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Topic: Capricorn females not into romantic gestures?
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frankie2912 Knowflake Posts: 1457 From: Here and There Registered: Apr 2011
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posted November 14, 2015 03:59 PM
I am a Capricorn woman..my Scorpio bf told me he has something special planned for my birthday. I cringed on the inside at the thought of anything romantic...like horse drawn carriage rides, flowers, candle lit dinners with rose petals all over the bed lol.That stuff makes me feel really uncomfortable. It feels embarrassing to me, like it makes me feel like I'm conforming to the stereotypical female role ..the girl who is supposed to wear dresses and light up at the sight of babies and roses. F*ck that! Although I will graciously accept and respect the gift/gesture if it is given..it just makes me feel so odd. Is this typical of a female Capricorn? IP: Logged |
Aunt Anomalia Knowflake Posts: 1544 From: Pandora's box Registered: Mar 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 04:10 PM
What's your Venus sign? Aquarius maybe?------------------ Anomaling around since 1911. IP: Logged |
HCtheQueenOfWands Knowflake Posts: 40 From: Canada Registered: Nov 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 04:23 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia: What's your Venus sign? Aquarius maybe?
I have venus in aqua 5th house and I'm probably a different one cuz I love all romance shitt
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frankie2912 Knowflake Posts: 1457 From: Here and There Registered: Apr 2011
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posted November 14, 2015 04:31 PM
Venus in Scorpio in 1st, conj ASC, trine Mars and Jupiter, square MC.My sister is also a Cap sun (and we share same Moon sign) and I think she is the same way. We both like practical gifts, art, decorative stuff, FOOD lol, that type of thing. IP: Logged |
Aunt Anomalia Knowflake Posts: 1544 From: Pandora's box Registered: Mar 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 04:34 PM
Do you have anything personal Aquarius then? What about Sagittarius? Do you have Sun conjunct Uranus?------------------ Anomaling around since 1911. IP: Logged |
frankie2912 Knowflake Posts: 1457 From: Here and There Registered: Apr 2011
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posted November 14, 2015 04:35 PM
No Aquarius for me.But yes my Moon and Mercury (and Saturn, Uranus) in Sagittarius! My sister does have Venus in Aquarius though..and like I said, she is the same way! I think about the other Cap women I know, too..I think they all find romance a bit cheesy. IP: Logged |
Aunt Anomalia Knowflake Posts: 1544 From: Pandora's box Registered: Mar 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 04:38 PM
I think it may have something to do with your Moon and Mercury. I'm a Cap too but I have Aqua Venus (in the 5th, *waves at HCtheQueenOfWands*) and I'm not into conventional romance. I also have my Mercury and IC in Sag.------------------ Anomaling around since 1911. IP: Logged |
frankie2912 Knowflake Posts: 1457 From: Here and There Registered: Apr 2011
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posted November 14, 2015 04:40 PM
Yes! It is the CONVENTIONAL romance that makes me roll my eyes..good pointing that out! What kinds of romance DO you like?Oh forgot to mention my IC is Aquarius..I didnt think that counted as far as romance and love go. IP: Logged |
Aunt Anomalia Knowflake Posts: 1544 From: Pandora's box Registered: Mar 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 04:51 PM
I can't really speak from experience cause I have very little of it but if I'm to be impressed/excited/whatever, I think I need something that would stimulate my mind, my imagination in particular. Something unusual, otherworldly, visionary, artistic. The element of surprise would be probably a plus. In short, make me feel like I'm in a fantasy or science fiction movie and you'll win. Piece of cake, isn't it? quote: I didnt think that counted as far as romance and love go.
I think each personal placement, including IC (which is VERY personal) contributes to our romantic nature to some degree.------------------ Anomaling around since 1911. IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 7563 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 14, 2015 04:53 PM
I'm trying to remember what my sister liked. She's a Cappy with Pisces Moon and Venus in Aquarius (opposed Saturn). She was very "girly" but private about things like that - unless she was showing off the engagement ring, or the dress she bought for her wedding. Her boyfriend (now husband) wasn't big on spending money, and I don't know if he ever did anything romantic for her, or if he does now. IP: Logged |
Mergoatsun Knowflake Posts: 245 From: Michigan, USA Registered: Aug 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 04:58 PM
quote: Originally posted by frankie2912: Yes! It is the CONVENTIONAL romance that makes me roll my eyes..good pointing that out! What kinds of romance DO you like?Oh forgot to mention my IC is Aquarius..I didnt think that counted as far as romance and love go.
Frankie2912, I am a Cap sun, Aqua Venus with my IC on Aquarius too and I am the same way. I generally don't like romantic gestures unless they have a practical purpose. To me, flowers are the antithesis of this. I never understood why people in love gave flowers, real flowers die and shrivel up. I used to believe I needed conventional romantic gifts, until I realized that I didn't even really like them I was just programmed to like them from our romance culture.
------------------ Cap Sun Leo Moon Aqua Merc Aqua Venus Cap Mars Leo MC Libra Rising ~~~Blessed Be~~~~ IP: Logged |
Aunt Anomalia Knowflake Posts: 1544 From: Pandora's box Registered: Mar 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 04:58 PM
Other than what I've mentioned, I'd take simple loving gestures and unscripted displays of devotion and passion over flowers, fancy restaurants, candle lit dinners (but I wouldn't mind candle sex), expensive generic gifts etc. quote: unless she was showing off the engagement ring, or the dress she bought for her wedding.
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barbriallen Knowflake Posts: 81 From: Registered: Jan 2014
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posted November 14, 2015 05:16 PM
I completely understand. I get so uncomfortable and embarrassed by big romantic gestures. Or even when a love interest just picks me flowers, I feel like cringing on the inside. I think it's because I hate being coerced into feeling something. I actually have venus in pisces though, so I like the idea of flowers and such things, but when it actually happens I go into fight/flight response. Sun conjunct saturn, moon in capricorn IP: Logged |
wheresthemoon Knowflake Posts: 749 From: Texas Registered: Aug 2014
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posted November 14, 2015 05:24 PM
Lol @ "f*ck that"😂😂😂 I'm the same way and I'm also a Sagittarius moon. Maybe that's the culprit because I've known some people with Capricorn influence who were very romantic. Like, very. My high school boyfriend got me a pretty silver necklace when we were together and left it in the passenger seat of his car for me to find. I swear to god I was awkward as sh*t about it. I picked it up and held it forever awkwardly and he was like "you know you can open it"😂 I like the idea of romantic gestures but in practice I find them so awkward. Candles? Home-cooked dinners? Ugh. Kill me. It all seems so contrived to me. Although I think I would go nuts over a carriage ride. That sounds like a lot of fun! IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 13909 From: Bella's Hair Salon Registered: Jul 2011
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posted November 14, 2015 05:31 PM
quote: Originally posted by barbriallen: I completely understand. I get so uncomfortable and embarrassed by big romantic gestures.
Well oftentimes they are boring. And if you really love each other, what's the point? Seems excessive. Unless it's a trip somewhere, like a surprise vacation to a cool place. (Cruises do not count; cruises are not cool. I'm talking about an African safari or week in Argentina or even a weekend at a nearby Bed and Breakfast.) Then I'm all for it. Cap sun & a just-get-me-out-of-here Sag Venus IP: Logged |
Faith Knowflake Posts: 13909 From: Bella's Hair Salon Registered: Jul 2011
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posted November 14, 2015 05:34 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia: Other than what I've mentioned, I'd take simple loving gestures and unscripted displays of devotion and passion over flowers, fancy restaurants
Depends on the restaurant. I've been married too long.... IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 7563 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 14, 2015 05:35 PM
quote: Originally posted by Aunt Anomalia: Other than what I've mentioned, I'd take simple loving gestures and unscripted displays of devotion and passion over flowers, fancy restaurants, candle lit dinners (but I wouldn't mind candle sex), expensive generic gifts etc. [QUOTE]unless she was showing off the engagement ring, or the dress she bought for her wedding.
*eyeroll* [/QUOTE] She was only flashy with it, because she thought she was making me jealous. She was just an ass to me. She is very shy around most people, and even had a book on etiquette. I don't know why I'm feeling the need to defend her. I really don't like her anymore, and she definitely doesn't like me. But I think she would have loved a huge romantic gesture from the right man. She would be embarrassed if it were in front of anyone besides my parents, I think. Her husband is cheap, and they live in a horrible little place. She definitely married him for love. IP: Logged |
Vradec Knowflake Posts: 270 From: Registered: Mar 2013
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posted November 14, 2015 05:36 PM
I have 1st house Sun in Capricorn and 2nd house Venus in Capricorn (Venus is conjunct Neptune in Cap, conjunct Saturn Cap, trine 6th house Mars in Leo). I love romance, but not conventional romance. I think flowers and chocolates are nice but too simple and require little effort, thought or creativity. I like unusual and/or original gifts (my boyfriend has written me songs and poems, and also bought me multi-coloured socks!), and meaningful gifts (I once received a diary which is designed to last the span of my life, great gift!). However, regardless of the gift if I can see the gift is expensive - I am genuinely impressed or flattered because I feel like I must mean enough to the person for them to fork out money on me like that. #CapricornIP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 7563 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted November 14, 2015 05:39 PM
quote: Originally posted by Faith: Well oftentimes they are boring.And if you really love each other, what's the point? Seems excessive. Unless it's a trip somewhere, like a surprise vacation to a cool place. (Cruises do not count; cruises are not cool. I'm talking about an African safari or week in Argentina or even a weekend at a nearby Bed and Breakfast.) Then I'm all for it. Cap sun & a just-get-me-out-of-here Sag Venus
This Aries with Venus in Gemini, would love that, too! As long as the pets would be well taken care of at home. IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2484 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted November 14, 2015 05:56 PM
I have cap sun/asc/venus. I'm a huge sucker for romantic gestures. Poems, serenades, paintings, fireworks, skinny dipping under the moonlight, flower/mossy hut on the side of a spring, sex on the side of a hill... oh yes... Bring on the cheese. When I do stuff like that I like to go all out. Aggressively cheesy. My husband once planned a surprise with a caravan, trip into the woods and bonfire. I nearly numbed my facial muscles by grinning for 3 days. Well, with the right person, almost every moment feels romantic. Even when we shared chinese in a crppy run down room.
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Gemini Blues Knowflake Posts: 875 From: The future... or the past. I get them confused... Registered: May 2014
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posted November 14, 2015 06:22 PM
Hmmm... :/My ex... Cap Sun, Sag Asc and Venus, Leo Mars... She wanted the flowers. She wanted the cards. She had a magnet on the fridge that read "My favorite thing to make for dinner is reservations". The displays didn't need to be expensive, but absolutely needed to be personal. I took her to a B and B for Valentine's day one year. Later she said that it was sweet and she saw I tried but it was kind of boring... So there's the Sag side... IP: Logged |
frankie2912 Knowflake Posts: 1457 From: Here and There Registered: Apr 2011
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posted November 14, 2015 06:27 PM
Lol I am loving these responses!! 12muddy you might be the odd man (woman) out...I see we all appreciate romance but most of us Cap influenced women seem to want original, more heartfelt gestures. This is a little weird to me cuz Capricorn/Saturn descriptions focus on TRADITION and liking things that are traditional or safe/familiar. And descriptions also paint us as hiding our deeply felt emotions, which actually makes sense as to why most of us here are saying we like gifts from the heart. Things that are unique to us, things that let us know our partner truly KNOWS us. I guess we just dont have time for superficial displays of affection. We want someone who can see through us, much like we can see through others. One of my favorite gifts from my current boyfriend sounds kind of dumb and f*cked up but I love it.. When we first got together he said, "You're so pretty I just wanna preserve you in a mason jar and keep you in my truck." LMAO thankfully for him I have a morbid sense of humor too... so anyway a week later he gave me a lighter that had a mason jar depicted on it, with the word "jar". I was like where the hell did you find THIS? SO random and weird but it was adorable...he bought the matching lighter for himself that had a picture of a pickle lol <3 IP: Logged |
12muddy Knowflake Posts: 2484 From: Registered: Feb 2013
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posted November 14, 2015 06:31 PM
quote: Originally posted by frankie2912: Lol I am loving these responses!! 12muddy you might be the odd man (woman) out...I see we all appreciate romance but most of us Cap influenced women seem to want original, more heartfelt gestures.
Lol to me it's "heartfelt" when I know that the emotions and feelings behind the gesture are genuine. Which I do, with my husband. Hence almost everything he does for me feels true and "heartfelt". Because I paint and do poems and like the woods, he often takes that into consideration when he does st particularly romantic for me. His gestures are "special" because they are molded for me and my personality. It pleases me to know that it's the best he can do. Not because they're something that no one has ever done before Hell if he ever wants to do chocolate and roses, I'll gobble up the chocolate and enjoy the hell out of the roses. If the only things he can come up with are popcorn in the cinema and romantic walk on the beach, fk it I'll order a sht ton of popcorn, and I'll walk on the damn beach till my feet hurt lol. It was 50-50 with other people. Sometimes I appreciated the cheese for itself lol. Usually I didn't look at things they did for me and go "Well it looks like something out of a book" and mentally curl my upper lip. I was like "Heh baby I know you tried" *pat pat*. TRIED HARDER NEXT TIME U DUMB FK. lmao nah that would have been too btchy, even for me. IP: Logged |
Mergoatsun Knowflake Posts: 245 From: Michigan, USA Registered: Aug 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 07:38 PM
quote: Originally posted by frankie2912: most of us Cap influenced women seem to want original, more heartfelt gestures. we like gifts from the heart. Things that are unique to us, things that let us know our partner truly KNOWS us. I guess we just dont have time for superficial displays of affection. We want someone who can see through us, much like we can see through others.
Yep that pretty much sums me up. I should rephrase what I have said before, I don't DISLIKE traditional gifts, but I prefer ones that take thought and heart. I need someone who gets past all that superficial junk and sees me for me, while giving me real love. My favorite gift of all time was a pair of earrings my SO bought me out of the blew. He knows I love astrology and he bought me button earrings with Virgo's symbol on one and Capricorn's symbol on the other. He's a Virgo and I'm (obviously) the cap. That melted my heart. They weren't expensive, and they weren't diamonds but they were heartfelt and personal. To me that means more to me than anything ------------------ Cap Sun Leo Moon Aqua Merc Aqua Venus Cap Mars Leo MC Libra Rising ~~~Blessed Be~~~~
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Seimei Knowflake Posts: 909 From: n2thedust Registered: Apr 2015
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posted November 14, 2015 07:54 PM
So sad we(men and women) all don't arrive on planet earth with a manuel to hand out and knowledge of whom to share it. My Scorpio father gives my Cap mother flowers nearly monthly of the 19th(aniversary day)66 years of marriage. bad example I guess. I have always suspected that major conjunctions of outer planets change the nature of the signs a bit. Probabaly have to live 200 or more years to check that theory.------------------ LeekingChee IP: Logged |