posted October 13, 2015 03:50 PM            

Please do not chase after them. It seems like you are the one doing the work while he's the one telling you but never follows through. I don't really know in depth much of how you guys communicate exactly other than what you mentioned. However, I don't think you doing all these things and him being not available is a good sign. I can be wrong though. But I am also dealing with a Scorpio man at the moment as well. I have a tight Pluto/venus/merc stellium in scorpio so I am familiar with them.

Hope it works out for the best for you!

posted October 13, 2015 10:15 PM            

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Originally posted by TR2009:
sorry I put this question in wrong section

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I don't think it matter unless you mention an asteroid.

posted October 14, 2015 12:15 PM            

You already told him once and clearly that you don't want casual sex. However his actions and words seem like - he sees this as a challenge and wants to see whether or not he can push your buttons.
It's perfectly OK for you to tell him to "F Off". Please don't be too nice or "polite", because you don't need to - with Scorpio. He will steamroll all over you if you are too nice.
No matter what they may "say" out loud, the truth is... deep down, Scorpios don't have much respect for people they see as weak.

posted October 14, 2015 09:42 PM            

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Originally posted by Nine:
He's after a bedroom encounter. He's letting you down easy.

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true

posted October 15, 2015 01:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
I don't know what your chart looks like... but... what I want to say is, if Scorpio is annoying you with all his "sex blah" - please don't be afraid to speak up.

You already told him once and clearly that you don't want casual sex. However his actions and words seem like - he sees this as a challenge and wants to see whether or not he can push your buttons.
It's perfectly OK for you to tell him to "F Off". Please don't be too nice or "polite", because you don't need to - with Scorpio. He will steamroll all over you if you are too nice.
No matter what they may "say" out loud, the truth is... deep down, Scorpios don't have much respect for people they see as weak.

Call a spade a spade - and call him out on his behaviour if he upsets you!
Because if he truly cares - he will respect your honesty and take steps to "shape up". And if he doesn't truly care he will "ship out". And you will have your answer!

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posted October 15, 2015 02:08 AM            

2. The famous mind games of scorpios are happen when he is actually interested and want to go deeper. Scorpios do not play the hot and cold game! They try to figure you out!

3. If a man, any man talks about sex without knowing you as a person that much, is obviously only after one thing.

posted October 15, 2015 07:20 AM            

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Originally posted by TR2009:
We work in the same place but different departments, after 2 months he told me he has had his eye on me, 3 weeks ago we exchanged numbers and he said he was going to call. A couple days pass he doesn't call, I txt him and it takes him hours to txt back and he asked to see me and I said yes but he never text me back. The day we were supposed to hang out he doesn't txt or call till 10 pm saying he was doing a favor for a neighbor and was tired which I understood. But within 10mins of talking on the phone he asked if I was a virgin and when was the last time I had sex. I told him I dont have sex without a relationship and he automatically said oh your my lady than and I said you havent taken me out or anything. A week ago when I was on break he came in and sat with me for 5mins and when he left he put his arm around my back, kissed me on the cheek and told me to call him, I called him 2 days later he didn't answer an never called me back. It s been a week and he never calls me or text me I always have to text him first and he never text back.
He came over to my department and we talked and he stares at me allot but when we were done talking he said he would txt me but nothing from him yet.

Before we exchanged numbers he seemed very interested in getting to know me, he would say he wanted to take me out and that he liked me. But it seems he doesn't think about me unless I'm standing in front of him or wanting to go out outside of work.
Am I just a work flirting friend?

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In general, I find scorpio men - be it in their sun sign or rising - are clear about their intentions in how they treat you. Meaning, if you are chasing, he may respond because he's attracted but he's not really interested in something more than a fling at best.

When they're really wanting to date you, they make it known.

I dated a scorpio who did the same - we met and he was really attracted and got my number and asked for a date soon... then weeks went by and he never called or texted. I invited him to a party eventually (thinking we could at least be friends), and after that he booty texted. We embarked upon a fairly reasonably friends with benefits thing for about a year before that crashed and burned tho! But even when he seemed very interested and we were occasionally together physically, he never once entertained the idea of a relationship with me. We're still friendly, but yeah. that was how he acted.

Current guy is a scorpio rising/venus, and he pursued me clearly, and always has. the only times I've felt like the one chasing, it was because something was very wrong. In general, he's called the shots, he's been the pursuer and I'm grateful actually because I know where I stand with him.

posted October 15, 2015 07:24 AM            

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Originally posted by Rouge:
Ignore him completely. It's one thing is scorpios actually love and hate. If you do this he will chase you. Just ignore completely. No smiles, messages, calls.

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I agree with this, but with one caveat: be ready for this to be a cycle.

I find they will chase when you ignore, but then once they have you, if they aren't 100% invested in something growing from it, they'll pull away again. Then you ignore again, they chase again, grow cold again, annndddd on and on and on.

posted October 15, 2015 09:50 AM            

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Originally posted by Cappi112:
In general, I find scorpio men - be it in their sun sign or rising - are clear about their intentions in how they treat you. Meaning, if you are chasing, he may respond because he's attracted but he's not really interested in something more than a fling at best.

When they're really wanting to date you, they make it known.
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These are my experiences with scorpios, and men in general (I hate being the pursuer ever though). Others have said scorpios also like playing a little bit of a game to see if you're very interested at first before they let their guard down, too. It's up to you to suss that out.

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I completely agree in that once a Scorpio has chosen you, they will make it known. There is no playing around, and although they like to test with mind games, they don't like to be tested..and certainly will not tolerate someone else playing mind games with them.

posted October 15, 2015 10:01 AM            

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Originally posted by malicefey:
I completely agree in that once a Scorpio has chosen you, they will make it known. There is no playing around, and although they like to test with mind games, they don't like to be tested..and certainly will not tolerate someone else playing mind games with them.

Current Scorpio I'm seeing is like that. I don't initiate anything, I respect him and his need for room - if he wants it. But at the same time, he's initiating. I pass him the ball and now it's in his court. There's definitely alot of respect from him for me, no doubt..and me being a Pluto/Venus/Merc Scorpio myself, I am fine where I am and understand completely. I'm not in a rush, I don't push, and I certainly will not chase. Self respect.

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I think a lot of Scorpios are triggery. Many of them have rough pasts or have been through tragedy, and feel a lot more vulnerable than they think is 'normal'. Therefore, if something happens (even subtle things) that 'trigger' a past issue, there's a lot of fight or flight.

So I try to be on the lookout for when that might be happen, and leave them alone if it is. They always come back around. (This goes for romantic partner as well as friends - my brother is also a Scorpio).

posted October 15, 2015 10:10 AM            

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Originally posted by Cappi112:
I think a lot of Scorpios are triggery. Many of them have rough pasts or have been through tragedy, and feel a lot more vulnerable than they think is 'normal'. Therefore, if something happens (even subtle things) that 'trigger' a past issue, there's a lot of fight or flight.

So I try to be on the lookout for when that might be happen, and leave them alone if it is. They always come back around. (This goes for romantic partner as well as friends - my brother is also a Scorpio).

But it's pretty clear when it's that - a pull back because of something they need to deal with - and when it's just initial lack of interest.

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Yep. Absolutely. You got it! A lack of interest is definitely more...superficial and shallow.

posted October 15, 2015 10:46 AM            

In fact, can the answer be in your question?

posted October 15, 2015 02:38 PM            

From experience, i've been both the pursuer and the purused. (i'm a Scorpio Rising).
The Results aren't great here, he sounds like he is testing the water with you to see if you are interested, but I doubt he would risk playing with you unless he had another girl lined up somewhere.

The "You're my type of girl" is absolute ludacris, he was just being flaky towards you, what he basically meant by that was "you are too rigid/conversative for me, so i'm going to play games."

I doubt you are the latter, but this is only because you didn't bend to his will. Take it on the chin and move on if you can.

I wish you good luck!

posted October 15, 2015 03:30 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Given your interactions. 3-4 of those and I just move on to whatever's next. Time is too precious to put so much of it in someone who just wants to play games.

Personally, I'd tell him. "I'm a woman and I don't play little boy games. If you want to get anywhere near me then you better grow up."
(Assuming that you're a woman. )
I really would. Screw that.

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posted October 15, 2015 06:59 PM            

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Originally posted by bansheequeen:
1. If he was interested in you seriously he would purse you relentlessly. Regardless of sign. Even the most passive pisces sun, libra moon, aqua mars whatever whatever person will purse you if they really want you.

2. The famous mind games of scorpios are happen when he is actually interested and want to go deeper. Scorpios do not play the hot and cold game! They try to figure you out!

3. If a man, any man talks about sex without knowing you as a person that much, is obviously only after one thing.

4. Looks like youre doing all the waiting around and he just pops by when he feels like it. Sounds to me like hes keeping you on the line as a backup booty call.

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posted October 15, 2015 07:43 PM            

If he wanted to be with you there would be no missed calls, texts, etc. You'd have a miserable relationship with this guy, so do yourself a favor and wait for the guy who will treat you like a queen.

Live and learn