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Topic: Libra on a Roller coaster with Scorpio
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TR2009
Newflake Posts: 21
From: Annapolis, MD,USA
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 31, 2015 09:23 AM
  
Here is my previous post: http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum24/HTML/233073-2.html
Here is the issue now:
Really confused again!
He still comes to my area where I work and we talk and I just cant shake my feelings or him. He has been talking to me like nothing happened, like I int txt him back saying i all he wants is sex im not the woman to talk to, an if he isnt into me that way im into him that there is no issue with being friends until his transfer to his new job. He never answered that txt. Yesterday morning he asked me what I was doing for Halloween, I told him I'm going to a hotel party and I invited him but I forgot he is working overtime so he said no. But he asked how many males are going to be there, I told him and he said "don't drink to much an give away whats mine" he said this jokingly so I just laughed and so did he and we just talked.
This morning he came over to where I was working and he showed me a picture of him in his costume from 2 Halloweens ago and there was an adorable little girl standing next to him I asked him is that your daughter he said yes, I called her adorable, he said thank you and we just kept talking and as we were leaving he said don't have too much fun tonight, wave an I got in my car and left.
I was so ready to ignore him but, I keep feeling like because I have feelings or him im rushing it and I just learned he has a daughter so I'm thinking maybe hes going super slow with me because he has a little girl.
But I only see him 2 days a week and he still hasn't brought up seeing each other outside work, since he asked to see me and he never txt me back to set it up but he had a valid reason. Than I invited him to the Halloween party and he turns it down which again I understand because overtime pay is hard to come by where we work. But also he was ready to turn down the overtime when he wanted to get a hotel room with me. but I just cant help but feel he liked me when he barely knew me and now I might not be the person he thought he liked. My head says hes probably back with his daughter's mom and has no intention of getting to know me as more than a coworker or sex buddy. But my heart is saying hes probably taking it slow because he has a daughter and I told him under no circumstances do I have sex without a relationship and hes still coming around wanting to see and talk to me so I just need to be patient an see what happens.
Its a roller coaster should I listen to my head or heart? IP: Logged |
TR2009
Newflake Posts: 21
From: Annapolis, MD,USA
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted October 31, 2015 06:56 PM
Bump for any help pleaseIP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
Moderator Posts: 9614
From: The same energy that made you.
Registered: Dec 2010
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posted October 31, 2015 07:16 PM
My opinion: let it go.I could explain all the reasons why I think so, but they are already up on that other thread. IP: Logged |
missblyss
Knowflake Posts: 143
From: san diego, ca, USA
Registered: Oct 2015
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posted October 31, 2015 07:22 PM
I get the sense his feelings do waver. Sometimes there are feelings there, sometimes doubts, sometimes his own insecurities. You guys are probably going through similar things.. Thinking oh wow I'm interested. Oh, wait are they interested? sure they are.. Now I'm not so sure..If you feel a connection I would say there is one... What does it mean? Only time can tell. I know it is hard, but why not take a step back and just work on yourself. Do nice things for yourself, take good care of yourself, and let him figure out what the heck he wants & if he can meet your needs or not! IP: Logged |
PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 7261
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted October 31, 2015 07:33 PM
So he wants to take it slow unless it's to a room for sex? That what it sounds like.If he felt ANYTHING for you besides disposable lust then you'd have already known about his daughter. He's keeping you shut out of his life. And that he doesn't want to be seen with you in public on a "date" also strongly suggests he's seeing other people and he wouldn't want to have to explain who you are to someone else. That would also explain why he sometimes doesn't call or text back...because he's with someone else when you do. Based on this, it's simple to me. He's not your soul mate, you're his booty call, at least that's how he sees it with no respect for you. You shouldn't always listen to your heart, it sometimes says what it wishes and won't listen to anything else, in which case you can't listen to your heart. And real life doesn't work like the romances where the woman tames the bad boy or turns the beast into a prince through the power of her love. If there's any chance of anything here besides lust for him then first thing is to show some strength. Scorpios are not impressed by weak, naive girls, they respect (and sometimes fear) mental and emotional strength. If you want anything "real" here then he has to respect you, and he's not going to do that until you show him you're not some silly girl for him to toy with. 'Course even if you get his respect he may just leave you behind because it's very doubtful he can relate to someone of your age to bond with. A Scorpio needs more than the warm fuzzies or you just being pleasing to the eyes, he needs a woman with depth, inner strength, and self-directing, and who will call him on his BS (just as he will on yours). Women (and men) your age rarely have that...until they go through a few false "soul mates" like you're going through right now (among other life experiences). IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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From: The same energy that made you.
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posted October 31, 2015 07:42 PM
^ Well put.IP: Logged |
TR2009
Newflake Posts: 21
From: Annapolis, MD,USA
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 01, 2015 01:13 AM
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Originally posted by PixieJane:
So he wants to take it slow unless it's to a room for sex? That what it sounds like.If he felt ANYTHING for you besides disposable lust then you'd have already known about his daughter. He's keeping you shut out of his life. And that he doesn't want to be seen with you in public on a "date" also strongly suggests he's seeing other people and he wouldn't want to have to explain who you are to someone else. That would also explain why he sometimes doesn't call or text back...because he's with someone else when you do. Based on this, it's simple to me. He's not your soul mate, you're his booty call, at least that's how he sees it with no respect for you. You shouldn't always listen to your heart, it sometimes says what it wishes and won't listen to anything else, in which case you can't listen to your heart. And real life doesn't work like the romances where the woman tames the bad boy or turns the beast into a prince through the power of her love. If there's any chance of anything here besides lust for him then first thing is to show some strength. Scorpios are not impressed by weak, naive girls, they respect (and sometimes fear) mental and emotional strength. If you want anything "real" here then he has to respect you, and he's not going to do that until you show him you're not some silly girl for him to toy with. 'Course even if you get his respect he may just leave you behind because it's very doubtful he can relate to someone of your age to bond with. A Scorpio needs more than the warm fuzzies or you just being pleasing to the eyes, he needs a woman with depth, inner strength, and self-directing, and who will call him on his BS (just as he will on yours). Women (and men) your age rarely have that...until they go through a few false "soul mates" like you're going through right now (among other life experiences).
I called him on his bs and he didnt respond. I don't believe in "soulmates" but going to see a psychic was sort o a goo thing my b who is also a scorpio believes in this psychic and I sat in with her, being that person rolling their eyes sitting in the chair across the room. But the psychic called me over started reading me.
I have gone through false relationships because I called these "men" on their immature crap and they deiced not to be bothered so they and I moved on.
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PixieJane
Moderator Posts: 7261
From: CA
Registered: Oct 2010
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posted November 01, 2015 02:17 AM
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Originally posted by TR2009:
I called him on his bs and he didnt respond
Because he doesn't respect you. You think you called him on it, he thinks you're just whining and that you'll cave in as long as he ignores that. He's old enough to be your father, and that not only affects how he sees the world, but also how he sees you. If he wasn't playing games with you then he'd behave differently. You just need to kick this guy to the curb. IP: Logged |
Elysia
Knowflake Posts: 101
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Registered: Aug 2015
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posted November 01, 2015 03:22 AM
I agree with PixieJane and everyone else here. You'll feel much better about yourself and the whole situation if you take a step back and not give yourself to him so easily. Is this really you? I'm sure you're a much more confident and 'together' person than this. Don't let him take your spark. You're a Libra, right? Go treat yourself to a spa weekend, binge on your favourite foods. Turn up to work feeling fabulous and don't give him time of day.   IP: Logged |
TR2009
Newflake Posts: 21
From: Annapolis, MD,USA
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 02, 2015 06:38 AM
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Originally posted by Elysia:
I agree with PixieJane and everyone else here. You'll feel much better about yourself and the whole situation if you take a step back and not give yourself to him so easily. Is this really you? I'm sure you're a much more confident and 'together' person than this. Don't let him take your spark. You're a Libra, right? Go treat yourself to a spa weekend, binge on your favourite foods. Turn up to work feeling fabulous and don't give him time of day.
Yes I'm a Libra, I don't give him the time day when I'm at work he comes over from where he is working to where I am and he starts chatting me up.
The off chance I go past were hes working I walk right pass him, no eye contact, nothing, but if he sees me, he will start waving his arm in the air and saying hi. Its hard to ignore him when he does that, I just wave and no eye contact and he asks whats wrong with me I just say I was busy.
I know hes exhibiting signs of being a douche and I should avoid him like the plague. But I do feel like I am rushing him because we only exchanged phone numbers over a month ago and we only see another 2 days a week. But again if he was truly interested in me for the right reasons he would've asked me out by now to get to know me on a personal level, because when he comes over to chat me up pretty much all we talk about is work and coworkers IP: Logged |
malicefey
Knowflake Posts: 299
From: New York City, NY
Registered: Sep 2011
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posted November 02, 2015 09:15 AM
I'm also a Libra and I feel like I should chime in after reading your previous thread. I understand the issue with us that we are uncomfortable being alone and we always need or want to be with the 'other'. But don't let that get into the way of clouding your judgement. It's hard, I know..but we need to distract ourselves with something else. I'm actually currently seeing a Scorpio man as well. My cousin, who is also a Libra, is married to a Scorpio man for 14 years now and going strong. I definitely agree with the others who have posted here. Scorpio men do not want a weak girl who will chase him around. You need to be assertive and most of all you need to demonstrate that you will be doing fine with or without him. The case with my cousin and her husband is that, he truly understands her...and my cousin is quite assertive and quite powerful at times. She is very much "plutonian" because she has Sun conjunct Pluto, where as myself I have a stellium of Pluto/Venus/Merc in the first house. In their case, she always stands behind her beliefs and he respects that a lot about her. When she gets angry or upset though...everyone kind of just tries to avoid her and her line of fire, lol. They are very different but because they both respect and admire each other's inner strength they are able to have a long marriage. He never had to play games with her and when he got to know her, he just knew. She was it for him. Scorpio men don't play around and there is no reason why they should if they are going to be investing their time and effort into someone. If a scorpio has to resort to playing games then that's all there is -- shallow and on-the-surface. Take the advice and move on. You are letting your emotions get the best of you at the moment and it's not what you need. Detach yourself from this a bit and focus on what you have to accomplish. Let someone who will truly appreciate you come to you and show you they won't take you for anything less than serious. IP: Logged |
TR2009
Newflake Posts: 21
From: Annapolis, MD,USA
Registered: Aug 2013
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posted November 09, 2015 01:43 PM
I would just like to thank everyone who gave me amazing advice. This Scorpio man is a flirt and just not good for me no matter how it would've played out. I have been single my whole adult life and I am comfortable in it and looking forward to getting back to it. As a Libra I should love, love but when I do fall for someone it scares me to feel more than friendship for anyone.
But I'm avoiding this Scorpio at all costs and when I do cross his path I'm polite and I think he's picking up that I'm done playing this cat and mouse game, he can have a nice life. Thanks to you all again!IP: Logged |
Doux Rêve
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From: The same energy that made you.
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posted November 09, 2015 02:14 PM
Take good care of yourself, TR.
Stay strong.  IP: Logged |
Elysia
Knowflake Posts: 101
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posted November 11, 2015 12:18 PM
Good for you, TR! IP: Logged |
sweetbee01
Knowflake Posts: 28
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posted November 12, 2015 12:17 AM
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Originally posted by TR2009:
I would just like to thank everyone who gave me amazing advice. This Scorpio man is a flirt and just not good for me no matter how it would've played out. I have been single my whole adult life and I am comfortable in it and looking forward to getting back to it. As a Libra I should love, love but when I do fall for someone it scares me to feel more than friendship for anyone.
But I'm avoiding this Scorpio at all costs and when I do cross his path I'm polite and I think he's picking up that I'm done playing this cat and mouse game, he can have a nice life. Thanks to you all again!
Good for you! I'm a libra sun as well with her venus and juno in scorpio and I seem to attract guys with strong scorpio placements. Guy I am trying to work things out with is Scorpio with a sag venus but having my venus in scorpio I can't forgive him for what he's done and I definitely can't forget the cheating. Recently, the media reported that Libra Gwen Stefani divorced Gavin a Scorpio because he was cheating for 3 long years with the nanny! He also had a gay affair in the past. Scorpio guys are just full of secrets and if they do cheat or don't want you to know they will hide it and be your prince when you are with them. Don't trust them! not to be taken seriously IP: Logged | |
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