posted April 07, 2015 12:06 PM            

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Originally posted by BellaFenice:
Interesting, I really do not have a hard time, maybe the first year of breaking up with my first love but really once I am done I am done. I think if who I loved was also someone I would consider a friend, it would be way harder to let go. For me, friendship is key to developing future love, so in a sense it is losing two different people: a friend and a lover.

But to fair, I'm only a double Aqua with a lot of cardinal energy, so that could be why as well. I do of course feel sad and bummed out when I break up with someone, but I will not hang on for years and wonder what if.

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posted April 07, 2015 12:28 PM            

One of my cousins have an Aqua Mars like myself. And when she was on a hiatus from her now husband...she would talk to my older sister about maybe her and her high school sweetheart could reconnect.

When I was tot, I loved her high school boyfriend. I kind of remember him. haha I was quite attached to him.

About a year or two ago, she messaged me about her high school ex. Telling me how she is doing so much better than him. And how his new wife is a Bowser. lol

posted April 07, 2015 12:31 PM            

EDIT: love sorry lol

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posted April 07, 2015 02:42 PM            

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Originally posted by RogueReader:
Aqua Sun and Mercury speaking. Possible reasons for an Aqua having a hard time moving on could be any of the following:

• Aquas are more sensitive than anyone gives us credit for, even ourselves. Aquas already feel like oddballs, so the failed relationships/rejection (especially from a first love) can bring about a mini-existential crisis.

• Aquas need a logical resolve to really move on. Once they can understand -- for themselves -- why a situation must end, they do it with a quickness. (That's often why people mention the "shocking" and "sudden" departure of an Aqua. Sudden and shocking to them, but reasoned and "for the greater good" to the Aqua in question). HOWEVER, when they can't sort out the logic behind a relationship's demise, they become obsessed with gaining that insight. It's like some knowledge-driven quest for closure within themselves. Drives us nuts!

• The "first love" has some unforgettable quality or brought out parts of the Aqua that were unexpected and/or desired. People who can manage to surprise an Aqua by bringing out qualities in said Aqua (who feel they know everything, especially about themselves), are rare finds. Aquas love rare and unusual.
  

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The last part of the second point is exactly why I can't seem to let go of my last fling.

Bravo, my friend!

posted April 08, 2015 10:44 AM              

I do think it's possible for Aquas to let go, but 3/4 people I know have moved on already. But you all are right... When we finally fall in love, which takes a while for that to happen, we're so surprised that someone could make us feel this way... that I guess we're afraid we'll never find anyone else to invoke feelings like that in us again.

One of my Aquarius friends dated this girl for a year and a half. She was his first girlfriend and he even lost his virginity to her. Fast forward, 4 years, he still can't get over her even though she cheated on him twice. Whenever he dates new girls, he forgets about her. He actually dated this girl for almost a year, but after she broke up with him, he tried talking to his ex again but she wants nothing to do with him. However, he will not get it through his head. Which is weird because he's an Aqua sun, Gemini Moon, Aqua venus. I would guess someone with that much air would be okay with moving on but I don't know.

I think my Taurus moon makes it harder for me to let go sometimes also, but after a few months, my head gets clear and I can realize why the relationship needed to be over. I just need to analyze every little detail before I can fully move on. I hate that I'm so analytical at times.

posted April 08, 2015 12:07 PM              

So weird that we both know people that are so eerily similar

posted April 08, 2015 12:19 PM              

We just didn't connect beyond fun. Any conversation even slightly serious and on my end it felt like she took what I said for totally different meanings.

posted April 08, 2015 12:34 PM            

Fast forward a few months later, he ended it with me on my birthday. The reason is because he realized he was still in love with her after all this time (and was still sleeping with her, obviously).

posted April 08, 2015 01:28 PM            

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Originally posted by polkadotstars:
I have been in love once. It was with an Aqua Sun/Scorpio Moon (my pisces moon loves those scorpio moons ahh). We dated on and off for 1 1/2 years. He kept saying "just wait a little longer, I'll be ready for a relationship soon". His ex moved into the area and moved in with him. He swore they were only friends even though he never let me meet her or let me come over to their apartment when she was home.

Fast forward a few months later, he ended it with me on my birthday. The reason is because he realized he was still in love with her after all this time (and was still sleeping with her, obviously).

I guess it didn't work out though because a few months down the road he tried to get back with me! But yes, I think he had a very hard time moving on from her.

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posted April 08, 2015 01:48 PM            

I'm glad you're no longer in that situation. Regardless if a man or woman, when they say "I'm not ready" or "wait just a while until I've sorted things out", that means they are trying to gently turn you down. They will never "be ready", because when someone is serious about a relationship, they will put forth every effort to make it work. Prioritizing the relationship is what matters, not some vague "ding!" moment or so-and-so amount of time. "Being ready" does not exist in the realm of relationships. You don't turn feelings off or on like that. It either is or isn't going to happen. He was never going to commit to you from the beginning.

posted April 08, 2015 03:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Blind writer:
@polkadotstars

I'm glad you're no longer in that situation. Regardless if a man or woman, when they say "I'm not ready" or "wait just a while until I've sorted things out", that means they are trying to gently turn you down. They will never "be ready", because when someone is serious about a relationship, they will put forth every effort to make it work. Prioritizing the relationship is what matters, not some vague "ding!" moment or so-and-so amount of time. "Being ready" does not exist in the realm of relationships. You don't turn feelings off or on like that. It either is or isn't going to happen. He was never going to commit to you from the beginning.

It's good that the undefined thing between you ended with clarity, and you're able to move on.

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posted April 08, 2015 04:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
Its a human thing. I experienced this difficulty myself and I have nothing whatsoever in Aquarius in my birth chart.

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