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Topic: Your Venus and how it helps or hinders you
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VelvetPriestess Knowflake Posts: 154 From: Registered: Apr 2012
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posted August 22, 2015 05:22 PM
Does your Venus help or hinder you when you like someone? How do you act when you're into someone? And what is your Venus sign/position?I am shy when I like someone, and it's really annoying because it's often interpreted as lack of interest. My Venus is in Virgo in the 8th house. IP: Logged |
DopGang Knowflake Posts: 629 From: <--------- over there. Registered: Jun 2015
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posted August 22, 2015 05:36 PM
Venus Virgo, 12th house. I observe and observe some more! I interact and socialize with them very casually. In doing so I VERY carefully observe every minute detail of their body language, eyes, tone of voice, and general reactions. Do they laugh at my stupid jokes? Do they seem fully engaged when I'm speaking? What are their responses? Do they make eye contact? The eye shape, pupil dilation, a slight glazed look, etc. What part of my face are they looking, if they are, and are they looking deeply, almost imagining doing something, or lip reading because they can't hear me? Do they seem relaxed, etc etc. I mean it's like a million little, subtle details that I continuously observe. If it's someone I come across often such as at work I would talk with them on a regular basis in order to get a bigger picture of it. Were they just being friendly/flirty as a Libra would or how do they behave after I've been around them for a while and get them more comfortable? I've spent anywhere from days to months going through this process. LOL Just TONS of observation, looking at clues. I have some rather social, extroverted signs placements to help me out. They help hide what's really going on. IP: Logged |
VelvetPriestess Knowflake Posts: 154 From: Registered: Apr 2012
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posted August 22, 2015 05:41 PM
Wow, I think you've picked up some of the Piscean of the 12th house in that Venus!IP: Logged |
Nine Moderator Posts: 2415 From: The Cusp of Love Registered: May 2009
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posted August 22, 2015 10:33 PM
In the Pisces chapter of "How to Spot a ******* ", the authors implied that Pisces was a stalker. Unlike the classic scary/obnoxious/Scorpio/Cancer behavior (who wants you to see them and be intimidated/afraid/repentant), Pisces they say does their stalking from the shadows; calling from blocked #s then hanging up, following you in unmarked cars...The above Venus in the 12th description confirms this. IP: Logged |
PainInTheWorld Newflake Posts: 16 From: Registered: Aug 2015
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posted August 22, 2015 11:14 PM
I have Venus in Aquarius in 4th house. I think cause of that warm house I show more emotions than this Venus does, but still love my freedom and I'm attract to weird people, also intelligent, with who I can talk to, with similar interests, it's really importnt to me. And yes, I can be shy at the beginning, but I think it's my Pisces Moon which is also in 4th house. But after some short time, when I meet someone better, I'm crazy little freak. xDIP: Logged |
lalalinda Moderator Posts: 4478 From: nevada Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 23, 2015 12:30 AM
Venus/Taurus/5th houseI'm hostess friendly, Big smile, helpful, and accommodating. A party pleaser, I make sure everyone is Comfortable. In general and within a crowd. There are other times, more one on one, where I will completely ignore a maybe special someone. I know it's confusing. Why do I do it? I do not know, but it works. My Venus has no easy aspects except for a wide conjunction to the Moon. ------------------ "There ain't no revolution, only evolution, but every time I'm in Georgia I 'eat a peach' for peace." Duane Allman IP: Logged |
EmGem Knowflake Posts: 673 From: Registered: Jan 2015
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posted August 23, 2015 12:45 AM
Venus in cancer in the 9th. I care a lot but it's weird coz I'm not held back when it comes to guys. I have even initiated chasing lol and i'm impatient at times. So I sometimes don't feel so cancerian in that way. maybe becuase its conjunct my MC and in a sag house. my prog ASC is sag though so...IP: Logged |
DopGang Knowflake Posts: 629 From: <--------- over there. Registered: Jun 2015
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posted August 23, 2015 02:06 AM
quote: Originally posted by Nine: In the Pisces chapter of "[b]How to Spot a ******* ", the authors implied that Pisces was a stalker. Unlike the classic scary/obnoxious/Scorpio/Cancer behavior (who wants you to see them and be intimidated/afraid/repentant), Pisces they say does their stalking from the shadows; calling from blocked #s then hanging up, following you in unmarked cars...The above Venus in the 12th description confirms this.[/B]
I'm confused, genuinely. How does observing their behavior in response to my interaction with them have anything to do with stalking from the shadows? You should probably read carefully before you make such asinine statements. You're straight out of the chapter of "How to spot a troll". 100% uncalled for. IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 12586 From: Bella's Hair Salon Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 23, 2015 02:13 AM
5H Sag Venus conjunct Neptune ASC-Venus-Lilith grand trine"Does your Venus help or hinder you when you like someone?" My Venus has been very helpful attracting the men I like...it's just fun. The combination of my Venus with 8H Pisces moon does set me back, however, because if I've developed deep feelings for these guys, I couldn't express it through that carefree Venus pathway. "How do you act when you're into someone?" This is difficult to explain. When I was young I believed no guy would ever actually like me, so it was easy to just be natural around them. Why even bother being shy when you have zero chance? What's there to lose? Then I got really spooked if they asked me out. But that kept happening. So over time I really had no choice but to gradually adjust to the fact that I was more attractive than I thought, yet I was still not impressed with myself at all...which led to a curious humility combined with a belief in my own powers of seduction, ie "I'm nothing to look at, but I can probably get you to look twice." That actually became a kind of experimental testing grounds for me. Not consciously to play a game, and with no harmful intent, but just to figure out what I was, or what attraction itself was (ie what are the mechanics of attraction? Sag always wants to know the bookish explanations, the philosophy.) So I guess I was behaving with seduction on my mind a good portion of the time, never ever being obvious about it (which some may say, is the soul of seduction, to be mysterious)...but studying how men reacted to me, and at what point did they switch over from seeing me as a very average girl, to someone worth pursuing? What flicked that switch? I wouldn't know how to explain how I got better and faster at flicking the switch, except my intuitive reflexes got sharper. A bit like DopGang described..my Venus-Neptune being similar to his 12H Venus...which strives for a kind of Piscean omniscence I suppose. Only in my case, nothing was ever really conscious. I wouldn't even let my mind get into the process as I didn't trust it with the reins. It was just being fully in the moment, open to another person, with my raw and honest reactions, creating some kind of bond. I don't really do this the same way anymore...well, not so much with men, I have learned to be more guarded. And I've shut down the "seduction" undertones for the most part, or so I think, especially in person. I just realized recently that my Neptune and Mars both square my moon, and I think romance has occupied my emotions too much, to their detriment, blunting off some psychic potential and receptivity to higher vibrations. IP: Logged |
DopGang Knowflake Posts: 629 From: <--------- over there. Registered: Jun 2015
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posted August 23, 2015 02:20 AM
^^^ excellent! I'm extremely similar and have been similar in my path to discovery of my ability to attract.
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Faith Knowflake Posts: 12586 From: Bella's Hair Salon Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 23, 2015 02:23 AM
quote: Originally posted by DopGang: You're straight out of the chapter of "how to spot a troll".
LOL...Nine is always making those kinds of remarks. Pisces picks up more than other signs and looks for confirmation. So I can see why they liken this to stalking. If a Pisces *feels* that her boyfriend is at her friend's house and they are making out, the Pisces will actually drive there because chances are, she's right. They call it stalking. To me, it's just confirming. IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 12586 From: Bella's Hair Salon Registered: Jul 2011
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posted August 23, 2015 02:25 AM
quote: Originally posted by DopGang: ^^^ excellent! I'm extremely similar and have been similar in my path to discovery of my ability to attract.
Thank you...and it makes some sense, considering our charts...a few similarities. IP: Logged |
charlie Knowflake Posts: 3240 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted August 23, 2015 02:32 AM
quote: Originally posted by DopGang: Venus Virgo, 12th house. I observe and observe some more! I interact and socialize with them very casually. In doing so I VERY carefully observe every minute detail of their body language, eyes, tone of voice, and general reactions. Do they laugh at my stupid jokes? Do they seem fully engaged when I'm speaking? What are their responses? Do they make eye contact? The eye shape, pupil dilation, a slight glazed look, etc. What part of my face are they looking, if they are, and are they looking deeply, almost imagining doing something, or lip reading because they can't hear me? Do they seem relaxed, etc etc. I mean it's like a million little, subtle details that I continuously observe. If it's someone I come across often such as at work I would talk with them on a regular basis in order to get a bigger picture of it. Were they just being friendly/flirty as a Libra would or how do they behave after I've been around them for a while and get them more comfortable? I've spent anywhere from days to months going through this process. LOL Just TONS of observation, looking at clues. I have some rather social, extroverted signs placements to help me out. They help hide what's really going on.
My SO is like this but worse! He has Venus in Pisces 12H opposite Virgo Pluto. Nothing escapes him. Nothing! Unfortunately, he is most of the times using it in the wrong ways because it creates a certain level of paranoia in him. He will read into the SMALLEST change in a facial expression or mannerism and fully believe something negative is hidden :-/
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DopGang Knowflake Posts: 629 From: <--------- over there. Registered: Jun 2015
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posted August 23, 2015 02:41 AM
Yeah, mine is just gauging how a person feels about me. I just like to pick up on things for fun in general. Grow that area of my life. (12th) Paranoia really sucks! Sounds like it needs development. I don't mean to sound mean at all but if specifically looking for the wrong things in someone else then self-deception is a real possibility. It's one of the few positive things that I can say about having Virgo in the 12th. Ability to stay grounded.
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DopGang Knowflake Posts: 629 From: <--------- over there. Registered: Jun 2015
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posted August 23, 2015 02:43 AM
Thank you Faith. Glad you understand! I somewhat regret posting on this thread. To me it's confirmation of the 12th being misunderstood. It's meant to stay hidden because few truly get it and therefore gets misinterpreted. I think I'll use more caution about what I share around here. Particularly when it comes to my mars and Venus. It's uncomfortable anyway. IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2301 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted August 23, 2015 05:58 AM
12th house cap venus. When I like someone, I start to indulge in fantasies, with said person as the main character. It is easy to get lost in fantasies, however - courtesy of venus-neptune conjunction. And I have to keep my head clear if I don't want to fall into the route of loving the idealized version of the person, not the person himself. Venus-saturn conjunction helps somewhat. It grounds me and it's the voice that tells me to go ahead and turn my dreams into reality. Also, it reminds me of stuff like finding out if the person is single (I do not hit on attached people)..etc.. Unlike what some descriptions of 12th house venus suggest, I don't hold back or hide my feelings. My affection is out there for all to see, I don't do subtlety. I become a giddy, hyper hot mess. If they give me the green light, then the seduction game begins. Lol I remember when I had a crush on my husband, I felt like he made the rest of the world look as if it was made in greyscale. Dreams, dreams, dreams..and more dreams. Eventually I got my head out of the clouds long enough to actually make a move. Hah. IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014 Knowflake Posts: 15327 From: Venus cornering Neptune Registered: Mar 2014
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posted August 23, 2015 06:11 AM
quote: Originally posted by DopGang: Venus Virgo, 12th house. I observe and observe some more! I interact and socialize with them very casually. In doing so I VERY carefully observe every minute detail of their body language, eyes, tone of voice, and general reactions. Do they laugh at my stupid jokes? Do they seem fully engaged when I'm speaking? What are their responses? Do they make eye contact? The eye shape, pupil dilation, a slight glazed look, etc. What part of my face are they looking, if they are, and are they looking deeply, almost imagining doing something, or lip reading because they can't hear me? Do they seem relaxed, etc etc. I mean it's like a million little, subtle details that I continuously observe. If it's someone I come across often such as at work I would talk with them on a regular basis in order to get a bigger picture of it. Were they just being friendly/flirty as a Libra would or how do they behave after I've been around them for a while and get them more comfortable? I've spent anywhere from days to months going through this process. LOL Just TONS of observation, looking at clues. I have some rather social, extroverted signs placements to help me out. They help hide what's really going on.
I like your MO, DG. An undercover James Bond hehehe Venus in Virgo 8th I am shy and secretive too, when I begin to fall in love, and I need a lot of encouragement to open up. When I do, things get...much better ------------------ I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... AstroMandala New Profiles IP: Logged |
LeeLoo2014 Knowflake Posts: 15327 From: Venus cornering Neptune Registered: Mar 2014
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posted August 23, 2015 06:17 AM
quote: Originally posted by DopGang: Thank you Faith. Glad you understand! I somewhat regret posting on this thread. To me it's confirmation of the 12th being misunderstood. It's meant to stay hidden because few truly get it and therefore gets misinterpreted. I think I'll use more caution about what I share around here. Particularly when it comes to my mars and Venus. It's uncomfortable anyway.
I think it's great what you do, because you observe the person to know them better, it shows you take things seriously and that you want to know someone as they are, not just looks, and also to make sure, as it is possible, they are suitable for you. I do the same, I observe people a lot in the initial stage, especially since I have a Venus sq Neptune and I need to guard myself from the tendency to see people more beautiful than they actually are. Nothing to do with stalking, really, I don't know where that came from, but with making sure the person as a whole is what you like and want, it's typical for Virgos to be very observant and to want to see beyond the surface of things. ------------------ I seem to have loved you in numberless forms... AstroMandala New Profiles IP: Logged |
Sunnya Knowflake Posts: 143 From: Sunnyland Registered: Jun 2014
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posted August 23, 2015 06:32 AM
Venus in Cancer in the 8th.Sextile Moon Biquintile Jupiter exact Sequis Saturn exact Opposition Neptune Trine Pluto Sextile Lilith etc... Sometimes I feel I care too much and I am very protective of the people and things I care about. I also always give my all to everyone and everything I love. Yup, I am very intense. I am very empathic and I can feel/perceive what other people feel which used to be kinda weird and confusing at times, because I thought they were my own feelings... So this can be a good thing or bad until understood. IP: Logged |
polkadotstars Knowflake Posts: 327 From: Washington, DC Registered: Feb 2015
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posted August 23, 2015 07:45 AM
Aries Venus in 9th here!I'm impatient when I like someone. I recently started hanging out with someone a lot. We weren't "dating" yet but we spent a lot of time together. It was killing me that he hadn't kissed me yet, so I kissed him first! He said he was planning to have kissed me a few nights later when we were going to watch a meteor shower. That probably would have been more romantic lol. I am known with my friends to date people of ethnic backgrounds haha. I told my friends I was dating someone new, and one of them was like "I'm waiting to hear some unusual name" ;-) IP: Logged |
bansheequeen Knowflake Posts: 1204 From: Beachville, USA Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 23, 2015 09:10 AM
Cap venus in the 4h house.I never asked anyone out in my life. I am so shy, when I like someone it makes me feel like crawling back home and burrowing deep into my bed and dying. I am very loyal but I tend to hang onto relationships, both romantic and not romantic long past their expiration date. IP: Logged |
Odette Moderator Posts: 5976 From: Registered: May 2012
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posted August 23, 2015 09:12 AM
quote: Originally posted by VelvetPriestess: Does your Venus help or hinder you when you like someone? How do you act when you're into someone? And what is your Venus sign/position?I am shy when I like someone, and it's really annoying because it's often interpreted as lack of interest. My Venus is in Virgo in the 8th house.
Venus in Taurus/11th It helps me because I'm very calm, relaxed and patient. It takes me a long time to warm up to someone. All my relationships have started out as friendships. When I'm sure I'm romantically into someone, which is usually years into knowing them... I show them physically, through body language, touch etc I'm very physical/non-verbal in displaying my affection and attraction. I've never started liking someone out of the blue. I don't really notice people in a romantic sense, since I'm demisexual, so they kind of pop up on my radar once they show interest in some way. If the feeling ends up being mutual, I'm very expressive and warm. I think my Mercury (Pisces) hinders me more on a romantic level, because I'm sometimes (unintentionally) evasive in my communications. Some people take this the wrong way :/ IP: Logged |
bansheequeen Knowflake Posts: 1204 From: Beachville, USA Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 23, 2015 09:13 AM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: LOL...Nine is always making those kinds of remarks.Pisces picks up more than other signs and looks for confirmation. So I can see why they liken this to stalking. If a Pisces *feels* that her boyfriend is at her friend's house and they are making out, the Pisces will actually drive there because chances are, she's right. They call it stalking. To me, it's just confirming.
I think there needs to be more aspects because I had almost that exact convo with a pisces and she just let it slip away and her mind moved onto something else lol and now she doesnt even think of that guy anymore. IP: Logged |
LexusVirgo Knowflake Posts: 756 From: Registered: Feb 2015
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posted August 23, 2015 12:06 PM
Venus in Leo in the 12th square Pluto exact. i always fall for people who do not like me back..IP: Logged |
ReadingTheStars95 Knowflake Posts: 676 From: Registered: Jun 2014
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posted August 23, 2015 12:19 PM
quote: Originally posted by Odette: Venus in Taurus/11th It helps me because I'm very calm, relaxed and patient. It takes me a long time to warm up to someone. All my relationships have started out as friendships. When I'm sure I'm romantically into someone, which is usually years into knowing them... I show them physically, through body language, touch etc I'm very physical/non-verbal in displaying my affection and attraction. I've never started liking someone out of the blue. I don't really notice people in a romantic sense, since I'm demisexual, so they kind of pop up on my radar once they show interest in some way. If the feeling ends up being mutual, I'm very expressive and warm. I think my Mercury (Pisces) hinders me more on a romantic level, because I'm sometimes (unintentionally) evasive in my communications. Some people take this the wrong way :/
Would you be willing to list all the planets that aspect your Venus? (Even minor aspects.. Such as semi-sextiles and semi-squares and quintiles and such..) I resonate with a lot of what you've said.. But, I have Venus in the 7th, in Aries. In saying that, you think I'd get into relationships quickly.. And well.. Maybe there was a time I did, but I think that is part of why I take things much slower now.. I always partly attributed that (me taking things slowly) to my Pluto aspects and 8th house Sun though. And well, my Sun is in Taurus, so there is that I guess.
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