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Topic: Why can't Aquarius people get over their first love?
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goddessofthemoon
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posted April 06, 2015 03:06 AM
 
Can anyone shed light on this?
Why is it so hard for people with dominant Aqua placements to get over their first love?
Do they ever?
I've known 4 Aqua people including myself that have found it to be hard. IP: Logged |
Swanlake
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posted April 06, 2015 03:21 AM
Maybe bec Aquarius being a "fixed" sign, and thus don't take to such psychological "adjustments" easily??
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VacantGazer
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posted April 06, 2015 03:25 AM
Aquarius is a fixed sign, so maybe someone who has alot of aqua have a little bit of a stubborn quality, making it harder to move on. I have venus and mars in leo, and venus is the most powerful sign in my chart. Leo is also a fixed sign, I have libra sun, gem moon, libra asc. It's hard for me to forget someone if I really love them. --------------------------------------- pls dont qute might edit later
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erickaf
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posted April 06, 2015 04:29 AM
Really? I have two ex's both Aquarius Sun and one Aqua-Sun and Aqua Moon, they got over the relationship so fast...its like they hit delete from their computer LOL. I always thought that Aquarius got over love the easiest than a Pisces or Scorpios...IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted April 06, 2015 09:09 AM
Yeah, I know an Aqua Sun. People told me he wasn't over his ex from highschool and that he saved text messages from her. So when he started to like someone at his work, I was glad. But then she friend zoned him, and was secretly with a higher up at work.
This Aquarius really has let this get to him. It annoys his male friends, but people can't help how they feel, I guess. IP: Logged |
Stawr
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posted April 06, 2015 09:22 AM
I'm an Aqua Mars. Who was dumped in February. Relationship was almost 3 years. So I am spending time focusing on myself. I let myself cry it out a lot in February and some of March.I think it helps to realize my ex was not always a real man. Helps me to realize I deserve better or no one. Either one will be better than spending the rest of my life with him. Unlike past relationships, I really haven't been going out and meeting people. I have school, work, and I was an emotional wreck for a month and a half. I did go to a night club a while ago with a group of friends. Me and my friend did not have a good time at all. We stayed for like 10 minutes and left. This week, I'm going to a party, and then a karaoke bar. I am so ready to let loose, enough time has passed now. IP: Logged |
Plutonian_Gal8
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posted April 06, 2015 09:30 AM
quote:
Originally posted by Swanlake:
Maybe bec Aquarius being a "fixed" sign, and thus don't take to such psychological "adjustments" easily??
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Stawr
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posted April 06, 2015 09:37 AM
my ex had Aqua IC. He was on and off with this girl from his childhood for 7 years. Let me tell you, I had to deal with the baggage. At times I had to be punished for what she did to him. Her dad still kept in touch with him, I was not cool with that. And right after he dumped me, he saw her.
I'm guessing they got in a fight, and then a month later he is in a new relationship with a girl who looks a lot like me from what I've been told. I really want to make sure I don't bring in baggage from my past relationship to a guy who doesn't deserve it. Cause I don't like it, and I want to treat someone as my equal. IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon
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posted April 06, 2015 10:35 AM
I guess it really depends on the Aquarius. My ex is an Aqua sun and Aqua venus. I was his second girlfriend and he went in full stalker mode after we broke up and was obsessed, and once he realized our relationship wasn't working, he tried getting back with his ex from 4 years ago. She moved on as well but he can't stop crying about the past.I've gotten over my first love. I have no desire to be with him, but it does take me a while to get over people I've truly been in love with. Not years, but definitely some time. My cousin is married and has a baby and still is in love with her first. She told me that she isn't in love with her current guy, but she still stays. It's just a pattern I've noticed with some Aquarius people. I never knew about fixed signs or things like that so it is interesting. Yep, we are a stubborn bunch  I agree with this wholeheartedly vvvv
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Originally posted by Swanlake:
Maybe bec Aquarius being a "fixed" sign, and thus don't take to such psychological "adjustments" easily??
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midnightvenus
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posted April 06, 2015 05:16 PM
Another AQUA here.
Never got over my first major crush, who's also an Aquarius.IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted April 06, 2015 05:31 PM
I still think about mine 5 years later.IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted April 06, 2015 07:08 PM
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theunknown
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posted April 06, 2015 07:09 PM
Ugh. I hate autocorrect IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted April 06, 2015 07:25 PM
quote:
Originally posted by theunknown:
Ugh. I hate autocorrect
Could have been worse!  IP: Logged |
CupOfDavid
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posted April 06, 2015 08:13 PM
I've never been in a relationship, so I don't know extreme heartbreak; but I still keep a place in my heart for my first almost-something.I tend to find it difficult to get over guys to whom I've opened up my heart, though. I usually chalk it up to my Scorpio Moon (another fixed sign), but maybe it's both my Moon and Aquarius Sun. IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon
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posted April 06, 2015 11:06 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I still think about mine 5 years later.
Why do you? IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted April 06, 2015 11:12 PM
I had a relationship with a
Gemini sun
Libra moon
Cancer mercury
Cancer Venus
Gemini mars(No fixed in that group)
Man... she didn't let go for like 10 years!! IP: Logged |
aquaguy91
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posted April 06, 2015 11:28 PM
quote:
Originally posted by goddessofthemoon:
Why do you?
I don't know. IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon
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posted April 06, 2015 11:28 PM
quote:
Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
I had a relationship with a
Gemini sun
Libra moon
Cancer mercury
Cancer Venus
Gemini mars(No fixed in that group)
Man... she didn't let go for like 10 years!!
10 years!? Must be something special about ya 
But her Venus in Cancer makes sense as to why she held onto you for so long. They're very emotional and fall more in love with the memory of what the relationship used to be like instead of the reality of the situation. At least from my experience with Cancers.
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BellaFenice
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posted April 06, 2015 11:30 PM
Interesting, I really do not have a hard time, maybe the first year of breaking up with my first love but really once I am done I am done. I think if who I loved was also someone I would consider a friend, it would be way harder to let go. For me, friendship is key to developing future love, so in a sense it is losing two different people: a friend and a lover. But to fair, I'm only a double Aqua with a lot of cardinal energy, so that could be why as well. I do of course feel sad and bummed out when I break up with someone, but I will not hang on for years and wonder what if. IP: Logged |
goddessofthemoon
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posted April 06, 2015 11:31 PM
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Originally posted by aquaguy91:
I don't know.
Sorry if that was a stupid question  It's just an interesting topic to me that some people can't forget their first love. It's a question I keep asking myself even though the relationship was less than ideal lol IP: Logged |
DeepFreeze
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posted April 07, 2015 06:43 AM
quote:
Originally posted by goddessofthemoon:
10 years!? Must be something special about ya
But her Venus in Cancer makes sense as to why she held onto you for so long. They're very emotional and fall more in love with the memory of what the relationship used to be like instead of the reality of the situation. At least from my experience with Cancers.
I was her first love. I forgot to add that info.
But, based on things she said in her last phone call (years ago) what you said about cancer Venus makes sense. I did have that thought; that she was feeling like it was all last week, not last decade.
Ended in '99... her last call was around '09 and consisted of "I think about you more than any married woman should" among other things. I didn't have the same sentiment though. It takes me anywhere from one day to six months and then that's it. No more. Not that I don't care or love in some way but the romance is gone.
Actually an ex from 2008 tried to get back together in '13.
She was
Libra sun
Cap moon
Virgo Venus
Aries mars So another lacking fixed in those planets. Getting off topic though, sorry!!
On topic, I don't personally see Aquarius as having this issue but I could easily be wrong. IP: Logged |
theunknown
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posted April 07, 2015 10:36 AM
quote:
Originally posted by DeepFreeze:
Could have been worse!
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theunknown
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posted April 07, 2015 10:42 AM
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RogueReader
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posted April 07, 2015 11:02 AM
Aqua Sun and Aqua Mercury speaking. Possible reasons for an Aqua having a hard time moving on could be any of the following:
- Aquas are more sensitive than anyone gives us credit for, even ourselves. Aquas already feel like oddballs, so the failed relationship/rejection (especially from a first love) can bring about a mini existential crisis.
- Aquas need a logical resolve to really move on. Once they can understand -- for themselves -- why a situation must end, they're over it with a quickness. (That's often why people mention the "shocking" and "sudden" detachment of an Aqua. Sudden and shocking to them, but reasoned and "for the greater good" to the Aqua in question). HOWEVER, when they can't sort out the logic behind a relationship's demise, they become obsessed with gaining that insight. It's like some intellectual (+ intuitive) quest for closure within themselves. Drives us nuts!
- The "first love" has some unforgettable quality or brought out parts of the Aqua that were unexpected and/or desired. People who can manage to surprise an Aqua by bringing out qualities in said Aqua (who feel they know everything, especially about themselves), are rare finds. Aquas love rare and unusual.
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