posted September 07, 2015 07:29 PM            

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Originally posted by Soltze:
Hell no...jealous possessive men look wimpy and weak to me. Like they're trying too hard and overcompensate. I'm wild no one can control me hahaha
A truly composed and sexy man, trusts me absolutely and respects my space.
I get uncontrolably angry if I find concrete reasons to be jealous.
I can handle looking around and being nice to other women. More than that I don't tolerate.Specially if he has the sad idea of making me jealous on purpose.
Mind games...no thanks.

Bah here we go...speaking of my moon again.
It's conjunct pluto in scorpio, 8th house

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posted September 07, 2015 07:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Do you have any uranian aspects/qualities? Aquarius signs?

What is your mars sign? If you dont mind me asking.

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posted September 07, 2015 07:57 PM            

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Originally posted by Gemini30:
Wow scorpio moon and you dont like jealous men. Wonder what your chart looks like

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posted September 07, 2015 08:13 PM            

Or it could be I've dealt with people like that, men and women, and it left a very bad taste. Hell, one terrified me and gave me nightmares.

That said I love passion and intensity, just don't direct too much of it at me. I need a long leash, my friends (one an ex, another I consider a platonic soul mate, this has caused trouble before), and not be burdened with feeling like I'm not only responsible for myself but for someone else as well, that is I feel the obligation and burden that comes with such power (and being Plutonian I know how dangerous that can be, and how passionate love and acts of passion can turn into passionate hatred and crimes of passion).

posted September 07, 2015 09:30 PM            

Do you find it attractive when a man is possessive of you?

Yes, but not obsessive.
I like feeling like I am THE one, but not to the point of creepiness or stalking.

Do you also find it attractive when a man gets jealous?
It can be endearing, to a point.
I also have a Leo venus in fifth, so I love the spotlight, I crave attention and I absolutely adore the feeling of being desired, and this can clash quite disgustingly with jealous people.

posted September 07, 2015 10:05 PM            

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A truly composed and sexy man, trusts me absolutely and respects my space.

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Exactly. And I would likewise respect his space. I find it completely normal to check others out. This doesn't even slightly upset me. Nor do female friends or whatever.
Maybe it's an age thing as well. In my teens it might've upset me.

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the sad idea of making me jealous on purpose.
Mind games...no thanks.

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posted September 07, 2015 11:43 PM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
I think they like ob-sessive men, rather than po-ssessive men.

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Yes, that does pretty much sum it up for me. I'm definitely not trying to be controlled outright, by any means.
A Pisces I may be, but plenty of Pluto, Scorpio, and 8th house stuff in my chart there is. (Don't mind my wording, I'm just channeling my inner Yoda.)

Anyhoo, I would definitely never go out of my way to make anyone feel insecure, jealous, etc. But a healthy dose of obsession is entirely pleasant for me.

posted September 08, 2015 01:00 AM            

Do you find it attractive when a man is possessive of you?

I find it incredibly attractive when a guy I'm romantically involved with wants to spend a lot of time alone with me. I consider myself to be a pretty social person but I'm very private in relationships - I think this can be considered a mild form of possessiveness honestly. I get along best with a man that is layered as I like to uncover new things about my loved ones that other people don't know about them. I like when the guy I'm with feels the same about me, so yea...in that regard I think there's a little bit of a possessiveness preference there.

Of course, as soon as someone stops respecting my space and my individuality, starts distrusting me when he's not around, or tries to control me in any way I freak out.

The BIGGEST turn on for me is someone who is RESPECTFUL, even in the wake of his own wants/feelings.

Do you also find it attractive when a man gets jealous?

I think jealousy is a very natural thing in relationships. Regardless of how much you trust someone or how secure you feel in the relationship, there can still be vulnerable moments when someone you see as competition enters the picture. Again, if the guy I'm dating is respectful and mature about his feelings it can be quite endearing to see that vulnerability every once and a while. Otherwise the relationship starts to feel a little too frienship-y for me.

If the guy starts fights with randos who smile at me or something idiotic like that, I'm out.

Do you find it attractive when a man is overly emotional?

I love a man with a composed exterior tempering exceptional emotional depth. Childish men or overly sensitive men unable to control their outbursts (AND women)...not remotely interested in having those people in my life. In my experience the relationship (or friendship even) will never be balanced and you will run into problems with questions 1 and 2 constantly.

As a side note: There was another thread here maybe a few months ago that discussed Plutonic people's experiences with possessive/obsessive people. I am someone who has been objectified in this way by friends, admirers, and acquaintances throughout my life and it is the biggest turn off EVER. As soon as someone starts treating me like property and not like the independent, grown-*** woman I am, it's over for me.

posted September 08, 2015 01:27 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
I think they like ob-sessive men, rather than po-ssessive men.

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posted September 08, 2015 03:49 AM            

However, I have a Sag moon. I cannot be caged.

posted September 08, 2015 03:55 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
I think they like ob-sessive men, rather than po-ssessive men.

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Yes. THIS. Pay attention to me and notice things about me. Do I look sad? Find out why. Want to get me a nice birthday present? Spend time obsessing over what I might like... etc.

But DO NOT try to keep track of me. I will run screaming for the exit.

posted September 08, 2015 03:59 AM            

but

I fricken LOVE it when a man heaves his chest and shows he's jealous. It revs me up and turns me on haha. I love when they are protective of me and will stand up and be my man (Taurus DSC).
My ex didn't flinch when I talked to other guys and it kinda annoyed me lol.

posted September 08, 2015 04:16 AM            

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Originally posted by FmVenusWLove:
Not sure if I qualify, but Pluto is my AC ruler, chart ruler and is dominant in my chart. Scorp AC, Taurus Sun/Merc/DC, 5H Venus and 1H Uranus (which I think is the game-changer for me).

[b]Do you find it attractive when a man is possessive of you?

I find it incredibly attractive when a guy I'm romantically involved with wants to spend a lot of time alone with me. I consider myself to be a pretty social person but I'm very private in relationships - I think this can be considered a mild form of possessiveness honestly. I get along best with a man that is layered as I like to uncover new things about my loved ones that other people don't know about them. I like when the guy I'm with feels the same about me, so yea...in that regard I think there's a little bit of a possessiveness preference there.

Of course, as soon as someone stops respecting my space and my individuality, starts distrusting me when he's not around, or tries to control me in any way I freak out.

The BIGGEST turn on for me is someone who is RESPECTFUL, even in the wake of his own wants/feelings.

Do you also find it attractive when a man gets jealous?

I think jealousy is a very natural thing in relationships. Regardless of how much you trust someone or how secure you feel in the relationship, there can still be vulnerable moments when someone you see as competition enters the picture. Again, if the guy I'm dating is respectful and mature about his feelings it can be quite endearing to see that vulnerability every once and a while. Otherwise the relationship starts to feel a little too frienship-y for me.

If the guy starts fights with randos who smile at me or something idiotic like that, I'm out.

Do you find it attractive when a man is overly emotional?

I love a man with a composed exterior tempering exceptional emotional depth. Childish men or overly sensitive men unable to control their outbursts (AND women)...not remotely interested in having those people in my life. In my experience the relationship (or friendship even) will never be balanced and you will run into problems with questions 1 and 2 constantly.

As a side note: There was another thread here maybe a few months ago that discussed Plutonic people's experiences with possessive/obsessive people. I am someone who has been objectified in this way by friends, admirers, and acquaintances throughout my life and it is the biggest turn off EVER. As soon as someone starts treating me like property and not like the independent, grown-*** woman I am, it's over for me.

Again, being honorable and respectful is key for me. I tend to gravitate toward Saturnine men for this reason.[/B]

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Wow you articulated how I feel so much better than I could have and we have very similar placements. I'm scorpio asc, taurus sun/venus/dsc, 5th house Mercury, uranus 1st (conjunct asc).

A slight difference is I like the *idea* of being property, probably having venus in taurus but in reality i've hAd an experience, or two, that's conflicted - likely with - uranus in my chart. Having to become paranoid to head off others paranoia is not my idea of fun, well maybe merc-pluto opp twisted idea of fun but not when they step over being respectful of me as an individual and as you say show their lack of control.

posted September 08, 2015 07:41 AM            

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Originally posted by foxxyxo:
Soltze, we sound kinda similar!! you have aries rising too i bet venus and moon placements can act really similar to each other. my sun is cappy conjunct uranus and im a libra moon so yea too much emotion and ill get really uncomfortable like, ewww lol its like lighten up weirdooo, i always play like little kids with the guys that i like lol

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I totally get it, no one like you with an airy moon will like too much jealosy.

Hum, no I have Pisces Rising :-P I'm pretty sure it's the Gemini stuff, since the rest of my chart is pratically water hehe I should be super emotional but I'm not. Just when I'm annoyed :-P

About saturnine men...I don't know why but they're delicious to me. I always wind up obsessed with Sun conjunct Saturn guys, it's so weird. I feel like seducing them out of being responsible

posted September 08, 2015 08:23 AM            

My answer is yes.

I like possessive men, but not as explicitly possessive as me. I like more of controlled, calm possessiveness. If that makes any sense. A taurian possessiveness.

Do you find it attractive when a man is possessive of you?

Yes, but a controlled possessiveness.

Do you also find it attractive when a man gets jealous?

A little but. I think it shows they care in a weird way.

Do you find it attractive when a man is overly emotional?

posted September 08, 2015 10:19 AM            

Do you find it attractive when a man is possessive of you?

Yeah

Do you also find it attractive when a man gets jealous?

Yeah it shows me he cares in a way..

Do you find it attractive when a man is overly emotional?

Passionate..

I am a possessive type aswell but I try hide it..

posted September 08, 2015 05:31 PM            

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Originally posted by ikja:

I like possessive men, but not as explicitly possessive as me. I like more of controlled, calm possessiveness. If that makes any sense. A taurian possessiveness.

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posted September 08, 2015 11:41 PM            

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Originally posted by florence:
Wow you articulated how I feel so much better than I could have and we have very similar placements. I'm scorpio asc, taurus sun/venus/dsc, 5th house Mercury, uranus 1st (conjunct asc).

A slight difference is I like the *idea* of being property, probably having venus in taurus but in reality i've hAd an experience, or two, that's conflicted - likely with - uranus in my chart. Having to become paranoid to head off others paranoia is not my idea of fun, well maybe merc-pluto opp twisted idea of fun but not when they step over being respectful of me as an individual and as you say show their lack of control.

And I do tend to gravitate to saturnine men too - I think it satisfies Uranian freedom, pluto control and a particular kind of intensity

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Aw, we are two of a kind That makes a lot of sense actually. I have an Aries Venus, so even the idea of being anyone's "property" makes me feel like I need to break free. But on the other hand, I do need a bit of jealousy to feel special/needed. With a Taurus Venus that fits perfectly.