posted May 18, 2015 02:33 AM              

1. Yes, when I am in love that is all I live and breathe. Seems like with every hurt I endure I lose a little bit of that obsession and I get hurt very easily. I just have very high expectations of lo and I am a romantic so I dream of a love that will completely consume me and I always hope to find it. I am emotionally needy and I just have so much I want out of love.

2. Yes. If there are no feelings there are no feelings. I have had a best friend that was male.

3. Yes. Because romantic love just grips my heart in a more immediate and intense way. It's so different, there is no comparison.

4. Yea. I do mean it. But when I feel that the feeling isn't mutual feelings like that start to fade for me. I think it's just me dyeing idealistic and really really wanting that kind of relationship where I love that person more than I have every loved someone before or possibly could love someone, and they feel the same for me. I want someone I can put on a pedestal and they feel the same. But I know other people don't really mean it.

5. Strong emotional connection. A strong intellectual connection you can have with anyone. It's boring and not special at all. That's like a best friend thing. A strong emotional connection is different. It also take seen to a crazy different level.

6. Rejection will always hurt no doubt. The only way it won't hurt is If I completely lose interest in the person, and I have detached myself from people do I felt like they weren't too into me so I could avoid the hurt.

7. I can move on. If they don't want me then they are in no way my soulmate. It will suck but like I said before I have that dream of finding someone with that deep connection. I will be depressed but I won't want them back. I guess I'll want them back to simply soothe my emotions but I won't truly want them back. If that makes sense.

8. No. I've always been kid of disgusted with my exes after I lost interest with them.

9. Probably detach and go in my little corner to lick my wounds. I jut won't let myself be fooled by them again.

10. I would like them to go for hours but I usually avoid chatting because I do get upset when people just don't want to talk much so I like to avoid that whole situation altogether.

posted May 18, 2015 07:58 AM            

"6. ... and I have detached myself from people do I felt like they weren't too into me so I could avoid the hurt"

Similarly, I will avoid someone altogether who I

think may have this potential.

And this

"... but Im the kind of person that want to run errands with you and wait in lines and eat crappy ten minute lunches with you."

So endearing

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Nothing is permanent in this wicked world; not even our troubles.

posted May 19, 2015 01:51 PM            

1. Do you consider yourself obsessive in love or clingy? If yes... what makes you feel this way? Is it a lack of trust in the other person or is it emotional neediness or something else entirely?

Obsessive and possessive yes, but not clingy. But I do have trust issues, mainly afraid that the other party will leave me. So its more of low self-confidence.

2. Is it possible for you to be close friends with a person of the opposite sex (or whichever sex you are attracted to) and not fall in love with them? Have you ever had a best friend of the opposite sex?

Yes, (I am a lesbian btw). I'm fine to have a close guy friend, unless he don't fall for me halfway thru cause I won't.

3. Do you see romantic love as more important or in some way "above" other types of love - like the platonic love you may feel for friends and family?

Yes, my partner will have a great impact in my life.

4. Do you normally (or have you ever) put your partner on a pedestal and openly played favourites by telling him or her, things like: "you are the most important person in the world for me" or "you're the only person I truly care about" or "I never have and never will love someone as much as I love you".
If yes - Do you do this in the spirit of romance, just to be sweet... or do you actually mean it?

Yes I do, I only said it when I really meant it.

5. If you had to pick between having a strong emotional connection with someone (but next to no real understanding on an intellectual level) - and - having a strong intellectual connection (but detachment on an emotional/sexual level) - which of these would be more meaningful to you?

Can I say both? I am emotionally attracted to the 'smart/intellectual' people. So I am not sure how should I answer this question.

6. If a person was going to reject you romantically - what would be the best way for them to do this to make sure they don't hurt your feelings?

It will hurt in any ways, but be straight forward and don't beat around the bush.

7. Once rejected in love or following a break-up, are you able to move on - or do you keep trying to get close again?
If you are very persistent and are sure someone is your soulmate, even though they rejected you - would there be anything the person in question could do to convince you to let go and move on?

Able to move on, but it will take a very very very long long time to get over especially I am in love, if its a break up. It's more of like 'need' to move on. No other choices left. But I won't give up easily trying to fight for my love or the relationship if its worth it.

But the best way to convince me to let go, probably is to cut all contacts, like totally disappear.

8. Is there any way to continue a friendship with you after a break-up? Have you ever remained friends with any of your exes?

Yes I do, after a few years. Or till I totally have no more feelings with that person. If not, I will still keep a distance.

9. If a person was bluntly honest with you and told you they care about you, but they feel smothered and need some space (although they still really appreciate your friendship)... How would you take this?

I will reflect on myself and give them space. But then again, most probably it won't happen to me. LOL! I'll probably be the one doing that.

10. Do you chat to many people on social media - or just a bunch of close friends? When you do chat, are your conversations brief, or do they go for hours?
And finally, do you sometimes get offended if the other person is not comfortable chatting for such a long time and leaves the conversation before you do?

I don't really chat on social media. If I do, usually its very objective and that person will only be my best friend.

I won't get offended, I'll probably be the one that ends the conversation.

11. This is kind of tied in with q.10... Do you believe that a "true" friend or S/O... would want to spend every second of every day with you? Do you correlate the amount of time they spend with you with how much they care about you?
E.g. If a person is busy and you don't see much of them, you assume they are not interested and rejecting you (as either a friend or lover).

I believe a true friend stays even you don't meet up often. So I don't measure the amount of time means how much they care.