posted December 20, 2015 04:53 AM            

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Originally posted by Odette:
Hi I have a few things to say about the synastry and composite. But I just had a question first... This is just my intuition... and I wanted to check, before I tell you anything else.
Does your son have a transpersonal Moon sign?
The transpersonal signs are: Sagittarius, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces.
Is his Moon sign one of these? Most likely Cap or Aqua?

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posted December 20, 2015 07:28 AM            

I have a cap mars and have had similar thoughts with past boyfriends when i no longer cared.

posted December 20, 2015 03:31 PM            

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Originally posted by jadave:
He is not emotionally connected to the relationship.

I have a cap mars and have had similar thoughts with past boyfriends when i no longer cared.

You should probably move on, he doesn't care either way. Theres no way your going to get what you want out of him. Thats my advice.

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posted December 20, 2015 04:28 PM            

We aren't together (always/officially/in any kind of beneficial way) so of course it's a completely different ball-game. But ime the really destructive times in our relationship have been marked more by a forced cooling on his part in terms of intimacy and communication, rather than massive rows.

He said he hated me once in Jan 2014, and wasn't ever going to talk to me again. I said "Okay" (he was in the wrong and I was cross), ignored any subsequent messages and refused to talk to him. We talked it through a few months later, sorted it out and were fine again. I find that he needs sometimes needs time to process things and to level out with the mood-swings (although I tend to put that down to his natal Uranus-Moon square, which your fella doesn't have).

I'd add, though - with a disclaimer that I don't know what you did wrong, and therefore can't comment on whether I think you should require forgiveness or not - that no-one ever HAS to forgive anyone. If he chooses to that's his decision, and if he chooses not to that's also his decision - you can't make him and I would imagine that anything that he perceives to be 'forcing' him in that direction will be ill-received.

No-one HAS to live with someone who refuses to forgive them, either. If he doesn't, that'll be your decision, and there's little to be achieved by staying in a situation that isn't progressing in any way.

posted December 20, 2015 05:14 PM            

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If this is a pattern and the relationship has become abusive, you must leave! For your sake and for your child's sake.
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Yes. Absolutely.

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Your own reaction here - of blaming yourself for absolutely everything makes me feel like - you are not very "well" overall.. and maybe feel thrown out of balance by this relationship.
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This rings a bell with me... obviously our relationships aren't the same (although some creepily similar synastry) but I was very 'thrown out of balance' by the whole situation for a long long time.

Now, when I find myself in the position of feeling like 'I cannot be without this man' (and I still do, despite seven years of technically being in that position!) I take a deep breath and try to focus on other parts of my life. It isn't easy and I have to admit that I don't suddenly click into being happy, but I've learnt that disappearing into a vortex of analysis and spending hours coming up with creative ways to fix the situation only ever makes things worse.

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It sounds to me more like a water Moon or Mars, or a very Plutonian chart. [/B][QUOTE]

If this is the case, then the one lesson I learnt from Pluto tearing up my life and throwing it in the bin is a 'Don't Control, Don't Be Controlled' philosophy. Clearly delineate between your sphere of responsibility and theirs, act in the way you think is right and then leave their decisions up to them. I know that's not very easy when you're in the middle of it, but it's a pretty good principle overall.

posted December 21, 2015 05:00 PM            

I decided to try something that Faith mentioned, about my asking for forgiveness making him feel better. I really did feel like I'd done him an injustice so I apologised profusely and asked (OK begged) for forgiveness. I was genuine and this really worked with him and I began to see that he was just angry and didn't really hate me.

the whole thing shook me to my core and I'm glad we're getting back on track.

posted August 09, 2021 03:08 AM            

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Originally posted by WhiteBirds:
They hate everyone except the ones they use for some benefit, and they will end up hating them too.

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posted August 15, 2021 01:46 PM            

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Originally posted by WhiteBirds:
They hate everyone except the ones they use for some benefit, and they will end up hating them too.

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posted August 15, 2021 01:52 PM            

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Originally posted by Randall:
I don't hate anyone, but I have cut off people completely. Triple Cappy.

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