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athenaia
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posted July 03, 2015 07:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for athenaia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As of Wednesday I have to declare myself the Capricorn heartbreaker. I've been romantically involved with three Capricorns so far - two Suns and one Moon - and every single time I've been the one to end the partnership between us. Permanently, as you know how Capricorns are; they never come groveling back once you wound their pride. I would never want them to come "crawling back" though because as an Aquarius Moon, once I end things (or things are generally ended) I tend not to look back myself.

I clearly do not have the touch of the goat (if you will). Here's my theory: Capricorns (males, specifically) love to play the game by their own rules, and do not like to submit themselves to the tune of someone else's game. They do not like power struggles, as they prefer to wield most of the power. They like to always have the upper-hand in the general tone of the relationship. They don't like abrasiveness and shortness because they themselves like to possess those qualities alone in a relationship.

What do you think? What the heck keeps a prominently Capricorn/Saturnine person happy in a relationship? I respect these folks so much and I am so DEEPLY attracted to them (Earth ASC/Earth Sun/Earth Grand Trine) yet I'm always so frustrated by the power struggles between us I choose to throw in the towel and bounce before it gets too bloody.

Share your secrets!

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posted July 03, 2015 07:37 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for 12muddy     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm overwhelmingly capricornian with 5 planets in cap, asc and NN. And I dislike power plays with a passion.

I don't like people to be overbearing towards me. I give people space and respect their freedom of choices and their rights to make their own life decisions. I want the same thing. If I don't get it, I'd remove myself from their presence.

In relationships, there is always the choice of walking away. If the way I live and express myself doesn't align with their values, it's less complicated to walk away and find someone with similar values, than to try and *make* me change (a.k.a: do what they want).

Also, I dislike when people get close to me with the intention to change/fix me. Like I don't get to people who smoke and think that eventually I'll use my "love and care" to get them to stop.

If my best is not enough. Then there is nothing else I can do.

I have a very great relationship with my husband. He's like "If I love someone, I let them do what they want". Just that. I feel that he has my best interests at heart, that he trusts me enough to know that I won't do anything destructive to myself, him or our relationship. He has confidence in me. He doesn't ask me to be anything more or less than who I am. He's happy with me - this makes me happy. All I ever wish for. So I love him and worship the ground he walks on. Most of the time anyway

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posted July 03, 2015 07:54 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Astra     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
As a Capricorn moon and Capricorn rising, I can say that loyalty, kindness and respect go a long way. If you try to smother and control a Capricorn, then you can kiss the relationship goodbye.

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posted July 03, 2015 07:58 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Scorpio keeps me happy lol
Do you have much Pluto/Scorpio influence?

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posted July 03, 2015 08:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Meatballzzzzzz     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am very Cap dominate. Respect, honesty, trust and loyalty are huge. We don't like to be controlled or to be suffocated. Longevity (at least for Venus Cap) is a must as a serious type we don't like to put our time into a relationship if it has no potential of being serious.

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posted July 03, 2015 08:18 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for athenaia     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Odette:
Scorpio keeps me happy lol
Do you have much Pluto/Scorpio influence?

I only have Pluto in Scorpio BUT I have an 8th house Mercury along with
Sun opp. Pluto
Moon square Pluto
and Venus quix. Pluto

I know from perusing some old Capricorn threads around these parts that you're a Cap Moon and I have to say this placement is just so delicious to me. The slow reveal of the emotions, the depth in the eyes and the voice -- THE VOICE! -- when the true self is so close to being uncovered. It's intoxicating! Maybe the most intoxicating things I've experienced because of the nature of the challenge. However I do think both Aquarius and Cap Moons benefit from a relationship with water Moons given their general ease in talking about their emotions - usually sets a precedent for openness as opposed to two repressed Moons duking it out to see who reveals what first, you know?

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posted July 03, 2015 09:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Odette     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's sweet lolll I wonder why you are so attracted. It can't just be your Moon sign. What other aspects does Capricorn make to your chart?

I know what you mean about water Moons!
My Moon is exactly sextile Mercury in Pisces, so I do express my emotions - probably more than other Capricorn Mooners. But there are times when I'll talk to a water Moon person and discover feelings and emotions I never even knew I had. It's kind of strange.
These relationships can be healing in small doses. But there is only so much watery emotion I can take.

I've never had a relationship with an Aquarius Mooner, but based on what I know about them and how I generally click with Aquarius influence... I think this would work. Aquarius is very uplifting and fun, by contrast to Capricorn. So in a sense they can be good for the more serious/somber Capricorn.

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posted July 04, 2015 12:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Gemini Blues     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by athenaia:
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What do you think? What the heck keeps a prominently Capricorn/Saturnine person happy in a relationship? I respect these folks so much and I am so DEEPLY attracted to them (Earth ASC/Earth Sun/Earth Grand Trine) yet I'm always so frustrated by the power struggles between us I choose to throw in the towel and bounce before it gets too bloody.

Share your secrets!


All right, here's a topic I can talk about. Though maintaing a lifetime, haven't been as successful at so far.

Capricorns are like Italian food. Taste so good going down but they always leave me with heartburn. They are usually the ones leaving me. But, at least in the case of my ex wife, its not always final.

This may not apply as much to the male of the species, but for what it's worth...

It's said that you can never be too rich or too thin for a Capricorn. But all you really need is to be useful.

Never put your hands on them in public. Never take your hands off them in private.

More so than other signs, the neck is an erogenous zone.

Backrubs! Especially the neck and shoulders.

When they finally relax around you, their first reaction is to fall asleep. The body isn't used to being relaxed, you see...

They are susceptible to self doubt. Be their rock. Be their mirror. Let them see how beautiful they are through your eyes.

Once they give you a place in their heart, its forever... even if they broke up with you 30 years ago. I say this from multiple personal experiences.

They love to orchestrate. If you don't want them orchestrating your life, you're going to have to give them something else to orchestrate, like a social gathering, or your finances. I'd remind you to complement them, but you will anyway when you see the results.

Never make them feel cheap. Never make them feel dirty. Lusty is a whole 'nuther thing...

My $0.02

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I had a long post and my phone deleted it! Ugh.

Anyway. Honesty, loyalty, etc. all basic requirements of human relationships really so no surprise there.

The difference is that Capricorns suprress showing visible emotion in some way or form (either they don't let anyone see them visibly upset or they simply never get upset about anything, until one day there's no more Cookie Dough ice cream at the store and they go ballistic. It's an exaggeration but you get the point.) and one way to make them appreciate you is to be genuine with tgem, create a cucoon of safety for them to share that in. Just be a good person who CARES about them because these are people who seem to believe no one does. I believe this is because Capricorns are so capable and giving of their time (helping their families, people at work, etc) to those who don't deserve it. As human nature would have it these are the very peoole they seek approval from. If im right on any level about this I think it's because of how hard they criticize themselves. Theyre the true perfectionists of the zodiac though this only applies to themselves. Ive never seen them judge people they dont know honestly, and I dont think they do until you **** them off.

ANYWAY sorry I was so long winded and for the lack of formatting, but yeah they are certainly a mixture of surprises with the right person but as long as youre honest eithlut hurting their feelings and maybe slightly protective they will warm up to you fast and stay forever.

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posted July 04, 2015 02:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Gemini Blues:
All right, here's a topic I can talk about. Though maintaing a lifetime, haven't been as successful at so far.

Capricorns are like Italian food. Taste so good going down but they always leave me with heartburn. They are usually the ones leaving me. But, at least in the case of my ex wife, its not always final.

This may not apply as much to the male of the species, but for what it's worth...

It's said that you can never be too rich or too thin for a Capricorn. But all you really need is to be useful.

Never put your hands on them in public. Never take your hands off them in private.

More so than other signs, the neck is an erogenous zone.

Backrubs! Especially the neck and shoulders.

When they finally relax around you, their first reaction is to fall asleep. The body isn't used to being relaxed, you see...

They are susceptible to self doubt. Be their rock. Be their mirror. Let them see how beautiful they are through your eyes.

Once they give you a place in their heart, its forever... even if they broke up with you 30 years ago. I say this from multiple personal experiences.

They love to orchestrate. If you don't want them orchestrating your life, you're going to have to give them something else to orchestrate, like a social gathering, or your finances. I'd remind you to complement them, but you will anyway when you see the results.

Never make them feel cheap. Never make them feel dirty. Lusty is a whole 'nuther thing...

My $0.02



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posted July 04, 2015 10:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for goddessinworld     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a Cap rising, venus, and mercury (and neptune).

In relationships, I had to break things off with people who were very insensitive and dismissing towards me and my problems.

I can't talk for all Caps out there but from what I've experienced and other Capricorns in my life, I can say that we have been treated very badly in our life. So we become more protective of ourselves and never forgive because we have already have enough of it. And uh I guess the power struggle comes from that. Caps like to be in control to make sure things go right, and they won't end up being heartbroken.

And of course respect and loyalty are important

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posted July 04, 2015 11:39 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PlutoSurvivor     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
We all have Capricorn-Saturn influence somewhere in our charts. If you have a dominant influence the general principles will show up stronger. It is unconscious but when you understand the true nature of the Capricorn-Saturn principle you will know exactly how to "maintain" a Cap friend or lover.

Capricorn represents the Individual Survival Dynamic Reactor. It wants to survive but not at the expense of others so it reacts strongly against itself. This is why it tends to get depressed. It is ruled by Saturn and gets stuck in obsessive self-defeating patterns. It wants so much to rise above past habits (conscious and unconscious) and truly desires to help others climb the ladder of success along with them because it can be very lonely at the top.
Step 1: Help encourage a Cap and recognize its accomplishments and you will rise right along with them, at their side. They will stick to you with loyalty and dedication. They need to know you are on their side.

Material world brings a sense of security and foundation. More than anything Cap wants a firm foundation because they are destined for exponential growth. This is why they crave establishment, tradition, rules and regulations, control, material things. They need a firm foundation or everything they build will crumble before their eyes (you've all seen the cases of destruction-reconstruction in Capricorns - Nixon, Kevin Costner, etc. where they fumble and then rise to greatness)
Step 2: If you want your Cap relationship to grow you must think in terms of beginning it and sustaining it from a firm foundation. You won't get anywhere if you change the rules and expectations half way through so be clear and firm from the beginning so they know what to expect, and allow for evolution along the way.

The easiest way for any of us to have intimacy in a relationship is through physicality and sexuality. Capricorn is Earth and it reacts to its physical world. It is a passive leadership sign. Cap and all Earth signs are animal-automatic. They desire physicality and react to turn-ons. Cappy will desire a firm foundation of trust before emotional intimacy, spiritual or mental intimacy are displayed.
Step three: Create a physical intimacy that is open and trusting and allow your Cap to express physically and they will be happy for life. Do not shut them down when they feel ready to express physically, and they will be more likely to express emotionally and intellectually and you will have a relationship that will grow from deep trust into loyalty, respect and admiration.

Capricorns somewhat have a fear of the future and tend to hang on to the past. This is why Cap-Saturn represents physical ailments dealing with the bones/teeth and skin. Those areas of the body hold us up and together... our form, our physical foundation. Cappy needs to feel established before moving forward, so practical reachable goals are important.
Step four: Create a plan of action, step by step goals for your relationship and Cappy will hang around long enough to go the journey.
Pay attention to the physical health of your Cap partner in the areas of bones and skin and you will know if they are traveling in the right direction. You can help them release the past patterning that no longer serves them. Look at what needs to be released: past attitudes, past religious beliefs and philosophies, past routines, past hurts, past obsessions, relationships, jobs, possessions, etc. If you cannot help them you can at least understand them.

Step 5: remember that it is easier to maintain a Cap than to overhaul one, but either way, the results will be remarkable - it's a tough job, I know...

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posted July 04, 2015 01:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for bluestskies88     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, this post is a few years late. This would have been golden when I was going through my struggles with my last Cap

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posted July 04, 2015 01:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Faith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by athenaia:
As of Wednesday I have to declare myself the Capricorn heartbreaker. I've been romantically involved with three Capricorns so far - two Suns and one Moon - and every single time I've been the one to end the partnership between us. Permanently, as you know how Capricorns are; they never come groveling back once you wound their pride. I would never want them to come "crawling back" though because as an Aquarius Moon, once I end things (or things are generally ended) I tend not to look back myself.

I clearly do not have the touch of the goat (if you will). Here's my theory: Capricorns (males, specifically) love to play the game by their own rules, and do not like to submit themselves to the tune of someone else's game. They do not like power struggles, as they prefer to wield most of the power. They like to always have the upper-hand in the general tone of the relationship. They don't like abrasiveness and shortness because they themselves like to possess those qualities alone in a relationship.

What do you think? What the heck keeps a prominently Capricorn/Saturnine person happy in a relationship? I respect these folks so much and I am so DEEPLY attracted to them (Earth ASC/Earth Sun/Earth Grand Trine) yet I'm always so frustrated by the power struggles between us I choose to throw in the towel and bounce before it gets too bloody.

Share your secrets!


--

I tried to answer this, deleted my response. Tried again and deleted. Then I realized, you and I are having a communication problem. Then I realized this may figure into your whole pattern of confounding Capricorns and getting into struggles with us. Maybe?

So I'm going out on a limb here.

Here is what I am extrapolating from your post.

Basically, the no-brainer is, it looks like an issue of Aquarius/Uranus versus Capricorn/Saturn.

In my opinion, you asked this question in an Aquarius fashion. Basically you gave me some sparkly pieces of the picture, worded it beautifully, threw it out there ("Freedom! " is what Aquarius says) and you are apparently content to let the chips fall where they may. You will just take whatever advice comes.

Now to me, as a Capricorn sun, that's just confusing. I cannot infer, from your context, what you exactly mean by "maintain." Your usage is not standard here, you don't mean maintain a relationship in longevity terms, so I am at a dead end. I'm stuck on this word and what it means to you personally. So your whole question is shrouded in mystery, and everything you're saying beyond that doesn't fully compute.

So like I said, I imagine your Capricorn boyfriends being in this same position, stuck on a word with you, and trying to tell you, "You are confusing me." And beyond that, Capricorns can get bent out of shape at the whole outrage of confusion, since we like to feel smart, and furthermore, we like to encourage everyone to be efficient and clear (for their own good! of course.) It's the Cap template:

Help me to help you.

So this can be like an emergency they are trying to solve, while others regard it as a triviality at best. And the little gears are whirring in their minds as they try to formulate a solution such as: "You should clarify what you mean by 'maintain.' You need to be more clear." There is some bossiness because they believe so strongly that there is a "should" and a "need."

And you, as an obviously articulate person, are going to bristle at that, and probably throw back something like, "You need to be less *controlling.*" Slam down the phone and start painting your nails neon. (I love Aquarius moons! )

Perhaps both of you have missed the point.

With that guesswork in mind, my tips for future success would be:

1) Understand that communication is vital for Capricorn, as we regard it as the means by which we establish concrete facts and get tangible results. It's all about Saturn/structure. So bear with us if we nitpick, it's not always petty one-upsmanship.

2) Consider telling your Capricorn men that your communication can be artistic sometimes, may not always make perfect sense to them but is still valid and you need for them to be respectful as they explore your meanings. Assure them that there is a method to the madness and not everything is their business to "fix."

3) If occasionally you make the extra effort to speak in a language they completely understand, I think they will repay you with a lot of respect, and all the other secret jewels locked up in the icebox of a Capricorn heart. Maybe.

4) And when all else fails, proceed exactly as you have been. The eject button is a useful button.

Good luck

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posted July 04, 2015 02:09 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for theunknown     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Capricorn is not a power play sign per se. In fact I'd say Capricorn rarely hear around the bush about what it wants (the opposite sign us cancer, going indirectly about getting what it wants).

When a Capricorn calls it quit, thats it.

Going indirectly is child-play to cappy mentality.

Think about structures and disciplines.... Cappy ppl just want someone who is reliable, who will be there through the thick and thin. That's while Scorpio an cappy are compatible energy..., they both think the world is doomed and they must fend for themselves. Alone. If anyone else understands that, they'll stick by until the end of time.

Cappy ppl hate anything that's gaudy, flashy. PDA. Words are cheap. They want actions. Show that you care. Be there.

Most caps have the woe-is-me syndrome though so it's good to not cater to their needs all the time. Let them learn on their own while sticking around and be a resource. Point out to them with kindness what you perceive to be their weakness. Cappy like to improve themselves and if you can help them see a way out of their crappy situation... They'd appreciate it.

My guess is that because Capricorn are so demanding and ambitious, they were born to be tested by the world, to stop whining and start stepping up their game.

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So Faith - Aries and Capricorn would get on better than the square leaves others to believe, right?

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posted July 04, 2015 08:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
So Faith - Aries and Capricorn would get on better than the square leaves others to believe, right?

I think, from experience, that Cap and Aries is an excellent match, as is Cancer and Aries but for different reasons.

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posted July 04, 2015 09:24 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for RogueReader     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Faith:
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I tried to answer this, deleted my response. Tried again and deleted. Then I realized, you and I are having a communication problem. Then I realized this may figure into your whole pattern of confounding Capricorns and getting into struggles with us. Maybe?

So I'm going out on a limb here.

Here is what I am extrapolating from your post.

Basically, the no-brainer is, it looks like an issue of Aquarius/Uranus versus Capricorn/Saturn.

In my opinion, you asked this question in an Aquarius fashion. Basically you gave me some sparkly pieces of the picture, worded it beautifully, threw it out there ("Freedom! " is what Aquarius says) and you are apparently content to let the chips fall where they may. You will just take whatever advice comes.

Now to me, as a Capricorn sun, that's just confusing. I cannot infer, from your context, what you exactly mean by "maintain." Your usage is not standard here, you don't mean maintain a relationship in longevity terms, so I am at a dead end. I'm stuck on this word and what it means to you personally. So your whole question is shrouded in mystery, and everything you're saying beyond that doesn't fully compute.

So like I said, I imagine your Capricorn boyfriends being in this same position, stuck on a word with you, and trying to tell you, "You are confusing me." And beyond that, Capricorns can get bent out of shape at the whole outrage of confusion, since we like to feel smart, and furthermore, we like to encourage everyone to be efficient and clear (for their own good! of course.) It's the Cap template:

Help me to help you.

So this can be like an emergency they are trying to solve, while others regard it as a triviality at best. And the little gears are whirring in their minds as they try to formulate a solution such as: "You should clarify what you mean by 'maintain.' You need to be more clear." There is some bossiness because they believe so strongly that there is a "should" and a "need."

And you, as an obviously articulate person, are going to bristle at that, and probably throw back something like, "You need to be less *controlling.*" Slam down the phone and start painting your nails neon. (I love Aquarius moons! )

Perhaps both of you have missed the point.

With that guesswork in mind, my tips for future success would be:

1) Understand that communication is vital for Capricorn, as we regard it as the means by which we establish concrete facts and get tangible results. It's all about Saturn/structure. So bear with us if we nitpick, it's not always petty one-upsmanship.

2) Consider telling your Capricorn men that your communication can be artistic sometimes, may not always make perfect sense to them but is still valid and you need for them to be respectful as they explore your meanings. Assure them that there is a method to the madness and not everything is their business to "fix."

3) If occasionally you make the extra effort to speak in a language they completely understand, I think they will repay you with a lot of respect, and all the other secret jewels locked up in the icebox of a Capricorn heart. Maybe.

4) And when all else fails, proceed exactly as you have been. The eject button is a useful button.

Good luck


This is priceless and accurate! As someone with both Aquarius and Capricorn stelliums, I think this encompasses internal and external clashes between these energies. Especially, the different communication styles and how loaded semantics can be. The struggle is real.

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Capricorn moon. Hot mess.

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I've found cap moons to come back. At least to me they have.

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Faith, I haven't contributed anything in a long long time but I come back during my free time to LL for a pick-me-up and when I do, I really enjoy your comments. I just have to say..... you are the best!

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Originally posted by charlie:
I think, from experience, that Cap and Aries is an excellent match, as is Cancer and Aries but for different reasons.

Agreed, my only quip is Capricorn usually have Sag in their chart and that brings out the OCD CEO personality a little whereas my Aties /Taurus self just wants to go with the flow. It's handy when it's handy 'til it isnt. And i loooove Cancers! Just squishy little babies full of feelings!

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posted July 04, 2015 11:36 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for deptic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Agreed, my only quip is Capricorn usually have Sag in their chart and that brings out the OCD CEO personality a little whereas my Aties /Taurus self just wants to go with the flow. It's handy when it's handy 'til it isnt. And i loooove Cancers! Just squishy little babies full of feelings!

This!

Is how I want my gf to be. Squishy and soft with feelings and loyal

What about cap and cancer?

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posted July 05, 2015 12:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ashes2Phoenix     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by athenaia:
As of Wednesday I have to declare myself the Capricorn heartbreaker. I've been romantically involved with three Capricorns so far - two Suns and one Moon - and every single time I've been the one to end the partnership between us. Permanently, as you know how Capricorns are; they never come groveling back once you wound their pride. I would never want them to come "crawling back" though because as an Aquarius Moon, once I end things (or things are generally ended) I tend not to look back myself.

I clearly do not have the touch of the goat (if you will). Here's my theory: Capricorns (males, specifically) love to play the game by their own rules, and do not like to submit themselves to the tune of someone else's game. They do not like power struggles, as they prefer to wield most of the power. They like to always have the upper-hand in the general tone of the relationship. They don't like abrasiveness and shortness because they themselves like to possess those qualities alone in a relationship.

What do you think? What the heck keeps a prominently Capricorn/Saturnine person happy in a relationship? I respect these folks so much and I am so DEEPLY attracted to them (Earth ASC/Earth Sun/Earth Grand Trine) yet I'm always so frustrated by the power struggles between us I choose to throw in the towel and bounce before it gets too bloody.

Share your secrets!


4 planets in Capricorn/Capricorn dominant. Dislikes: Those that imply/refer to love as a game. Love is not a game to be played with losers/winners (very serious about love). "Power struggles" or those consumed with obtaining power. Likes: Those that speak plainly about their feelings/intentions, i.e. honesty. Loyalty.

@Meatballzzzzzz This Venus in Cap agrees with everything you said.

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posted July 05, 2015 04:45 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by deptic:
This!

Is how I want my gf to be. Squishy and soft with feelings and loyal

What about cap and cancer?


Latter hasn't proven fruitful for me but I do have a Cancer Sun op Cap Moon that are constantly arguing so I think I need different signs/aspects to level me out lol

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posted July 05, 2015 06:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for SaturnFan     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Faith,

Your post is a piece of art!

I have a Cap Stellium but in the 11H.
My AC and Venus conjunct in Aquarius.
My Cap stellium trines my Moon.
My AC-Venus square my Moon.
Uranus (chart ruler) is also part of the 11H stellium, and conjuncts Saturn tightly.

Your description of the 'conflict' between Capricorn and Aquarius is 100% spot on. As RogueReader mentioned a few posts above, the same "interactions" happen internally when both signs are strongly represented

I'll reflect more on your post, it is very, very helpful for anyone experiencing the interplay between Cap and Aquarius, regardless of whether its internal or with another person.

Hopefully the OP will take your words to heart Communication is absolutely the main thing, it does wonders.

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Originally posted by Faith:

and probably throw back something like, "You need to be less *controlling.*" Slam down the phone and start painting your nails neon.

This made me laugh out loud, by the way Here's me right now, it's as neon as my Cap stellium can tolerate, but still my Aquarius AC had the upper hand. You're VERY good at astrology, Faith!


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