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Topic: When someone is SERIOUSLY interested in you..
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Desiring Shadows
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posted December 15, 2015 07:40 AM
  
Do you find that to be a turn on or turn off?
Some girls like when a guy plays it hard to get... Others love when they are direct and show full interest in them right awayWhat's your Venus Mars? What do you think would indicate your feelings towards this?
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Desiring Shadows
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posted December 15, 2015 07:41 AM
I like when a guy is literally in love with me and he doesn't need to know me too well, he just knows he needs to be with me. He just knows I'm the one and he pursues me hardcore. I usually go for those type of guys because I know that when someone is perfect for me I'm going to pursue them passionately.. I love to be 'desired'😈😉
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charlie
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posted December 15, 2015 07:45 AM
A HUGE turn off!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My Cap Moon will literally do a: o.O and vanish. Cancer Venus 11H conj Saturn, op. Moon.
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12muddy
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posted December 15, 2015 07:59 AM
It depends. If I were seriously interested in them, yeah I'd find it a turn on. In general I like them to be direct and straightforward with their intentions, since I'm the same way. No need for dancing around, although if I were interested, I wouldn't be entirely averse to a bit of very light seductive "games", playing coy or hard to get. Cap venus 12th house.
taurus mars 4th house.
aries moon 3rd house. I add the moon because I feel that it could indicate what makes one feel emotionally "at ease". IP: Logged |
Sikanda
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posted December 15, 2015 11:02 AM
It depends. Am I interested in him? If I am, it's a (big) turn on. I would love the man I fancy to desire me and to do anything that he can to know me, to be with me...But if I am not, it can be a nuissance, and you have to politely refuse. Venus in Libra conjunct Pluto in Scorpio conjunct Descendant (6th house)
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Steph22922
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posted December 15, 2015 11:21 AM
For me it's a huge turn off! I'm an Aqua sun and my Taurus moon is all by itself on one side of my chart, meaning I like me some serious alone time and I'm fiercely independent. I don't "need" anyone and the only reason I hang with ppl is if I find them interesting/funny/we have common interests. Anyone who tries to take my independence away, won't let me have alone time, or who constantly tries to take care of me annoys the **** out of me. It may be a sincere gesture but I've taken care of myself for most of my life and that's not going to magically change just bc someone wants me to play the "damsel in distress" card. It's honestly disturbing to me when someone has nothing better to do than focus on me 24/7. That being said, the guy I'm currently dating started out being pretty independent but lately he's trying to hang all over me as much as possible and it's really irritating me. I don't want to hurt him but it's incredibly annoying and he doesn't seem to understand how desperate he's making himself look. I'm having doubts about our relationship but I'm not sure if I should stay with him or move on... IP: Logged |
Spongebob
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posted December 15, 2015 12:48 PM
Im extremely turned off if they want me to chase them and run hit and cold or play hard to get. If you like me that much and i like you, the worst thing you can do, is that. You'd get way farther just telling me you like me and approaching me.Ive read before that people with a lot of squares kinda like the whole drama and chase, arguing, game playing, while people with mellower charts, don't. I think there's truth to this, because i have some squares but most sextiles trines and conjunctions in my natal chart. IP: Logged |
FireandSpiritandDew
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posted December 15, 2015 01:11 PM
I get irritated by anyone who purports to be really interested in me without knowing me properly, it's like: do the research and then decide. Otherwise it's just based on appearance and first impressions and imo neither of those give a good idea of who I am.It's like letting yourself in for a series of disappointing surprises! Gemini 11H Mars (conj Mercury ish), Leo 1H Venus. IP: Logged |
Desiring Shadows
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posted December 15, 2015 02:42 PM
I also like when they know me well and are extremely interested  IP: Logged |
Belage
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posted December 15, 2015 04:03 PM
It depends on the guy. If I am attracted to him, and we are both available, i think that's wonderful!IP: Logged |
Lunar Pisces
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posted December 15, 2015 05:03 PM
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Originally posted by FireandSpiritandDew:
I get irritated by anyone who purports to be really interested in me without knowing me properly, it's like: do the research and then decide. Otherwise it's just based on appearance and first impressions and imo neither of those give a good idea of who I am.It's like letting yourself in for a series of disappointing surprises! Gemini 11H Mars (conj Mercury ish), Leo 1H Venus.
I'm of a similar mind. I really, really dislike it when someone thinks they're attracted to me without making the effort to get to know me. My Pisces moon tempts people to project their fantasies onto me but the rest of my chart is very airy or otherwise inclined to prefer reality and genuine knowledge over impulsive, wish-fulfillment nonsense and so I resent that. I particularly am turned off by the intellectual laziness of thinking you don't need to try to know and understand someone before thinking you're "into" them. Gemini Venus, 9th house, conjunct Taurus Saturn
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Empty Spaces
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posted December 15, 2015 05:06 PM
I like when we start as friends.Then the guy can see the best and worst of me before anything happens.IF after that he is interested on me...
HUGE TURN ONVenus in pisces.
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FireandSpiritandDew
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posted December 15, 2015 05:21 PM
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Originally posted by Lunar Pisces:
I'm of a similar mind. I really, really dislike it when someone thinks they're attracted to me without making the effort to get to know me. My Pisces moon tempts people to project their fantasies onto me but the rest of my chart is very airy or otherwise inclined to prefer reality and genuine knowledge over impulsive, wish-fulfillment nonsense and so I resent that. I particularly am turned off by the intellectual laziness of thinking you don't need to try to know and understand someone before thinking you're "into" them.
 Absolutely. "Kindly keep your oxytocin on a lead and away from me until I know that it's friendly". I'm also pretty airy (Gemini Merc/Mars, Libra Jupiter/Saturn/Pluto). "inclined to prefer reality and genuine knowledge over impulsive, wish-fulfillment nonsense" just about sums it up. IP: Logged |
Solar_Leo_Queen
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posted December 15, 2015 06:36 PM
Well... if you mean by "serious", like being all lovey-dovey and cute, then that's a turn off. Especially when they're making things progress too fast, like this one guy I used to see.He told me he wanted me to meet his mom and tell her he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. It had only been a month since we started seeing each other when he told me that. He didn't even ask if I wanted the same thing. He was a Pisces, so he was stuck in his own little fantasy world. I dropped him a month after lol. Commitment is scary when you don't know what you're getting yourself into or when you don't really know what you want. I'd say if the guy is serious about me and we've known each other for a while, then that turns me on. Especially when the feeling has been there all along and we've been flirting for a while. I like being chased by a man full-force (hence, my attraction to Aries); not this whole sentimental, emotional "hey I just met you but I think I wanna marry you" kind of crap. ------------------
Gemini Rising
Sun in Leo (2nd house)
Moon in Cancer (1st house)
Mercury in Virgo (3rd house conj.)
Venus in Virgo (3rd house)
Mars in Libra (5th house) "You were born a lion. Don't die
a sheep." ~ Leos ♌️ IP: Logged |
madelineleo23
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Registered: Jun 2015
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posted December 15, 2015 06:51 PM
It's a turn off for me. Venus in Virgo, Mars in Gemini. It's very disturbing when a guy who barely knows me pursues me and won't stop calling/texting me. I much prefer to have a friendship that grows into a platonic relationship. I'm not very lovey-dovey and affectionate. I like when a guy shows interest but isn't overbearing. He gives me my space and freedom. I have a moon in Aquarius and a rising in Sag so my independence is very important to me. Just be chill. Small talk is another turn off. If you want to talk to me that badly, you better have a great conversation ready. IP: Logged |
mamawolf
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posted December 15, 2015 06:59 PM
I don't mind it as long as they're not super clingy or anything from the start. That will literally make me stone cold and want to throw up. -_-What will turn me on is the somewhat distant and mysterious yet clearly into me type. Then one day he can't hold it in anymore and unleashes his passion and desire for me...like, "I can't stop thinking about you/you're all I think about and its driving me crazy" and I'm like hell yeah me too. Sag venus in 8H conjunct Uranus and Saturn, trine Aries mars in 12H --> trine Uranus
Uranus..oh and Aqua moon for the nausea. 
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Odette
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posted December 15, 2015 07:07 PM
It's a good thing if they are honest about their feelings - and emotionally expressive...But if it becomes smothering and they won't stop bothering me... If they are clingy or just pushy or whatever... that would become unnerving. Playing hard to get is a turn off for me.. because "playing" in general - isn't my thing. I have Pluto in the 5th so I'm either in or out. I don't "play", and I don't want them to play either. The best scenario is when they are interested, but naturally have a more cool/detached personality... so they are not in my face - but still honest and genuine. The ones playing games tend to be emotional basket cases - faking a cool exterior.. which is bs.
And I can't deal with all the drama. My Venus is in Taurus/11th
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Nine
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posted December 15, 2015 07:26 PM
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Faith
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posted December 15, 2015 08:38 PM
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Faith
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posted December 15, 2015 09:15 PM
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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
Do you find that to be a turn on or turn off?
Some girls like when a guy plays it hard to get... Others love when they are direct and show full interest in them right awayWhat's your Venus Mars? What do you think would indicate your feelings towards this?
I have 5H Sag Venus
11H Gemini Mars Perhaps because of the Gemini Mars...also my Mercury conjunct the DSC...I was interested to see how well they were honoring the vibe between us, with what they were saying, how they were communicating everything. My husband's Saturn is conjunct my Venus, so when he got serious fast, it was actually just the right level of intensity for our situation. Oh and his sun opposes my Mercury, so he can speak directly to it.  ETA: My husband & I both have Venus-Uranus natally, and we have it in synastry. I think that makes for a good kind of shock, if someone has intense feelings and they spring it on you... IP: Logged |
lundan
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posted December 16, 2015 12:13 AM
TURN ON!
only if I like them though lol
Otherwise, it's annoying and creepy
Cancer venus and mars
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frankie2912
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posted December 16, 2015 12:32 AM
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Originally posted by Desiring Shadows:
I like when a guy is literally in love with me and he doesn't need to know me too well, he just knows he needs to be with me. He just knows I'm the one and he pursues me hardcore. I usually go for those type of guys because I know that when someone is perfect for me I'm going to pursue them passionately.. I love to be 'desired'😈😉
Venus Libra 5th
Mars Scorpio 6th
My current bf pursued me like this and I'll admit, it swept me off my feet. I do like a man who chases me passionately. I like to know I deeply affect him.
Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Pisces, Moon in Sagittarius And his is Venus in Scorpio, Mars in Aquarius, Moon in Libra IP: Logged |
StubbornVirgo
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posted December 16, 2015 04:20 AM
It doesn't matter if they're outgoing or shy - if they can muster up the energy to be direct and show their interest, that's attractive to me. But I don't fall or trust easily, so I usually end up being the one to slow things down.Venus in Virgo/7th house
Mars in Gemini/4th house Moon conjunct Mars
Venus square Moon
Venus square Mars
Venus trine Uranus
Venus trine Neptune
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Elysia
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posted December 16, 2015 01:49 PM
Who is this question inspired by, DS?  IP: Logged |
Dreaminess
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posted December 16, 2015 02:39 PM
I like a guy that shows me he is very into me but in a passive way. I don`t like the overtly aggressive too direct pursuit. i find it a bit uncomfortable from a man i am into if he acts like that and a huge turn off from a guy i am not into at all. I think it comes from my mars in libra square neptune and my careful cancer moon that finds the roundabout pursuit very appealing. IP: Logged |
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