posted October 09, 2015 05:29 PM            

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Originally posted by JourneysRoar:
I can appreciate your perception of a Cancer Mars! It IS a difficult placement for many to handle, an it's owner is no exception...especially if it takes center stage in the birth chart or if it is extremely stressed by other aspects! I think the challenge for those of us with this Mars, is to learn how to really honestly OWN our force and our motivation in harmony with emotion. This may be easier for some than others. Cancer wants emotion to integrate into whatever it touches...Mars has no time for emotion, it's foreign to his being...it's squishy and uncomfortable...and VULNERABLE! Kind of like that movie with Vin Diesel "The Pacifier" or depending on your age, maybe "Mr. Mom". He's not domesticated, kids and cooking, the softness of a mother; None of this appeals to him...he's a warrior! Emotion doesn't belong in battle...or he'd rather it that way anyways. So naturally, he acts like they're not there...or gets frustrated when he senses, but doesn't acknowledge them. THEN after sometime like the waxing and wanning of the moon ...the build up and then release...He explodes with rage! An uncomfortable rage that makes him feel weak. If the emotions are on a lower, unhealthy vibration....this Mars will be operating on a less evolved octave. That's why IMO, this is a Mars that most have to grow into, to learn how to balace two very different energies into oneness. Now, a higher octave Cancer Mars has learned how to temper the emotions in a way that flows WITH their action, released in balance together....harmoniously like a river. What you describe with your sibling relationships, sounds like they could benefit from finding a positive outlet for their emotions. Short bouts of intense physical activity is great for a Cancer Mars! When emotions are suppressed or ignored...the outlet becomes emotional rage, which can really feel frightening on the inside for the person. Slamming doors, breaking things, crying in confrontation, sharp tongues...some even shy completely away from confrontaion for fear of their emotions becoming too much, this is how a Cancer Mars can negatively express their placement. I'm not defending her actions, but simply giving you a window to observe. I can see how you both can get on each others nerves with the polarity of your mars to hers with the light and airy Vs her heavy Mars...and you are siblings...need I say more? Lol. Once a Cancer Mars realizes that our emotions need to be acknowledged and released AND must match our motivation and intentions positively to be able to manifest the higher expression of this placement things start becoming much less complicated. Now of course the rest of the chart also colors this placement, as with all placements, which impacts it's expression here as well. But yeah, I remember when my sister and I were young we had serious crazy fights....and I'd still defend her, lol. Mostly it was due to me feeling like she was insensitive and she thought I was too sensitive. I didn't cry or whine as a kid...unless I felt short-sticked. Even then, I didn't cry...I would get even! then start either crying while fighting or right after, but the release of anger brought a wave of emotion with it most of the time. I used to tell her "I don't like you, but I still love you!" BUT she and I both have quite a bit of fire/water in our charts...so it came with the territory I guess.

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posted October 09, 2015 09:37 PM            

I guess I was able to handle it better because his Pisces moon made him a bit more sympathetic. When his moodiness got to be too much he'd go close the door to his room and play his guitar and even his own parents--who were very much of the "spare the rod, spoil the child" philosophy *--left him alone, and advised others to, when he was that way.

(* One time he was paddled at school and he told the teacher to make him "feel it this time." After he got his 3 licks the teacher asked, "Feel that?" My cousin replied, "Feel what?" He got 3 more and his teacher didn't ask him again. I can only imagine how frustrating that attitude of his was to his "spare the rod, spoil the child" parents. )

Another factor could be my Sag stellium that allowed me to shrug off a lot, and also burn out the rage I felt at times fast. Once as kids he put a stick of homemade dynamite (easy to do since the farm we lived on had all sorts of stuff to get rid of varmints and tree stumps) in my hand with a burning fuse, which I threw far enough away in time. Immediately after I chased him down, tripped him as he was forced to slow down, and then pounded his face in while he was laughing too hard to defend himself right. For the longest time I saw this as a juvenile and reckless prank on his part but now I realize he was so happy that he finally GOT to me, glad to finally destroy my calm utterly, even if his prize was a puffy and marked up face. But my Sag moon & Mars helped me get over it soon after, and he should be glad my Mars wasn't something else, say Scorpio or Taurus instead.

But in addition to the sometimes mean things he did, he also was nice and protective. When the local (next county over) cinema in the Bible Belt refused to sell me a ticket for Beavis & Butthead Do America as I didn't look 13 to them (we think that they may not have liked the idea of a young girl going into such a movie with older boys) he and his friends snuck me in through an exit rather than making me wait. He took me to a keg party (in a dry county at that, let alone that this was mostly high school kids--and it got raided by deputies, but as we were on a farm pasture with lookouts, most of of us got away and the raid was considered the highlight of the party) and it cost a dollar to get in (which got us stamped on our hand like a club and allowed us to drink from the kegs), he paid for both of us (turned out most of his friends wanted to meet me anyway after my Sag Mars-Uranus mouth off to the most powerful preacher in town, which was a major scandal in the county and those kids thought it was awesome; his future wife was at that party who remembers me well the "first time we met" there, as she shared with me years later as my adult sister in law, while I had to pretend I remembered her given all the high school kids who talked to me that night).

But while he could be obnoxious at times, others he protected me from could be downright malevolent. I do think he's the reason I wasn't raped in that Bible Belt town, because people believed his dire threats of what he'd do to anyone who did and his saying he didn't care how right they were with Jesus (and his threat was to leave them alive but in such a way they'd either exist in misery for a long, long time, or condemn themselves to Hell with suicide), and he knew I'd never lie about such a thing so contesting my claim would be pointless to him.

And as adults, I first visited with a tattooed blasian friend of mine, and my relatives took me to my favorite restaurant (again, next county over), where some rednecks didn't like my blasian friend sitting with us mostly blond redneck types ourselves...I didn't notice at first until I heard my Cancer Mars cousin shout belligerently, "WHAT!?" Then I saw him, and other male relatives, glare back at the rednecks glaring at us until the others decided it wasn't their business. And then he tried to gross out my blasian friend (in the same way he did me when we were kids) by "sucking the brains out of a crawdad" (the place boiled crawdads without cutting them at all, so brain was included, and he could do it that the eyes got sucked out of the sockets, too--amazingly enough those crawdads were delicious despite this).

Besides my Sag, my Libra sun and stellium also points out that about everyone close has some conflicts and ways they annoy each other, so it's no big deal. The question is, is he worth it? And he is. Just as the ways I annoy him are worth it to him.

posted October 10, 2015 01:44 AM            

Cap Mars is cool too. My best friend is a Taurus Mars and she is also good at not making me feel like I need to serve her. In fact, we serve ourselves together, lavishing in good food and other pleasurable activities.

I used to like Leo Mars, but I realized all the ones I know are basically histrionic and really bad for me to be around. (and you know it's bad when I'm calling someone histrionic)

I only know two people with Scorpio Mars, and in both cases, I've thought they were going to try to kill me at some point.

posted October 10, 2015 02:13 AM            

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Originally posted by LittleBlackCat:
I'm very curious as to what your cousin's sun sign is

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posted October 10, 2015 09:24 PM            

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Originally posted by Readytochill:
This video about Leo Mars is hilarious and true in my case. http://youtu.be/7sM8GHGKZJk

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I forgot to say, I watched and enjoyed this video! I like that video astrologer a lot (The Peace Dealer - Gemini sun/Capricorn moon.)

His video on Cancer Mars has me intrigued...is it true that Cancer Mars uses emotions "as a weapon"? That would explain some things, to me.