Mars in Libra to be very tame when in comes to sex.

For the longest time I believed it.That is until I became involved with the Libra Sun. All that perspective changed.

I am so into him it is not funny. Really!!! And I am always ready for another go- wherever whenever.And I concluded that this must be because we connect so well intellectually.

So I was just wondering what could be the common thread? Is this what Mars in air is all about.Is this the key to unleash desire?

I find that the longer I am with him, the longer we share,the longer we make each others lives easier etc. the more I "want" him.

Not in the nice polite way.But in the "raise the roof and call the police. I think someone's house is on fire" kinda way.

Maybe its the transit of Uranus and Pluto wide opposition and square my natal Mars?

But I don't think this is as exclusive as I think.And so I just wanted to hear other Mars in Libra thoughts about it.

In my mind it makes absolute sense that Libra Mars sexuality could be tied into the quality of the relationship.

Since Libra is most sensitive to getting along well with the partner.It would be expected that for the sex drive to increase, the two people involved must make a good team.

Other Mars signs seem to be less concerned with that.A roll in the hay is a roll in the hay for most(with the exception of Mars in Cancer,Pisces,Virgo and Cap)

House positions add to this and so do aspects to Mars. But the essence of Mars in Libra is not extinguished. Not in its base "wants".

posted December 21, 2014 08:58 AM              

It is interesting that we can't evaluate the sex drive of people who live in abstinence or celibates such as monks, we can't assume their sex drive must be lower than that of let's say a porn star, it could be the opposite: celibacy or abstinence or going for a certain kind of sex such as a quality relationship only are matters of sublimation, of choice. the way someone views sex and the meaning it has for them in their life is of utmost importance when it comes to their sexual activity. One can choose to sublimate sex for a higher purpose or a specific ideal or goal, despite their sex drive, such as some people (like monks) do.

Talking like a Libra Mars hahahaha with I think, a high one? (every day is the perfect formula for me)

I agree with you on the fact that an harmonious relationship is a big turn on, at least in my case. For me, romance is the most powerful aphrodisiac

posted December 21, 2014 09:50 AM            

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Originally posted by LeeLoo2014:
I think what happens with Air Marses is the fact they can be cerebral about sex. I totally agree with this. It means several things, in my view: they need a lot of mental stimulation, communication and variety to express fully when it comes to sex. They most likely think about sex a lot and need stimulating fantasies, with Libra for instance, some Venusian fantasies: beauty grace romance seduction dance threesomes etc. They also need to feel a mental connection with the partner. They also get turned on by "Airy" things, depending on the sign and by "ideas", imagination, inspiration. Something new, something that involves the mind. On the other hand, they can sublimate sex better than other signs, which means abstinence but also connecting sex to a certain idea, or concept, or ideal.

It is interesting that we can't evaluate the sex drive of people who live in abstinence or celibates such as monks, we can't assume their sex drive must be lower than that of let's say a porn star, it could be the opposite: celibacy or abstinence or going for a certain kind of sex such as a quality relationship only are matters of sublimation, of choice. the way someone views sex and the meaning it has for them in their life is of utmost importance when it comes to their sexual activity. One can choose to sublimate sex for a higher purpose or a specific ideal or goal, despite their sex drive, such as some people (like monks) do.

Talking like a Libra Mars hahahaha with I think, a high one? (every day is the perfect formula for me)

I agree with you on the fact that an harmonious relationship is a big turn on, at least in my case. For me, romance is the most powerful aphrodisiac

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posted December 23, 2014 05:29 PM            

Aries23Degrees, I think we've discussed him before but there is a man I know with his Mars in Libra, in the 7th house, that touches EVERY planet with the exception of Uranus, with Uranus in the 8th house, and he is the most sexually charged and, quite frankly, perverted person I've met to date. He is quite literally addicted to pornography, indulging on a nearly daily basis (sometimes multiple times in a day) and is quite consistent with this despite being with a partner. He is also EXTREMELY open minded when it comes to the "act" and there are very little, if any boundaries so "beauty" and "grace" do not always factor into that equation. I can attest to the mental stimulation part, however, since he really does require dirty talk during the act or role-playing to be fully engaged. He can also be rather...selfish as well sometimes, so I'm not sure where the sense of balance in the act was lost. Perhaps if a partner was more insistent on "receiving" he would go along but for him to initiate, very seldom. He is very creative though and eager to perform well, I just wonder if this is the porn influence.

He is a hard one to figure out, honestly. Everything I have read about typical Mars in Libra tends to contradict his sexual nature. To try and pin down what it is that truly satisfies him sexually is tricky.

posted December 23, 2014 06:44 PM            

I'll take a Mars in Libra to bed any day of the week if they conjunct my Venus :P

I did really appreciate the give in take in bed. I mean I've only been with one Mars in Libra but they don't seem the type to leave you hanging after you give a little loving.

posted December 24, 2014 01:25 AM            

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Originally posted by margym0o:
I'm going to agree that it is less about the individual Mars in Libra on its own and rather the whole chart taken into account.

Aries23Degrees, I think we've discussed him before but there is a man I know with his Mars in Libra, in the 7th house, that touches EVERY planet with the exception of Uranus, with Uranus in the 8th house, and he is the most sexually charged and, quite frankly, perverted person I've met to date. He is quite literally addicted to pornography, indulging on a nearly daily basis (sometimes multiple times in a day) and is quite consistent with this despite being with a partner. He is also EXTREMELY open minded when it comes to the "act" and there are very little, if any boundaries so "beauty" and "grace" do not always factor into that equation. I can attest to the mental stimulation part, however, since he really does require dirty talk during the act or role-playing to be fully engaged. He can also be rather...selfish as well sometimes, so I'm not sure where the sense of balance in the act was lost. Perhaps if a partner was more insistent on "receiving" he would go along but for him to initiate, very seldom. He is very creative though and eager to perform well, I just wonder if this is the porn influence.

He is a hard one to figure out, honestly. Everything I have read about typical Mars in Libra tends to contradict his sexual nature. To try and pin down what it is that truly satisfies him sexually is tricky.

In other areas of his life though, he is VERY much a Libra Mars. He often plays the role of devil's advocate...almost infuriatingly so!!!! Fairness is his middle name.

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I recall you telling me of him. Although I do not recall the positions clearly.

His Mars in 7th is heavily concentrated in the debating part. As you mentioned,he asserts(Mars) the position of the opposition(7th).

But Mars in 7th is also not indifferent to personal relationships.Especially if Aries is Ascending(Mars is ruler of 1st).

And I think that his addiction to porn(because that is really what it is),is an escape from the drudgery and boredom in relating to his mate.

He could feel that his current relationship is not providing the stimuli he wants.Probably not enough arguments, sharing,debate,conversing of topical issues or engagement from the other.

I was heavily into porn when I was not feeling the relationship I had with someone.But I would really be very slow in breaking it off.Almost wishing that I would meet someone else before breaking the current one.

I think that if he was to regain the power of his Mars in Libra and exercise it as feverishly in his personal life as he does in debate matters,you would see a definite change in him.And porn will no longer be used as a crutch.

I wonder if the current transit of Uranus in Aries/Pluto in Cap have started working on his Asc/Dsc axis?

They may initiate all sorts of changes within him(Asc)and the relationships he is in(7th).

Mars in Libra wants to be the leader who appears self-less. The position is no less egotistical and selfish than Mars in Aries IME.

But the individual NEVER wants to come across as quite "in your face" as Aries does.The iron hand is covered by a beautiful velvet glove.

So Mars in Libra wants to always seem like it was "your idea" for them to do this and that. And they may even fool you into thinking that you are "leading".

But watch the tell-tale signs of contradicting actions.A sure way of telling passive disengagement(especially in Men) i.e "yes dear" responses to you whilst picking fights unnecessarily at work.

Letting you make all the decisions at home and being a total controll freak in another area of life.

Lack lustre performance in sex but an enthuisiastic masturbator.

Silent evenings at home with you whilst a fierce debator and conversationalist with friends.

A ritual peck on the cheeck with you but hopelessly flirting with waitresses-even waitors. Coz Mars in Libra can feed off any attention