posted August 25, 2015 07:29 PM            

How should I go about this? I thought about pretending like I don't notice him because they say Aries men love "the chase" .. But shouldn't I take his Pisces influence into consideration as well? If it matters, my Cancer Venus is at 18'57 degrees and his is at 17'38 degrees Pisces.

Any help would be greatly appreciated, especially if you're an Aries Sun, Pisces Rising, Venus or Mercury. Thank youuu!

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Leo Sun/Mercury
Sagittarius Moon
Cancer Venus/Mars/Rising

posted August 25, 2015 11:03 PM            

I'm sorry but I have to stand by what I told you initially:

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Because of the sheer amount of emotion between you, you can very easily hurt each other. Neither of you is exactly thick skinned.
But because he is older and very mutable, and also - a guy... he will more easily pick himself back up after a heartbreak.

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Please!!- do not rush the romance and the sex with this... Keep it *friends only*...
Maybe in time... one fine day... it will turn romantic.. But don't push it into something romantic right away, and don't let him do that either

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posted August 25, 2015 11:27 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
You are 17/18. He is 28.

I'm sorry but I have to stand by what I told you initially:

[QUOTE]Please!!- do not rush the romance and the sex with this... Keep it *friends only*...
Maybe in time... one fine day... it will turn romantic.. But don't push it into something romantic right away, and don't let him do that either

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... But of course, it's up to you to take or leave my advice, as we all have free will and there is nothing I can do about that, no matter how concerned I am about you. [/QUOTE]

posted August 25, 2015 11:28 PM            

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Originally posted by LaceyLeigh:
How can you ignore him if you never talk to him? Just say hi, and then let him take the lead. If he's interested, he'll find a way to talk to you - despite how shy he is.

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posted August 26, 2015 02:37 AM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
That's quite an age gap for someone who's 18. Tread carefully

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posted August 26, 2015 09:19 AM            

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
I agree. I saw the other post and was like yikes even I wouldn't date this guy too old and I am in my 20s.. I know a lot of women prefer older men but at 18, you really cant fathom that the older person has so much more life experiece and it changes your outlook and "freshness." I dated a college guy while in high school and while I was all excited and cutesy he was jaded and wanted to push things too much too fast.

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posted August 26, 2015 09:48 AM            

Im not gonna lie, this past weekend I met a girl who looked very mature for her age. I got her number and she told me she was 17 going on 18 lol. Immediately I had to cut that off. I just turned 25 and I can't be with someone who is entering their senior year of HS. I was surprised because i thought she was at least 21-22.

posted August 26, 2015 10:09 AM            

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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
Age no longer matters when both parties are able to take care of themselves legally. If you're still in HS you don't have any business dating someone whos in their mid to late 20's, AT LEAST until you graduate (not sure if you're finished yet) and know you are capable of moving out (not sure if you still live with your parents lol)

Im not gonna lie, this past weekend I met a girl who looked very mature for her age. I got her number and she told me she was 17 going on 18 lol. Immediately I had to cut that off. I just turned 25 and I can't be with someone who is entering their senior year of HS. I was surprised because i thought she was at least 21-22.

A lot of strong relationships occur between people with huge age gaps though, probably because of the generational planets and nodes...I already have a feeling Im going to meet someone who is probably a decade and some change younger than me in the future. But when I'm in my 30's of course

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posted August 26, 2015 10:14 AM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
No one knows but you. No one here sees you two interact or knows either of you.
People can see a chart, a synastry, an age, and make judgements and assumptions. Some based on their own preferences or stereotypes or the little, tiny bit of information you give us. There's so much unseen and that can't be put into words.
A majority of women that I've been with have been 10+ years younger and there was nothing strange about it. No one's family thought it strange, made comments, or treated us differently. None of us chose each other based on age. We liked each other, sometimes feel in love, and broke up. None of it, from meeting to the break ups had anything to do with age or differences due to age. It's never been an issue. If your focus is age them you have the wrong focus. You can just as easily be used or run into the same issues with someone your own age.

Just listen to yourself.

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posted August 26, 2015 10:15 AM            

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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
Age no longer matters when both parties are able to take care of themselves legally. If you're still in HS you don't have any business dating someone whos in their mid to late 20's, AT LEAST until you graduate (not sure if you're finished yet) and know you are capable of moving out (not sure if you still live with your parents lol)

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posted August 26, 2015 10:23 AM            

But when you are 18 you're just fresh out of your parents embrace and the older person has such upper hand over you that if he's not a good person, things can turn really sour. If he's a good person, then why can't he date women from age 23+. Plenty of fish in the sea. Why would he want to date someone who hasn't been able to legally drink alcohol yet?

I'm heavy Saturnian with Capricorn Venus and even then I found the 30+ men interested in me creepy. Why can't these men handle women their age? Are they too wise and too strong for their taste? Coz it's much better to date a partner who has income and social power too so that your family unit is more stable.

posted August 26, 2015 10:24 AM            

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Originally posted by TensionEmpire:
It´s a day, I do not believe if someone is graduated or not makes a difference, there are ppl that live alone before graduating, and there are ppl that know nothing about life after graduating..
For me it looed like you where saying, "Uhul! I`m out of HS now I can date older guys!"

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posted August 26, 2015 10:25 AM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
Well 10 year age gap can work out if both parties are adults. A 35 yr old dating a 45 yr old doesn't sound bad.

But when you are 18 you're just fresh out of your parents embrace and the older person has such upper hand over you that if he's not a good person, things can turn really sour. If he's a good person, then why can't he date women from age 23+. Plenty of fish in the sea. Why would he want to date someone who hasn't been able to legally drink alcohol yet?

I'm heavy Saturnian with Capricorn Venus and even then I found the 30+ men interested in me creepy. Why can't these men handle women their age? Are they too wise and too strong for their taste? Coz it's much better to date a partner who has income and social power too so that your family unit is more stable.

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posted August 26, 2015 10:53 AM            

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Originally posted by TensionEmpire:
It´s a day, I do not believe if someone is graduated or not makes a difference, there are ppl that live alone before graduating, and there are ppl that know nothing about life after graduating..
For me it looed like you where saying, "Uhul! I`m out of HS now I can date older guys!"

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If that person is finished with their minor obligations and are officially legal, then no one can tell them who to date and who not to especially if they are living under their own roof.

posted August 26, 2015 10:56 AM            

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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
If that person is finished with their minor obligations and are officially legal, then no one can tell them who to date and who not to especially if they are living under their own roof.

Im not talking about "life experience", if that were the case no one should be dating until they turn 60 lol

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Yeah, in "life experience" maybe ppl should only date after theyr 60ties hehe

But who is the state to tell you what to do or not to do?

posted August 26, 2015 04:19 PM            

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Originally posted by Leo-Cancer98:
I'm asking out of curiousity. Obviously I wouldn't date him until I'm 22-24 because I would still need time to get myself together and figure out who I am. If he's single in a few years, why not? My parents starting dating when my Mom was 19 and my Dad was 30. Shakira is 37 and her bf is 28, Beyoncé and Jay-Z & Angelina & Brad are 11-12 years apart, I don't think age matters as much when you're older. It's just a number and it doesn't define whether a relationship will work or not. What makes a relationship work is how both parties deal with each other and how badly they want it to work. Whether it means running into some challenges with the age difference that they have to deal with or some other problem; it's how they DEAL with these issues that determine the strength or weakness of the relationship.
I still stand by what I said, wouldn't get involved until I'm in 20s.

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I agree, and once youve lived as an adult a little you will be more on the same page as him. Please try to explore other relationships! Boys around your will be more fresh and willing to try new things and go the distance. When a guy is older, esp that old, he is gonna have his share of scars and hang ups and tons and tons of baggage. Of course everyone is different but you cant live that long without tacking on a fair share of baggage. For example, depending on when he started dating he has so many years of having girlfriends and having a broken heart and learning the wrong thing about women. Not to mention he probbaly wont be as broken up over fights and breakups and such as you. When you do decide to go after him be careful with your heart.

posted August 26, 2015 04:28 PM            

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Originally posted by theunknown:
Well 10 year age gap can work out if both parties are adults. A 35 yr old dating a 45 yr old doesn't sound bad.

But when you are 18 you're just fresh out of your parents embrace and the older person has such upper hand over you that if he's not a good person, things can turn really sour. If he's a good person, then why can't he date women from age 23+. Plenty of fish in the sea. Why would he want to date someone who hasn't been able to legally drink alcohol yet?

I'm heavy Saturnian with Capricorn Venus and even then I found the 30+ men interested in me creepy. Why can't these men handle women their age? Are they too wise and too strong for their taste? Coz it's much better to date a partner who has income and social power too so that your family unit is more stable.

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Me too. I have cap stellium and am saturnian too. I always read cap women are supposed to like older men but that is so not the case for me, I always found it very creepy. But I also have a traumatic experience of this old man making a kissy face at me when I was like 12 or something so maybe I just grew up to HATE the idea of dating older men.

I dated a college guy while in high school and while I wasnt aware of it at the time, he really did have the upper hand on me. Not only that he already had an idea of girls and dating. I was still in the exploring stages. I felt very pressured into a lot of things and I wasnt able to take things to the pace that other people my age were.

posted August 26, 2015 04:31 PM            

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
Me too. I have cap stellium and am saturnian too. I always read cap women are supposed to like older men but that is so not the case for me, I always found it very creepy. But I also have a traumatic experience of this old man making a kissy face at me when I was like 12 or something so maybe I just grew up to HATE the idea of dating older men.

I dated a college guy while in high school and while I wasnt aware of it at the time, he really did have the upper hand on me. Not only that he already had an idea of girls and dating. I was still in the exploring stages. I felt very pressured into a lot of things and I wasnt able to take things to the pace that other people my age were.

And yeah.... what does some 30 year old guy want in someone straight out of high school. I think a lot of these men have an age fetish. Or they cant make it work with a woman their own age.. Either way they always give off a very creepy vibe to me. But some people like find that comforting or reassuring? That sureness and jadedness?

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posted August 26, 2015 04:32 PM            

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Originally posted by NYCdodger:
If that person is finished with their minor obligations and are officially legal, then no one can tell them who to date and who not to especially if they are living under their own roof.

Im not talking about "life experience", if that were the case no one should be dating until they turn 60 lol

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Right says the person that dates a lot of people 10 years younger. Theres a reason for that pattern.