posted October 31, 2015 05:23 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
... If you were one of your close friends and an ex treated THEM like that, how would you feel?

How do you think your friends would feel about this? Or how do they feel?

Use that Virgo moon and remove yourself for a moment and look from a different point of view. It's intolerable. You're better than that.

Friends are great in times like this because they can think clearly when we are blind.

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posted October 31, 2015 05:34 PM            

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Originally posted by hypatia238:
Is that sort of treatment that makes it easy for me to walk away without crying, bc is like Oh thanks for making it clear you are a peace of **** and not worth my time, bye bye and good luck bc you clearly need it.

Thank God you don't live with him, makes it so easy to walk away! And don't ever drive 8 hours for him ever ever again!!!!

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Lol you are so right! See this is the mindset I was in for the first year we were split up! Hence me saying NO when he asked for me back! I think sleeping with him again is really what got me all energetically intertwined with him again. I didn't realize the effect that can have on you...

posted October 31, 2015 05:39 PM            

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Originally posted by DopGang:
Wow.
Well.
I don't know if you'd say that you made him your world and I'm not saying that anything is wrong with that. I've done it but the danger is that your power goes to someone else and they can crush you.
Take that power back. You're so much more deserving.

I don't know if this helps but look at it from the outside. If you were one of your close friends and an ex treated THEM like that, how would you feel?
How do you think your friends would feel about this? Or how do they feel?
Use that Virgo moon and remove yourself for a moment and look from a different point of view. It's intolerable. You're better than that.
Friends are great in times like this because they can think clearly when we are blind.

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posted November 01, 2015 08:36 AM            

(music) Should I Stay or Should I Go? (The Clash) [3:10] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cLQJVKP3YlM

posted November 01, 2015 01:30 PM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
The energies of all this seem confused. Are you maybe unconsciously "playing" with him in order to retaliate, perhaps? ... Not saying that you're doing it on purpose. But gently, WHAT you gonna do? What side of the "line" are you gonna leave this: Work it out, or let him go?

(music) Should I Stay or Should I Go? (The Clash) [3:10] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cLQJVKP3YlM

Take Care!

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I am not sure! I am certainly not eliminating that as a possibility, although it for sure wasn't a conscious intention of mine.

The reason I said no when he asked for me back was because I didn't think that we were ready to be together in a healthy way just yet. He was still partying a lot and didn't appear to have it at all together and I didn't want my daughter to be around it.

posted November 01, 2015 02:17 PM            

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Originally posted by missblyss:
I know loves, I know it is intolerable! I don't tolerate the treatment at ALL! I left, I told him not to speak to me that way... It's just the residual energy of feeling that I was so worthless to him.... That he saw me in front of him and wanted to push me away.... I suppose it is just triggering my own insecurities and really has nothing to do with him anyways, but it still hurts!

This is the same man who would have a trail of rose petals and a surprise dinner waiting for me when I'd get home from work... It is just hard for me to wrap my mind around what I could have done to have manifested this awful situation!

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It isn't necessarily what you've done, but perhaps what you haven't done ... In other words, some situations or treatment from others could be traced back to clear actions on our part that trigger a pattern of responses we don't like. Other times, it is an omission -- maybe from a naivete on our end or 'innocent assumptions' -- that create a power imbalance.

I'm just proposing you see things from a different angle, so that there is no blame, but still room for change. Its too easy to slap the term 'karma' on a situation and relationship, but truth is this still means blame, or 'what did I do to cause this...?' When we are all learning and all looking to create lives of Love and Joy.

Karma aside, everyone is still responsible for their own decisions and actions. Don't take on responsibility for someone else's actions by assuming you did something to bring it on. After an honest review, if such things are concealed or unknown to you, then simply move on affirming that you are learning, will learn, and have greater Love power from these experiences.

That is more important than any astrological factor.

posted November 01, 2015 06:07 PM            

You're a good Scout!

posted November 01, 2015 08:30 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
It isn't necessarily what you've done, but perhaps what you haven't done ... In other words, some situations or treatment from others could be traced back to clear actions on our part that trigger a pattern of responses we don't like. Other times, it is an omission -- maybe from a naivete on our end or 'innocent assumptions' -- that create a power imbalance.

I'm just proposing you see things from a different angle, so that there is no blame, but still room for change. Its too easy to slap the term 'karma' on a situation and relationship, but truth is this still means blame, or 'what did I do to cause this...?' When we are all learning and all looking to create lives of Love and Joy.

Karma aside, everyone is still responsible for their own decisions and actions. Don't take on responsibility for someone else's actions by assuming you did something to bring it on. After an honest review, if such things are concealed or unknown to you, then simply move on affirming that you are learning, will learn, and have greater Love power from these experiences.

That is more important than any astrological factor.

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Thank you for your wisdom! I suppose I am only really wanting to take accountability for manifesting this- whether through action or inaction- is because when I take responsibility for the way my life is, it makes me feel like I have the power to change it! It is just what works for me and makes me feel empowered.

I don't fully understand what I did- or why I did it. I feel like my mind and perception changes every single day! It's a roller coaster. I want to understand myself more!

posted November 01, 2015 11:59 PM            

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Originally posted by mirage29:
{{Missblyss, May I compliment you on the way you're handling the feedback?... }} Without really knowing you, we make some strong and perhaps pointed comments, and it's so good that you take things in the light of interest and caring.

You're a good Scout!

Nice comment, Kannon... so true.

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thank you love!!

posted November 04, 2015 12:49 PM            

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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
It isn't necessarily what you've done, but perhaps what you haven't done ... In other words, some situations or treatment from others could be traced back to clear actions on our part that trigger a pattern of responses we don't like. Other times, it is an omission -- maybe from a naivete on our end or 'innocent assumptions' -- that create a power imbalance.

I'm just proposing you see things from a different angle, so that there is no blame, but still room for change. Its too easy to slap the term 'karma' on a situation and relationship, but truth is this still means blame, or 'what did I do to cause this...?' When we are all learning and all looking to create lives of Love and Joy.

Karma aside, everyone is still responsible for their own decisions and actions. Don't take on responsibility for someone else's actions by assuming you did something to bring it on. After an honest review, if such things are concealed or unknown to you, then simply move on affirming that you are learning, will learn, and have greater Love power from these experiences.

That is more important than any astrological factor.

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